What do Thai women look for in a man and what kind of men turn off Thai women?

[michaeltheR]

I am trying to find out the traits of men which Thai women like and dont like. Please post your thoughts.

[mesquite]

You've been a TV member for over seven years and you've never heard, "It's all about money?"

[Costas2008]

"What do Thai women look for in a man?"

Money, money, money, makes the world go round................

"what kind of men turn off Thai women?"

No money, no honey, darling.

[willyumiii]

oh boy!

Here come all the usual TV negitive comments about money hungry Thai women!

Unfortunately it seems many many TV members never got out of the bars or massage parlors when looking for a woman.

Clue: If you are looking at women who want money for affection or sex...you will find women who's priority is money, money, money.

I and most of my farang friends here in Thailand are married to good, loving and respectable Thai women.

Hard to believe for the bar guys and sexpats, but my wife had never had a boyfriend before me...yes a real virgin.

I know money is not why she is with me....thorugh the years we have hit some hard times and she has always stayed with and supported me.

In fact, when we first met, before we were married, she had more money in the bank than I did..she owned and still own a bit of property as well.

So, before you drowned in a sea of disgruntled, unhappy guys who more or less tried to buy a wife...remember there are quite a few of us out here who are very happy with our wonderful and loving Thai wives.

Back to your original question: What do they look for in a man? Love and respect are very important tomine.

[michaeltheR]

oh boy!

Here come all the usual TV negitive comments about money hungry Thai women!

Unfortunately it seems many many TV members never got out of the bars or massage parlors when looking for a woman.

Clue: If you are looking at women who want money for affection or sex...you will find women who's priority is money, money, money.

I and most of my farang friends here in Thailand are married to good, loving and respectable Thai women.

Hard to believe for the bar guys and sexpats, but my wife had never had a boyfriend before me...yes a real virgin.

I know money is not why she is with me....thorugh the years we have hit some hard times and she has always stayed with and supported me.

In fact, when we first met, before we were married, she had more money in the bank than I did..she owned and still own a bit of property as well.

So, before you drowned in a sea of disgruntled, unhappy guys who more or less tried to buy a wife...remember there are quite a few of us out here who are very happy with our wonderful and loving Thai wives.

Back to your original question: What do they look for in a man? Love and respect are very important tomine.

Agreed we only see the gold diggers as the stand out. But lets not forget that ordinary hard working men find women who are on the same level financially and they are happily together.

So I guess the "no money no honey" could be only a stereotype. However I hear from some Thai educated women that they would prefer to date somebody who has a stable job which is understandable.

[laolover88]

This is,of course, complete nonsense.

There are gold diggers in every culture and every country; men and women!

My wife knows exactly how much income and capital I have. Was this a significant factor in her decision to live with me? No.

What she said was: I see from the way you talk to people you are polite and have a good heart; you dress in a way that tells me you are a confident person; look after yourself; you use every means you have..dictionaries..internet..etc.to make sure we understand each other, so you are as clever as me! You look after your children in a way that no Thai man ever does, and that is the most important thing for me; and now you look after my children just the same way. Sure I am happy you have enough money for us to live, but I need to have my own money, not my family's and not yours.

[Beetlejuice]

Thai people are no different when it comes to physical attractions and choosing relationship partners. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, one person`s meat, is another person`s poison.

Most Thai women contrary to the popular beliefs of many Thai visa members, are turned on by guys who are sincere, not seeking girlfriends with benefits, loyal to one partner and able to give security and stability.

Those who prefer Thai women of ill repute, from the underclasses of Thai society or those young enough to be their daughters or granddaughters is another scenario and fall into a different category not pertaining to this thread.

[michaeltheR]

Thai people are no different when it comes to physical attractions and choosing relationship partners. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, one person`s meat, is another person`s poison.

Most Thai women contrary to the popular beliefs of many Thai visa members, are turned on by guys who are sincere, not seeking girlfriends with benefits, loyal to one partner and able to give security and stability.

Those who prefer Thai women of ill repute, from the underclasses of Thai society or those young enough to be their daughters or granddaughters is another scenario and fall into a different category not pertaining to this thread.

I am afraid some people will misunderstand "stability and security" part. I believe that Thai women are looking for someone who has aims in life and can support a family. Howeverdoes not mean he has to be a millionaiere. Right?

