Are You A Jealous Spouse?

[Konini]

Our only rules about keeping in touch is if you have been drinking call and get a ride and if you are going to be a LOT later than expected call.

The biggest commitment you can offer is not "money" but trust. Money comes and goes but when you find that special person who you can love and trust. that is special.

My only rule is send me an SMS so when I wake up I know you're not dead or hurt or anything.

The special one is the key. Our first date was a public holiday in UK for the wedding of Prince Charles and Diana. Sunderland Ice Rink then a game of pool. Neither of us has ever looked back. Everybody has that special someone, it's just a matter of finding them. I feel privileged and blessed that I found my special somebody when I was just turned 17 years of age at Billingham ice rink.

His opening line: Do you come here often? Seriously, that was the first thing he said to me.

[Konini]

Sadly I'm always single so I can't get jealous and nobody calls me when I go out all night

Everybody has that special someone. The other half of the orange. I was lucky enough to find my other half at the age of 17. You'll find your other half - she's out there somewhere and as soon as you clap eyes on her you'll know. If you haven't met her yet, you still have it to look forward to. Don't despair, you will find your other half of the orange sooner or later. She may be right under your nose at the moment. I I genuinely hope it's sooner rather than later for you.

On the other hand, there are benefits to being alone - you get to do what you want, when you want, without having to consider anyone else. Always look for the positive in any situation.

Your other half of the orange is out there, you just have to wait until fate decides it's time for you to meet. And when that happens, I wish you the all the best.

[wooloomooloo]

Our first date was a public holiday in UK for the wedding of Prince Charles and Diana. Sunderland Ice Rink then a game of pool. Neither of us has ever looked back. Everybody has that special someone, it's just a matter of finding them. I feel privileged and blessed that I found my special somebody when I was just turned 17 years of age at Billingham ice rink.

His opening line: Do you come here often? Seriously, that was the first thing he said to me.

I think we're married to the same man. Charles and Di's wedding, Billingham Ice Rink, 29 July 1981. This is uncanny.

I fell pregnant that very night and seems he's still up to his old tricks.

[Konini]

Our first date was a public holiday in UK for the wedding of Prince Charles and Diana. Sunderland Ice Rink then a game of pool. Neither of us has ever looked back. Everybody has that special someone, it's just a matter of finding them. I feel privileged and blessed that I found my special somebody when I was just turned 17 years of age at Billingham ice rink.

His opening line: Do you come here often? Seriously, that was the first thing he said to me.

I think we're married to the same man. Charles and Di's wedding, Billingham Ice Rink, 29 July 1981. This is uncanny.

I fell pregnant that very night and seems he's still up to his old tricks.

This is spooky. We met the night before, arranged our first date for the next day witch was the wedding/holiday. It was when the DJ announced skating anti-clockwise for two rounds. When he skated up next to me and gave me his cheesy opening line I was so flabergastered (and skating the wrong way around which made me unstable) that I fell over and got soaked from all the melted stuff. Pink jeans. Not a good look.

It is indeed very uncanny

Even more uncanny is your username. We migrated and lived in Melbourne for almost 20 years.

Edited April 7, 2013 by Konini

[Konini]

His opening line: Do you come here often? Seriously, that was the first thing he said to me.

I think we're married to the same man. Charles and Di's wedding, Billingham Ice Rink, 29 July 1981. This is uncanny.

I fell pregnant that very night and seems he's still up to his old tricks.

Totally sucked in. Nice one Wooloomooloo, not often anyone pulls a good one like that over me. A combination of a very late night and far too much Chang.

Tickled my funny bone. Completely suckered.

[antiquepete]

I send my tgf back to mum in Nakon Sawon every couple of months for a week, keeps her and the family happy and gives me a break, and the best thing is I don't have to go to Nakon Sawon

[belg]

seems there are a lot of alcohol addicted people on this forum... guess you have to do something to kill the time till its your time to pass onto greener pastures

for the woman with the girl calling... my god are you naive ... and who leaves there phone alone on the table when they go for a piss ?

and how about knowing the call came from inside the building ? do you have caller ID, in thailand ?

[Konini]

seems there are a lot of alcohol addicted people on this forum... guess you have to do something to kill the time till its your time to pass onto greener pastures

for the woman with the girl calling... my god are you naive ... and who leaves there phone alone on the table when they go for a piss ?

and how about knowing the call came from inside the building ? do you have caller ID, in thailand ?

No,no - someone was suggesting that it was perhaps how they got my number. I very rarely venture out after dark, and only on a special occasion for a party or similar would go into a bar.

