What Is With Thai Men!

[rcalsop]

Im a farang living & working in Bangkok......

Ive been here for nearly 2 years.

Ive dated farang men since being here but it seems like the farang men Ive dated here have been two timing, self aborbed scum bags or similar.

Ive never really been attracted to THAI men although I do find some THAI men quite handsome but have never had the thought to date one.

That was until recently.........

I went against my better judgment and decided to date a guy who I work with who has been quite keen on me for a while.

He is very handsome, a swimming pro and a uni grad. ( I like a guy with some brainz!)

All was good until the end of our first week of dating.

Started seeing him on a Tuesday and by Sunday he was wanting us to have babies, move in together & think about looking at property to buy!

Oh............did I forget to mention the Mr Jealous, in your face thing!

My God!

After all this, I decided this was not for me..... if this is any indication of what being with a THAI man is all about, then its ByE - ByE & not for me.

By the way....if anyone know where the NICE, decent farang men are in Bangkok?

let me know!.......

Love to hear your opinion on this.

....if anyone know where the NICE, decent farang men are in Bangkok?

YES

With the Nice decent Thai women !!!! At least I am .

[donna]

"What Is With Thai Men!, CAN ANYONE TELL ME WHY ALOT OF FARANG WOMEN FIND THAI MEN APPEALING?"

Where do I start on this? After six and a half years here, I find Thai men very attractive. I also find farang men attractive too. I like the way they joke. I like the way they work hard. I like the way they are straight with their feelings. That goes for both species! Of course every nationality has duds.

If we were to make the title of this post: "What Is With Australian Men!, CAN ANYONE TELL ME WHY ALOT OF FARANG WOMEN FIND AUSTRALIAN MEN APPEALING?" I would be very insulted on behalf of my fellow Australian men.

To make such generalisations just isnt fair.

But when it comes to Tom, Dick or Harry, I would have to say I'd go for Dick..

[Boo]

But when it comes to Tom, Dick or Harry, I would have to say I'd go for Dick..

[britmaveric]

I think it totally depends on what you will tolerate. The first sign of something I don't like, I lay it out straight away. I just don't put up with crap so my man doen's t give me any. Easy innit.

Generally thai men are less commitment phobic than their farang counterparts early on in relationships but I think that has a lot to do with thai society as a whole. The casual relationship mentality hasn't penetrated most parts of the country as extensivyly as in the west, so if your sleeping with a guy then you are to all intents & purposes married in most thai eyes. If you can't handle that then don't date thai guys full stop but if the farang guys you are meeting arent much better then mabye enforced celibacy might be your only option.

But I do agree with the guys who have already posted, you can't judge all thai men on 1 experience. I had thai bfs numbering in the double digits before I met my husband & he isnt' a perfect man but he aint jelous, he aint possesive & he aint a chauvanist or a cheater, so close enough for me

I can confirm Boo's hubby is delightful and very relaxed. As for the OP - don't judge one bad experience - you like a person for who they are not whether they are thai or farang.

[HarryHerb]

I vote for renaming this topic:

What is with this Thai man I just dated?

CAN ANYONE TELL ME WHY I FOUND THIS PARTICULAR THAI MAN APPEALING?

(apologies for allcaps, just copying OP's style)

Sorry, Yahana, but you said it yourself:

I went against my better judgment and decided to date a guy ...

What can one say? Next time (farang or Thai), use your judgement and you may have better luck.

[Wes Turner]

I am married but if you are hot looking andwant a peice of my Canadian ######stick then send me a PM and i'll fly up to bangkok and give you some loving. I will show you what both sillibuls of the capital city mean!!!

[Glauka]

I am married but if you are hot looking andwant a peice of my Canadian ######stick then send me a PM and i'll fly up to bangkok and give you some loving. I will show you what both sillibuls of the capital city mean!!!

Gosh so little tempting!!!!....

Edited February 10, 2006 by Glauka

[steveromagnino]

I am married but if you are hot looking andwant a peice of my Canadian ######stick then send me a PM and i'll fly up to bangkok and give you some loving. I will show you what both sillibuls of the capital city mean!!!

Gosh so little tempting!!!!....

Furthermore Wes is an inventor of an outrigger on a jetski, so not only can be deliver the Grung and the Thep but also a jetski side car to boot.

<deleted> Canadians; they be well uppity with their cheap american money

[Uma~~]

What is with this Thai man I just dated?

CAN ANYONE TELL ME WHY I FOUND THIS PARTICULAR THAI MAN APPEALING?

I thought she found him APPAULING.

[the gent]

I am married but if you are hot looking andwant a peice of my Canadian ######stick then send me a PM and i'll fly up to bangkok and give you some loving. I will show you what both sillibuls of the capital city mean!!!

My dear sweet Wesley, why not swing a little on my wild side and we can spin a little Leonard Cohen and see what comes up? Be a devil......you never know, I may let you slap me sideways and call me Alice, you hulk, you!