[Berkshire]

What a loaded question, but I'll give it a shot. It depends on the level of the woman we're talking about. If she's from a good family, is attractive, still young, educated, etc., she will require more of the same things a western woman looks for. Which is someone she can speak intelligently to (in Thai, of course), has good future prospects, decent looking (but dropdead gorgeous not necessary), educated/good family...someone who she feels "Oop uun" (bad spelling, but Thai meaning is "gives her sense of warmth").

At the other spectrum, if she's dirt poor, not attractive (by Thai standards), not educated, from a dysfunctional family, getting older, little future prospects, etc., she will take almost any guy with a pulse. Foreigners welcome!

[Gecko123]

Hard to believe for the bar guys and sexpats, but my wife had never had a boyfriend before me...yes a real virgin.

I have never met a farang who claimed his Thai wife was a virgin at the time they married, and will admit I am intrigued.

Any additional details you would care to share about your relationship with your wife would be appreciated.

I am curious about things like:

how old you and your wife were when you met.

how old you and your wife were when you married.

how you met.

the education level of your wife/your education level

your wife's socio-economic status at the time she met you

your socio-economic status at the time you met your wife

where you met (in Thailand or abroad? where in Thailand?)

how long you have been married

do you think financial gain played any role in your wife's decision to marry you.

the occupations of your wife's parents at the time you were married

[Billy The Kid]

Looking for a man who never said no.

[Gecko123]

Traits Thai women don't like:

• hot-tempered (easily angered/annoyed)
• overly talkative (long winded: takes 10 minutes to say something which could be said in 5 seconds)
• overly intellectual/overly analytical (likes discussing theories, conceptual ideas, analyzing situations excessively)
• chauvanistic (thinks his wife is his flunky/slave/maid/caregiver/housekeeper)
• bossy (has a 'my way or the highway'/'Who pays the bills around here?' attitude.)
• unsmiling
• no sense of humor (finds nothing she says funny; Thai TV comedies are 'idiotic,' and 'moronic.')
• chronically pessimistic (We are on the verge of a global financial collapse, WWIII, "we need to start prepping.")
• cheap (esp. when accompanied by regular claims that you are 'loaded,' 'filthy rich' or 'have more money than you know what to do with.')
• hates Thai food/hates her cooking/hates spicy food (plaa raa/nam prik is disgusting)
• dislikes her children from prior marriage
• dislikes everyone in her family (especially her mother)
• too lazy or unintelligent to learn Thai (clueless that his pronunciation is atrocious)
• smokers
• heavy drinkers
• morbidly obese or even just plain obese
• suffers from ulcers/nervous stomach/mysterious gastro-intestinal disorders
• loud snorer
• shameless farter
• has horrendous foot odor
• pays poor attention to personal hygiene
• never ever ever wants to go out and have fun
• loves ice hockey or other winter Olympic sports
• spends all day on TVF/watching English language TV
• constantly says: "But that's not how I did it back home!"

I'd say that about covers it.

Edited September 24, 2014 by Gecko123

[David48]

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What do Thai women look for in a man?

... interesting ...

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[marcusd]

Koi yai is good and younger man. Koi nit noi on older fat man no good

[Suradit69]

oh boy!

Here come all the usual TV negitive comments about money hungry Thai women!

Unfortunately it seems many many TV members never got out of the bars or massage parlors when looking for a woman.

Clue: If you are looking at women who want money for affection or sex...you will find women who's priority is money, money, money.

I and most of my farang friends here in Thailand are married to good, loving and respectable Thai women.

Hard to believe for the bar guys and sexpats, but my wife had never had a boyfriend before me...yes a real virgin.

I know money is not why she is with me....thorugh the years we have hit some hard times and she has always stayed with and supported me.

In fact, when we first met, before we were married, she had more money in the bank than I did..she owned and still own a bit of property as well.

So, before you drowned in a sea of disgruntled, unhappy guys who more or less tried to buy a wife...remember there are quite a few of us out here who are very happy with our wonderful and loving Thai wives.

Back to your original question: What do they look for in a man? Love and respect are very important tomine.

"Unfortunately it seems many many TV members never got out of the bars or massage parlors when looking for a woman."

... or at least a woman too blinded by drink and dim lighting to fully appreciate why the "suitor" had to travel half way 'round the world.

