Moving together

[Levtres]

Hi. I dont know if i post right place. I have been chatting with thai girl whom i met at Thailand.(not a bar girl). Now im thinking to ask her move to my country. I know answer already. Is it possible or will it allways end bad? Anybody have experience? Is it easy to her start studying few years and adapt new culture? I can help applying school but i dont know how thais generally like school. We are mid twenties and she is one year older than me.

I live in central europe.

[malt25]

Many of us have lots of experience, but unfortunately that most probably will not help you. I know of many cases where Thai girls adapted well to a new country. I also know of many cases where it was an utter disaster. There are so many factors that can, & will influence the outcome.

My suggestion is give it a try, after you have both thought long & hard about it. Maybe a short visit for a start to see how she feels about the new surroundings.

I could write a book on the subject from personal experience...... but I feel all situations are different.

Give it a try..... what have you to lose ???????????

Best of luck..... Mal.

[MaeJoMTB]

50% or marriages end bad.

You can't beat the odds!

[Rob13]

Can she work in your country? If not, what's she gonna do all day?

[Levtres]

Many of us have lots of experience, but unfortunately that most probably will not help you. I know of many cases where Thai girls adapted well to a new country. I also know of many cases where it was an utter disaster. There are so many factors that can, & will influence the outcome.

My suggestion is give it a try, after you have both thought long & hard about it. Maybe a short visit for a start to see how she feels about the new surroundings.

I could write a book on the subject from personal experience...... but I feel all situations are different.

Give it a try..... what have you to lose ???????????

Best of luck..... Mal.

Thanks. I was thinking more what she do if we dont get along. I pay her fly home and few months rent?

Then she just continue her normal life back in Thailand? Maybe i ask and if she thinks same its ok.

[Levtres]

Can she work in your country? If not, what's she gonna do all day?

She must go school and learn language and some profession. Without it its impossible. But its free. Takes 1-5years.

[Rob13]

If she motivated and wants to go to school and learn a skill, go for it.

[Lucifer]

Your new found thai girlfriend will adapt well with your European country, and very well with the men in your country. Don't worry, she's yours till she gets her permanant residency, then she's off to the highest bidder. That won't be you by the way, You've failed that already.

[i claudius]

Do not listen to the rubbish some people on here post,it like any relationship is a gamble,we lived in Bkk then the UK ,and 10 years ago we came back here ,we have a son she loved the UK and sometimes misses it,I know quite a few happy mixed couples in the UK and a few divorced ones ,don't listen to the "she will leave you straight away brigade" just because they could not hold on to a woman

Edited January 15, 2016 by i claudius

[MESmith]

Do not listen to the rubbish some people on here post,it like any relationship is a gamble,we lived in Bkk then the UK ,and 10 years ago we came back here ,we have a son she loved the UK and sometimes misses it,I know quite a few happy mixed couples in the UK and a few divorced ones ,don't listen to the "she will leave you straight away brigade" just because they could not hold on to a woman

"Thanks. I was thinking more what she do if we dont get along. I pay her fly home and few months rent? "

Doesn't sound like he's in a serious relationship.

[Levtres]

Thank you all! Its nice to hear something else than no money no honey talk. I hope its good sign that she had never asked me send money.

[djayz]

As other people have pointed out, any relationship is a gamble. Sometimes you win and live happily ever after, sometimes you lose, go seperate ways and get on with your life.

Personally, I'd prefer to try and fail than to never try at all and spend the rest of my life wondering what if...?

Let her stay a few months in your country, a prolonged holiday so to say, so she can get a vague idea of what life's going to be like if she moves there.

You can live together and start getting used to each other.

Maybe she'll love it and want to move there permanently, or maybe you'll both realise that it's simply not going to work.

Good luck and enjoy it while you have it.

[balo]

You're asking in the wrong forum since your both in your 20's,

in here we give advice to grumpy old men who found the love of his life , and believe me, they really need all the advice they can get !

[Levtres]

Personally, I'd prefer to try and fail than to never try at all and spend the rest of my life wondering what if...?

