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What Do Gay People Really Want?

isanbirder

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isanbirder Platinum Member

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The Gay Forum has been dead as a doornail for the past month, so I hope this will stir things up a bit!

What do gay people really want? I think we want to be just an aspect of the diversity of human beings. We don't want to be special; we don't want to be a sort of exclusive group because of our sexuality. We just want to be an equal, and largely unnoticeable, part of the whole gamut of humanity.

The nearest comparison is lefthandedness, not a very near one, but the nearest there is. Lefthandedness was considered somehow 'wrong' in most societies, and was particularly a problem in societies where the right hand was used for eating from the communal food dish. The Latin for left-handed was 'sinister', which tells its own story.

Because this is how I see gayness, I have reservations about Gay Pride, and the other manifestations of a kind of gay exclusivity. I can see how they may be useful to get the equality we want, but I find them potentially isolating rather than integrating. I also find claims that various great figures from the past had gay relationships to be largely irrelevant. I don't want to claim Lincoln as 'one of us'; I want us to be recognised as 'a part of them'. In another way, it's the future that counts; let the past look after itself.

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I very much agree with your opinion, I just want to live my life and be left alone. I have a feeling that there will be some who say we should stand as one and be counted, but I see my sexuality the same as my political views, they are mine and I wont ram them down anyone else's throat.

I standby for incoming from "radicals"

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Jingthing Legendary Member

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I want there to be a "Gay State" established in Athens, Greece. Gay people all over the world would be welcomed as Gayland citizens if they can verify their gay credentials. I want to kick out all the heterosexuals except the really really CUTE ones and establish a large army of oiled naked young studs armed with phallic automatic weapons. I want gay nuclear bombs aimed directly at our biggest enemies, Iran and Alabama. Our talented Gayland scientists will soon develop the world's first GAY BOMB, a bomb that when exploded doesn't hurt anyone but makes everyone instantly ... GAY. The Gay Bomb 2.0 will be deliverable in an email that you don't even have to open and if you get the email it automatically makes everyone within a 100 mile range ... GAY. Our first president of Gayland should be Roseanne Barr. In Gayland, gay marriage would be legal, straight marriage would be illegal, but gay orgy parties would be the preferred social unit.

Homophobia? A gay-bomb armed Gayland will give them something to REALLY be afraid of!

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Thanks, isanbirder for the topic.

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Jingthing Legendary Member

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No way. The official currency of Gayland will be the Pink Pounder (PP).

The way you posed the question, it's rather like the cultural difference in how Canada and America (in the past) have dealt with integrating minorities. Canada's tactic is more like be yourselves AND be Canadian, America is more like melt yourself down in our melting pot and be totally American. America has become more like Canada because the melting pot model is too harsh and people have resisted it.

I see the gay thing the same way. Why can't we be equal under the law AND free to be different (which sorry Charlie, different will be noticed)?

Frankly, I find the sentiment in the OP to be rather like a loud voice for blandness, meekness, and milquetoastery (sic). If you like for yourself, nobody is stopping gay people who want to strive for never being noticed as being different in any way. But no thanks. I like me some FLAVA.

This is also related to the same old same old issue of whether gay is a valid IDENTITY group or not in ways similar to ethnic minorities. I think that is an issue (and also reflects cultural differences) that is going to be around for a long, long time.

Personally I think the identity group model has been useful for gay people in many parts of the world. Will it fade away someday? Perhaps, but I think not anytime remotely soon.

A hint should be right here where we're posting. The GAY forum.

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Once I was in Skaramanga (that's about 20 miles from Athens) and a Greek sailor told me that there were too many queers in England which I thought was a bit rich.

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Once I was in Skaramanga (that's about 20 miles from Athens) and a Greek sailor told me that there were too many queers in England which I thought was a bit rich.

That's a good one. An old gay boss of mine spoke fluent ancient Greek but no modern Greek, so when he finally visited Greece, he had a ball speaking ancient Greek, with very amusing results. Edited by Jingthing
isanbirder Platinum Member

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The way you posed the question, it's rather like the cultural difference in how Canada and America (in the past) have dealt with integrating minorities. Canada's tactic is more like be yourselves AND be Canadian, America is more like melt yourself down in our melting pot and be totally American. America has become more like Canada because the melting pot model is too harsh and people have resisted it.

I see the gay thing the same way. Why can't we be equal under the law AND free to be different (which sorry Charlie, different will be noticed)?

Frankly, I find the sentiment in the OP to be rather like a loud voice for blandness, meekness, and milquetoastery (sic). If you like for yourself, nobody is stopping gay people who want to strive for never being noticed as being different in any way. But no thanks. I like me some FLAVA.

This is also related to the same old same old issue of whether gay is a valid IDENTITY group or not in ways similar to ethnic minorities. I think that is an issue (and also reflects cultural differences) that is going to be around for a long, long time.

