My Love Story with a Thai girl – Sweet or Bitter?

[Nicholas1986]

1 hour ago, HooHaa said:

 

How could you miss her, you dont even know her.

 

This isnt a love story, it is a fantasy, mabe even an obsession.

 

Quit trying so damn hard.

Maybe you are right, but I do not know why. No reason to explain.

[AlQaholic]

[elgordo38]

On 11/2/2016 at 6:48 PM, mcfish said:

This is why you rent by the hour

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Yes if things don't work out you put them back on the shelf and move on. Thai ladies can run hot and cold. I think you tried to hard and should have met a number of ladies your choice was a bit jaded. Move on. 

[teacherpaul]

On 02/11/2016 at 11:02 AM, Kwasaki said:

Exactly. That was like reading through the Gettesburg address. No wonder she wanted to be on her own.

[DoctorG]

18 minutes ago, teacherpaul said:

Exactly. That was like reading through the Gettesburg address. No wonder she wanted to be on her own.

 

After reading through that sappy story I was certainly hoping for a "punch-line" at the end. I really thought that it was going to be one of those really elongated story jokes.

If this is a true story then the OP should not be let out alone without his mother.

[mankondang]

War and Peace, in more ways than one.

[Gecko123]

Because you showed up at her work unannounced and she was able to go with you to Hua Hin, it is very doubtful that she has a Thai boyfriend or husband. Too likely someone at her job would be able to snitch on her if this was the case. However, based on her behavior, and that she was using an on-line dating app, there's a chance that she might have had other irons in the fire, possibly a Thai guy from out of the area, or maybe a foreigner. 

 

Most disturbing detail of your story was the lack of enthusiasm during the Hua Hin trip. Plenty of Thai women have so little time or money to travel, especially at nice hotels/restaurants, that you would think the level of excitement would be pretty high. Her apathy suggests she's either done this plenty of times before, i.e., "dates" regularly, has a boring personality (what was her personality like before you met in person?), or she has a hidden motive for discouraging your romantic enthusiasm.

 

Think about it. When you meet someone new who you're interested in, you're going to put your best foot forward and try to impress the person, right? Telling someone you're "not a good person" is the polar opposite of a romantic overture. By the way, my experience is that when a Thai woman tells you they're "not a good person", you should probably pay close attention because there's a good chance she's telling you the truth. I'd chalk it up as a learning experience and move on.

 

[F4UCorsair]

Seriously Nicholas, I don't know why you're bothering with Thai girls/women, when HK has so many beautiful Chinese and mixed race women, just take your pick!!

[F4UCorsair]

On 11/3/2016 at 3:11 AM, JHolmesJr said:

One word: cunnilingus. 

 

 

Huh????   What's an Irish airline got to do with this???

 

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[Nicholas1986]

23 minutes ago, F4UCorsair said:

Seriously Nicholas, I don't know why you're bothering with Thai girls/women, when HK has so many beautiful Chinese and mixed race women, just take your pick!!

Hhah, HK girls like western guys

[F4UCorsair]

And you're not western?  Did I miss that in your original post?  I admit I did skim through your long post, so it's possible I didn't pick that up.

[Nicholas1986]

38 minutes ago, DoctorG said:

 

After reading through that sappy story I was certainly hoping for a "punch-line" at the end. I really thought that it was going to be one of those really elongated story jokes.

If this is a true story then the OP should not be let out alone without his mother.

I would say thanks to all comments. I hope you know this word "respect".

[Nicholas1986]

36 minutes ago, Gecko123 said:

Because you showed up at her work unannounced and she was able to go with you to Hua Hin, it is very doubtful that she has a Thai boyfriend or husband. Too likely someone at her job would be able to snitch on her if this was the case. However, based on her behavior, and that she was using an on-line dating app, there's a chance that she might have had other irons in the fire, possibly a Thai guy from out of the area, or maybe a foreigner. 

 

Most disturbing detail of your story was the lack of enthusiasm during the Hua Hin trip. Plenty of Thai women have so little time or money to travel, especially at nice hotels/restaurants, that you would think the level of excitement would be pretty high. Her apathy suggests she's either done this plenty of times before, i.e., "dates" regularly, has a boring personality (what was her personality like before you met in person?), or she has a hidden motive for discouraging your romantic enthusiasm.

 

Think about it. When you meet someone new who you're interested in, you're going to put your best foot forward and try to impress the person, right? Telling someone you're "not a good person" is the polar opposite of a romantic overture. By the way, my experience is that when a Thai woman tells you they're "not a good person", you should probably pay close attention because there's a good chance she's telling you the truth. I'd chalk it up as a learning experience and move on.