She called on the fixed land line not my mobile phone - it came through the buildings' PABX system, but they are unable to determine if it was someone in the building who dialled the room number or someone outside who dialled the general building number and put our room number on the back so it didn't go through reception and came straight through to me. I'm pretty sure they would be able to if I pressed, but I really don't care enough to waste any more of my time on it.

It would be a very different story if I were a neurotic or paranoid woman, or if I had even the slightest niggly doubt that my husband was playing away. That kind of call could ruin a marriage, could ruin someone's life. If the receiver of the call was clinically depressed or similar, someone on the edge, something like that could plausibly tip them over the edge and result in a suicide attempt. That really doesn't bear thinking about.

[Raesum]

Our only rules about keeping in touch is if you have been drinking call and get a ride and if you are going to be a LOT later than expected call.

The biggest commitment you can offer is not "money" but trust. Money comes and goes but when you find that special person who you can love and trust. that is special.

My only rule is send me an SMS so when I wake up I know you're not dead or hurt or anything.

The special one is the key. Our first date was a public holiday in UK for the wedding of Prince Charles and Diana. Sunderland Ice Rink then a game of pool. Neither of us has ever looked back. Everybody has that special someone, it's just a matter of finding them. I feel privileged and blessed that I found my special somebody when I was just turned 17 years of age at Billingham ice rink.

His opening line: Do you come here often? Seriously, that was the first thing he said to me.

Gordon Bennett I married my (Thai) husband when I was 32!! First marriage (for me.He was married to an Aust before) ..but it was well worth the wait. But no I wasn't a spinster left on the shelf.I was too busy travelling the world from the age of 18 and 3/4 .He won me over with his" chicken wings stuffed with pork mince" the first time he cooked for me.

[Berkshire]

I don't know how people can live in a relationship without complete, utter trust.

My husband regularly rolls in at 6, 7, 8am. No questions, no need He just goes to bed and sleeps it off if he's been drinking (only about 50% of the time, the rest soda water). The only time I get a bit terse is if I wake up and he's not there and hasn't sent an SMS to let me know he's having breakfast and coming home or similar - just something letting me know he isn't lying in a gutter or hospital, but 99% of the time the SMS is there when I get up. I sometimes ask him where he's been but it's just making conversation really.

I got a lovely phone call yesterday at 1.15am. A Thai girl who speaks very good English claiming to be his girlfriend. Gave it away when I asked who she was and she said 'a girl - a bargirl' I know how much bargirls hate being referred to as bargirls. Obviously it's just someone one of us has pissed off trying to cause a bit of trouble. She wasn't happy that she didn't get the reaction she wanted. She said 'Why you no leave him?' and I'm very proud of my response, having been woken up and very groggy from a sleeping pill:

'Why you no leave him?'

'So that you can't have him all to yourself of course, silly girl'

I honestly think that's one of the best come-backs I've ever done.

Don't know if it was her or someone putting her up to it, but whoever it was will be very disappointed with my response. When I told my husband about it he laughed. No 'You don't believe it do you?' or 'I have no idea who she is'. He just laughed. Obviously not the reaction they wanted. I'm so proud of my comeback I'm putting this down as a positive experience.

No reaction (thank you theblethery for letting me talk it all the way through and put it into logical order yesterday) life goes on. Some people think I'm strange to react like this. I don't.

I'm not actively looking for the caller, but if I ever find out who was behind it, and I really think it was someone putting her up to it, God will not be able to help them. My weapon of choice is words, and I'm a master of my craft. A punch can leave a bruise that lasts a couple of weeks, one well worded sentence can enter the brain and haunt for a lifetime.

Is it me, or is this a rather bizarre post? Your husband routinely goes out all night, coming home between 6-8 in the morning...and you're cool with this? Hmmm. Your husband reminds me of a farang friend, married to a farang woman his age. The guy is a total male slut and would absolutely shag everything in sight. But he claims to love his wife and would never divorce her. I was always skeptical, never believing that she would put up with that. Anyways, they're now separated and will most likely divorce.

[Konini]

I don't know how people can live in a relationship without complete, utter trust.

My husband regularly rolls in at 6, 7, 8am. No questions, no need He just goes to bed and sleeps it off if he's been drinking (only about 50% of the time, the rest soda water). The only time I get a bit terse is if I wake up and he's not there and hasn't sent an SMS to let me know he's having breakfast and coming home or similar - just something letting me know he isn't lying in a gutter or hospital, but 99% of the time the SMS is there when I get up. I sometimes ask him where he's been but it's just making conversation really.

