Mark1969

That's definately part of it if they are having sex. It's more then being physically unclean though, it's also a kind of spiritual stain that I view in them even if they are not prostitutes. I can see my view as unreasonable without knowing each person, yet I can't get over the feeling. It's at the point now where I'm feeling generalized revulsion for no apparent reason.

I developed the issue while here, not in my home country. I have lived in Thailand and South East Asia probably 15 years. Prior to that I was dating (non prostitute) and did not have my current perception of unclean women. My move over here was due to financial difficulty primarily.

I feel like there is a lesson here somewhere, or I would not be here. I don't believe in coincidences. The question is what is that lesson and will the place somehow spit me out if I'm here long enough. Places have a way of doing that if you don't belong somewhere. Kind of like having a splinter in your body, it is recognized as a foreign body and the host rejects it.

I'm living in Pattaya and started viewing Thai women as unclean. It's so bad now that I don't even want to have sex with them if it was offered. It seems to be getting worse. When I do approach women it's women of different races, black, Chinese, Japanese, etc., but it's not very often. What should I do, move out of the area, or just wait it out? Relocate back to home country? I don't want to just fly solo and am not interested in social contacts with males. It's been going on for many months now. Therapy is not an option here since I don't think there are many good therapists around.

How is the narcissist having sex? Sometimes he rides it from the top and just pumps away. Complete power trip imho most of the time. Other guys will lick it and not really care about their own satisfaction. That would be an easy way to tell if it's a power trip, sociopathic or narcissistic vs someone that is in love and truly cares about their partner. The question feels off. There are all kinds of guys and women out there and they say that there are no mistakes in life, you learn something from each partner... So does it really matter why two people have found each other? When what they have to learn from each other materializes they move on.

Yes, there are. Plenty of guys date and have great sex lives without paying. It can be difficult if you're older because of the age issue, but not impossible. Try dating and refusing to pay and see what happens. (Not dinner, just outright cash payments). If you continue to have no luck, work on yourself as a man. Success will come, but it may take time. Look at guys like Sylvester Stallone, Arnold Schwartzeneggar and Paul Newman. Do you think they could not meet and attract women even if they were unknown and not famous? Success has given them a lot of confidence, but it's not required, it comes from within.

If they are newbies it's probably because they are anxious about being alone in a foreign country. A lot of guys actually need a guide to figure stuff out or they need a full time english speaker or translator. Other guys get lonely with themselves, cannot enjoy activities alone and need someone to talk to 24/7. Kind of like guys that can never workout alone, they always need to be in a group or have a golfing partner, etc.

It's guys who can't get non paid women of the same caliber. Nobody pays if there are other equivalent free options.

I had something like this occur a few years ago. You need to schedule a live zoom interview with them. A video conference call where you both see each other. I used my passport and I think my Driver's License. It's overkill and weird, but I got it resolved. IRS did ditch ID.ME and is going back to passwords, but it's taking a long time to transition back. Id.Me was using military type verification on the public and there was enough outcry to boot them.

Could just be me, but it seems like most Thai's buy at 7-11 or just cheap knick knack stores (always in a rush??). When I goto the Big C the Thai's don't seem to be into the shopping experience. That wholesale place on Sukhumvit Road is huge and rivals any Costco in the Usa, yet it was virtually empty when I went in there and it's just as close to town as the Big C. I got the feeling that lower/average income Thai's don't feel comfortable there (although the middle class in Bangkok probably would).

It's not a good idea to let Thailand know about high net worth income or assets if you don't have to. The question is there for a reason, not curiosity.

People complain for a reason.

There is something weird about sex here. It's used as a tool.

You're a man, pissin' your way through life... You've seen a few stalls in your time, a couple toilets too... Dumpin' a couple loads, is no stranger to you... Crankin' a couple shooters is not unknown, in fact you're an expert in it, world renown... When your final day comes, one things for sure, you won't need any advice pissin' it all away, Mr. McClure...

Hua Hin

Finally, someone who understands... Distancing" is the correct term. They create a distance and boundry many Thai's are not comfortable with. People who want to engage everyone to be comfortable don't like sunglasses. You were not to eyeball or address the boss man directly. The sunglasses symbolized this. I don't get many people eyeballin' when I wear mine.

A lot of guys hover around the pattaya area because they are engaged in utilizing the services of prostitutes.

Money.

I have noticed that a lot of time those people or businesses who have great reviews or seem perfect, or try too hard for the sale are actually hiding something. It's like a mask made to fool you. What I want is just average and getting the job done, with no negative reviews.

i'm working on it...

i want to go back. i wish i still had my home, car, all of it still waiting for me. unfortunately, i can't afford to live in two places at once.