Even after all these years I find it amazing that so many TV posters are so ready to rush forward to tacitly admit that some woman (women?) working in a bar could "trick" them into parting with their money and the only thing remotely attractive about the "hansum man" was the (supposed) size of his wallet. I guess they're being brutally honest or they're still amazingly naive.

Edited September 24, 2014 by Suradit69

[Gonsalviz]

Take care of her and her family and love her.

I do not mean support her family. If she requires anything more than supporting her and her children, she is looking for a free ride.

My out laws support themselves even though we both have tried to get them to stop working.

[Thongkorn]

Most decent Thai women would not be seen dead with a westerner, They tend to keep to there own , Asian, they look down on Thai women with western men , they keep to there own big money people,

[Thakkar]

Mrs T said she needed some compliant bloke with no opinion on furniture placement to help move the furniture around every couple of months.

My back is killing me.

T

[kurnell]

I don't see any hi-so girls mixing with handsome cabbies or motocye taxi drivers

[xen]

Traits Thai women don't like:

• hot-tempered (easily angered/annoyed)
• overly talkative (long winded: takes 10 minutes to say something which could be said in 5 seconds)
• overly intellectual/overly analytical (likes discussing theories, conceptual ideas, analyzing situations excessively)
• chauvanistic (thinks his wife is his flunky/slave/maid/caregiver/housekeeper)
• bossy (has a 'my way or the highway'/'Who pays the bills around here?' attitude.)
• unsmiling
• no sense of humor (finds nothing she says funny; Thai TV comedies are 'idiotic,' and 'moronic.')
• chronically pessimistic (We are on the verge of a global financial collapse, WWIII, "we need to start prepping.")
• cheap (esp. when accompanied by regular claims that you are 'loaded,' 'filthy rich' or 'have more money than you know what to do with.')
• hates Thai food/hates her cooking/hates spicy food (plaa raa/nam prik is disgusting)
• dislikes her children from prior marriage
• dislikes everyone in her family (especially her mother)
• too lazy or unintelligent to learn Thai (clueless that his pronunciation is atrocious)
• smokers
• heavy drinkers
• morbidly obese or even just plain obese
• suffers from ulcers/nervous stomach/mysterious gastro-intestinal disorders
• loud snorer
• shameless farter
• has horrendous foot odor
• pays poor attention to personal hygiene
• never ever ever wants to go out and have fun
• loves ice hockey or other winter Olympic sports
• spends all day on TVF/watching English language TV
• constantly says: "But that's not how I did it back home!"

I'd say that about covers it.

You have made me hang my head in shame.

[willyumiii]

Hard to believe for the bar guys and sexpats, but my wife had never had a boyfriend before me...yes a real virgin.

I have never met a farang who claimed his Thai wife was a virgin at the time they married, and will admit I am intrigued.

Any additional details you would care to share about your relationship with your wife would be appreciated.

I am curious about things like:

how old you and your wife were when you met.

how old you and your wife were when you married.

how you met.

the education level of your wife/your education level

your wife's socio-economic status at the time she met you

your socio-economic status at the time you met your wife

where you met (in Thailand or abroad? where in Thailand?)

how long you have been married

do you think financial gain played any role in your wife's decision to marry you.

the occupations of your wife's parents at the time you were married

a lot of questions Gecko...I will answer a some for you.

My wife was a university grad working in a bank in Thailand as a computer specialist when we met.

I was a university educated arborist/ horticulturist working in the US.

Neither of us had ever been married before and neither of us had planned to be married.

She was 34 and I was 48.

We have been married 13 years, have a 6 year old child and have lived together in both Thailand and the US.

My wife's father died when she was young and my wife has supported her mother since she graduated from the university.

Life is not always easy, we have had our ups and down, but I have a good wife and a good marriage.

The point I am trying to make is that the Thai woman I married is about a far from the money hungry, uneducated selfish play for pay Thai girls as you can get and I know there are many more like her.

I a man is looking for a good woman he needs to look at good women.....simple.

I think I am a lucky man.

I hope that satisfies your curiosity Gecko!

Edited September 25, 2014 by willyumiii

[gemguy]

Hair face men.....they do not like hair face man..........Nah-grlee-it

[Johnnie99]

Great post.

The answers are simple - anything male and nothing.

[BalasubramanianPalaniapan]

I need to have lot of time to go through the manual to reply to you. Bear with me................

