Is it possible to do that with Thai woman?

[jednakropka]

Hello,

I have a question to guys who know some about Thai women.

I met a Thai lady in one of the sports club.

We have talked a few times and been out too.

I mentioned her in a diplomatic way (just in case she looked at me as a potential boyfriend)

that I am not looking for a girlfriend (at this time this is last thing I need).

She has a very nice character and is attractive to me.

She is also educated person who finished University and works for Thai government.

I do not see at all she looks at me as a walking ATM, actually she sometimes buys (I do not ask her for it) some small gifts for me like food, fruits

which is very strange to me as I read so many opinions on the Internet that Thai women like take, take...

I am fit and healthy so sometimes I have some "physical needs".

I do not know well Thai culture so my question is: if I go to bed with her will she treat me like a boyfriend later or I will be able to separate that.

To sum up, I would like to have a sexual relation with her, but I would not like to be in a boyfriend-girlfriend relation.

Is it possible here, in Thailand to do that?

I am not going to take an advantage of someone and that`s why I always say at the beginning what I can and cannot, what I want and what I do not want.

Just to be fair towards people.

Edited December 17, 2015 by jednakropka

[billphillips]

I think that you already know the implications of a sexual relationship with this girl. She is, from what you say, clearly not a bar girl that's available for rent and then dump. On the other side ... she may, almost certainly, have "physical needs" too. The only real option that you have is to try and discuss this sensitive issue with her before the event. You never know your luck!

[pgrahmm]

Depends on her → the seeing each other for awhile and the thoughtful gifts might mean more than bedding each other....Depending on how long you plan to be here & if she knows it might be a fun fling....Sounds like neither one of you play in the dark side....Might be someone you never forget......

Edited December 17, 2015 by pgrahmm

[stickylies]

You can't just sleep with her without getting involved in more, that doesn't work here (in adults), just like it doesn't really work in the west either. If u have physical needs go to specialised shop or spank the monkey ...

[CharlieH]

Sounds like you just want "friend with benefits", ha! you'll be lucky. There is an old saying, "for Men sex is from the waist down, for women its from the neck up".

So, basically, unless you are paying for it, which you can walk away from, then you would be extremely lucky and highly unlikely for the girl not to make an emotional attachment once you sleep with her.

[Cypress Hill]

You can't just sleep with her without getting involved in more, that doesn't work here (in adults), just like it doesn't really work in the west either.

LOL! Utterly clueless

OP, this is 2015 - many Thai women have a more pragmatic view of love and sex and are perfectly capable of distinguishing between the two

Thai women are the same as women everywhere - they ALL have sexual urges and many of them aren't content to "help themselves" under the sheets at night.

With that in mind, ignore all the jokers on here depicting any Thai woman who isn't bargirl as an ultra-virtuous, conservative prude

While I'm not saying that THIS specific girl will be up for it, there are a lot of free-thinking, normal girls who like to get laid with no strings attached.

Edited December 17, 2015 by Cypress Hill

[slipperylobster]

yes...get on with it. either do it or don't. we will be ok, either way.

over here..sex is the same as shaking hands. make sure you pay for it, though.

Edited December 17, 2015 by slipperylobster

[stickylies]

You can't just sleep with her without getting involved in more, that doesn't work here (in adults), just like it doesn't really work in the west either.

LOL! Utterly clueless

OP, this is 2015 - many Thai women have a more pragmatic view of love and sex and are perfectly capable of distinguishing between the two

Thai women are the same as women everywhere - they ALL have sexual urges and many of them aren't content to "help themselves" under the sheets at night.

With that in mind, ignore all the jokers on here depicting any Thai woman who isn't bargirl as an ultra-virtuous, conservative prude

While I'm not saying that THIS specific girl will be up for it, there are a lot of free-thinking, normal girls who like to get laid with no strings attached.

nah not clueless, just a little less macho than you. i nowhere stated they are ultra-virtuous. true, u can get one-night stands here the same way as u can get it in the west. there is NO difference in women here or there unless you're comparing the respective prices for whores (cheaper here). but one-night stands are NOT daily routine, not here nor there.... in ADULTS.

now, how many stringless (pun intended) women did u "conquer" sofar stallion ?

[Cypress Hill]

You can't just sleep with her without getting involved in more, that doesn't work here (in adults), just like it doesn't really work in the west either.

LOL! Utterly clueless

OP, this is 2015 - many Thai women have a more pragmatic view of love and sex and are perfectly capable of distinguishing between the two

Thai women are the same as women everywhere - they ALL have sexual urges and many of them aren't content to "help themselves" under the sheets at night.

