I'm sure he was rather happy at the time, however that was then and this is now.

sorry for the repeat posts - having issues with the computer.

Brit, you're right. the only thing i can do is keep ringing. all this conjecture is just making me even more anxious. i was hoping to get some sympathy or words of wisdom from ladies who have seen this before. oh well. i'll update you all if anything happens.

To be honest, BKKgoddess, we could all be wrong here. I kinda doubt it after five days. But I'd still aver that you never chase after relationships. That doesn't mean you don't put out effort but you do so only when you 'feel' that it's right. To act while doubt is in your heart is to act in futility.

If u have no other way of contacting him then I suggest you get out & start enjoying whats left of your holiday, a watched pot never boils or so they say & sitting around moping waiting for his call isn't going to do you any favours, so go out, have fun & you never know, you might start enjoying yourself so much that you forget about him not calling

<snip> so go out, have fun & you never know, you might start enjoying yourself so much that you forget about him not calling

Or you might meet me!! Just kidding. I'm taken. But you might meet someone else!! Always happens when you least expect it.

Edit: Now come over here and help me with my problem.

Edited April 12, 200620 yr by Tippaporn

OK my two cents!!

I agree with what has been said above. If he really was in love with you he would have been there to meet you, escort you to your hotel, take you out to celebrate. I would kill any man who having declared his undying love who didn't do that (oh, and some flowers would be nice).

Go out, enjoy Bangkok by night, talk to people, get drunk, go eat some fantastic food, sight see - forget him for an hour or two. Then you might see things in a different way, it is awful when something like this happens and moping around ringing a number that isn't answering is the worst thing to do.

I wish you luck.

forget about this guy. he had fun with you and its over. if he wanted to talk to you he would at least have his phone turned on.

time to move on and enjoy the rest of your holiday.

Agree, agree, agree with most of the posts. Not even going to get into this one. But hey, Godess, one thing, quit being so hard on people like SBK etc, she's RIGHT

He's probably back in his home town for Songkran like 1000's of other Thai people.

His wife will be there so I doubt he wants some Farang girl calling him, hence phone off.

Wait till after Songkran, he will magically appear again.

ive been there done that. never again. if he wanted to hear from you he would have left the phone on.

quite simple really.

ive been there done that. never again. if he wanted to hear from you he would have left the phone on.

quite simple really.

anything can happen to him in many cases, do you know his friends/ family or people who can contact him? You may need to find out...

ive been there done that. never again. if he wanted to hear from you he would have left the phone on.

quite simple really.

well said Donna. And if he does appear again you need to be very very suspicious of what has just gone on. Most of us on here have seen this happen to many women or it has happened to us as well. Having been in a very bad relationship with a Thai man (and let me tell you in the end I found out that every time is phone was off he was with gf number 2) and a very wonderful relationship with a Thai man(his phone is never off. If he were to ever lose his phone I have a ton of numbers of family members and friends) because they differ in character just like all men. The best advise I can give you is to trust your gut. If something seems wrong than it probably is.

I need to ask you girls who've dated or are with thai men about something. I've been in a serious relationship with a thai guy before for 3 years. We loved echother but he treated me bad and eventually i said enough is enough. i promised myself i wouldnt get involved seriously with a thia guy again as i cant be bothered playing thier little games and thier annoying habits really piss me off. However, I am undeniably still attracted to them and lo and behold i fall for another one. Everything has been going great. I'd known him for a year, and got together when i was here on holiday in jan. we kept a long distance thing going while i finished my job in the middle east (it was only 3 months and it was mutually agreed what our plans together were) and I came back to bangkok on saturday. We'd arranged to meet up when i got to the hotel. But when i got there and called him he says he's sick. To gove the guy credit, he did sound ill. So i spent the day shopping and settling in, feeling very diappointed. For 5 days since then though, his phone has been switched off or something as i cant get thru to him and now i'm freaking out. I was so looking forward to seeing him and it really pisses me off that he doesnt value the importance of me coming here to see him. This is not the first time i've had thaio guys do this. they usually turn up with some excuse or another and try to charm thier way out of it. But it's really doing my head in right now and i'd appreciate some advice or at least a sympathetic ear from girls who know what i'm talking about.

If I were you, I would send him email and contact the people who know him. Find a proof.

Sometimes it really makes me wonder what is wrong with us women that we let this sort of thing happen over and over again!!

For me, I have been let down so much by men I am actually starting to think that there is something seriously wrong with me, and I let it happen again. The old "Ah well, this one will be different" syndrome!!

I guess we are all waiting and hoping for that perfect man to sweep us off our feet.

I made a New Year's promise to myself that I would never let a man treat me like a door mat again - and so far it is working (probably till the next loser comes along!!) But, that said, it is only April and next year is a long way off...

Sometimes it really makes me wonder what is wrong with us women that we let this sort of thing happen over and over again!!

For me, I have been let down so much by men I am actually starting to think that there is something seriously wrong with me, and I let it happen again. The old "Ah well, this one will be different" syndrome!!

