I'm a 24/m, been to 12 countries, lived in 3. I'm a very conservative Christian, and place love and family above all, yet have had neither. I look to relocate to BKK for cost of living and schooling. I've read enough over the past few months to almost make me unwilling to be able to put my trust in Thai women, as I've been played by women of other countries in the past. I'm often considered quite handsome, and extremely fit, so I've never had a problem meting women, just never had luck with meeting the marrying type.

I ask you, tell me of the other side of the social culture. Doees a conservative Christian stand a chance at meeting a Christian woman in BKK?

Lots of Christians in Thailand, a fair few chinese thai as well as thai are Christian plsus the phillipino crowd, I suggest you get involved in your local church, you may have luck meeting a nice women through that.

Meeting the right person is like shopping for coats, usually you have to try a few on first before finding the perfect fit But IMO 24 is way too young to want to settle down but each to his own.

Lots of Christians in Thailand, a fair few chinese thai as well as thai are Christian plsus the phillipino crowd, I suggest you get involved in your local church, you may have luck meeting a nice women through that.

Meeting the right person is like shopping for coats, usually you have to try a few on first before finding the perfect fit But IMO 24 is way too young to want to settle down but each to his own.

Encouraging

I think if you met me you understand better. I'm very stable, well travelled, disciplined, and successfull. I suppose I was bred differently. I am completely settled as is, and have desired a family of my own for some time. I would rather have someone to come home to and children to spend all my time with than nearly anything else. I'm from a small town where most everyone marries young. I've served in the US millitary, and studied at university (graduated highschool very young. I'm not one for partying, though since I'm a hermit otherwise, I try to make myself go out a couple times a week just to speak with people about culture and travel. I would be most happy having someone to love and spend my time with however. I am in no hurry, though always hoping Miss Right will be around the next corner.

A refreshing change in someone so young but you know yourself best & if thats what you want then good luck to you & I hope you find it.

When I was living upocountry in Khon kaen, I saw a fair few American girls (early 20's) doing volenteer work at local thai schools as teachers. They all met each other in Church in Korat or KK & would take turns to meet up in each others main town.

Why not do a google on Christian outposting in LOS, it may give some support groups or contacts.

A refreshing change in someone so young but you know yourself best & if thats what you want then good luck to you & I hope you find it.

When I was living upocountry in Khon kaen, I saw a fair few American girls (early 20's) doing volenteer work at local thai schools as teachers. They all met each other in Church in Korat or KK & would take turns to meet up in each others main town.

Why not do a google on Christian outposting in LOS, it may give some support groups or contacts.

I may still move to Malasia, so I'm being my patient old self (sometimes my greatest downfall, too patient and miss the obvious).

Being 24 is not too young for any long term relationship, and it’s not just because of your handsomeness or being extremely fit that the girls are looking for. It always will eventually come down to your commitment, caring, and understanding personalities that what are most important. I got married when I was 23 to a thai girl and next week is our 20th aniversery. Not all thai girls are bad or looking for farang money, but then again I met mine while studying at the same university in the US. Usually you will met your soul mate when you’re least expected, I met mine in the elevator on the way to do my laundry during my junior yr, she’s a freshmen at the time. But of course I have certain requirements and expectations of my future Mrs. BKK, I always got attracted to a more educated girls, not that uneducated girls are bad, but I would like mine to have at least the same educational background as mine. Let me tell you I can talk to her for hours and hours about everything and every topics…. We also own our own engineering business together and practically being around each other 24 hrs a day and so far I have not got bored with her a bit. Sometimes I feel like I should go out and socialize more, but why?.. when I’m having fun at home already.

If you valued your Christianity then being around the church or mixing with the crowd in those places, chances are good for you in meeting your ideal/type women.

Good luck

Edited June 27, 200620 yr by BKK90210

I'm very stable, well travelled, disciplined, and successfull. I suppose I was bred differently. I am completely settled as is, and have desired a family of my own for some time. I would rather have someone to come home to and children to spend all my time with than nearly anything else. I'm from a small town where most everyone marries young. I've served in the US millitary, and studied at university (graduated highschool very young. I'm not one for partying, though since I'm a hermit otherwise, I try to make myself go out a couple times a week just to speak with people about culture and travel. I would be most happy having someone to love and spend my time with however. I am in no hurry, though always hoping Miss Right will be around the next corner.

Sounds interesting. Count me in.

I've been searching for this kind of man for nearly fifty years , never have any luck!