With that in mind, ignore all the jokers on here depicting any Thai woman who isn't bargirl as an ultra-virtuous, conservative prude

While I'm not saying that THIS specific girl will be up for it, there are a lot of free-thinking, normal girls who like to get laid with no strings attached.

nah not clueless, just a little less macho than you. i nowhere stated they are ultra-virtuous. true, u can get one-night stands here the same way as u can get it in the west. there is NO difference in women here or there unless you're comparing the respective prices for whores (cheaper here). but one-night stands are NOT daily routine, not here nor there.... in ADULTS.

now, how many stringless (pun intended) women did u "conquer" sofar stallion ?

What are we? 18 year olds? I stopped keeping score of the numbers when I was 20, mate.

Plenty of one-night action going on in my corner of Bangkok life; no strings (or cash) involved much as there was plenty of action in my native London

Of course, if you're an old wheezer scratching around Nana or the Pattaya beer bars, you're not going to get women shagging you because they find you attractive, are you?

If, on the other hand, you're still relatively young, have a bit of game, go to the right places and don't come across like a creepy sex tourist, the level of interest from single, unattached Thai women looking for a bit of harmless fun or even a "gik" is off the scale

[BookMan]

You can't just sleep with her without getting involved in more, that doesn't work here (in adults), just like it doesn't really work in the west either.

LOL! Utterly clueless

OP, this is 2015 - many Thai women have a more pragmatic view of love and sex and are perfectly capable of distinguishing between the two

Thai women are the same as women everywhere - they ALL have sexual urges and many of them aren't content to "help themselves" under the sheets at night.

With that in mind, ignore all the jokers on here depicting any Thai woman who isn't bargirl as an ultra-virtuous, conservative prude

While I'm not saying that THIS specific girl will be up for it, there are a lot of free-thinking, normal girls who like to get laid with no strings attached.

nah not clueless, just a little less macho than you. i nowhere stated they are ultra-virtuous. true, u can get one-night stands here the same way as u can get it in the west. there is NO difference in women here or there unless you're comparing the respective prices for whores (cheaper here). but one-night stands are NOT daily routine, not here nor there.... in ADULTS.

now, how many stringless (pun intended) women did u "conquer" sofar stallion ?

What are we? 18 year olds? I stopped keeping score of the numbers when I was 20, mate.

Plenty of one-night action going on in my corner of Bangkok life; no strings (or cash) involved much as there was plenty of action in my native London

Of course, if you're an old wheezer scratching around Nana or the Pattaya beer bars, you're not going to get women shagging you because they find you attractive, are you?

If, on the other hand, you're still relatively young, have a bit of game, go to the right places and don't come across like a creepy sex tourist, the level of interest from single, unattached Thai women looking for a bit of harmless fun or even a "gik" is off the scale

I don't get this obsession some guys have with keeping a tally

[eldragon]

Tell her you want a gik. That oughta cover it.

[Cypress Hill]

What are we? 18 year olds? I stopped keeping score of the numbers when I was 20, mate.

Plenty of one-night action going on in my corner of Bangkok life; no strings (or cash) involved much as there was plenty of action in my native London

Of course, if you're an old wheezer scratching around Nana or the Pattaya beer bars, you're not going to get women shagging you because they find you attractive, are you?

If, on the other hand, you're still relatively young, have a bit of game, go to the right places and don't come across like a creepy sex tourist, the level of interest from single, unattached Thai women looking for a bit of harmless fun or even a "gik" is off the scale

I don't get this obsession some guys have with keeping a tally

Something to do with being a REAL man and bragging rights on the barstool, I've heard.

[lemonjelly]

It'll probably end up with you having to get a new FB account, phone number and address ..... Good luck...lol

[TuskegeeBen]

Again, all Asian women are socialized (from the cradle) to serve a man, not to love him. Love does happen, but it is incidental to a relationship with an Asia woman, not primary. Asian women do not live in the (farang) fantasy world of some (18th. Century) French romance novel. Asian life is far too harsh (for Asian women) to become indulged with such fairy-tale syndromes.

Why don't you dispense with playing the "mind-games", and just openly lay your cards on the table with the lady? Asian women do not waste their time, or money, especially on a foreigner who has already told her, that he isn't looking to get involved @ the moment. She's already extended several open invitations to you (by your own OP account), so what else do you want from her, bloke? Will a hard hit, on the top of your head, with a bamboo stick, do the wake-up-call trick for you? Huh?

Edited December 17, 2015 by TuskegeeBen

[Nowisee]

It doesn't matter how the game is played as long as each player knows the rules upfront.

