Courtship practices, rituals and procedures of educated Thai middle class girls

[moto77]

Interesting. I've been going out with my gf for quite a while and I've yet to see a photo of her family (except on her Facebook, but those photos predate our relationship and were not intended solely for me).

[stix9]

On one occasion, the photos included a photo of the TG's sisters new house under construction.

I could feel her envy..... until the deeper ramifications (..for me) kicked in.

This particular TG was a lawyer by profession.

Edited March 21, 2014 by stix9

[moto77]

On one occasion, the photos included a photo of the TG's sisters new house under construction.

I could feel her envy..... until the deeper ramifications (..for me) kicked in.

This particular TG was a lawyer by profession.

Huh... as Monty Python once famously said, "Run Awaaaaaaaay!"

[Runamile]

If I was shown a picture of a construction site, I'd Runamile.

However, she'd have to get the pictures thing in very quickly to beat me to asking to see a family picture - specifically the mother. I've always felt this seems a very loving, caring thing to do, and can be accommodated by a quick rummage in bag, purse, or wallet. In fact, I want to see what that girl will look life in twenty or thirty years time. If I don't like what I see, I Runamile.

[smith803]

Upper class Thai girls are often educated abroad, and do consider falang spouses. But not falang tourists in Thailand.

[Lukecan]

Lol anyone who says middle and upper class thai girls dont frequent club/bars has probably never bothered to step outside soi cowboy.

Let me give my insights as a 25 year old party maniac

Yes middle and upper class girls love partyin too just like other girls, but they dont frequent bars and clubs where sexpats go.

Just go to RCA, and you'll see these girls. Audis,BMW's,even sometimes exotics are parked outside RCA. They belong to these girls/guys.

And yes, they will f.. your brains out on the first night, if they're drunk enough, just like any other girl back home.

The thing that seperates these girls from a lower class girl is that they're scared of being labeled as a slut by their friends.One girl I met in RCA, was giving me the BJ of my life 3 hours later at my place, she kept saying "dont tell my friends, secret secret"

[umbanda]

"Educated" in Thailand..and in the world we live today... is equal to "informed"...."smart"..."realistic". An educated woman will expect to have an educated exchange with its "farang" husband, and with its professional contacts, and will probably speaks perfect English. Or...if not...will look for a farang fluent in Thai. If comes from a fairly conservative and religious family, its will expect some participation in religious and cultural events.

But all is relative. Women knows how desirable are, and what chances its have in find the "perfect" match. That may change everything.

[smith803]

Upper class Thai girls are often educated abroad, and do consider falang spouses. But not falang tourists in Thailand.

[Rajhulmaheesh]

I pity the misguided poor soul that think that middle/upper class Thai girls have eyes

for foreign men because it isn't so by a long stretch...

Theres lots of hi-so thai girls trolling for farang husbands in the bars of pattaya............................................ive seen it with my own eyes...........hahahaha!

[Rajhulmaheesh]

Why do you think a woman of that level would want to be with a farang man?

What hi-so women wouldnt want to have a sex tourist as a husband..............hahahahaha!

I have assume the good men here working on international contracts are already taken.

[georgemandm]

In a nutshell, they don't usually date us!!

I have lived and worked in Thailand for about six years (but only joined this forum today!) and I have to say that 90% of my friends and colleagues are not married to middle/upper class Thais.

Your question did interest me though, as i have read the forums here now and again for a few years, and usually laugh my arse off at either very naive or very stupid people dating bar girls. (Sometimes i think its just trolls writing the stories, but some of them are very entertaining)

When i first arrived in Thailand, I was just 23 but met a couple of young guys (roughly 30ish) that had been living in Bangkok for a little over a year, and they really schooled me on the do's and dont's of dating here. To be honest i dont really know who taught them, but i listened and pretty much followed their 'rules'.

From day 1, the plan was to get a girlfriend that was a 'good girl' and to not get scammed.

A few things that I was told to do to achieve this, I pretty much lived by. And just for your general amusement here were a few key rules.

1. Don't date ANYBODY that you meet in ANY KIND of bar.

2. Don't date anybody from Isaan. (You'll just end up supporting the family)

3. Don't date any girls that have had farang boyfriends before. (These were called 'farang hunters')

4. Don't date any girl that thinks its original to slate their ex-Thai boyfriends saying that farang men are more faithful. Thais don't believe that for a second!!

