No, so his comment was shaming and I never mentioned Bette Middler again.
I have a funny story about that.
A best girl friend (friend who was a girl ha ha) who I hung around with quite a lot, even walked her home sometimes, but never made a move, or even thought about making a move, basically informed me that I was gay. I was talking to her on the phone one day and she basically spilt her findings in an actually nice way. She was Japanese American BTW and her parents had been in the California concentration camps so the atmosphere at her house was kind of heavy. It definitely made me think.