Just don't be a douche and use her. That is not being a man.

How old are you? 5555

Edited December 17, 2015 by Nowisee

[pgrahmm]

Again, all Asian women are socialized (from the cradle) to serve a man, not to love him. Love does happen, but it is incidental the a relationship with an Asia woman, not primary. Asian women do not live in the fantasy world of some 18th. Century French romance novel. Asian life is far too harsh (for Asian women), to become indulged with such fairy-tale style romances.

Why don't you dispense with playing the "mind-games", and just openly lay your cards on the table with the lady? Asian women do not waste their time, or money, especially on a foreigner who has already told her, that he isn't looking to get involved @ the moment. She's already extended several open invitations to you (by your own OP account), so what else do you want from her, bloke? Will a hard hit, on the top of your head, with a bamboo stick, do the wake-up trick for you? Huh?

Great post....if this were the first answer we might have had a report back by now.....

[Berkshire]

OP, it really does depend on the girl. Some girls are pretty loose, especially if they hang out in farang-areas and are into farangs. I assume this is what you're looking for. But some girls are more conservative and do take a sexual encounter as being more of a serious gesture. These girls will be offended if you treat them as a wham-bam-thank you mam sort of commodity. Only you know which one you're dealing with. Just talk to her and find out if she's had previous encounters, BF's, husband(s), etc. Especially if she's been with other farangs. It's not difficult to tell, actually.

[TuskegeeBen]

Depends on her → the seeing each other for awhile and the thoughtful gifts might mean more than bedding each other....Depending on how long you plan to be here & if she knows it might be a fun fling....Sounds like neither one of you play in the dark side....Might be someone you never forget......

I actually experienced an unforgettable, one-night-stand, 47-years ago. I still think about her, occasionally. Lucky me, and hoorah!

[cgphuket]

Most Thai women are not into sports sex. Even the hookers are just doing a job and are rather conservative off the clock. If you have casual sex with a Thai girl she is either shopping for a boyfriend or a complete slag. Choose wisely.

[chrisinth]

What are we? 18 year olds? I stopped keeping score of the numbers when I was 20, mate.

Plenty of one-night action going on in my corner of Bangkok life; no strings (or cash) involved much as there was plenty of action in my native London

Of course, if you're an old wheezer scratching around Nana or the Pattaya beer bars, you're not going to get women shagging you because they find you attractive, are you?

If, on the other hand, you're still relatively young, have a bit of game, go to the right places and don't come across like a creepy sex tourist, the level of interest from single, unattached Thai women looking for a bit of harmless fun or even a "gik" is off the scale

I don't get this obsession some guys have with keeping a tally

Something to do with being a REAL man and bragging rights on the barstool, I've heard.

So true.

Met one once who claimed he didn't understand why he cried every time he had sex with a stranger.

He was surprised when someone pointed out that it was probably either mace or pepper spray that caused this reaction.

[konying]

Reading some of the posts, i can not help but wonder if some of you ever met or spoken to a Thai girl besides the imaginary one when posting on Thai Visa.

Putting aside the nonsense how Thai women are like any other women, Thai woman would agree and say yes to anything with her own agenda in mind.

She would agree to be a gik, if her agenda was to nail the man and while man thinks he made his position very clear, she could not care less what his position was as she is pursuing hers.

Here is the run down for you OP, yes you could lay your cards down and she may well agree, it does not mean she really agrees, it just means she is going forward with her initial plan.

The out come for you, could be very troublesome in many ways, jealousy spats and scenes, possibly threats to harm herself if you do not, or physical attacks on other women if she sees them.

Telling her that you want to take it slow or easy, has the same meaning as i previously mentioned.

Best is to keep away, unless you want to make it into more than it is.

For your physical needs, go buy one and make sure not to let this one see it.

[BookMan]

Reading some of the posts, i can not help but wonder if some of you ever met or spoken to a Thai girl besides the imaginary one when posting on Thai Visa.

Putting aside the nonsense how Thai women are like any other women, Thai woman would agree and say yes to anything with her own agenda in mind.

She would agree to be a gik, if her agenda was to nail the man and while man thinks he made his position very clear, she could not care less what his position was as she is pursuing hers.

Here is the run down for you OP, yes you could lay your cards down and she may well agree, it does not mean she really agrees, it just means she is going forward with her initial plan.

The out come for you, could be very troublesome in many ways, jealousy spats and scenes, possibly threats to harm herself if you do not, or physical attacks on other women if she sees them.

Telling her that you want to take it slow or easy, has the same meaning as i previously mentioned.

