Divorce Child Custody Advice Needed

[madz]

Hi I am Turkish living in Thailand for 12 years and been married to half Thai and half Danish girl for 3 years we have a 1 year old daughter she has Thai and Danish citezenship.

Long story short everything went upside down and time to divorce. She packed my stuff and saying go get a court order to see your daughter. House and car in her name.. Marriage registered in Thailand Denmark and turkey. I'm on the birth certificate as the father. She is threatening to take my daughter to Denmark now.

My question is what is the next step and and what are my rights if any.

Any advice would be great

[mesterm]

What is the reason for the divorce? More tailored advice could be given then.

Your avatar leaves a lot to the imagination though...

[georgemandm]

My question is what is the next step and and what are my rights if any.

sorry to say get up and walk you are in thailand that is how it works here , get on with your life and hop one day in the future you can get to see your kid .

[Remi080]

I'm sorry for your loss Mr.

I had a similar situation. Make sure you got all documents with you. I hope you can prove that you are able to take care your child in Thailand.

you need money, Birth certificate , a Lawyer , valid passport, and some visa, does not matter what kind Yet.

This is a Dirty game, very ugly game you must play to keep your child oke, In Thai Law she can do what she want, unless you can prove she's doing wrong.

To keep away your child from you is bad, you can fight that in Thai Law, but i don't know the law of Denmark and Turkey. you should contact a lawyer in those country's for your problem.

In Thai Law she's is not allowed to leave Thailand If you have contacted a lawyer against her, (a case running). While this case is going on, she must be in Thai. Child abduction is a crime in Thai. So get a Case open against her with a Pro-deo Lawyer, that Free lawyer is oke to! just that its in the system.. so she can not Leave Thai !

Even for separating parents IF Divorced with agreement that child stay in Thai.

Try to get grip on your child ID or passport, your child is not allowed to leave the kingdom without travel document and or document of approval from one of the parents.

If she got that all, your screwed. If she have no Income, so no prove of being able to take care a child, But you can , Than you get more right to the child. I know Lawyers, and Judge look to that.

But for now, you should get as much Documents as possible, your child's ID, Passport, Original birth certificate, etc etc. and find a cheap lawyer to help you. Get it running, in the system, so she can not run away with your child.

My process took me 1.5 year. My ex had 2 nationality's Thai and Dutch, she steal my daughter to Holland while i had full custody. in the end it came out that she hide her daughter at her family in

Thai. Now she's on the run god knows Where with a warrant on the F$%ing head. Dont let them fool you man. Make a plan A and B and C with Thai people.

Wish you good luck Bro

[2008bangkok]

Yes defiantly try and get hold of ALL passports the child may have because she cannot get another without your help.

As far as rights go if you are married when the child was born then you have as much right as the mother does and every right to keep the chid with you as she does.

Im going through a similar thing with my separated wife although we do share seeing the kids but that is only because it is inconvenient for her to take care of both kids and work.

Try and stay away from greasy lawyers who will try and get you to go to court to sort it all out when in reality providing you are both in agreement you can get divorced and sort custody at Ampur.

My advice would be to 1. As much as it pains to do it, offer to pay her money if she is flexible with the child and not be a b***ch, 2. If not already get a turkish passport for child so at least you have 1 passport incase it really hits the fan. 3. Do not divorce while you are conflicting with wife and wait a while until its all calmed down and you are at least on normal terms with wife as your rights may go down if you are divorced and you will need ALL legal documents to do anything. 4. Maybe log complaint with Danish/Thai embassy in Thailand letting them know you do not give any rights for mother to take your child back to Denmark.

Best of all those is to try and get on with wife and take little bit of rope at a time while you compile all documents you need to have bargaining power.

Good luck

[madz]

Thank you guys that helps a lot..

[sead]

If she goes to Denmark she can make you pay for the child every month around 6000bht depending on your finance situation, and yes Danish government will hunt you in both Turkey and Thailand for that money. She will be asked by the government if you are paying childsupport.If you are not 100% sure that you can or want or have time to be with the child then your child is alot better of in Denmark. She will get a good education and much better start in life there. Dont fight about the child because you are pissed of or jealous. it is what it is and just swallow the pride and get on going, now ofcourse with a smarter approach next time. And beleive ME. It will not change her mind if you start giving her more money or something. When a woman has decided to leave you shes usually is gone. Tell her you can fill in agreement that you will allow baby to go with her only if you are permitted to have some time with your child when they are visiting Thailand in future. And that you want to skype with your baby xx times every month.Thats a much smoother approach in my opinion.

Been there and done that. It hurts as hell the first 6 months because you spent all that time for her and house etc etc. but accept the situation and you will be more happy.

Gl whateer you decide