You'll likely do very well actually. You just need to get in with the 'right' crowd for you from the get-go, as Boo advised. There are many local church groups and you will be surprised how many young single women are involved in them. There are some very dedicated Thai Christians. There are just as many who have never seen a bible yet went to a Christian school and have never really bothered to think much about what they opt to believe/not believe about life. Good luck.

Yeah, like Boo said - shopping for coats

You sound like a great catch, and if you weren't so far under my age level, I'd probably try to snag you for myself. I finally realized that I'm kind of looking for someone like this, but not necessarily Christian; but then again, not necessarily not. For the first time in my entire life, I suddenly have something for military men (it must have something to do with my recently viewing Black Hawk Down about several times in a row; I do miss home) but the very smart, fit, and committed types. Intensity is very important for me. I hope I can find one that is not the usual military chauvinist, though - big turnoff.

Anyway, there are Christians here, and there is a great social church that I've been invited to, but I've forgotten which one. But please, do be careful out here. You are right to ask so that you don't fall into the wrong hands.

I myself will be leaving LOS in about six weeks, because I'm looking for good men like you, but at a little higher age bracket. I finally realized that my best chances to find them are back home or somewhere else.

Good luck, and be discriminating.

Edited June 28, 200620 yr by kat

Yeah, like Boo said - shopping for coats

You sound like a great catch, and if you weren't so far under my age level, I'd probably try to snag you for myself. I finally realized that I'm kind of looking for someone like this, but not necessarily Christian; but then again, not necessarily not. For the first time in my entire life, I suddenly have something for military men (it must have something to do with my recently viewing Black Hawk Down about several times in a row; I do miss home) but the very smart, fit, and committed types. Intensity is very important for me. I hope I can find one that is not the usual military chauvinist, though - big turnoff.

Anyway, there are Christians here, and there is a great social church that I've been invited to, but I've forgotten which one. But please, do be careful out here. You are right to ask so that you don't fall into the wrong hands.

I myself will be leaving LOS in about six weeks, because I'm looking for good men like you, but at a little higher age bracket. I finally realized that my best chances to find them are back home or somewhere else.

Good luck, and be discriminating.

It is our mistakes that gives us patience and wisdom.

I've been played and I've been hurt. So, I've become cautious and picky I suppose.

On the outside, I'm a 190lb Marine with nothing but muscle, and look the part. Inside, I'm toatl mush. It's sad so many people only look at the cover, because the rest of the book is a whole different story.

If I don't get the job in Miami next week, I'll booking my flight for BKK (hopefully my house sells....)

Yeah, like Boo said - shopping for coats

You sound like a great catch, and if you weren't so far under my age level, I'd probably try to snag you for myself. I finally realized that I'm kind of looking for someone like this, but not necessarily Christian; but then again, not necessarily not. For the first time in my entire life, I suddenly have something for military men (it must have something to do with my recently viewing Black Hawk Down about several times in a row; I do miss home) but the very smart, fit, and committed types. Intensity is very important for me. I hope I can find one that is not the usual military chauvinist, though - big turnoff.

Anyway, there are Christians here, and there is a great social church that I've been invited to, but I've forgotten which one. But please, do be careful out here. You are right to ask so that you don't fall into the wrong hands.

I myself will be leaving LOS in about six weeks, because I'm looking for good men like you, but at a little higher age bracket. I finally realized that my best chances to find them are back home or somewhere else.

Good luck, and be discriminating.

It is our mistakes that gives us patience and wisdom.

I've been played and I've been hurt. So, I've become cautious and picky I suppose.

On the outside, I'm a 190lb Marine with nothing but muscle, and look the part. Inside, I'm toatl mush. It's sad so many people only look at the cover, because the rest of the book is a whole different story.

If I don't get the job in Miami next week, I'll booking my flight for BKK (hopefully my house sells....)

Just a quick comment on the 'shopping for coats' analogy brought up earlier; the view was made that you have to 'try each on for size'.

The only drawback if you are a 'conservative' Christian would be that before marriage, you wouldn't be allowed to try any on for size in the sexual sense but rather leave that part of the relationship to chance. Having said that, it happens the world over in various cultures, religous groups.

Just an observation, not a criticism.

Yeah, like Boo said - shopping for coats

You sound like a great catch, and if you weren't so far under my age level, I'd probably try to snag you for myself. I finally realized that I'm kind of looking for someone like this, but not necessarily Christian; but then again, not necessarily not. For the first time in my entire life, I suddenly have something for military men (it must have something to do with my recently viewing Black Hawk Down about several times in a row; I do miss home) but the very smart, fit, and committed types. Intensity is very important for me. I hope I can find one that is not the usual military chauvinist, though - big turnoff.