Best is to keep away, unless you want to make it into more than it is.

For your physical needs, go buy one and make sure not to let this one see it.

or regardless of her agenda, he could just stick to his own agenda

[Cypress Hill]

Most Thai women are not into sports sex. Even the hookers are just doing a job and are rather conservative off the clock. If you have casual sex with a Thai girl she is either shopping for a boyfriend or a complete slag. Choose wisely.

"MOST" Thai women are not into "sports sex"?

Not with battered old Westerners, no but how do you think the term "gik" got coined?

Perhaps you think it's a farang word?

Just because they don't broadcast it like many of their Western counterparts do, doesn't mean they're not into it and just because it's not available to you unless you cough up for it with a hooker doesn't mean other guys aren't getting plenty of casual sex with women who find them sexually attractive but who might be on the rebound, having (discreet) fun or who accept that you don't want a full-on relationship.

I know because I'm one of them

[MaeJoMTB]

"MOST" Thai women are not into "sports sex"?

Not with battered old Westerners, no but how do you think the term "gik" got coined?

And at 47 you don't consider yourself a 'battered old westerner'?

If I were looking for 'sports sex', it would be with someone under age 30.

47 ....... 555!

Edited December 18, 2015 by MaeJoMTB

[Cypress Hill]

"MOST" Thai women are not into "sports sex"?

Not with battered old Westerners, no but how do you think the term "gik" got coined?

And at 47 you don't consider yourself a 'battered old westerner'?

Look, mate, I saw the state of the chumps who post here when walking past the Thaivisa boozer on soi 7.

Trust me, I couldn't be further away from being "a battered old Westerner"

[MaeJoMTB]

"MOST" Thai women are not into "sports sex"?

Not with battered old Westerners, no but how do you think the term "gik" got coined?

And at 47 you don't consider yourself a 'battered old westerner'?

Look, mate, I saw the state of the chumps who post here when walking past the Thaivisa boozer on soi 7.

Trust me, I couldn't be further away from being "a battered old Westerner"

I'd rather pay for sex with a 25 year old, have have it for free with a 45 year old.

Don't care what condition the 45 year old is in, they've had their day.

[Cypress Hill]

"MOST" Thai women are not into "sports sex"?

Not with battered old Westerners, no but how do you think the term "gik" got coined?

And at 47 you don't consider yourself a 'battered old westerner'?

Look, mate, I saw the state of the chumps who post here when walking past the Thaivisa boozer on soi 7.

Trust me, I couldn't be further away from being "a battered old Westerner"

I'd rather pay for sex with a 25 year old, have have it for free with a 45 year old.

Don't care what condition the 45 year old is in, they've had their day.

I, too, would be trying to relive my youth with the young hard bodies I missed out on while I spent years trying to prise open my disinterested wife's thighs more than once a month

Fortunately, during my optimum shagging years, I had more than enough young tail and now I place experience, technique and chemistry above the ephemeral thrill of banging a woman half my age

Or a third in your case

[JLCrab]

I don't know for all this ephemeral and re-living one's youth psycho-babble stuff. I just follow the lyric of the late ms. Joplin:

So if someone comes along,

He's gonna give you some love and affection

I'd say get it while you can, yeah!

[NoshowJones]

yes...get on with it. either do it or don't. we will be ok, either way.

over here..sex is the same as shaking hands. make sure you pay for it, though.

When you say "make sure you pay for it" do you mean if she is not a working girl, you maybe give her 2000 Bt?

I would say definitely not, or maybe you mean some other way.

Before I met my wife, I dated a few Thai girls, I never slept with any on the first night, nor tried to, one on the second, one after about four nights

and two not at all, I did spend some money on them, but I did tell them before I took them out, that I never drank alcohol.

Every single one I dated, they told me they never drank.

I do have to say that as a professional musician, I had my moments, but I did find that Thai girls were easier to bed than UK girls.

[NoshowJones]

"MOST" Thai women are not into "sports sex"?

Not with battered old Westerners, no but how do you think the term "gik" got coined?

And at 47 you don't consider yourself a 'battered old westerner'?

Look, mate, I saw the state of the chumps who post here when walking past the Thaivisa boozer on soi 7.

Trust me, I couldn't be further away from being "a battered old Westerner"

Your first paragraph, it is a bit unfair to call the guys in the Thaivisa boozer 'chumps'. I was in the company of a TV poster in that bar

and none of the two of us are chumps. But there was maybe some of the fat, tattooed, facial haired guys in there when you walked past.

Your second paragraph, you are very much in common with me there.