Would you ever marry a bar girl? If so, why?

[spidermike007]

1 minute ago, NextG said:

So? You can certify that they were perfectly normal?

I just don't think having alot of lovers makes your abnormal or dysfunctional. On any level. At least under 500, anyway. Just my opinion. 

[NextG]

Just now, spidermike007 said:

I just don't think having alot of lovers makes your abnormal or dysfunctional. On any level. At least under 500, anyway. Just my opinion. 

What does it matter what you think? It matters what they think. These are the women that you are constantly slagging off in order to praise the Asian women. They don’t sound great by your own description. 

[NextG]

2 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

I just don't think having alot of lovers makes your abnormal or dysfunctional. On any level. At least under 500, anyway. Just my opinion. 

Your bar is set so low… you must be an expert limbo dancer ???? 

[fredwiggy]

17 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

Those are real numbers. Confirmed many times over. Men just don't like to admit they ended up with a bar girl who had 1,950 men before he came along. 10 years ago, I knew some hot women who worked in massage shops, who did 3-7 guys a day. They worked 6 days a week for 3 years. You run the numbers, even at the low end. I know a gal who worked in Singapore at a top shop. The sessions were 35 minutes. Over 10 a day, 6 days a week, for 19 months. Granted she is drop dead gorgeous, with a body that would stop traffic. She seems fairly normal now, but can't conceive a child. No wonder. 

If what you were referring to was bar girls, sure, they might have that many in their lives. Normal women no. A woman who has 50-500 men or more has suffered damage way before she started dating.

Edited August 7, 2023 by fredwiggy

[fredwiggy]

12 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

I just don't think having alot of lovers makes your abnormal or dysfunctional. On any level. At least under 500, anyway. Just my opinion. 

Once you get past 60 you're in another territory as far as mental illness is concerned. Unless of course she has been married 35 times, in which case we're getting into another realm of insanity.

[JackGats]

A girl who was studying for the bar was keen on me back then. Though not ugly, she was no looker either. I don't regret having passed.

[brianthainess]

Yes 'coz she'll have an income 

[MrJ2U]

I married a stripper.

 

Been married 10 years with two kids.

 

Best decision I ever made. 

[FruitPudding]

1 hour ago, NextG said:

This old chestnut again… trotted out by those who buy their women and try to justify it. 
I haven’t ever had a ‘western’ woman depend on me for money. They didn’t ask and also paid their way. 

I love hearing these fairytales of female CEOs marrying the janitor. Really warms my heart.

 

It's usually a beer bum on a bar stool telling me how he's got this Hiso Thai dame. ????

[zhounan]

A wife pretend that you pay for her meals, she sometimes want to make sex, and she's always around you.

 

A rented girl pretend that you pay for her meals, after that you make sex, and then she go, so you can change another one the next week, or next month.

 

Who is better?

[save the frogs]

2 hours ago, NextG said:

This old chestnut again… trotted out by those who buy their women and try to justify it. 
I haven’t ever had a ‘western’ woman depend on me for money. They didn’t ask and also paid their way. 

even if they pay and don't explicitly ask for money, there can often be subtle hostility in many relationships as the woman gets jealous when you go to a cocktail party and there is always another other couple that has a fancier car and bigger house.

 

some men look like fools to me as they spend their entire lives trying to please their wives, ever upgrading their cars year after year. and the wife still complains that it's not enough. 

 

and that's what many marriages are. not based on love. 

so please give me a break with the anti bar girl rhetoric.

civilized society has a dark side to it. 

 

I can tell you that in my family circle there is a multi-millionaire. And this taints everything. Because all the other wives expect THEIR husbands to be the multi-millionaire. And then men have to tolerate condescending statements where women are sometimes calling their husbands stupid for not getting rich because the other guy at the table is rich.

 

It's all a bit of a silly game. 

 

 

Edited August 7, 2023 by save the frogs

[NextG]

1 hour ago, FruitPudding said:

I love hearing these fairytales of female CEOs marrying the janitor. Really warms my heart.

 

It's usually a beer bum on a bar stool telling me how he's got this Hiso Thai dame. ????

You making things up? Like one of those bums on bar stools?

[NextG]

10 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

even if they pay and don't explicitly ask for money, there can often be subtle hostility in many relationships as the woman gets jealous when you go to a cocktail party and there is always another other couple that has a fancier car and bigger house.

 

some men look like fools to me as they spend their entire lives trying to please their wives, ever upgrading their cars year after year.

 

and that's what many marriages are. not based on love. 

so please give me a break with the anti bar girl rhetoric.

civilized society has a dark side to it. 

 

Where did you read anti-bar girl rhetoric and what has your story of men upgrading their cars to please their wives to do with me? 
I get it… you don’t want to be them. So instead you’ll rent yourself a ???? 