I got a lovely phone call yesterday at 1.15am. A Thai girl who speaks very good English claiming to be his girlfriend. Gave it away when I asked who she was and she said 'a girl - a bargirl' I know how much bargirls hate being referred to as bargirls. Obviously it's just someone one of us has pissed off trying to cause a bit of trouble. She wasn't happy that she didn't get the reaction she wanted. She said 'Why you no leave him?' and I'm very proud of my response, having been woken up and very groggy from a sleeping pill:

'Why you no leave him?'

'So that you can't have him all to yourself of course, silly girl'

I honestly think that's one of the best come-backs I've ever done.

Don't know if it was her or someone putting her up to it, but whoever it was will be very disappointed with my response. When I told my husband about it he laughed. No 'You don't believe it do you?' or 'I have no idea who she is'. He just laughed. Obviously not the reaction they wanted. I'm so proud of my comeback I'm putting this down as a positive experience.

No reaction (thank you theblethery for letting me talk it all the way through and put it into logical order yesterday) life goes on. Some people think I'm strange to react like this. I don't.

I'm not actively looking for the caller, but if I ever find out who was behind it, and I really think it was someone putting her up to it, God will not be able to help them. My weapon of choice is words, and I'm a master of my craft. A punch can leave a bruise that lasts a couple of weeks, one well worded sentence can enter the brain and haunt for a lifetime.

Is it me, or is this a rather bizarre post? Your husband routinely goes out all night, coming home between 6-8 in the morning...and you're cool with this? Hmmm. Your husband reminds me of a farang friend, married to a farang woman his age. The guy is a total male slut and would absolutely shag everything in sight. But he claims to love his wife and would never divorce her. I was always skeptical, never believing that she would put up with that. Anyways, they're now separated and will most likely divorce.

No it's not you. A lot of people think it's odd, but he likes going out talking to friends and gets carried away with the time. When we lived in Australia he did it a few times - not often because we were working, but it did happen. I'm totally cool about it. A male neighbour and friend of ours (who's wife sulked every time he had more than 3 drinks) used to joke and say 'You're on the longest leash in Melbourne'. We've been married 27 years, and I know 100% he isn't with any girls. We retired at 45, he's often said that he wishes he was still at work. He misses the socialising and the boys all together having stupid jokes and things. He gets bored and even though we're surrounded by a lot of good friends, I think he gets lonely. He really misses the socialising from work, that's why he goes out and stays out longer than he probably should. I could put a stop to it and demand he be home every day by midnight, but that wouldn't serve any purpose. It would make him unhappy which would obviously then be a problem for me.

But an update on the situation; I got another phone call this morning, 6.55. I'm an early riser so I was a little bit more switched on this time. From the very beginning, I thought I half recognised the voice, but wasn't certain. Over the last few days, I've thought about it a lot, and the person I think it is is a good friend of both of us so I didn't want to think it was her. After the call this morning, I was awake and alert, I think I know who it is. Next call, when I have to ask her to repeat something because I didn't hear it I'll add her name onto the end and see if I get a reaction. I really didn't want to think it was her, but she has a fairly distinctive voice and after this morning I'm almost convinced it's her. Why, I don't know. We've both been friends with her, I've given her a couple of 24 hour lipsticks so she can try them and a couple of other little toiletry things that you can't get in Thailand and you can't she hadn't seen or used them before. She gave me a hand-stitched money wallet with a 'lucky' one baht coin in it. She really has no motive to want to upset me. It's very strange, but I'm not going to get myself upset or waste time thinking about it. If it weren't who I think it is, I would be laughing about it. Someone trying to convince me she's with my husband - it really is a joke. It's amusing to think that someone would think this could work.

I know it sounds strange, but we met when I was 17 and he was 18 and we both knew at that first meeting that we would spend the rest of our lives together. When he walked me to the train station, he said something about when we're middle aged and boring and you're sat reading books and I'm tinkering with a bike in the shed. We both knew we'd met our soul-mate. It wasn't like you see it on movies or TV about meeting someone and stars bursting and romantic music playing, but we both knew from that first meeting that we'd be old and dribbling and wiping up each other's little accidents. I've met a few people who say exactly the same thing happened to them, they just knew, who have been together for years and years. One of them had to go off to fight in world war 2 after 3 dates. She died early last year, within 6 months he died too of 'natural causes'. It was as if he'd just given up on life. It was really sad to see, more-so because I think the same thing will happen to us.