 

Thank you so much for your advice which are so meaningful. I am here just to share, make it a good memory, and try to learn from experience of mine and others.

[Suradit69]

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My Love Story with a Thai girl – Sweet or Bitter?

 

A third option might be tedious.

[lungnorm]

Sounds lke one of my trips to Thailand. I did not use a dating site a Thai friend of mine came with me she wanted to introduce me to her sister. WE toured Thailand sister bother and he mom. She was cold and did not like to hold hands. Turned out it was not her brother driving the mini van it was her husband. What some people will do for a holiday.

[F4UCorsair]

7 minutes ago, lungnorm said:

Sounds lke one of my trips to Thailand. I did not use a dating site a Thai friend of mine came with me she wanted to introduce me to her sister. WE toured Thailand sister bother and he mom. She was cold and did not like to hold hands. Turned out it was not her brother driving the mini van it was her husband. What some people will do for a holiday.

 

Now a former Thai friend???

[Nicholas1986]

14 minutes ago, Suradit69 said:

 

A third option might be tedious.

Sorry to make u misunderstand, "sweet or bitter" is used for describing the girl but not the story. I am not a good writer and you are not a good reader either.

[lungnorm]

5 minutes ago, F4UCorsair said:

 

Now a former Thai friend???

Yes both her and her sister married other stupid farang's. All chalked up to experience.

[mduras01]

She was properly too busy Googling how to eat flowers.


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[Kiwiken]

3 hours ago, Nicholas1986 said:

I am already early 30 and hope this was my last time of being so naive....

Never give up on looking for the good in people. And never give up believing in a good heart. It is easy to become cynical and bitter in the search for love in your life. Sadly many lessons will be bitter but when you stop looking so hard for someone you will find them. Thai women are alluring and intriguing . However as in most places it is hard for good people to meet a good person. Most of them are not what they seem. But never give up

[phantomfiddler]

Boring, boring

[senor123]

Well, if the story is true, it is probably not that much different to many relationship failures. Just no chemistry!!!!!!!!!!!! 

[cyberfarang]

On 02/11/2016 at 9:15 PM, Nicholas1986 said:

Yes, really a little bit too much, but love makes one blind and stupid and I admit that. Appreciate your comment, I love to hear different views. 

Your problem is that you are a romantic fool. You were living a dream as if starring in some sort of Hollywood romantic movie and removed yourself too far from reality. Also it seems your advances on this girl were too intense too quickly, you probably made the girl feel she was boxed in a corner that made feel very uncomfortable. Courtship is like a game, it has to be played out and you failed to apply by it`s rules.

 

My thoughts were after reading your post was that your idea of how to win a girl over was rather pathetic. A Casanova you are not, nerd comes to mind.

[Straight8]

Can this really be for real?

 

Can it??

[JHolmesJr]

there was a troll-ish thread a week or so ago that was (rightly) closed after about three replies.

 

the starter of that thread wanted to discuss the IQ levels of thais…the posting style was very similar to the OP's style in this thread.

 

After reading his story, there also seems to be a connection between that thread and this…..even though it's a tenuous one.

 

all i can say is if you cant get a thai bird to give it up, you got some big problems.

[atyclb]

what is the going rate for tv novelists?

[maximillian]

18 hours ago, Nicholas1986 said:

Thank u so much for the support. I really quite hate myself of being naive and stupid....

 

Don't.

Forgive yourself, forgive forget her.

[SiSePuede419]

Getting involved with *one* Thai girl thinking you are going to live a fairy tale life makes about as much sense as marrying that girl you met in high school because she had a locker next to yours.

[Stevemercer]

If I take your post at face value, it is unusual for a Thai girl to be so impolite and uninterested. I suspect there is a lot she was not telling you. Perhaps she already has a husband and children in a rural village somewhere, and she felt guilty for leading you on to the extent that you paid a surprise visit. Obviously she was not serious on the dating website, but was just playing a game. Maybe it was a sweet dream for her, but she could not face the reality. 

[DKNY77]

Sounds like a chapter out of ''Private Dancer''.  LOL,,

..   First, desperation is not an aphrodisiac. So lose it . 

And when it comes to having a relationship with a Thai girl  IMO ,,it's more trouble than it's worth.. They're childish,simple minded, conniving ,materialistic,sneaky, phony,shallow,vindictive,void of romance,cold, distant,self centered ,self entitled,self serving ,selfish and untrustworthy., BUT they're good in bed  and is precisely  the reason why I ,and alot of the smarter ex-pats, rent by the hour. This is Thailand ..you need to be tough skinned ,street wise and a pro...because that is the exact the type of women you'll be  dealing with. All of them.