heybuz Posted January 31, 2018 Share Posted January 31, 2018 20 hours ago, Damrongsak said: I met my wife and her sister in a market in Loei 40 years ago. Eventually hired her to do my laundry, and she was good at it. I had to laugh at " +She was (mostly, though not 100%) reluctant to physical affection during daylight. " Hell, we still don't do that, even at night. But the house is clean and she is a helluva cook and puts up with me. Maybe that's Thailand 1.0 behavior. Good luck to the OP. i think iv'e found her sister Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BobbyL Posted February 1, 2018 Share Posted February 1, 2018 13 hours ago, Berkshire said: A long distance relationship with these kind of girls is almost impossible. Absolutely. That is the crux of it. If you're here it is easy to try and control for you and her. Not a chance it can be done with only meeting a few times a year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geisha Posted February 1, 2018 Share Posted February 1, 2018 thaibeachlovers, have to laugh at that . I don’t think you’ve ever had any thing to do with nice Thai girls ! Also, I’m sure I’ve been a much longer time here than yourself and do not restrict myself to foreign or Thai parts of town/ Thailand. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hupaponics Posted February 1, 2018 Share Posted February 1, 2018 6 hours ago, Rc2702 said: Clearly this butterfly has a range of FB profiles. Thai profiles and farang. Very likely indeed. However, it's pretty easy to find out her other accounts. Go to gf's frend list on FB, find her roommate. Now check roommate's friend list. All accounts should be listed there;). If not, go another friends frend list. I have done this myself with interesting results 555 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zaZa9 Posted February 1, 2018 Share Posted February 1, 2018 "I don’t think she’s likely to have an overseas sponsor because (except when she was with Jim) she's always been widely available for me every single day, " How does she achieve that with a full time job? Most employees here have to commit to 10 hour days , 60 hours a week. Any guy coming over here and being met by a Thai lady at any time on any date should ask the same question. I do , however disagree that somebody gainfully employed in foreign exchange would get 10k a month. The real figure is double that with bonuses etc. But those sort of jobs also require strong commitment - Im not sure somebody who parties 3 or 4 nights a week till late , and takes time off randomly , can hold down a job with a bank. If thats the case , where is her money coming from ? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted February 1, 2018 Share Posted February 1, 2018 21 hours ago, The white Rider said: I agree 90% with you... in fact, she's always complaining about her dark skin and "praising" my white skin... But anyway... if she doesn't love me... why was she crying a river whenever I was leaving? Is it so easy to fake tears? This would be a good discussion too, guys. What do you think? You don't know why she was crying. You only assume it was because of you. My wife cried a monsoon when our hamsters died. Once we were married, she stopped crying when I went back to make money. Face the fact, you don't know what makes her tick now, and never will. You won't even understand women in your own country. No man will ever understand women, and visa versa. We only know what they want us to know. From "secret garden" by Bruce Springsteen. He knew the score. She'll lead you down a pathThere'll be tenderness in the airShe'll let you come just far enoughSo you know she's really thereThen she'll look at you and smileAnd her eyes will sayShe's got a secret gardenWhere everything you wantWhere everything you needWill always stayA million miles away True story. A female colleague was having an affair with a married man, and told us at work that he was going to leave his wife and marry her. I told her that he was lying, only having her for sex, and would not leave his wife. She said I was wrong because she understood men. Time passed and I was right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted February 1, 2018 Share Posted February 1, 2018 4 hours ago, Hupaponics said: Very likely indeed. However, it's pretty easy to find out her other accounts. Go to gf's frend list on FB, find her roommate. Now check roommate's friend list. All accounts should be listed there;). If not, go another friends frend list. I have done this myself with interesting results 555 Damn, I'm so glad I don't have anything on Facebonk. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post thaibeachlovers Posted February 1, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 1, 2018 5 hours ago, geisha said: thaibeachlovers, have to laugh at that . I don’t think you’ve ever had any thing to do with nice Thai girls ! Also, I’m sure I’ve been a much longer time here than yourself and do not restrict myself to foreign or Thai parts of town/ Thailand. Actually, most of the Thai "girlfriends" I've had have been lovely women, and I enjoyed their company immensely. Nothing in my life before ever came close to the pleasure of living on an amazing beach in LOS with a beautiful woman to wake up next to every morning. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hupaponics Posted February 1, 2018 Share Posted February 1, 2018 9 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said: Damn, I'm so glad I don't have anything on Facebonk. Me neither, ditched that crap years ago:) Just wanted to give a tip how to easily check out if a GF have multiple accounts. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted February 1, 2018 Share Posted February 1, 2018 10 hours ago, catman20 said: i would not put up with that sort of crap, if a woman/child started all that crying with me id be the one walking out and she could choose to stay there or come with me. i would of dumped her before she started spending my money on lots of food shes not going to eat and then leave. maybe you should try to make better choices with women and not children. ive said this 4 or 5 times to women over the years and its never had the effect that you experienced. she should respect you and YOUR money. she was not a keeper Unlike you, apparently, I actually am capable of liking a woman enough not to dump her over a few baht, crying or not. Who said anything about a "keeper"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catman20 Posted February 1, 2018 Share Posted February 1, 2018 15 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said: Unlike you, apparently, I actually am capable of liking a woman enough not to dump her over a few baht, crying or not. Who said anything about a "keeper"? door Matt comes to mind. i said she not a keeper and she wasn't right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The white Rider Posted February 1, 2018 Author Share Posted February 1, 2018 7 hours ago, Hupaponics said: Very likely indeed. However, it's pretty easy to find out her other accounts. Go to gf's frend list on FB, find her roommate. Now check roommate's friend list. All accounts should be listed there;). If not, go another friends frend list. I have done this myself with interesting results 555 Good advice! I've already done it before. I've come to believe that she hasn't any adittional FB account, I did a quite deep search some weeks ago, before booking my second flight. - I searched her name (using both alphabets) - I searched her nickname (both alphabets again) - I combined name and nickname. - I checked likes in posts and pics. - I checked several friends friend lists (friends I know she usually hangs out with) Nothing was found. Her friends have only her main account, the one I know... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The white Rider Posted February 1, 2018 Author Share Posted February 1, 2018 (edited) 4 hours ago, zaZa9 said: How does she achieve that with a full time job? Most employees here have to commit to 10 hour days , 60 hours a week. Any guy coming over here and being met by a Thai lady at any time on any date should ask the same question. I do , however disagree that somebody gainfully employed in foreign exchange would get 10k a month. The real figure is double that with bonuses etc. But those sort of jobs also require strong commitment - Im not sure somebody who parties 3 or 4 nights a week till late , and takes time off randomly , can hold down a job with a bank. If thats the case , where is her money coming from ? Her working day is mostly 8h, either morning or afternoon, sometimes both (16h). As far as I know, she usually takes one day off, sometimes 2 after 4-5 working days. We have a lot of videocalls when she's in the office, there's no doubt about her job. I said she parties 2-3 times a week because when she is working in the afternoon she oftenly goes out the previous night since she doesn't need to wake up early in the morning. Holidays... She has /at least) 8 per year. She may use 2days off+4holiday in a row+2days off. That's what she've been doing so far when we meet. Somebody correct me if I'm wrong... Edited February 1, 2018 by The white Rider Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
retiredusn Posted February 1, 2018 Share Posted February 1, 2018 Where does she find the time too work?? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The white Rider Posted February 1, 2018 Author Share Posted February 1, 2018 5 minutes ago, retiredusn said: Where does she find the time too work?? She has a "very relaxed" job, man, they work in couples attending customers. She may be taking passports and money and still, she doesn't hang up a call. Other times it's just idle time... since there are no customers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post todlad Posted February 1, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 1, 2018 We had a very similar love story not too long ago and we see the same pattern. European who seems to be doing ok for himself meets a Thai girl who easily falls in lust. Forget Jim, this Spaniard is besotted with lust and she plays on his mind daily. She teases. She displays herself in the ways we can find in Pattaya, Phuket and like places. After two weeks or so of physical contact, the Spaniard thinks about moving to Samui. Let me ask what others are asking too: are you mental? You found a whole cupboard full of red flags but bingo, ignored them all. Your statements about reading all about Thai girls, about how you can't be fooled and about Facebook pages are all water. Drip drip drip. Senorita sounds a much safer bet to me. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The white Rider Posted February 2, 2018 Author Share Posted February 2, 2018 12 hours ago, todlad said: We had a very similar love story not too long ago and we see the same pattern. European who seems to be doing ok for himself meets a Thai girl who easily falls in lust. Forget Jim, this Spaniard is besotted with lust and she plays on his mind daily. She teases. She displays herself in the ways we can find in Pattaya, Phuket and like places. After two weeks or so of physical contact, the Spaniard thinks about moving to Samui. Let me ask what others are asking too: are you mental? You found a whole cupboard full of red flags but bingo, ignored them all. Your statements about reading all about Thai girls, about how you can't be fooled and about Facebook pages are all water. Drip drip drip. Senorita sounds a much safer bet to me. Can't deny that your post sounds pretty blunt and I appreciate that honest feedback. Is there any link to that similar love story? If so, would be helpful for me to be posted here. This said, real experiences from others (that lived something similar) are the most valuable to me. And (if at all) moving to Samui for 1-3 months (since that's what I'm allowed via tourist VISA) to try out, is not a "real-risk decision" in my case. Of course, that's a personal fact... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
todlad Posted February 2, 2018 Share Posted February 2, 2018 6 minutes ago, The white Rider said: Can't deny that your post sounds pretty blunt and I appreciate that honest feedback. Is there any link to that similar love story? If so, would be helpful for me to be posted here. This said, real experiences from others (that lived something similar) are the most valuable to me. And (if at all) moving to Samui for 1-3 months (since that's what I'm allowed via tourist VISA) to try out, is not a "real-risk decision" in my case. Of course, that's a personal fact... Sorry but I was born and brought up in a place where being blunt is normal. It helps sometimes since it is clear where we stand. I never intend to cause offence and have been known to apologise if I have. By the way, there are many of us on TV who have done what you are talking about but with one big difference. Yes, I know I took a risk doing what I did but I did not fall for the first girl I met and I did not consider moving in with her, even for a trial period after only a very brief period together. In the end, my first real prospect here turned out to be a chancer: I don't know how many men took refuge with her but I withheld my trust for the best part of three years as I worked away and came here frequently until I thought I knew everything. At the 11th hour I learned about Michael ... and Lewis and others. A bit like your friend Jim! You seem to have said what I kept saying to this woman: only you and only me. But when I learned that I was the date on Monday, Wednesday and Friday and "spending time with her mother" on Tuesday, Thursday and the weekend turned out to be boning sessions with Michael, I left her immediately. No questions asked. No other chances. I recommend you do the same: 1 to 3 months with this one could be heavenly but trusting her is a fantasy from my experience. I think this is the thread you are looking for and you will see there are many replies with lots of first rate advice: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stokakrishna Posted February 2, 2018 Share Posted February 2, 2018 In my 15 years experience being in Thailand, i'd say leave her. Unless u just want to keep her for fun. But if u tfy to get serious with her, nothing good will come out 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zaZa9 Posted February 2, 2018 Share Posted February 2, 2018 Ok , her working hours ring true ...thats good. Theres something else , but this is just a personal thing. It would really get up my nose if I were dating a girl who is constantly pointing out all the looks she is getting - and all the come-ons. If Im not mistaken , you would be getting them to. Do you point them out to her ? Perhaps , having been 'black' all her life , and being a black Thai means being ignored at best , she is very needy when it comes to attention? Attention is like a drug to her now? If so this could abet 'butterfly' behaviour. Whatever , that stuff would get up my nose very quickly ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anon537687643 Posted February 2, 2018 Share Posted February 2, 2018 Got bored with Thai after 2 pages Big yawnSent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theguyfromanotherforum Posted February 2, 2018 Share Posted February 2, 2018 What is her job at the bank exactly? None of my wife's friends who have serious jobs find the time to party even once every 6 months. Even my much younger unemployed ex didn't party 3 times a week and she was wild. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
