How much pocket money should I give my Thai girlfriend?

[ppmacready]

Were not all 'handsome sexy man' inspite of what you might hear in Soi 6!

Some of us may be lacking in social skills as the trolls will no doubt point out.

That said.

It stands to reason the older, fatter and uglier you get, the more you are gonna have to pay.

But you don't need to sign over your house and car to have a great time here!

You need to think sensibly and with logic.

Generally, I personally have learned not to trust Thai women. It is sad how often their mothers use them to fetch money for them. They might not be working as bone fide prostitutes, but in many ways their families prostitute them by encouraging them to marry or date a farang with money. The Thai people in general are egocentric and do not easily fall in love in the true sense as much as they look for material security, and this has been verified by social psychologists who have researched Thai culture. Read Suntaree Komin, Ph.D. on the internet. She is a Senior Fulbright Scholar and a member of the Thai Royal Educational Patronage Society. She is Internationally respected and the leading expert on the psychology of the Thai people. Dr. Komin is Thai.

I assume from the start, no matter how much you love her,'nothing lasts forever'.

My rule of thumb is 1,000 bht per year you are older than her per month.

Up to 20,000 maximum.

Its a good deal for you and a good deal for her.

If your lucky you will fall in love.

The older you get, the less each 1,000 baht is worth to you. ( you can't take it with you.)

Bare in mind, from day one you are with a 'depreciating asset'.

Then when your 'honeymoon period ' is over. you only need to ask your self these 2 questions.

Am I happy?

Can I afford her?

Either answer no, move on.

Chock dee.

[bkkjames]

Do you have your own blog or something? I suggest you start one ... and keep it to yourself.

[David48]

My standout line was ...

"Bare in mind, from day one you are with a 'depreciating asset'."

Interesting ...

[Payboy]

My current is a senior Fulbright scholar. Do I still need to pay her?

[colinthailand20005]

I think this thread might get closed down. But is an interesting thought though.

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Edited May 24, 2014 by colinthailand20005

[ppmacready]

Do you have your own blog or something? I suggest you start one ... and keep it to yourself.

And you are entitled to your opinion, at this moment in time sir.

[ppmacready]

My current is a senior Fulbright scholar. Do I still need to pay her?

I would imagine only lip service.

[Spoonman]

Am I happy?

Yes

Can I afford her?

Mine gets 50b per day, On my current salary this is affordable.

[napawan28]

The woman that man choose can tell how smart he is.

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[wprime]

You sound like you live a very fulfilling life.

[benalibina]

Ask Jazz.

[ttthailand]

To answer the op's question, i think most guys who are willing to pay give between 10 and 20k a month but the amount really depends on how much she is use to getting. I think a man's age may increase or decrease the amount by 25 percent or perhaps more depending on how he looks and his ability to pay. Also, If a guy has a ton of money his gf will expect a big paycheck.

Having said all of that.... I once thought that for an older guy in Thailand to have a gf 30 years younger or more you needed to give them a monthly paycheck. I tried this twice and both times the results were not so great. Both relationships ended as the money was never enough and there was never any trust or honesty on either side.

I am older but as I am told by many people I still look young. I would also add that I have always been perhaps a little above normal in the looks department... Not bragging just saying.... A few years ago I changed my ways and decided that I will no longer hand money over to a girl every month just so i could have someone young and sweet to enjoy in bed everyday. I found that if I avoid these types of ladies and spend my time in and around places where no bargirls or similar types hang out I can score for free. I have found that you never really have to give a paycheck to any lady to be with you. There are many young, sweet, beautiful, cute, lovely girls out there who are only looking for someone honest who will treat them nice. They want a guy who looks smart and is not a drunk or pushy. Age is a factor but it is mostly about personality and looks. If you are 60, good looking, speak nice and perhaps a little Thai, smile a lot and don't have a big beer gut you can pick up girls in their twenties all day long for free. The only down side is that these ladies look at you as more than just a friend or customer and you can not just push them away so easy. They are looking for a future and looking for perhaps money down the road. I pay my rent and all the electric, water etc. I also pay when we go out to eat and drink. I never just hand over money. The girls I select all work normal jobs and have their own spending money.

Never date a girl who ever had sex for money or a girl who does not have a real job. Both will expect money and have no idea how to spend or save.

There are exceptions to every rule but this is my experience.

[ppmacready]

You sound like you live a very fulfilling life.

Don't blame the player, blame the game!

[David48]

Don't blame the player, blame the game!

You and I thankfully play on different fields.

.

[samran]

20000 baht, a bit like overstay fines??

[ppmacready]

To answer the op's question, i think most guys who are willing to pay give between 10 and 20k a month but the amount really depends on how much she is use to getting. I think a man's age may increase or decrease the amount by 25 percent or perhaps more depending on how he looks and his ability to pay. Also, If a guy has a ton of money his gf will expect a big paycheck.