Anyway, there are Christians here, and there is a great social church that I've been invited to, but I've forgotten which one. But please, do be careful out here. You are right to ask so that you don't fall into the wrong hands.

I myself will be leaving LOS in about six weeks, because I'm looking for good men like you, but at a little higher age bracket. I finally realized that my best chances to find them are back home or somewhere else.

Good luck, and be discriminating.

It is our mistakes that gives us patience and wisdom.

I've been played and I've been hurt. So, I've become cautious and picky I suppose.

On the outside, I'm a 190lb Marine with nothing but muscle, and look the part. Inside, I'm toatl mush. It's sad so many people only look at the cover, because the rest of the book is a whole different story.

If I don't get the job in Miami next week, I'll booking my flight for BKK (hopefully my house sells....)

Just a quick comment on the 'shopping for coats' analogy brought up earlier; the view was made that you have to 'try each on for size'.

The only drawback if you are a 'conservative' Christian would be that before marriage, you wouldn't be allowed to try any on for size in the sexual sense but rather leave that part of the relationship to chance. Having said that, it happens the world over in various cultures, religous groups.

Just an observation, not a criticism.

I shop, but don't 'try on'

Conservative through and through

Yeah, like Boo said - shopping for coats

You sound like a great catch, and if you weren't so far under my age level, I'd probably try to snag you for myself. I finally realized that I'm kind of looking for someone like this, but not necessarily Christian; but then again, not necessarily not. For the first time in my entire life, I suddenly have something for military men (it must have something to do with my recently viewing Black Hawk Down about several times in a row; I do miss home) but the very smart, fit, and committed types. Intensity is very important for me. I hope I can find one that is not the usual military chauvinist, though - big turnoff.

Anyway, there are Christians here, and there is a great social church that I've been invited to, but I've forgotten which one. But please, do be careful out here. You are right to ask so that you don't fall into the wrong hands.

I myself will be leaving LOS in about six weeks, because I'm looking for good men like you, but at a little higher age bracket. I finally realized that my best chances to find them are back home or somewhere else.

Good luck, and be discriminating.

It is our mistakes that gives us patience and wisdom.

I've been played and I've been hurt. So, I've become cautious and picky I suppose.

On the outside, I'm a 190lb Marine with nothing but muscle, and look the part. Inside, I'm toatl mush. It's sad so many people only look at the cover, because the rest of the book is a whole different story.

If I don't get the job in Miami next week, I'll booking my flight for BKK (hopefully my house sells....)

Just a quick comment on the 'shopping for coats' analogy brought up earlier; the view was made that you have to 'try each on for size'.

The only drawback if you are a 'conservative' Christian would be that before marriage, you wouldn't be allowed to try any on for size in the sexual sense but rather leave that part of the relationship to chance. Having said that, it happens the world over in various cultures, religous groups.

Just an observation, not a criticism.

I shop, but don't 'try on'

Conservative through and through

I respect you for sticking by your convictions.

If you are looking both to meet Christian ladies and get college or postgrad education consider Mission College, an international Christian University in Saraburi province. (About 2 1/2 - 3 hrs from Bkk) Although most of their Thai students are not Christian, some are and most of the non-Thai students (from all over, but mostly other Asian countries) are. Tuition is very affordable and quality of education OK, huge campus in the countryside which is its own large community. Website www.missioncollege.edu

Also, trying on coats doesn't necessarily pertain to the exclusively sexual. There is a lot more to finding the perfect fit than that.

Edited June 29, 200620 yr by kat

Also, trying on coats doesn't necessarily pertain to the exclusively sexual. There is a lot more to finding the perfect fit than that.

I'm not that shallow

No, I wasn't trying to imply that anyone was shallow, just making a comment. I was also responding to Somchai's post #11.

Also, trying on coats doesn't necessarily pertain to the exclusively sexual. There is a lot more to finding the perfect fit than that.

I'm not that shallow

Kat; if you read my post again, you'll see that in no way did I infer that it did pertain to the exclusively sexual; that is one part of a relationship; only one factor amongst many, but posssibly one that shouldn't be ignored.

I also stated that my post was an observation, not a criticism.

Slated; no one is suggesting that you are shallow. In fact you seem to grow in nobility with each post....

Chock Dee.

Edited June 29, 200620 yr by somchai jones

dudes - relax! My post was just a comment, and wasn't implying anything about anyone or any perceived implications. It was just a response to help extend definitions.

Appreciate the information on mission college, however I believe I would prefer a university with more extensive courses available.

