Kids sleeping in parents room

[slipperylobster]

My daughter was probably 10 years old before she decided that parents that fart and snore aren't actually necessary roomies.

Same here

nothing wrong with it, it helps develop strong family bonds, and provide a sense of security for the child

And scares them shitless when they have to fend for themselves no less.

At least in my situation, not true at all

My daughter is a very well adjusted, miss personality with a large number of friends.and doing great at school, I could not be prouder of her.

IMO and the opinion of many others, the strongest veritable for developing a well adjusted child is security and love.

Yes sir..... it is all about trust.

[NickJ]

A sense of security? by being scared to sleep alone. Family bonds....yeah there great with there kids. Jeez what a load of drivel. Kids sleeping with there parents. Great for keeping the sex life normal.

Get the kids used to there on space and independence. Not afraid of the dark and being with ghosts. I dont buy into the Borg Theory of child raising......I doubt that most educated and well of Thais are sleeping with there kids. Village mentality.

[misterphil]

Its just plain weird and wrong.

How can you give your wife a good seeing to if there's a kid watching?

Anyone who has their kid sleeping in the same bed or same room as them, obviously isn't banging their wife.

[MaeJoMTB]

Its just plain weird and wrong.

How can you give your wife a good seeing to if there's a kid watching?

Anyone who has their kid sleeping in the same bed or same room as them, obviously isn't banging their wife.

You clearly don't have much idea how Thai families live.

They still manage to have sex with grandparents, parents and children all in the same room.

[thehelmsman]

Its just plain weird and wrong.

How can you give your wife a good seeing to if there's a kid watching?

Anyone who has their kid sleeping in the same bed or same room as them, obviously isn't banging their wife.

You clearly don't have much idea how Thai families live.

They still manage to have sex with grandparents, parents and children all in the same room.

I usually find my own path in life, just because your neighbors have 3 generations sleeping in 1 room doesn't nessessarily make it a good thing.

It's hard enough waiting till the baby falls asleep before you dance, now you've gots gramma keeping score.

[JohnnyJazz]

I doubt that most educated and well of Thais are sleeping with there kids. Village mentality.

I was like you until I talked with my friend and then asked other urban middle class friends about their family sleeping arrangements. I was a bit surpised by what I learned and that's why I started this thread.

[Asheron]

I can't imagine how ****ywhipped a foreigner has to be if he would accept a child (12 years?!) sleeping in the same room as him and his wife if there were actually other rooms available for the child to sleep in.

[Water Buffalo]

Our daughter has been in her own room the past 6 months (she's 3 and a half).

The wife agrees its much better this way and our daughter likes it too. The wife does, however, have to go to bed with our daughter first, then sneak into our room after she falls asleep.

I put a stop to the nonsense of the whole family sleeping in the same bed together, by moving into the guest room myself. It only took about 6 months before wifey missed me

[misterphil]

Its just plain weird and wrong.

How can you give your wife a good seeing to if there's a kid watching?

Anyone who has their kid sleeping in the same bed or same room as them, obviously isn't banging their wife.

You clearly don't have much idea how Thai families live.

They still manage to have sex with grandparents, parents and children all in the same room.

I know how Thai families live.

They obviously just have a quick session spooning or the missionary position. They wont be throwing each other against the wall, and all over the room like a porn movie.

Its wrong for a child to watch its parents have sex.

[benalibina]

My daughter was probably 10 years old before she decided that parents that fart and snore aren't actually necessary roomies.

Same here

nothing wrong with it, it helps develop strong family bonds, and provide a sense of security for the child

And scares them shitless when they have to fend for themselves no less.

At least in my situation, not true at all

My daughter is a very well adjusted, miss personality with a large number of friends.and doing great at school, I could not be prouder of her.

IMO and the opinion of many others, the strongest veritable for developing a well adjusted child is security and love.

Yes sir..... it is all about trust.

In the eample given by OP....its ....false trust...but you guys keep on believing its good.

[sirineou]

My daughter was probably 10 years old before she decided that parents that fart and snore aren't actually necessary roomies.

Same here

nothing wrong with it, it helps develop strong family bonds, and provide a sense of security for the child

And scares them shitless when they have to fend for themselves no less.

At least in my situation, not true at all

My daughter is a very well adjusted, miss personality with a large number of friends.and doing great at school, I could not be prouder of her.

IMO and the opinion of many others, the strongest veritable for developing a well adjusted child is security and love.

Yes sir..... it is all about trust.