khunPer Posted February 2, 2018 Share Posted February 2, 2018 1 hour ago, theguyfromanotherforum said: What is her job at the bank exactly? None of my wife's friends who have serious jobs find the time to party even once every 6 months. Even my much younger unemployed ex didn't party 3 times a week and she was wild. Probably didn't live at Samui... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Straight8 Posted February 2, 2018 Share Posted February 2, 2018 On 1/31/2018 at 10:05 AM, robblok said: I thought so.. guys love to sleep around and have many girls.. but our long term partners need to be like the virgin mary or something. Never made much sense to me. Well ask yourself, do you prefer a girl who has only had a fewer partners, raised with morals and ethics, who believes in sleeping with a guy she has deep feelings for (some call it making love) or the town bike? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommysboy Posted February 2, 2018 Share Posted February 2, 2018 Being young and naive is no crime. If you're honest you just came out worse in this rather unsavoury incident. I guess no matter who you are, there's always someone younger, better looking, craftier, etc. Maybe you need to be a little more honest in your relationships. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Get Real Posted February 2, 2018 Share Posted February 2, 2018 Personally, I do believe that you should choose both. That the spanish girl should live with the believes that your trips to Thailand alone without her, is totally faitful ones ain´t gonna fly. That Joyce would think that you do not ever live or sleep with another girl in your home country, is also a very small chance. Here we will then have the facts that all 3 involved is aware of reality. That, in clear and uncensored text, means that all parties also do something unfaitful. All are basically the same. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaeJoMTB Posted February 3, 2018 Share Posted February 3, 2018 10 hours ago, Straight8 said: Well ask yourself, do you prefer a girl who has only had a fewer partners, raised with morals and ethics, who believes in sleeping with a guy she has deep feelings for (some call it making love) or the town bike? Well, the girl with fewer partners probably won't have much sex with you, while the town bike probably will. So the girl you choose would depend on the amount of sex you want to have. I first married a virgin, almost no sex in the entire marriage. Then I married a slut, so much sex I'm getting tired of it. Horses for courses ............ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KiChakayan Posted February 3, 2018 Share Posted February 3, 2018 4 minutes ago, MaeJoMTB said: I first married a virgin, almost no sex in the entire marriage. Then I married a slut, so much sex I'm getting tired of it. Horses for courses ............ The virgin might be the better choice, as supplemental regimen are readily available here. Most of us don't do horses... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dick dasterdly Posted February 3, 2018 Share Posted February 3, 2018 On 2/1/2018 at 4:38 PM, thaibeachlovers said: Unlike you, apparently, I actually am capable of liking a woman enough not to dump her over a few baht, crying or not. Who said anything about a "keeper"? Funnily enough, I dumped a Western boyfriend (many decades ago) when he accepted my repayment of the one pound (sterling) I had previously borrowed. Bear in mind that even though he earned FAR more than me (he was relatively wealthy, whereas I lived from paycheck to paycheck) - I'd always, as a feminist, insisted on paying half of all meals/drinks etc. For various reasons it had become v obvious that he was extremely 'tight-fisted' with money, whereas I was the opposite. It was never going to work. Even so, I've never understood why any dating men/women think it acceptable for the man to pay for everything ! A sure sign IMO that the non-paying person is far too interested in money, and best avoided. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaeJoMTB Posted February 3, 2018 Share Posted February 3, 2018 27 minutes ago, dick dasterdly said: Even so, I've never understood why any dating men/women think it acceptable for the man to pay for everything ! A sure sign IMO that the non-paying person is far too interested in money, and best avoided. I'm paying the asking price, for the product on offer. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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