JimTripper

Why would you stay in the same apartment for 12 years? Most people like a change of scenery once in awhile.

Why did you go then, if it was just a sea of people?

Did you see the concert or a sea of people?

We probably need to talk about your father... Your partner may be acting in ways that elicit a fatherly response from you. That can include financial support as well as emotional. His current distress could be a way of asking for increased support. If true, it sounds like an unhealthy relationship requiring professional therapy. You can look to your father for answers. You become your father whether you want to or not. Try to see him in you and how you are playing out his problem in your current relationship.

Immigration office.

Only certain girls do the nasty. Some are just serving drinks.

Nice one. They usually handle the visa as well don't they?

I did that in college and grad school when finances were tight, but things are different when you're younger and the future looks bright...

I will need to get back to you, but hopefully they are all straight...

Some people feel like they need closure or things verbally decided in order to move on... but it's really because they can't let go. Not for the other person's benefit.

Absolutely, the roles learned since childhood all change around. People need to adapt to the new roles or they get mental problems like you describe with your partner. Something similar happened in my own family when an extended relative passed away. Relatives who before were kind of irresponsible had to step in and be responsible, and others who were very self-sufficient had to draw limits on what they could do. You kind of become different people when that happens. By being in the family home you tied to whatever family role you were playing there. When you move out into a seperate dwelling you grow in a way and do your own thing.

Scientology don't like the down & out. Probably means the Moonies for free room & board. I think these days they screen people though. They can tell if you're really into it or not.

Most people who give money at all will keep giving. You have already lost half the battle by agreeing to an allowance over and above half of living expenses.

Well, if you're low on funds now and nobody is willing to contribute, you either cut now or go broke. Working in Thailand is not an option. Easier said then done, but try just paying for yourself, or half the rent and bills. Your reason is you can't afford any more. If that's not acceptable, then leave without arguments or fighting. Or move out, get a place you can afford and the partner can come visit you. *I'm not sure how you would relocate back to the USA at 70 without substantial savings or supportive family, that's another thread.

Q: What do you do? A: I'm a digital nomad. Q:What's that? A: Freelance, consulting, that sort of thing. Q: Who do you work for? A: Myself, I'm freelance. Just got a new gig. Q: How's that Chai latte?

We don't really know that. The gambling and other problems could be a response to misfortune.

Digital nomads. People think they can live off youtube and video views and not really do much work. Probably the result of seeing relatively few successful channels and ignoring the unsuccessful ones.

Nobody really has to be. The system can self-sustain and run on fumes. It's only when a crisis hits that things unravel because the necessary authorizations can't be obtained for some reason and communication breaks down. Or, advisors end up recommending things and he just signs off automatically on whatever is presented.

Usually they want you to go in for a checkup before they schedule a crown or other procedure.

You need credit, references and job history to rent a place in the USA. You don't just walk in and pay like you do in asia. A bunch of paperwork is submitted and they scrutinize every detail and call to verify. Without that coveted high credit score you can't get a place even if you could afford it (which he probably can't). If he is complaining about Asia he can't afford to get settled in the USA. He needs a base shelter to apply for jobs (hard to live under a bridge while looking for a job).

He spoke about gaming credit cards before. Said he was an expert on living off and manipulating credit card offers. He also discussed trading securities and crypto. That will wipe you out real fast if you like gambling. Sounds like he has some skills tweaking numbers and financial stuff, but if he has a gambling addiction that won't do him much good.

I do that also. I have two atm cards so if a bank declines at a foreign atm I can use the other card without having to call into the bank. Otherwise you could get stuck at the airport if you can't get a sim to work or don't have internet. Also, if an ATM eats or confiscates a card I have a backup.

I dunno I think he deserves some advice from other expats with experience rather then a Freudian analysis. Unfortunately, I can't think of much advice to give him. One angle could be getting to know other expats and moving in together with other expats having financial problems. Splitting rent and food 4 ways is cheaper then going solo. Returning to the USA is probably a death sentence if he is on the street. Not just from the weather, it's outright dangerous.

Not actually 😅. I'm just worried about the guy. Could be any of us with some bad luck.

Returning to the USA is a ticket to homelessness. You don't just get a job at the airport. You're on the streets of Los Angeles or some other major city sleeping under a bridge. Prices for hotels are through the roof. There's nobody waiting for you with open arms. They also don't like hiring homeless people there.