I didn't mean to get anyone upset in regards to the subject of sex. I'm a 24 year old prude, who can't wait to have sex. Luckily, I'm about as strong willed as they come in that area, and prefer to focus on other areas of relational growth till the marathon of lovin' begins.

I don't think anyone is upset. I'm certainly not.

Appreciate the information on mission college, however I believe I would prefer a university with more extensive courses available.

I didn't mean to get anyone upset in regards to the subject of sex. I'm a 24 year old prude, who can't wait to have sex. Luckily, I'm about as strong willed as they come in that area, and prefer to focus on other areas of relational growth till the marathon of lovin' begins.

Good luck. It will probably be all the better after the wait!

My 3 brothers-in-law are Muslim (I'm married to a Malaysian) and were 29, 25 and 23 respectively before each married. They all abstained from sex until marriage and now all three of them have kids and are in loving relationships.

Appreciate the information on mission college, however I believe I would prefer a university with more extensive courses available.

I may have misled you by referring to it as a Christian university. It offers a full range of majors, including Biology, Psychology, all the various business-related stuff, English Lit, IT etc etc. My niece (who is not Chrsitian) studied Biology there and I found the science and math courses to be on par with anywhere else. It is Christian in the sense that it espouses Chrisitian values and enforces a strict code of conduct (which my nephew got himself expelled for breaking!). It does offer religious courses but very few of the 800 odd students major in religion.

Be warned that the quality of education in many of the other "international" programs offered in Thai universities is very low; a lot of these places are little more than diploma mills.

While you're young, you grow up and the coat can get too small, think about that, don't rush yourself into a marriage, you might regret, your wife maybe more, not mentioning kid/s...

Is 24 years old enough to know what you really want from life? I'm allowed to ask that question as I am 23 and would rather like to be prepared.

I guess it depends on the person Will. My husband knew what he wanted out of life when he was 21 (which is how old he was when he asked me to marry him). According to him, he has had no doubts about his decision, and since we will celebrate our 17th wedding anniversary next month, it seems he was right.

I think alot of it depends on the person's outlook on lifeand their maturity level.

Ladies,

Thank you so much for your replies. You've all been wonderful. My house has been getting some action here, and I hope to be on my way in about 8 weeks.

I would greatly appreciate it if you could comment on another thread of mine.

Thanks!

Michael

Ladies,

Thank you so much for your replies. You've all been wonderful. My house has been getting some action here, and I hope to be on my way in about 8 weeks.

I would greatly appreciate it if you could comment on another thread of mine.

Thanks!

Michael

sorry, here was the link:

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=75636

Hi there Slated.

I must take my hat off to you. 24 Years old, a marine and in control of your desires. I come from a military family and know how tough it must have been for you to be in the forces and have the attitude to life that you do.

The only advice I can give you is to take it easy when you get out here. Perhaps set yourself a time frame during which you will not have a girlfriend. Something like 3 months during which time you can focus on settling in, making new friends and learning a few of the pitfalls that are out there.

You will meet men with radically different views to you, listen to but don't be swayed by them. There are many wonderful women out there both foreign and Thai, but both camps also have a few dodgy choices (nothing in comparison to the apple cart the women have to deal with though, man talk about sifting through rotten apples!). Make some friends who have some experience in the country, who can genuinely help you in all things, and when you feel settled and ready, trust me if you are as genuine as you say you are you will have no problem meeting someone special.

Good luck mate and Semper Fi.

I'm a 24/m, been to 12 countries, lived in 3. I'm a very conservative Christian, and place love and family above all, yet have had neither. I look to relocate to BKK for cost of living and schooling. I've read enough over the past few months to almost make me unwilling to be able to put my trust in Thai women, as I've been played by women of other countries in the past. I'm often considered quite handsome, and extremely fit, so I've never had a problem meting women, just never had luck with meeting the marrying type.

I ask you, tell me of the other side of the social culture. Doees a conservative Christian stand a chance at meeting a Christian woman in BKK?

I kinda wonder about you if you are judging Thai women by the posts here. Most of the negativity comes from much older men (some times to the extreme) being pissed that a 22 year old woman doesn't really find them that attractive. This obvious reality is "shock" to these men and they complain these women or only after money (well duh). How many of these men went for 68 year old women when they were 22!

(now I am sure someone will post how they have a good relationship that has a great difference in age. I am not saying there are none, but few real ones for sure)

How have you been played by women in the past?

I do give you kudos for using “Thai women” instead of “Thai girl” In some areas you respect women more than 50% of the posters here.