The questions is, what's your alternative? Having a house butt up is better then have a neighbor on the next wall over. Having a free frontal view is better then a neighbors window there in a condo. You're complaining about something with better and worse options.
Ideally, you purchase land with a property on it in your name. That's a big negative I have with Thailand is that the land can't be owned. So, you have a "neighbor" with the land ownership and you need to get a good partner there.
This is one of the reasons why I will only do a property purchase in my home country. It's only in my name and I choose my neighbors (or not).