My wife and me we are living separated. She put our little daughter to her village in Issan. I want to visit my daughter. What can I do if she do not let see me her?

 

 

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What immediately comes to my mind is a court order...but I suspect you know that already. Hope it works out.

  PS.... Back home (about 40 yrs.ago) myself and "common law wife" seperated. She set up home with a new man. He was living in the house with my children while I had no rights to see them because we were not actually married. I had to go the court way.

   God Bless you and good luck (I do know how it feels).

  PS. Just thought it may be of interest....they were living in the house that was our home before we separated...we owned it together....I went to live in a rented room.

8 hours ago, rapla said:

I want to visit my daughter. What can I do if she do not let see me her?

So before you decided to hit the internet advice columns....

.you haven't got past step 1

.

 

Actually Asking if you can see her...........

It's difficult to give you any advice without you providing more specifics about the situation.

stop giving cash (if you are)

1 hour ago, punchjudy said:

stop giving cash (if you are)

totally agree. Thai ladies love money

I am not a village expert or a Thai expert. My girlfriend’s Isan village has a store owner that is well respected by all in the village. They go to him or his wife or older children for advice and problem solving and not the police or politicians.  They do not always agree with him but he is a smart just man.

 

  If her village has someone like that then seek him or her out and ask them for their advice. Even though you are an expat and not Thai smart leaders exist in the village that do what is best for the kid and to keep peace and that would be where I would start.  

 

One caveat I assume you are welcome to go to her village. Outsiders are not always welcomed.  At first I was not welcomed to go alone without my GF but now I believe I could go alone if needed and I trust her village leader.  Best of luck. 

So you thought she would stay with you for your "looks",.......i dont think so .

So she stayed with you for security ( financial, housing, caretaker of children .....)

So the moment she can better herself ....since there is no real love....she chooses 

for the better deal .

My advise,if you are 20y (or 30 y) more older than she , make sure you are loaded enough to satisfy her needs. If not ......well you know what happens.

On the other hand , make sure to her .That if SHE does not please you anymore ( too lazy, too fat, too drunk, too much gsm....) you will replace her for a better lady.She will understand this ,because this is the Thai-way .

The last problem is , where to find a better one ?

Well.....i have no idea ... 

 

 

If you were a thai, you would probabily forget your ex and your daughter

Sînce you are a farang, just ask her how much for supporting your daughter and you will be allowed to visit her

But (sadly true) your daughter will later consider you as an ATM, she will be raised with that point in mind

Life is cruel

I was divorced and had equal visiting rights 50/50 to our child . When some time later my ex moved back to Issan she took the child. When I consulted the lawyer she said 'well you still have your visiting rights .Nothing to say your ex had to reside locally and a Thai child's place is with the Thai mother. '

 I was still responsible for the agreed maintenance payments legally so I made a legal agreement to pay the amount into a nominated bank account for the benefit of the child  at age eighteen ............ not the mother or relatives.

Bogus village wife, or real Amphur wife?

First has no rights, second has.

1 hour ago, lucjoker said:

So she stayed with you for security ( financial, housing, caretaker of children .....)

So the moment she can better herself ....since there is no real love....she chooses 

for the better deal .

It's not as if western women are any different, they all upgrade when given the chance.

which nationalities does she,your daughter has?

which nationalities does she,your daughter has?

Thai and German


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15 hours ago, davidst01 said:

totally agree. Thai ladies love money

Na, really, well i never knew that.

Forget it.
Unless you have a lot of money (to pay lawyers) and time (for waiting for the courts).

 

From your post, I can deduct that you did not separate/divorce under good will or mutual understanding.
If you did separate/divorced with good mutual understanding, you would not need to write this post.
Sorry to be harsh, but that's he truth.
 

What about: go to the village and see your daughter?

I just went to her family house without any notice. My ex did say any thing. As well her family. They been very surprised. I meet my daughter stay there for little while. Then I just went away. Her father told me at the end I can come over whenever I want it.


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I just went to her family house without any notice. My ex did say any thing. As well her family. They been very surprised. I meet my daughter stay there for little while. Then I just went away. Her father told me at the end I can come over whenever I want it.


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Good news. Let's hope things stay that way. Hopefully she will listen to her father, they normally do.


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So you thought she would stay with you for your "looks",.......i dont think so .
So she stayed with you for security ( financial, housing, caretaker of children .....)
So the moment she can better herself ....since there is no real love....she chooses 
for the better deal .
My advise,if you are 20y (or 30 y) more older than she , make sure you are loaded enough to satisfy her needs. If not ......well you know what happens.
On the other hand , make sure to her .That if SHE does not please you anymore ( too lazy, too fat, too drunk, too much gsm....) you will replace her for a better lady.She will understand this ,because this is the Thai-way .
The last problem is , where to find a better one ?
Well.....i have no idea ... 
 
 

1) where did he say that?
2) where did he say she could now better herself?
3) how do you know he's not loaded
4) she has left him, not vice versa
5) he's not looking for a better one, he's looking to see his daughter.

Are you actually on the right thread?


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Good news. Let's hope things stay that way. Hopefully she will listen to her father, they normally do.


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Yes I hope it will be like that.


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9 hours ago, rapla said:

I just went to her family house without any notice. My ex did say any thing. As well her family. They been very surprised. I meet my daughter stay there for little while. Then I just went away. Her father told me at the end I can come over whenever I want it.


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Good to hear

On 04/11/2017 at 1:47 PM, MaeJoMTB said:

Bogus village wife, or real Amphur wife?

First has no rights, second has.

Actually in circumstances like the OP (who has thankfully got this sorted) where it involves children, then it would be exactly the opposite, she would have all the rights children related.