Well, sometimes it helps to know what people really think of one rather than to go along in some kind of fantasy that everything is great. Open and honest communication is generally a good thing.

It's not just a Thai issue - this is an Asian thing. In fact, it's an international thing, I can easily imagine an Asian with a farang girlfriend who would get the same treatment from her parents.

There are two ways I can think of to deal with this situation.

1. Show patience and humility. Perhaps send gifts over on special occasions, nothing big, just as a token of your thoughts. Since you don't see each other often it isn't really possible to show how good a future spouse will be. If you stay together, and persist, without deliberately upsetting his mom, perhaps in time she will get over it.

2. (not really recommended, but it works) - have a kid. Their excitement at becoming grandparents will eventually overcome any issues. My father was excited and wanted to see the new grandchild at the first possible moment - despite having barely talked to me for many years. My mom, strangely, was the one who did not tell her relatives. She was concerned about the child having been born out of wedlock. Once I reminded her that it was her grandchild no matter what the relatives thought, she snapped out of it - and told the relatives, who were all really excited.

If it is possible, never live with his family after marriage. Visiting his family once in a while is fine but never ever try to think that his family will accept you as a member of the family. I have made a mistake once and hopefully others would't end up like me. Ours live is perfect until he decide moving back to thailand and live with his family. Then everything change, I am force to take care everything in the house including the parents. The worst is our marriage life is ruined.

My best advise to you is that if u really love him and so did him, stay in canada forever. Don't ever think that thai guy will stay the same ( attitude, behavious, etc) when they back to their home town.

Edited July 24, 200718 yr by delly