[Johnnie99]

oh boy!

Here come all the usual TV negitive comments about money hungry Thai women!

Unfortunately it seems many many TV members never got out of the bars or massage parlors when looking for a woman.

Clue: If you are looking at women who want money for affection or sex...you will find women who's priority is money, money, money.

I and most of my farang friends here in Thailand are married to good, loving and respectable Thai women.

Hard to believe for the bar guys and sexpats, but my wife had never had a boyfriend before me...yes a real virgin.

I know money is not why she is with me....thorugh the years we have hit some hard times and she has always stayed with and supported me.

In fact, when we first met, before we were married, she had more money in the bank than I did..she owned and still own a bit of property as well.

So, before you drowned in a sea of disgruntled, unhappy guys who more or less tried to buy a wife...remember there are quite a few of us out here who are very happy with our wonderful and loving Thai wives.

Back to your original question: What do they look for in a man? Love and respect are very important tomine.

Is this your first troll post?

It's wonderfully hilarious. Well done!

[willyumiii]

Hair face men.....they do not like hair face man..........Nah-grlee-it

Interesting....

Sometimes I sport a beard, sometimes I do not.

When I do have a beard, it is not uncommon for women and children to ask me if they can touch it!

The seem to like it.

My Thai wife prefers the beard.

She says " with no beard, you look like George Bush, and he is bad man!"

Smart wife!

[JAFO]

@ OP, Honestly its the same as anywhere in the world. There is nothing that should single out Thai women wanting something that a woman anywhere doesn't seek in a man. I hear it all the time from single woman here in the US, Just want a nice man who is caring, a sense of humor, nice, clean cut, employed, honest, sincere etc. I cant see it being anything different for a gal in Thailand. My Thai wife when we first started dating stated similar. Just wanted to share a life with a nice responsible man . Nothing really more than that.

As for the one comment about its a disgrace for a Thai woman to be with a foreigner is utter nonsense. The world is now a pretty small place and inter cultural/race marriages are so common through out the world.

[misterphil]

Lots of money.

Big penis.

Good heart.

Need to freshly groomed too, cant be a stinky person.

[ezzra]

oh boy!

Here come all the usual TV negitive comments about money hungry Thai women!

Unfortunately it seems many many TV members never got out of the bars or massage parlors when looking for a woman.

Clue: If you are looking at women who want money for affection or sex...you will find women who's priority is money, money, money.

I and most of my farang friends here in Thailand are married to good, loving and respectable Thai women.

Hard to believe for the bar guys and sexpats, but my wife had never had a boyfriend before me...yes a real virgin.

I know money is not why she is with me....thorugh the years we have hit some hard times and she has always stayed with and supported me.

In fact, when we first met, before we were married, she had more money in the bank than I did..she owned and still own a bit of property as well.

So, before you drowned in a sea of disgruntled, unhappy guys who more or less tried to buy a wife...remember there are quite a few of us out here who are very happy with our wonderful and loving Thai wives.

Back to your original question: What do they look for in a man? Love and respect are very important tomine.

You have, my friend, for lack of better words, won the lotteries here, if what you have described here is

true, than you're one in a thousand...

[ebean001]

I own a bar in Chiang Mai. Some of the bar girls have been around while others are very new. Ignore all statements that mention - it is all about the money. The ladies of Thailand are no different than anyone, anyplace else. Why would a woman want to hook up with a poor man, a cheap man, a loser, etc? If they do, then you and them are both sincerely stupid and will have a miserable life.

In other words, put yourself in their position. You want to marry a poor man.

Thai ladies are no different than any ladies in the world except they have fewer choices to make in men. Whoever they choose will cheat on them. They know that. They also know that many farangs are no good. They degrade the ladies, Thailand, Asia, etc. They think they are superior. The ladies no like.

Lastly, they need to make money. So if you go out with a 22 year old and your 65 then she is probably after getting paid for her services. You are a fracking customer. Got it!!!! A customer who gets what she gives, you take, you pay and then you have the ordacity to consider her lesser than you. Thai women hate men who think they are better, richer, more intelligent, etc. The ladies know who they are.

It is you stupid farangs who cannot see yourself outside of your culture.

Show respect. Be nice. Don't be cheap. Don't be demanding. and for gods shake get rid of the gold around you neck.