Quiet and alone?

[Lacessit]

I have repeatedly noticed Thais seem to be unable to live without noise. Whether I am in a coffee shop, massage shop, or Big C, there is always music or a TV blaring somewhere. In Big C, there's is an unending stream of announcements over the PA. Not many motorbikes are quiet, the objective seems to be being as noisy as possible. If I am in my car with my GF, she gets uncomfortable if I am silent for more than 10 minutes. She is quite capable of having the TV on, having a conversation on the phone with a friend, and asking me what I want for dinner contemporaneously. It goes beyond multi-tasking. Neighbors all around us have dogs barking, roosters crowing, and music blaring. Is there such a thing as contemplative Thai music, a la Moonlight Sonata?

 

It's the same with solitude, Thais can't seem to handle being alone for any length of time. While I don't know about Thai men, IME Thai women are never more comfortable than when they are in a group, and never more uncomfortable than when alone. My GF will invite her sister-in-law to sleep with her when I am away. Her grand-daughter shares a room at college with another girl, they share a bed and a cat sleeps there as well.

 

I am very comfortable with being quiet and alone. What about you, and what are your experiences with your Thai significant other?

[PoodThaiMaiDai]

I agree they seem to not like to be alone, especially at night (ghosts).

 

I too notice they tend to be loud, screaming at each other to get each other's attention.

[Lacessit]

10 minutes ago, PoodThaiMaiDai said:

I agree they seem to not like to be alone, especially at night (ghosts).

 

I too notice they tend to be loud, screaming at each other to get each other's attention.

The weird thing is, my GF will not go out at night by herself. If I am with her, no problem. Apparently her reasoning is because I don't believe in ghosts, they stay away when I am with her.

[Kinnock]

Yep .... the first thing my wife does when waking in the morning is to put on the TV in the bedroom, then connect the bluetooth speakers downstairs to her phone to play some music.

 

I quite like the constant music and sounds when we're together, but when she's away and I'm home alone, I prefer silence.

 

The neighbours (fortunately not too close) have three dogs who's only purpose in life seems to be barking at everything that moves.

[CharlieH]

What I have observed is that if there is no noise , the TV is off etc, then she is asleep within 10 minutes or less !

[JeffersLos]

I've never noticed this at all.

 

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 Her grand-daughter shares a room at college with another girl

Can you post a photo or video of this to help us understand what you mean?

[Hummin]

Built a farm out in nowhere and my second floor room and balcony in one end, and the kitchen in the other end, meaning I built a long house and about 30m total lenght????
 

 

[1FinickyOne]

7 hours ago, Lacessit said:

My GF will invite her sister-in-law to sleep with her when I am away. Her grand-daughter shares a room at college with another girl, they share a bed and a cat sleeps there as well.

Gooo-a Peee

 

Afraid of ghosts... 

[Basso53]

My wife is exact opposite.....maybe because she is a teacher of lower grades that make lots of chatter. She craves the quiet.

[Denim]

7 hours ago, Lacessit said:

I am very comfortable with being quiet and alone.

Bliss except when procreation is necessary.

[Iamfalang]

If you scream in Church, LOS is for you.

Bass that will blow out windows……LOS

 

LOS once had a library.    Somebody stole the book

[OneMoreFarang]

Probably you won't see many of the people who live quietly at home.

 

I think for many of us we don't behave the same all the time.

I.e. when I am thinkin while working then I like it quiet

When I do some easy work then a little background music is fine

And when I am in a gogo bar then hopefully they have a great and loud sound system.

 

It depends.

[Grecian]

I'm shocked!

 

you're in thailand and you're skeeping with a grandmother!!!!! 

 

 

[Dmaxdan]

I have noticed that some Thais speak very loudly.

My wife's niece is a case in point.

She constantly bellows like Foghorn Leghorn, particularly when she is on the phone.

 

[RocketDog]

7 hours ago, JeffersLos said:

I've never noticed this at all.

 

Can you post a photo or video of this to help us understand what you mean?

You don't need pictures.

You need practice on using your imagination.

Trust me on this. It's always a richer experience than reality.

 

[KhunLA]

I need peace & quiet, and so far, so good.  It's a challenge though if not very rural, and even then, you have to choose wisely, and look for them damn speakers on poles.

 

Thankfully the wife isn't noise crazy.

[FolkGuitar]

People shouting from one room to another, waitresses shouting across the restaurant dinning room. No one seems to be able to talk quietly; shrieking is required. Loud music in restaurants, shopping malls.

 

I'm 90% deaf, and it's often too loud for me, so I turn off my hearing aids. 'Sometimes' that helps. Sometimes it's not enough. Personally, I prefer quiet.

[GreasyFingers]

8 hours ago, Lacessit said:

and never more uncomfortable than when alone.

My wife always says that I cannot die first. I thought it was love, but maybe you are right. ????

[DUNROAMIN]

Generall speaking Thais are loud talkers, they start a conversation and it ends up being a yelling match. I  can hear Thais talking 2 Soi's away. And, yes they love loud music at parties, so much so, you have to yell to talk to someone. I avoid any invitions to weddings and special events.

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, Grecian said:

I'm shocked!

 

you're in thailand and you're skeeping with a grandmother!!!!! 

 

 

I'm not posting a photo. You'll just have to take my word for it she is one hot grandmother.

I'm 79, what the hell would I do with a 20 yo?

[Lacessit]

2 hours ago, bbas3008 said:

My wife is exact opposite.....maybe because she is a teacher of lower grades that make lots of chatter. She craves the quiet.

I believe that's called aversion therapy.

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, GreasyFingers said:

My wife always says that I cannot die first. I thought it was love, but maybe you are right. ????

Funny, I get the same thing from mine. Explaining there's a 23 year age gap falls on deaf ears.

[KhunLA]

6 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

I'm not posting a photo. You'll just have to take my word for it she is one hot grandmother.

I'm 79, what the hell would I do with a 20 yo?

In Thailand, or anywhere, a grandmother could easily be < 40 yrs old.  Half you age ... shame on you ????

Wife #3 resembled that gap ...  22 / 46 ????

[Kenny202]

Primative pack dog culture. Forced communal living. It is what it is and we have very little in common with them at the end of the day

[JimTripper]

Yep, my experience also.  I broke up with a girl because she was always rushing around, talking, visiting, etc. It stressed me out because we never slowed down. It was like running a marathon.

 

At the time I put it down to a cultural difference. I later met a Thai lawyer who was very quiet and introverted though, so it may have just been a personality  factor. There are a lot of Thai's that rush around though and never seem to quiet down. It's like they always need to be distracted by something.

[BritManToo]

3 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

I broke up with a girl because she was always rushing around, talking, visiting, etc. It stressed me out because we never slowed down. It was like running a marathon.

 

There are a lot of Thai's that rush around though and never seem to quiet down.

1. You didn't have to race with her!

2. Amphetamine users (YaBaa or YaIce).

[Expat68]

The older I get the more I like being quiet and peaceful

[Lacessit]

13 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

In Thailand, or anywhere, a grandmother could easily be < 40 yrs old.  Half you age ... shame on you ????

Wife #3 resembled that gap ...  22 / 46 ????

79/55. We've slowed down a fair bit from when I first met her.

 

[Lacessit]

3 minutes ago, Expat68 said:

The older I get the more I like being quiet and peaceful

Testosterone is overrated.

[KhunLA]

1 minute ago, Lacessit said:

79/55. We've slowed down a fair bit from when I first met her.

About the same, #4 Wifey is 45 vs 67, and only slowed down just a wee bit.  Give her credit though, she does try to keep up.