In the eample given by OP....its ....false trust...but you guys keep on believing its good.

You might be right.

Please explain how it is "false trust"

[benalibina]

In answer to above poster....Sirineou.....

In my humble opinion, apart from many situations where there is only 1 bedroom available where everybody needs to sleep in, giving kids a feeling of safety and trust to sleep with their parents in 1 room, shows lack of giving trust on different vital matters in an emotional way. It boils down to lack of parenting skills. The willingness to raise a child as a seperate entity with the aim to form his/her own caracter.

Fysical trust is what is given, usually out of....culture and own upbringing. I dont really know if it is only being done by thais from a rural background whose financial positions bettered so they can live now in a house with more than 1 bedroom, but my guess is it is.

It is all a form of soft manipulation as a part to create a later obligation for the kids to their parents. It is also part of leaving out for the child to really become an individual with his/her own way of thinking. Family 1st is drilled into the mindset.....no matter the consequences...or the quest about right and wrong.

It all starts with the point the OP raised. False trust.

[Gonsalviz]

Where I have been, the entire family sleeps in the same room. The upper floor is 1 big room. It will remain 1 room until one gets married and then they will create a small room for the newly weds.

[Gonsalviz]

Its just plain weird and wrong.

How can you give your wife a good seeing to if there's a kid watching?

Anyone who has their kid sleeping in the same bed or same room as them, obviously isn't banging their wife.

You clearly don't have much idea how Thai families live.

They still manage to have sex with grandparents, parents and children all in the same room.

I know how Thai families live.

They obviously just have a quick session spooning or the missionary position. They wont be throwing each other against the wall, and all over the room like a porn movie.

Its wrong for a child to watch its parents have sex.

Thai kids sleep like rocks.

[misterphil]

Its just plain weird and wrong.

How can you give your wife a good seeing to if there's a kid watching?

Anyone who has their kid sleeping in the same bed or same room as them, obviously isn't banging their wife.

You clearly don't have much idea how Thai families live.

They still manage to have sex with grandparents, parents and children all in the same room.

I know how Thai families live.

They obviously just have a quick session spooning or the missionary position. They wont be throwing each other against the wall, and all over the room like a porn movie.

Its wrong for a child to watch its parents have sex.

Thai kids sleep like rocks.

Oh My God.

Wrong, so wrong.

[HooHaa]

my daughter had her own room, king size bed etc, etc.

she slept with me until she was 9, she has been living with her mother and studying in the states, she still wants to sleep with me when she is in thailand. she will be 10 this year.

i think we are far closer because of it.

[HooHaa]

In answer to above poster....Sirineou.....

In my humble opinion, apart from many situations where there is only 1 bedroom available where everybody needs to sleep in, giving kids a feeling of safety and trust to sleep with their parents in 1 room, shows lack of giving trust on different vital matters in an emotional way. It boils down to lack of parenting skills. The willingness to raise a child as a seperate entity with the aim to form his/her own caracter.

Fysical trust is what is given, usually out of....culture and own upbringing. I dont really know if it is only being done by thais from a rural background whose financial positions bettered so they can live now in a house with more than 1 bedroom, but my guess is it is.

It is all a form of soft manipulation as a part to create a later obligation for the kids to their parents. It is also part of leaving out for the child to really become an individual with his/her own way of thinking. Family 1st is drilled into the mindset.....no matter the consequences...or the quest about right and wrong.

It all starts with the point the OP raised. False trust.

belbina, where are your kids now?

because you have made some pretty serious assumptions regarding my parenting or parenting in general, im just wondering how your parenting decisions are working out for you.

personally id like to know what you base this nonsense on.

[saakura]

Very common in the Boonies as many home only have one, or at best two bedrooms. When there is two the second is often used by Grandparents and the kids quite often alternate which room they sleep in. I've got two Nieces, one six who sleeps in Grandad's bed and one three that sleeps between Mum and Dad. I often remark to my wife that i think it's unhealthy that six year old's live in Grandad's bed but she says it's completely normal here. Wouldn't do for my kids but each to their own.

There could have been some extremely rare perverted cases of parents or grandparents having molested their children. Exceptions dont make the rule and these perverts would have found some other way even if sleeping in different rooms.

But if you feel that it is unhealthy for any six year old child to sleep with his grandad, i feel you have a wrong attitude. I have the fondest memories of sleeping with my grandad growing up during school holidays and listening to his wonderful stories as i slipped into a deep sleep in his arms. And i have equally fond memories of my mother sleeping in my bed and enthralling me with great mythological stories.

