So you would allow a grown man to babysit your boy, and if a blatant lesbian were to want to babysit your daughter, that would be OK. Yet I am ignorant and an idiot.
Reality test: Your 15 year old girl insists she is a boy. Do you get her counseling or encourage her to get a mastectomy and take puberty blockers?
You would be lucky in some Democrat states to be able to make that choice.