thaibeachlovers Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 is it normal to have to give large amounts of money to the deceased, or relative of the deceased? I was told that by a Thai that invited me to go to the ceremony, but I have my doubts. Thanks for any advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted July 18, 2016 Author Share Posted July 18, 2016 ^^ thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mosha Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Norm around here is 200. Sent from my SMART_4G_Speedy_5inch using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cornishcarlos Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Yup, we're 1000 baht unless we don't know the family very well, then its 500 baht. It seems to be a wedding, funeral or monk celebration every week, costs us a fortune Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissAndry Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 (edited) I'd save money and not go. I believe the local saying is 'Not my mother/father' Edited July 18, 2016 by MissAndry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halfaboy Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Yup, we're 1000 baht unless we don't know the family very well, then its 500 baht. It seems to be a wedding, funeral or monk celebration every week, costs us a fortune But at least you and your family have free food and drinks each time. So come early and leave late that gives you the best return.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cornishcarlos Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Yup, we're 1000 baht unless we don't know the family very well, then its 500 baht. It seems to be a wedding, funeral or monk celebration every week, costs us a fortune But at least you and your family have free food and drinks each time. So come early and leave late that gives you the best return.... Not quite free really Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cornishcarlos Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 I'd save money and not go. I believe the local saying is 'Not my mother/father' Its not the local saying where I live... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wombat Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 the question should be....when is it not normal to give rello's money......just saying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phantomfiddler Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 I don,t go to funerals, the theory being that they will not be going to mine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tifino Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 say it the Thai way... "I too busy" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
realenglish1 Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Anywhere from 200 to 1,000 is acceptable If they are asking for large sums be carefull Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kinmaew Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Tip: Call in sick on the day of the ceremony, would any of them be there on your day of reckoning ask yourself that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cornishcarlos Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Tip: Call in sick on the day of the ceremony, would any of them be there on your day of reckoning ask yourself that? Not if you never bother to go to any of theirs relatives events, no.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weegee Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Yup, we're 1000 baht unless we don't know the family very well, then its 500 baht. It seems to be a wedding, funeral or monk celebration every week, costs us a fortune But at least you and your family have free food and drinks each time. So come early and leave late that gives you the best return.... Come early, eat early, or come late and be served recycled food.... ...200-300 Baht is plenty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goanna Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 (edited) It's not about giving money to the family, it's about chipping in to pay for the funeral. The amounts are recorded in a book, and when they come to your event, they are obliged to reciprocate. As well, each household will have 2 small yellow books which record what is paid out, and what is paid back. Consequently, I generally don't give more than 500, so as not to burden the poorer people. But if they are friends, or doing it hard, I slip them a thousand bypassing the book. Sorry I don't have a pic of the book. Not house book. Smaller. Edited July 18, 2016 by Goanna Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peterw42 Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 As you know, the funeral goes for 3-4 days and everyone gets fed each day. It's really just a donation to help. My wife's mum died recently and all up it cost around 50k and they got 30k in donations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weegee Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Yup, we're 1000 baht unless we don't know the family very well, then its 500 baht. It seems to be a wedding, funeral or monk celebration every week, costs us a fortune What I did was upset everyone by singing, now the envelopes have stopped......... I believe that.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Berty100 Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 (edited) Norm around here is 200. Sent from my SMART_4G_Speedy_5inch using Tapatalk Yep, local folk with little dosh put 20bht in, it is all appreciated..But I am a hi-so farang in a posh area................... Is Hi-So another word for sucker these days? Edited July 18, 2016 by Berty100 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mosha Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 I just pay what she tells me to pay. Sent from my SMART_4G_Speedy_5inch using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sabaidee Mai Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 100-200bht up to you locals do 20-50bht Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chapelroad Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 It's not about giving money to the family, it's about chipping in to pay for the funeral. The amounts are recorded in a book, and when they come to your event, they are obliged to reciprocate. As well, each household will have 2 small yellow books which record what is paid out, and what is paid back. Consequently, I generally don't give more than 500, so as not to burden the poorer people. But if they are friends, or doing it hard, I slip them a thousand bypassing the book. Sorry I don't have a pic of the book. Not house book. Smaller. Not sure it is all recorded. I always put it in a blank envelope as many people do, gather them all together, and pass them all over together. It is nobody's business what I, or anyone else donates. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mosha Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Wedding donations are definitely recorded. My wife still has the book from her daughter's wedding. Sent from my SMART_4G_Speedy_5inch using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deepinthailand Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 (edited) 200 per house here and unfortunately there are a lot popping there glogs at the moment. Sounds bad I have no problems giving the 200 at all. I say unfortunate for the families. One lost mum and dad and aunt within 12 days of each other the three earners in the family. Edited July 18, 2016 by Deepinthailand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanukjim Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 A Scot would just make out a check to the dead guy and drop it in the coffin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mankondang Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 If they give you an envelope invite you give them the envelope back when you arrive with some dosh in it. Up to you what you give, but 1000bht is fine, less is fine too... Yes agree. You may also find that many Thai families keep a book/ledger on who gave/received how much, for or from another family, for a family wedding, house blessing, funeral etc. This is so that any amount given equals or exceeds the respective amount received. To give less than received is a loss of face. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissAndry Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Tip: Call in sick on the day of the ceremony, would any of them be there on your day of reckoning ask yourself that? Not if you never bother to go to any of theirs relatives events, no.. Sounds like a fair deal, I don't give 1,000bht to your funeral, and you don't give 20bht to my funeral. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eclipse Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 (edited) 200 Baht is more than enough unless you get a kick out of being the highest contributor when the names are read out on the last day. Edited July 18, 2016 by Eclipse Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acharn Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 If they give you an envelope invite you give them the envelope back when you arrive with some dosh in it. Up to you what you give, but 1000bht is fine, less is fine too... I was told 20 baht is fine, but because I'm a farang and more prosperous than my neighbors it should probably be 50 or even 100. Noblesse oblige. Anyway, large amounts were not asked for, but I was hanging out with local farmers and workers. For the 100 day ceremony we only had family for my two wives (one in Chon Buri, one in Nakhon Sawan provinces). No big expense, like the funeral itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bazza40 Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 A Scot would just make out a check to the dead guy and drop it in the coffin. And write a book about it.......... I understand copper wire was invented by two Scots arguing over a penny. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.png.3b3332cc2256ad0edbc2fe9404feeef0.png)
Recommended Posts
Create an account or sign in to comment
You need to be a member in order to leave a comment
Create an account
Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!
Register a new accountSign in
Already have an account? Sign in here.
Sign In Now