Let her stay a few months in your country, a prolonged holiday so to say, so she can get a vague idea of what life's going to be like if she moves there.

That is why i want try. Too many things i have passed because listening wrong people or fearing that it never work.

I will ask her spend month or two with me and i help her pay the rent in Thailand so if she dont want stay she can easily go back, and if she want to stay she can just request residence permit and stay with me.

[puukao]

first save up about 10,000,000 baht to stay married for at least a few years, and keep family happy.

buy house, have more money than the next farang, and give family new house and lots of stuff

more money > more happiness

you may lose it all, but happiness is priceless!!!!

[Levtres]

first save up about 10,000,000 baht to stay married for at least a few years, and keep family happy.

buy house, have more money than the next farang, and give family new house and lots of stuff

more money > more happiness

you may lose it all, but happiness is priceless!!!!

Very Good answer

Im not moving to Thailand. Last thing i want is move to Thailand and buy new buffalos to her family. I told her that i cant come Thailand because i have to work. if she expect that i buy new hippos and buffalos every week to her family maybe she have told me before.

If your answer quality is money=honey you can tell it to somebody else.

[MrTrip]

Go for it I say!

I met my wife 10 years ago in Bangkok whilst visiting briefly. 3 months later she came to the UK and 6 months later we got married. 2 years later my wife's son came to live with us. I have subsequently adopted him so that he now has British citizenship, which my wife achieved some years ago.

My wife has worked for local government for the last 7 years and I imagine your TGF can work in your EU country without too much trouble as long as she has a visa.

For us it's very important that my wife has Thai friends in our village. As I originally visited Thailand with a friend with a Thai wife it was probably easier for my wife to make the bold step to come here as she already knew at least 1 more Thai girl living locally.

Her friends now are so close and I'm sure they will remain friends for life. They have a Thai day every Wednesday when they get together and eat too much normally.

However none of the Thai girls separate themselves completely. They all integrate with family and non Thai friends in our village.

OP, are there any other Thai girls living near you? This would lessen the impact of the culture shock your TGF will undoubtedly experience.

Visas are not so easy to obtain for the UK and quite expensive. I would suggest she uses a visa agent in Bangkok. Again costly in Thai terms but inexpensive for westerners.

As mentioned above by others, you'll never know if you don't try.

I wish you luck

Trip

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[Levtres]

Thanks for help. I think there is Thai girls living near my home. There are over 10 Thai restaurants with Thai waitresses near my home. We must visit all of them.

Of course i pay her visa and if she stays longer its free if she study or works. Short time visa(90day) is easy but longer time requires study, work or marriage.

[pgrahmm]

Locate the nearest temple and that will be centric to her needs. That would probably be a good first step. Then go with her to the meals/events and services. You and her will become part of a well rounded group from which a basis sorting out friends and couples for social purposes. Most of the successful marriages in the US had this going for them.

Most on the men hung out and chatted during the services but participated in the meals and events.

If you rely on chance encounters she could end up befriending a different sort of gal - to your deficit. Lot's of times that first friend can be very important to her - but of the wrong sort not be good for your relationship as a third wheel (but an important "voice"/opinion guide for her). Bad for a budding relationship.

If you present yourselves at the temple as an already united couple you have a good foundation for/as yourselves and a basis to pick out friends as a couple.

It's worth a few hours a week investment.

Edited January 16, 2016 by pgrahmm

[cgphuket]

I met a girl on a dating site. Sight unseen want to bring her to live with me in a strange place. She has such low standards she will move to a strange country to live with a man she never met. I dont speak her language or understand her culture. What could possibly go wrong???

[Levtres]

I met a girl on a dating site. Sight unseen want to bring her to live with me in a strange place. She has such low standards she will move to a strange country to live with a man she never met. I dont speak her language or understand her culture. What could possibly go wrong??

If you are so kind that you give me your friendly advices, please read my first post like others. I met her in Thailand. I dont use dating sites.

[MrTrip]

Ignore the troll post! It is of no use to you

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