Personally I think the identity group model has been useful for gay people in many parts of the world. Will it fade away someday? Perhaps, but I think not anytime remotely soon.

A hint should be right here where we're posting. The GAY forum.

Yes, a perfectly valid viewpoint, JT. I wasn't putting my ideas forward as exclusively right!

My own view is that the identity group approach is a means to an end, not an end in itself, just as Gay Pride is. My hope is that one day, probably not in my lifetime, people, including gay people, will say, Gay Pride? What's all the fuss about? Just as there shouldn't be any need for a Gay Forum.... but there is.

Free to be different, of course.... but not all different in the same way! We are perhaps in danger of creating a gay stereotype.... and I don't like stereotypes of any kind.

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No way. The official currency of Gayland will be the Pink Pounder (PP).

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would you use quatrer pounders to make change?

Obviously, McDonald's would be banned from Gayland. Culinary standards must be met.
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No way. The official currency of Gayland will be the Pink Pounder (PP).

cheesy.gifclap2.gif

would you use quatrer pounders to make change?

Obviously, McDonald's would be banned from Gayland. Culinary standards must be met.

fair enough, but why have a president wheen you could have a GAYlord

Jingthing Legendary Member

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What's next? Bourgeois gay people lobbying against public nudity in San Francisco? coffee1.gif

http://www.slate.com...nservative.html

OMG, maybe those San Francisco gays aren't so bourgeois after all? Those gays -- you just can't pin them down! The gays are heterogeneous, you gotta love that.

Some Gays Like Public Penis, Some Gays Don't

(I'd start a poll on that question, public penis or not, but perhaps too edgy?)

To say their representative power might be limited is an understatement. They cannot speak for a group of individuals as massive and heterogeneous as “gay America,” and Saletan shouldn’t try to, either.
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I want there to be a "Gay State" established in Athens, Greece. Gay people all over the world would be welcomed as Gayland citizens if they can verify their gay credentials. I want to kick out all the heterosexuals except the really really CUTE ones and establish a large army of oiled naked young studs armed with phallic automatic weapons. I want gay nuclear bombs aimed directly at our biggest enemies, Iran and Alabama. Our talented Gayland scientists will soon develop the world's first GAY BOMB, a bomb that when exploded doesn't hurt anyone but makes everyone instantly ... GAY. The Gay Bomb 2.0 will be deliverable in an email that you don't even have to open and if you get the email it automatically makes everyone within a 100 mile range ... GAY. Our first president of Gayland should be Roseanne Barr. In Gayland, gay marriage would be legal, straight marriage would be illegal, but gay orgy parties would be the preferred social unit.

Homophobia? A gay-bomb armed Gayland will give them something to REALLY be afraid of!

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Thanks, isanbirder for the topic.

Ah, no thanks. The first time I went to the Castro (San Francisco), I thought if I had to live here, I'd turn straight. I also understand that there was a project for a gay city in Thailand (in Nakorn Nayok province?) which didn't take off.

As Boy George said when I experienced him live at a Gay Mardi Gras party in Sydney sometime in the 1990s: "Remember, be nice to heterosexuals: It takes two of them to make one of us."

In fact, I am all for integration. It shouldn't matter whether you are black or white, jewish christian moslem or buddhist, gay or straight, man or woman, singer or football player, or whatever.

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Ah, no thanks. The first time I went to the Castro (San Francisco), I thought if I had to live here, I'd turn straight. I also understand that there was a project for a gay city in Thailand (in Nakorn Nayok province?) which didn't take off.

As Boy George said when I experienced him live at a Gay Mardi Gras party in Sydney sometime in the 1990s: "Remember, be nice to heterosexuals: It takes two of them to make one of us."

I had quite a good time down the Castro giggle.gif

Let's not forget that Boy George said that he preferred a 'nice cup of tea' to sex. Given the choice between a cup of PG Tips and a shag with Josh Hartnett I'm afraid it's Josh every time laugh.png

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It's not the "Pink Pound", it's the "Pink Dollar":

When Jing said the 'Pink Pounder' I'm afraid it wasn't an image of a pound note that popped into my head...

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Jingthing Legendary Member

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It's not the "Pink Pound", it's the "Pink Dollar":

When Jing said the 'Pink Pounder' I'm afraid it wasn't an image of a pound note that popped into my head...

Yeah! Somebody gets me.
Jingthing Legendary Member

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The list was overall pretty good, but I do hate poppers. Smells like I imagine embalming fluid would smell like if I knew what it smelled like. Poppers might be a wedge issue.

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It's not the "Pink Pound", it's the "Pink Dollar":

When Jing said the 'Pink Pounder' I'm afraid it wasn't an image of a pound note that popped into my head...

Yeah! Somebody gets me.

Oh sorry! I'm a bit naive sometimes... whistling.gif

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