Even today when i visit my brother's home (my mother is no more), i sleep in his bed and hug my 93 year old dad for a while.

[onionluke]

The cultural arm of SEA family extends well beyond the village○ Every time my immediate gamily goes up country my son sheds his good clothes and dorns the shoeless washed out look. ah what the f do ivknow

[thailand49]

This certainly is very common in Thailand it is part of their culture. You see it more with the poor.. My renters are basically in a studio, all family members sleep on the floor all together.

In my own situation... my son slept with us in the same bed from the day he came out of the hospital. He had his own room but he use it to play with his friends and no one ever question it certainly Thais. When he got older like eleven the King bed seem to be getting smaller and if I wanted more room it was me that was moving to my son room. One day my son said he was needed more room being stuck in the middle so I thought O.K. it was time.. instead he said could I move his single bed and place it next to ours. That went on for another year and then one day he said he was leaving for his own room. Personally, I was really sad and happy at the same time.

[LukKrueng]

It is quiet normal for kids to sleep in parent's room/bed here. Up to what age is very individual. Some go separate rooms at 2, some 6 and some only when they leave home. In many cases the kids actually have their own room, but prefer to stay with parents. The custom in the west of letting a new born baby sleep in his/own room is practically unheard of here, and many Thais will find it shocking.

A few years ago I watched a TV program about families in the west that practice the same thing. 1 of the interview family had a huge mattress on the bedroom floor - kind of wall to wall mattress - and all family members just slept wherever they felt like. Another father explained that his family's system was to buy a bed for the kids at the age of 6, put it right next to parents bed and let the kid choose in which bed he/she wants to sleep. over time the kid will spend more time in his/her own bed and then they start moving that bed away in small steps according to the kid's wish, until the time the kid feels comfortable enough to move to own bedroom.

[AlQaholic]

It is the custom in Thailand and other SEA nations that the whole family sleep in one room, It is not like in the west where people sleep half naked or naked, Thai people actually dress up for the night, and in the morning you will see many people in the market in their Pajamas. It used to be quiet common that the whole family slept on one large hardwood bench or on the floor all together.

One example, my wife's family, some grown up kids just leaving university experienced sleeping alone away from home for the first time and had to come home again a few nights because they got afraid of sleeping alone (the Thai Ghost thing and all the other superstitious stuff) we are talking about grown up people here in the year of 2015.

[rondii]

Many of the usual thai haters will exaggerate, but it is true that this is a custom all over Asia, not just SE Asia. After 3-4 years age, they usually sleep in their own beds but in the same room. And move out around 8 yrs old.

Can you elaborate further in the case of my nephew I speak only from personal experience,as I said in this instance he was 16.

Ok he wasn't sucking mummy's left boob but it sounds better.

Exactly, you wrote a lying troll post to encourage the Thai-haters and you should be banned...

[Keesters]

In my experience it is that Thai kids do not like to sleep alone in a room. Something to do with 'ghosts' or 'spirits'. Put two or more in a room to sleep and they are quite happy.

[oxo1947]

My nephew the son of my wife's brother carried on this tradition until he was 16 bless him.

Suckling on his mothers left breast as if it was the norm.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NuObkTND--w

[Shermanator]

If this question "Is it really that common in Thailand for kids up to 10-12 y.o. to sleep in their parents room even when they can afford to have their own room ?" is of such importance to you to even open up a new thread for this, you must have a very worry-free, relaxed, stress free life with loads of free time at your hands... I envy you!

I wonder what's the question will be in your next thread... "Is it really common that men above 40 still live at their parents' houses in Europe?"

[kerrysum]

So is this really important, and one has to post it?

[oxo1947]

So is this really important, and one has to post it?

You mean----Unlike the very interesting topics that you post kerrysum....

Lets see........716 post (probably telling everyone there posts are not relevant)

Topics posted..............Zero...............that must be some sort of record,

What an exciting life you must lead.......................

[enufsaid]

Jonnyjazz, you'd obviously planned on making thailand your home but didn't bother to read up on culture & traditon. So typical of many who settle in developing countries, it's all about the sex. If you'd read up on tradition & culture you'd see this is the norm in Asian countries.

[Sutty]

I have asked this question a lot as my wife's family do this in Issan village all seem to sleep in same room although there are at least 5 bedrooms vacant. Answer it is just done no rhyme or reason just is what it is and strangely enough despite my reservations it works very well and I'm happy to go with the flow.