Yours faithfully,

Krung(big boy) Thep Willy

[Uma~~]

I am married but if you are hot looking andwant a peice of my Canadian ######stick then send me a PM and i'll fly up to bangkok and give you some loving. I will show you what both sillibuls of the capital city mean!!!

My dear sweet Wesley, why not swing a little on my wild side and we can spin a little Leonard Cohen and see what comes up? Be a devil......you never know, I may let you slap me sideways and call me Alice, you hulk, you!

Yours faithfully,

Krung(big boy) Thep Willy

[LaoPo]

I am married but if you are hot looking andwant a peice of my Canadian ######stick then send me a PM and i'll fly up to bangkok and give you some loving. I will show you what both sillibuls of the capital city mean!!!

I am wondering quite some time already...how many bathroom-mirrors do you buy each week ?

LaoPo

[shadowy]

Yes , i know all about it.

Your friend, bens mum

[OZONE]

WELL DONE GIRLS OUT THERE WHO HAVE FOUND THEIR MR RIGHT....IF HES THAI AND MAKES YOU HAPPY..... WELL GOODO TOO!

WHO KNOWS, I MIGHT JUST MEET THE PERFECT THAI GENTLEMAN..........

MY POST WAS BASED ON MY FIRST DATING EXPERIENCE WITH A THAI....... THATS IT!

NEVER SAY NEVER!

OH....AND TO THE IDIOT WHO SAID " MAYBE BANGKOK IS NOT THE PLACE FOR ME" OR SOMETHING OF THE SORT, UMMMMMM......THATS A STUPID THING TO WRITE.

LET ME JUST TELL YOU THAT I DID NOT COME TO BANGKOK SEEKING LOVE AS MANY OTHERS I HAVE MET DID.

Will you please stop your yelling. Geeezee, you don't get yourway so you start yelling. Now theres an attention getter. I bet men are lining up at your door step huh? .

Why on earth would you date someone out of your office anyway?

[Jersey_UK]

Why on earth would you date someone out of your office anyway?

Most sensible comment yet! (Especially methinks in Thailand and for a woman )

Whilst I take EVERYONES point about not generalising ............I think OP was pretty clear with her actual meaning - although perhaps unfair to those who use English as second language, it is NOT what is said that is always important it is HOW something is said and what is not that conveys meaning.............in addition to purely the words. IMO if you edit down to a too precise form of words you often remove the character as well as the meaning behind a post.

ALTHOUGH I HAVE NEVER UNDERSTOOD WHY CAPITALS = SHOUTING ON THE INTERWEB, I DO ALSO FIND THEM INTENSELY ANNOYING

[ginnyten]

about Thai men...Well I'm an American woman and in love with a Thai guy who is MUCH younger than I am. Unfortunately I do not live in Thailand. I was quite flattered when my Thai B/F asked me to live with him and be with him for the rest of my life. Why take offense? I'm not naive by any means. I think it is just the Thai way...very often these guys are sincere. At least give him a break...don't be so doubting...or life will pass you by. My Thai guy correspond almost every day, and we've come to understand each other so much now. When I return to Thailand in two months, I will thank him for his loyalty and for the happiness he has given me. I did not go to Thailand looking for love either. LOVe is not something you chase; it will find you, surprise and delight you if you are indeed lucky. Chok Dee

[LaoPo]

about Thai men...Well I'm an American woman and in love with a Thai guy who is MUCH younger than I am. Unfortunately I do not live in Thailand. I was quite flattered when my Thai B/F asked me to live with him and be with him for the rest of my life. Why take offense? I'm not naive by any means. I think it is just the Thai way...very often these guys are sincere. At least give him a break...don't be so doubting...or life will pass you by. My Thai guy correspond almost every day, and we've come to understand each other so much now. When I return to Thailand in two months, I will thank him for his loyalty and for the happiness he has given me. I did not go to Thailand looking for love either. LOVe is not something you chase; it will find you, surprise and delight you if you are indeed lucky. Chok Dee

Well said, Ginnyten.

Having a Thai partner, even if he's much younger, is not an 'exclusivity' of men....and....I am one .

Wish you all the love in the world.

Good luck to you and your lover, have fun and enjoy it

LaoPo

[TRIPxCORE]

By the way....if anyone know where the NICE, decent farang men are in Bangkok?

let me know!.......

I am right here darling!

[Gary A]

I really think that American men are far better than most men from other countries. American men have been trained and brainwashed from birth to take loads of crap and say thank you to our American wives. We were taught to work our tails off and if that wasn't enough money (it never was) to get a second job or at least a better paying job.

That said, DON'T find an American man in Thailand because chances are that he has broken his chains and realizes that Thai men are far smarter. They never did buy into putting their woman on a pedestal.

[HarryHerb]

Wes Turner, health forum:

It didnt itch today but i didnt soap my back, just my armpits johnson and anus the rest dont really matter, and my feet. You gotta be double jointed to clean your back properly so why bother, its like legs, who scrubs there legs?

How delightful.

(This post is for the benefit of all those ladies forming a queue at Don Muang to take up Mr Turner's offer of some hot Canadian loving.)