5. And if a girl sleeps with you the first time you meet her, well, would you be impressed by that back home?

Probably very amusing, but the plan worked.

One of my friends (from the original two) married a very well to do Thai lady. He only dated her for about a year before they got married. He met her family after about six months, and to be honest, I noticed that being involved with the family and making a good effort to learn Thai and impress even the Grandmother went a long way to achieving his goal. He met his wife-to-be as she was working in the same office as him (no internet dating or meeting in a bar).Her family even provided the Sin Sot at the wedding to make themselves look good. He was only asked for a certain amount of cash to be put in to her account so they could start their married lives with a few baht in their pocket. All the wads of cash and gold bars were provided by the family.

Clues? I can't help with, but from my experience, middle/upper class Thai ladies (traditional) don't like to be out much in the evenings. They sure as shit don't have tattoo's or smoke. And something which i feel you can really gauge there social status from is there eating habits. My girlfriend is horrified even seeing Thai people on T.V. eating with their mouth open.

I have been dating a 'middle class' lady for about three years now. She is a solicitor which i met through a friend of a friend, we talk about marriage sometimes but to answer your initial question there is no set answer.

I truly believe the family probably value marriage a lot more than the average Thai lady nowadays. Just like back home, marriage is becoming non-essential with more educated people.

(I know I didn’t really answer your questions, but I hope I put a smile on your face)

Not a bad read young man I like it some of the things are bs but good and one thing young man you will lean in time about woman all over the world all they care about is your money and thai woman are the best at it

[pigeonjake]

In a nutshell, they don't usually date us!!

I have lived and worked in Thailand for about six years (but only joined this forum today!) and I have to say that 90% of my friends and colleagues are not married to middle/upper class Thais.

Your question did interest me though, as i have read the forums here now and again for a few years, and usually laugh my arse off at either very naive or very stupid people dating bar girls. (Sometimes i think its just trolls writing the stories, but some of them are very entertaining)

When i first arrived in Thailand, I was just 23 but met a couple of young guys (roughly 30ish) that had been living in Bangkok for a little over a year, and they really schooled me on the do's and dont's of dating here. To be honest i dont really know who taught them, but i listened and pretty much followed their 'rules'.

From day 1, the plan was to get a girlfriend that was a 'good girl' and to not get scammed.

A few things that I was told to do to achieve this, I pretty much lived by. And just for your general amusement here were a few key rules.

1. Don't date ANYBODY that you meet in ANY KIND of bar.

2. Don't date anybody from Isaan. (You'll just end up supporting the family)

3. Don't date any girls that have had farang boyfriends before. (These were called 'farang hunters')

4. Don't date any girl that thinks its original to slate their ex-Thai boyfriends saying that farang men are more faithful. Thais don't believe that for a second!!

5. And if a girl sleeps with you the first time you meet her, well, would you be impressed by that back home?

Probably very amusing, but the plan worked.

One of my friends (from the original two) married a very well to do Thai lady. He only dated her for about a year before they got married. He met her family after about six months, and to be honest, I noticed that being involved with the family and making a good effort to learn Thai and impress even the Grandmother went a long way to achieving his goal. He met his wife-to-be as she was working in the same office as him (no internet dating or meeting in a bar).Her family even provided the Sin Sot at the wedding to make themselves look good. He was only asked for a certain amount of cash to be put in to her account so they could start their married lives with a few baht in their pocket. All the wads of cash and gold bars were provided by the family.

Clues? I can't help with, but from my experience, middle/upper class Thai ladies (traditional) don't like to be out much in the evenings. They sure as shit don't have tattoo's or smoke. And something which i feel you can really gauge there social status from is there eating habits. My girlfriend is horrified even seeing Thai people on T.V. eating with their mouth open.

I have been dating a 'middle class' lady for about three years now. She is a solicitor which i met through a friend of a friend, we talk about marriage sometimes but to answer your initial question there is no set answer.

I truly believe the family probably value marriage a lot more than the average Thai lady nowadays. Just like back home, marriage is becoming non-essential with more educated people.

(I know I didn’t really answer your questions, but I hope I put a smile on your face)

i wonder if this poster is still in thailand, or gone home

very cleaver lol