JimTripper

You're a man.

a thai friend is not a 100% solution to everything

Sounds like he was a "utilizer of the services of prostitutes"

I think only a court can force a payment, not the police. If you don't pay it goes to court if the other party pursues it. They may hold your passport and keep you from leaving if a court case is filed.

You still show up at the police station if summoned. You just say you are confused and can't remember what happened clearly when asked any questions. If they detain you or won't let you leave without payment after the meeting, then it's time to get a lawyer.

Did the police take statements from witnesses at the scene or are witnesses still around that are willing to get involved? If not, it's your word against theirs. I would just keep silent, or if I thought I was guilty, pay what I thought was fair without admitting guilt.

get a fan

Get a good pair of combat boots or doc martens. I have a fear of getting bitten on the foot by a rat. It comes from being around people wearing flip flops and sandals all the time.

If I cross at a red pedestrian light and someone gets into an accident in the intersection am I liable for damages? Or, even just crossing anywhere there's not a pedestrian crossing? The major intersection near me just had large pedestrian walkways painted and there is a police box right there. Feels like if I'm not in that area I could be at fault. Also, there are people continually crossing against the light.

Usually if the host invites someone they will add an "on me" or "on the house" during the invite. Just like what would happen at a classy bar or casino with a complimentary drink. If not, then a mention of a "cover" or "cover charge" is given. This lets people know what to expect in terms of payment. Just letting people arrive or issuing random invites assumes the host is paying by default. For one thing, the guests may not have the means to pay on them or the event may be out of their budget. So asking for payment at the end of the night is taboo. The Op should have set expectations at the table, maybe with the server there, as the strange guests arrived. Or a hushed whisper to the server of "seperate bills". No need to be coy about it.

what's going on here is that you moved to a tropical climate and want to sleep in the north pole. a/c on at 23 all night while you sleep and tv 6 hrs a day will run it up that much. all the rest, computer etc, is hogwash.

Maybe I mis-phrased. More like needing to 'hold on' in some way. Everyone's different though, it may not apply to you. The over concern with wills and disposition of assets to whom, trying to cover every possible contingency, etc is also another sign of this problem.

Blunt post (sorry). The "leaving the house to people" stuff is probably about you not wanting to die or get old. Often the property needs to be sold as you get older anyhow if you need assisted living or more care. Whatever is left gets passed on anyway so why does it need to be a house? Are you trying to lock up the funds somehow so you don't spend savings down? That does not work, you end up having to sell off assets.

I don't think the Op was 'getting off'. Even leaning that way many guys won't risk that on a taxi motorbike. It's also difficult to do one handed while holding on to the back of the bike, though I guess it's possible to do without the driver seeing you as long as you are not bouncing around too much.

but we are not in haiti...🤣

Philippines is a step down. The people you hear that like the place are the typical expats I meet in many grungy locations who think they are living in paradise for one reason or another.

You may still need a lawyer. The confession is just one part of the case. A lot of what lawyers do is coordinate the case, file with the court etc. There is also the pain and suffering aspect the lawyer can argue for compensation.

Nightmare situation. Were they taken away in the ambulance? Better hope not. The hospital gets someone in like that and they bill for everything possible with check ups, tests, etc.

Don't they teach number blocking in 1st grade now?

It may seem Ok because you don't know what living in a nice place feels like. Does that make it Ok? Will need to get back to you on that 🤷🏻‍♂️.

Reminds me of the soriee my neighbor had in chiang mai. He invited all his friends then acted like I was a co-host and needed to go half on expenses. Your friends, not mine, I told him. He also bought all the goods on his own without clearance from me, so it's on him. The fact that I lived next door had nothing to do with it. There's a lot of people around that try to mooch like this. It's a lack of boundries where they in fact genuinely believe you owe them something.

The "tropical climate" here sucks. I'm sweating all day and most of the time it's too hot to do much during the day. Find a "temperate climate" next time, not too cold or too hot.

I live in a condo building and there are several motorbike guys (the same guys) that camp out near the driveway all the time. They just sit there on these small plastic chairs for hours staring at the condo complex waiting for some foreigner to walk out. Most of the time people are headed to the 7-11 which makes it even worse, as all expectations for a fare are dashed. There's not much foot traffic. Any movement is met with a clap or other odd gesture to get attention. What an awful job! Makes me wonder if one of these guys is going to snap one day, get violent, or something similar. I would go nuts with just a blank like this. At least a security gig has rounds to do and other tasks. What do these motorbike guys typically make in a day?

The people in Pattaya are pretty much "shooting blanks" though. It does not benefit our species much. 🤣

That's a common misconception. Alpha's rarely fight, except in rare instances where their dominance is being challenged. This typically happens as they get older and a younger male challenges them for the preferred females. Also, there are very few foreigner alpha's in thailand. Those guys you see 'ringing the bell' or walking around with a young woman are not alpha. It's the opposite of what you may be thinking.