I guess we are all waiting and hoping for that perfect man to sweep us off our feet.

I made a New Year's promise to myself that I would never let a man treat me like a door mat again - and so far it is working (probably till the next loser comes along!!) But, that said, it is only April and next year is a long way off...

Good advice for all.

ive been there done that. never again. if he wanted to hear from you he would have left the phone on.

quite simple really.

well said Donna. And if he does appear again you need to be very very suspicious of what has just gone on. Most of us on here have seen this happen to many women or it has happened to us as well. Having been in a very bad relationship with a Thai man (and let me tell you in the end I found out that every time is phone was off he was with gf number 2) and a very wonderful relationship with a Thai man(his phone is never off. If he were to ever lose his phone I have a ton of numbers of family members and friends) because they differ in character just like all men. The best advise I can give you is to trust your gut. If something seems wrong than it probably is.

absolutely, I agree 100%, there is absolutely not doubt he is with another girlfriend, he will call you when she is back in farangland.

Not wanting to sound old fashion but if he is interested he will do the chasing. Otherwise, there are many fish in the sea who are much worthy of your attention.

BKKgoddess....

..Last Active Yesterday, 2006-04-13 12:55:37

That doesn't say anything yet, but....who knows?

LaoPo

Edited April 14, 200620 yr by LaoPo

and of course he promised he was a one woman man and i swallowed it at the time.

then he really is a fool for staying away then!

holy shit i hope not. i'll kick his sorry ass. for 5 days though? maybe he's lost his phone or something. or am i foolish to hope?

This is not a thai habit, there are men all over the world doing that, I feel very sorry for you and I think I have a guess on what you are going through, please, do yourself a favour and forget this ever happened and the guy ever existed, If I'd have a girlfriend or just a friend coming such a long way to see me, I'd be on the airport waiting for her/him 2 hours before the plane would have landed, I am sorry to say that and please don't take it as an insult, STOP being naive.

actually it does seem to be a thai habit. most if not all of the thai men i know occasionally disappear on their girl and turn off their phone. when it happened to me thai girls all assured me it was normal for thai ment to do that. something about avoiding the issue rather than dealing with confrontation. it's a horrible way to treat women. i have never had a foreign boyfriend or foreign friends with boyfriends who do the disappearing act. not to say it doesn't happen but i think it might be less common as westerners are more apt to talk things out.

OP give up... if he can't even respect you enough to let you know what is going on, get out while you can. don't be a doormat.

actually it does seem to be a thai habit. most if not all of the thai men i know occasionally disappear on their girl and turn off their phone. when it happened to me thai girls all assured me it was normal for thai ment to do that. something about avoiding the issue rather than dealing with confrontation. it's a horrible way to treat women. i have never had a foreign boyfriend or foreign friends with boyfriends who do the disappearing act. not to say it doesn't happen but i think it might be less common as westerners are more apt to talk things out.

OP give up... if he can't even respect you enough to let you know what is going on, get out while you can. don't be a doormat.

You are probably right, but, but, believe it or not, they do have an excuse, just ask most of the farang men in here, how difficult it is to break up with a thai girl, you wouldn't believe it, the thing is that it's not just a confrontation ruled by conversation, it's the end of the world and t's characterized by screaming, yelling, throwing things, threatening, for some of the farangs even getting homeless, you can't really have a rational conversation about it...maybe that's why they got the habit, but again, men are capable of this things all around the world, I am sure it is not a thai style of handling things

and of course he promised he was a one woman man and i swallowed it at the time.

then he really is a fool for staying away then!

Good one tax.

ive been there done that. never again. if he wanted to hear from you he would have left the phone on.

quite simple really.

anything can happen to him in many cases, do you know his friends/ family or people who can contact him? You may need to find out...

I dont think i would bother finding out any more. its a bit disrespectful to just turn off the phone when he knows someone is here especially for him.

time to move on.

Having been in a very bad relationship with a Thai man (and let me tell you in the end I found out that every time is phone was off he was with gf number 2) and a very wonderful relationship with a Thai man(his phone is never off. If he were to ever lose his phone I have a ton of numbers of family members and friends).

Precisely. If you really know him you will know how to get in touch with him. You will have mutual friends, phone numbers etc.

And don't worry seonai, I am not in the least bit upset. After bkkgoddess has been on her feet for 16 hours a day for the past 4 days then she can tell me my tiredness doesn't matter. Full moon madness!

very nice troll thread

very nice troll thread

WOW, somebody woke up very unhappy today, guess you missed a few hugs this night

This thread was started by a male troll with far too much time on his hands

(speaking in her moderator voice) Do you have proof this is a troll? If so, please pm me because I'd love to hear all about it

BKKgoddess....

..Last Active Yesterday, 2006-04-13 12:55:37

That doesn't say anything yet, but....who knows?

LaoPo

Day+time still counts. That means she (most likely) read as last post #40.

Maybe he showed up. Maybe a troll. Maybe she found fun-in-the-city. Maybe she went home to the UK...Maybe......well, who knows?

LaoPo