Having said all of that.... I once thought that for an older guy in Thailand to have a gf 30 years younger or more you needed to give them a monthly paycheck. I tried this twice and both times the results were not so great. Both relationships ended as the money was never enough and there was never any trust or honesty on either side.

I am older but as I am told by many people I still look young. I would also add that I have always been perhaps a little above normal in the looks department... Not bragging just saying.... A few years ago I changed my ways and decided that I will no longer hand money over to a girl every month just so i could have someone young and sweet to enjoy in bed everyday. I found that if I avoid these types of ladies and spend my time in and around places where no bargirls or similar types hang out I can score for free. I have found that you never really have to give a paycheck to any lady to be with you. There are many young, sweet, beautiful, cute, lovely girls out there who are only looking for someone honest who will treat them nice. They want a guy who looks smart and is not a drunk or pushy. Age is a factor but it is mostly about personality and looks. If you are 60, good looking, speak nice and perhaps a little Thai, smile a lot and don't have a big beer gut you can pick up girls in their twenties all day long for free. The only down side is that these ladies look at you as more than just a friend or customer and you can not just push them away so easy. They are looking for a future and looking for perhaps money down the road. I pay my rent and all the electric, water etc. I also pay when we go out to eat and drink. I never just hand over money. The girls I select all work normal jobs and have their own spending money.

Never date a girl who ever had sex for money or a girl who does not have a real job. Both will expect money and have no idea how to spend or save.

There are exceptions to every rule but this is my experience.

At least a sensible answer.

Unlike the previous one.

So many air heads and guys teaching English for 30K a month on here.

I'm happy to pay as I go.

As I believe nothing lasts for ever.

A business like arrangement that is 'fair' to both party's.

I start off immediately paying 20k a month,If I fall in love I throw in a company car, medical insurance,shopping trips to Singapore, but I never increase the pocket money.

I tell them there's no marriage and no divorce settlement in the future.

But they imagine once his fallen in love with me, Ill get a car, nice house with a pool etc in my name.

So quite logically they do their very best to please.

It makes for a very hot, long honeymoon period.

And almost painless endings.

As time goes by and the relationship starts to cool off, it helps both party's to decide, ''is the squeeze worth the juice''?

Had 18 wonderful years here and still on speaking terms with all my x girlfriends and never been assaulted by any.

They are only capable of playing draughts, where as some Falang here are capable of playing chess.

Of course there are the guys who can't even beat the girls at draughts.

Trolls- don't blame the player, blame the game.

[wow64]

I can afford the 20k but f### that. Tell her to get a job or meet a girl with a job.

[thehelmsman]

Size of pockets may vary.

[sdanielmcev]

Pretty much any woman from any culture looks to her man as a wallet with a ....

Women are nest builders, ain't a good enough nest, she'll move on, if she can. If you can't trust your gf with money, why would you be with her? My gf works, so pocket money isn't a question, but I give her whatever she asks for. Usually about 5000 baht a week.

[banglay]

Why should a man pay ???? My Girlfriend has been living with me for 6 years she has a well paid job (Not a Bar Girl) and has never asked me for money for her or her family ........

What is it with people who come to Thailand and think they have to give money to there other halves .....I didn';t do it in the west and I will not do it here either .

There are plenty of respectable non bar girls with well paid jobs looking for love and security all you have to do is find them .

Edited May 25, 2014 by banglay

[ppmacready]

I can afford the 20k but f### that. Tell her to get a job or meet a girl with a job.

We all have our own way of dealing with the Thai culture.

Chock Dee

[wow64]

Not sure about the wallet thing. Sometimes we go out any my misses will pay.. It's a very nice change.

If they work.. There is their allowance.

I already pay for the lifestyle don't need to give pocket money to spend. Start that it will never stop.

[ttthailand]

I can afford the 20k but f### that. Tell her to get a job or meet a girl with a job.

We all have our own way of dealing with the Thai culture.

Chock Dee

Ppmacready is like many other guys I know and also myself at one time. Going out picking up girls from the clubs or bars and paying for drinks, bar fines and morning gift goodbyes can get expensive. If you find a sweet lovely girl who you can give a little money to each month to stay with you it can be a win win for all concerned. If you have a tight budget then that may not be an option but if you can afford it then it has its advantages. The down side is that you may fall in love with someone who is only in it for the money. Also, because this person was perhaps already in the sex for money business before they may be more apt to try to make a little extra on the side. The up side is that you can pay as you go and when you are ready for a change you can move on. Edited May 25, 2014 by ttthailand

[Berkshire]

"My rule of thumb is 1,000 bht per year you are older than her per month.