[Berkshire]

Is it me, or is this a rather bizarre post? Your husband routinely goes out all night, coming home between 6-8 in the morning...and you're cool with this? Hmmm. Your husband reminds me of a farang friend, married to a farang woman his age. The guy is a total male slut and would absolutely shag everything in sight. But he claims to love his wife and would never divorce her. I was always skeptical, never believing that she would put up with that. Anyways, they're now separated and will most likely divorce.

No it's not you. A lot of people think it's odd, but he likes going out talking to friends and gets carried away with the time. When we lived in Australia he did it a few times - not often because we were working, but it did happen. I'm totally cool about it. A male neighbour and friend of ours (who's wife sulked every time he had more than 3 drinks) used to joke and say 'You're on the longest leash in Melbourne'. We've been married 27 years, and I know 100% he isn't with any girls. We retired at 45, he's often said that he wishes he was still at work. He misses the socialising and the boys all together having stupid jokes and things. He gets bored and even though we're surrounded by a lot of good friends, I think he gets lonely. He really misses the socialising from work, that's why he goes out and stays out longer than he probably should. I could put a stop to it and demand he be home every day by midnight, but that wouldn't serve any purpose. It would make him unhappy which would obviously then be a problem for me.

But an update on the situation; I got another phone call this morning, 6.55. I'm an early riser so I was a little bit more switched on this time. From the very beginning, I thought I half recognised the voice, but wasn't certain. Over the last few days, I've thought about it a lot, and the person I think it is is a good friend of both of us so I didn't want to think it was her. After the call this morning, I was awake and alert, I think I know who it is. Next call, when I have to ask her to repeat something because I didn't hear it I'll add her name onto the end and see if I get a reaction. I really didn't want to think it was her, but she has a fairly distinctive voice and after this morning I'm almost convinced it's her. Why, I don't know. We've both been friends with her, I've given her a couple of 24 hour lipsticks so she can try them and a couple of other little toiletry things that you can't get in Thailand and you can't she hadn't seen or used them before. She gave me a hand-stitched money wallet with a 'lucky' one baht coin in it. She really has no motive to want to upset me. It's very strange, but I'm not going to get myself upset or waste time thinking about it. If it weren't who I think it is, I would be laughing about it. Someone trying to convince me she's with my husband - it really is a joke. It's amusing to think that someone would think this could work.

I know it sounds strange, but we met when I was 17 and he was 18 and we both knew at that first meeting that we would spend the rest of our lives together. When he walked me to the train station, he said something about when we're middle aged and boring and you're sat reading books and I'm tinkering with a bike in the shed. We both knew we'd met our soul-mate. It wasn't like you see it on movies or TV about meeting someone and stars bursting and romantic music playing, but we both knew from that first meeting that we'd be old and dribbling and wiping up each other's little accidents. I've met a few people who say exactly the same thing happened to them, they just knew, who have been together for years and years. One of them had to go off to fight in world war 2 after 3 dates. She died early last year, within 6 months he died too of 'natural causes'. It was as if he'd just given up on life. It was really sad to see, more-so because I think the same thing will happen to us.

Ok, Konini, what ever you say. It's just that I've seen several same-aged farang couples in your situation and the guys just couldn't resist the temptations. And it's not even whether he loves you or not, it's the natural tendencies of men. Ok, some men. And being around it constantly (i.e., bars and such) is probably the worst thing he could be doing.

[marioc]

A buddy of mine had a local wife who, when they lived together in Thailand, would seldom allow him out with the lads but when she did, would insist on checking his underwear when he got home for 'evidence' of cheating. Meanwhile, her cheating with her 'brother-in-law' motorcycle taxi guy while my buddy was away working was a popular topic as well. Anyway, they moved back to his homeland and made a go of it there and would come back to Thailand every 2 or 3 years to visit. She was still as controlling and one time when us lads were coming back from some 'afternoon delights', she calls him on his mobile. He is in the back seat and says, 'yes, I am with the lads and on our way back now' and that's that. I am driving and about a minute later, my phone rings and it's her calling me to check if her hubby is with us. I said as much and added again that we were on our way back. Then she asks me to pass MY phone to her hubby so she can talk with him. I guess she was so suspicious, she was closing out the possibility that we were both lying on some convoluted cheating scenario that he may have set up. I was about to hand the phone over to my mate when I thought bugger this two-faced cow and told her that he couldn't speak right now as he was busy with the girls in the back seat.

I haven't seen either of them back in Thailand in ages.