Is this man representative of western manhood? I'd like to think not. Neither can one poor office worker who fancied his chances with Yahana be taken as a model for Thai men.

Jersey, I think the fact that "everyone" has pointed out the foolhardiness of such generalisations lends weight to this theory, rather than the opposite.

IMO if you edit down to a too precise form of words you often remove the character as well as the meaning behind a post.

I also find this opinion rather misguided: surely precision in expressing oneself actually helps clarify one's meaning and give character to one's thoughts, while it is the vague generalisations which tend to remove all character, meaning - and authority - from one's words?

[Joey Boy]

I really think that American men are far better than most men from other countries. American men have been trained and brainwashed from birth to take loads of crap and say thank you to our American wives. We were taught to work our tails off and if that wasn't enough money (it never was) to get a second job or at least a better paying job.

That said, DON'T find an American man in Thailand because chances are that he has broken his chains and realizes that Thai men are far smarter. They never did buy into putting their woman on a pedestal.

American men are nothing more than oversized girls!

[robitusson]

I really think that American men are far better than most men from other countries. American men have been trained and brainwashed from birth to take loads of crap and say thank you to our American wives. We were taught to work our tails off and if that wasn't enough money (it never was) to get a second job or at least a better paying job.

That said, DON'T find an American man in Thailand because chances are that he has broken his chains and realizes that Thai men are far smarter. They never did buy into putting their woman on a pedestal.

This is the website for you....

http://www.americanwomensuck.com/ I am NOT endorsing it.

Edited February 11, 2006 by robitusson

[girlx]

i like american men. after being in thailand for so long i appreciate the ones i have met recently for their openness and honesty, and their gentlemanliness. they always want to help people- many americans are big softies at heart. they are good for conversation.

i am still more physically attracted to thai men (they have lovely bodies) than most american guys any day but i wouldn't discount a whole country full of men based on stupid stereotypes like the website in robitussin's post.

Edited February 11, 2006 by girlx

[robitusson]

I humbly and sincerely apologise for putting the link there. I had no business putting that link in the Ladies section.

[TRIPxCORE]

Wes Turner, health forum:

It didnt itch today but i didnt soap my back, just my armpits johnson and anus the rest dont really matter, and my feet. You gotta be double jointed to clean your back properly so why bother, its like legs, who scrubs there legs?

How delightful.

(This post is for the benefit of all those ladies forming a queue at Don Muang to take up Mr Turner's offer of some hot Canadian loving.)

Oh man, that was too cruel Harry!

i like american men. after being in thailand for so long i appreciate the ones i have met recently for their openness and honesty, and their gentlemanliness. they always want to help people- many americans are big softies at heart. they are good for conversation.

Ahhhhhh, how sweet. Thank you!

[Jingles]

Hello- I like all men. I have many close male falang friends that I have worked and socialised with (and in certain cases lived with) for the past 2 years and they happily accepted my Thai boyfriend into our social group when me met a year ago. I was a bit worried to start with that my bf may not appreciate my relationships with these other men (as I had heard about the common jealousy/ posessiveness problems) but he has accepted it and now plays football with them and drinks beer with them happily. If he isn't around I can still hang out with my friends knowing he will not be insecure or jealous about it. I'm not saying this is evidence of all Thai men being mature, openminded and accomodating- just that they can be. Just as I'm not saying all falang men are good fun, supportive and accepting but in my experience, they can be. Everyone's lovely really. Happy Valentines's day!

[kat]

That's a great post, Jingles. Thanks.

Let's see, to answer the OP:

What I find appealing about Thai men is the way they look, and their easy sensuality and sense of fun. Once in a while, I meet someone that is a bit profound, but not very honest. Other times, I meet someone who is honest, but not very profound. Sort of like home, except here, we have the cultural opposites, and different expectations between relationships.

What has stopped me from relationships with Thai men so far, is my experience with lying to such an effect that I started to wonder who the hel_l I was dating. I can't live with that kind of duplicity. But, I currently have a crush on a Thai man after not being interested in a couple of years, so there's still hope - maybe.

[seonai]

Guys, I mean girls and guys, people are people around the world, what you are all saying here could be said about any culture, any man any woman. Sweet smiling, brown bodies, cute muscles ....... give me a break. Most of you women out there are smart enough to understand that, that is not everything???????????????? And Kat dear "sense of fun" ... personally I find mindless kidding incredibly boring and a turn off. I sort of know what you mean but...... to me real love means that you learn to live and laugh together in your situation wherever that may be. Join in with the community as a couple and learn about each other's culture. My husband even kisses me now in the quiet streets!

[kat]

And Kat dear "sense of fun" ... personally I find mindless kidding incredibly boring and a turn off. I sort of know what you mean but...... to me real love means that you learn to live and laugh together in your situation wherever that may be.

Actually, I quite agree with you here Seonai, but I was trying to keep it optimistic and upbeat. I don't know how else to say " .... fun, until I actually place my hand in their's and start to think of them seriously and then the real confusion and hel_l begins - ha ha"

But hey, miraculously, I'm still optimistic, somewhat.