Up to 20,000 maximum."

Novel concept. Maybe this will catch on. But surely, one size does not fit all. Perhaps the fair maiden can offer discounts if the man possesses any of the following:

--Is fit, no beer-belly.

--Cleanly shaven

--Doesn't drink

--Doesn't smoke

--Doesn't ask her to smoke (if you get my drift)

--Never ask "where you've been"

--Speaks Thai

--No chest or back hair

--Is not anal-retentive

--Never brings up anal, period

Etc. As an added bonus, the sponsor can receive up to one month free coverage if he pays for an entire year in advance. Of course, said coverage may be cancelled prematurely with no refund.

Just thinking aloud....

[ppmacready]

Why should a man pay ???? My Girlfriend has been living with me for 6 years she has a well paid job (Not a Bar Girl) and has never asked me for money for her or her family ........

What is it with people who come to Thailand and think they have to give money to there other halves .....I didn';t do it in the west and I will not do it here either .

There are plenty of respectable non bar girls with well paid jobs looking for love and security all you have to do is find them .

And long may your arrangement work.

There are plenty of Thai guys married to respectable Thai girls who hand over pocket money..

This is simply my formula for having a 'fun' time in Thailand whilst being 'firm but fair' to both partys.

Obviously both ways work for us.

Chock Dee

[ppmacready]

I can afford the 20k but f### that. Tell her to get a job or meet a girl with a job.

We all have our own way of dealing with the Thai culture.

Chock Dee

Ppmacready is like many other guys I know and also myself at one time. Going out picking up girls from the clubs or bars and paying for drinks, bar fines and morning gift goodbyes can get expensive. If you find a sweet lovely girl who you can give a little money to each month to stay with you it can be a win win for all concerned. If you have a tight budget then that may not be an option but if you can afford it then it has its advantages. The down side is that you may fall in love with someone who is only in it for the money. Also, because this person was perhaps already in the sex for money business before they may be more apt to try to make a little extra on the side. The up side is that you can pay as you go and when you are ready for a change you can move on.

Even when they didn't come from a bar.

Even when they had there own job.

I always made a financial arrangement.

As I believe nothing lasts forever.

A court in UK would award them far more as an X common-law wife!

Ive never beaten my self up after it ended, about what they may or may not have gone back too.

My conscience has always remained clear.

After a reasonable 72 hours mourning, I'm normally back in a honeymoon period.

[benalibina]

"My rule of thumb is 1,000 bht per year you are older than her per month.

Up to 20,000 maximum."

Novel concept. Maybe this will catch on. But surely, one size does not fit all. Perhaps the fair maiden can offer discounts if the man possesses any of the following:

--Is fit, no beer-belly.

--Cleanly shaven

--Doesn't drink

--Doesn't smoke

--Doesn't ask her to smoke (if you get my drift)

--Never ask "where you've been"

--Speaks Thai

--No chest or back hair

--Is not anal-retentive

--Never brings up anal, period

Etc. As an added bonus, the sponsor can receive up to one month free coverage if he pays for an entire year in advance. Of course, said coverage may be cancelled prematurely with no refund.

Just thinking aloud....

You ?

Edited May 25, 2014 by benalibina

[CharlesHH]

10000 20000THB per month is fair, if she cooks, cleans, and takes care of you. Really simple math considering the services rendered. Pay by month with NO advances and if u split, nothing lost. Oh, give a little gold thing on birthday and double up at New Year's, just like a salary.

Keep the employee dimension foremost in YOUR mind to be happy; certainly she will, but not with malice if you chose well.

[farang000999]

If you are 60, good looking, speak nice and perhaps a little Thai, smile a lot and don't have a big beer gut you can pick up girls in their twenties all day long for free.

LOL.

[ppmacready]

"My rule of thumb is 1,000 bht per year you are older than her per month.

Up to 20,000 maximum."

Novel concept. Maybe this will catch on. But surely, one size does not fit all. Perhaps the fair maiden can offer discounts if the man possesses any of the following:

--Is fit, no beer-belly.

--Cleanly shaven

--Doesn't drink

--Doesn't smoke

--Doesn't ask her to smoke (if you get my drift)

--Never ask "where you've been"

--Speaks Thai

--No chest or back hair

--Is not anal-retentive

--Never brings up anal, period

Etc. As an added bonus, the sponsor can receive up to one month free coverage if he pays for an entire year in advance. Of course, said coverage may be cancelled prematurely with no refund.

Just thinking aloud....

You ?

As the fourth line states-

It stands to reason the older, fatter and uglier you get, the more you are gonna have to pay.

I don't drink or smoke, drive a nice car, 3-4 showers a day, bit chubby.

​I could get away with less, but I try to be fair.

Always knowing.

​Nothing lasts forever!