Up to you. You don’t need to justify it to me. This is just a discussion board, wherein we can air our different perspectives on life. 

Edited August 7, 2023 by NextG

[MangoKorat]

I'm going to go back to sleep and see if this thread is still here when I wake up again - I must be imagining this - I'm sure I've seen this question before somewhere, about 25 years ago!

Edited August 7, 2023 by MangoKorat

[MangoKorat]

5 hours ago, NextG said:

I haven’t ever had a ‘western’ woman depend on me for money. They didn’t ask and also paid their way. 

Until the divorce that is................................................................

[jimn]

I would never ever marry a bar girl. I would however marry a gogo girl. 

 

In fact I did in 2014 after being with her since 2011. We are still very happily married in 2023. We split our time between the UK and Thailand, my family love her. We have loads in common despite the age difference. Me 67 and her 31.

 

[SAFETY FIRST]

On 8/5/2023 at 8:15 AM, bob smith said:

why on earth would a western bloke marry a bar girl?

I reckon most of these guys are below the age of 50, they are looking for a convenient, affordable way to live and stay in Thailand. This is also the case for those over 50yo, they can live here cheaply, if married. 

 

I started living here in my 30's, I've been working offshore, on a monthly rotation, before I turned 50 I would just fly in on a 30 day visa, the bar girl husband's can't do this.  

 

[SAFETY FIRST]

On 8/5/2023 at 8:15 AM, bob smith said:

I see them pretty much daily. all over weight, bald, with no teeth

That's OK, plenty of Thai guys in the village for a horny bar girl to have a good time with. 

 

Bald, overweight, unfit, probably not going to satisfy a youngish ex bar girl. 

 

Woman peak sexually in their 30's where us guys peak in our teenage years. 

 

Edited August 7, 2023 by SAFETY FIRST

[nglodnig]

On 8/5/2023 at 5:12 AM, bbko said:

More mindless drivel, where's that ignore button?

Just found it.

[spidermike007]

10 hours ago, NextG said:

Your bar is set so low… you must be an expert limbo dancer ???? 

Either that, or we have a different opinion, when it comes to the resilience of the human spirit, and the causes of mental health issues. I know many women in the US and here, who have had sex with at least two men a week over a period of many years. That is hundreds. I do not think they are "damaged", on any level. Maybe the idea you are looking for is impure or degraded? 

[BritManToo]

11 hours ago, bob smith said:

well ive got one.

 

so whats next?

You've got one, but you're not happy with her ..............

[fredwiggy]

2 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

That's OK, plenty of Thai guys in the village for a horny bar girl to have a good time with. 

 

Bald, overweight, unfit, probably not going to satisfy a youngish ex bar girl. 

 

Woman peak sexually in their 30's where us guys peak in our teenage years. 

 

Good example to speak for yourself. Peaking has nothing to do with satisfying another. Teenager doesn't have the patience and experience, nor desire, to satisfy a woman. It's all about his getting off, leaving the girl wanting more. Plenty of non caring, no foreplay locals don't add up to a man that knows what a woman needs in love making. Again, the woman is left hanging while the man gets off, which by the way, is a good reason a smart woman wants an older man, besides the possibility of being employed or retired. A caring man can satisfy any woman that hasn't had 100 men and doesn't look at sex as love making but, hurry up and get off and leave the money on the night stand. And bald, overweight or unfit has nothing to do with performance. I'm neither if you were thinking that.

[BritManToo]

9 hours ago, save the frogs said:

And then men have to tolerate condescending statements where women are sometimes calling their husbands stupid for not getting rich because the other guy at the table is rich.

Answer: "and you're ugly for not being able to get a multi-millionaire."

[fredwiggy]

21 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

Either that, or we have a different opinion, when it comes to the resilience of the human spirit, and the causes of mental health issues. I know many women in the US and here, who have had sex with at least two men a week over a period of many years. That is hundreds. I do not think they are "damaged", on any level. Maybe the idea you are looking for is impure or degraded? 

Saying you know many woman doesn't mean you know them as far as mental issues. And I'm thinking you don't know many women who do this unless you are deep in the bar scene and have been for a long time. A smile doesn't take away pain but masks it. A woman who has sex with two or more men a week is damaged for sure. Why would she engage in such promiscuity? It isn't something to feed their egos like some men do, because no one looks at you as something besides a whore or prostitute, if you're being paid, which is pretty much the same in the long run. Impure and degraded also. Damage happens early in life, as noted earlier, and comes out with risky decisions with regards to multiple partners, drug and alcohol abuse, and increases the chances tenfold of getting an STD. This is a good read.................https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201304/the-long-term-psychological-effects-of-having-multiple-sex

[bignok]

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

Saying you know many woman doesn't mean you know them as far as mental issues. And I'm thinking you don't know many women who do this unless you are deep in the bar scene and have been for a long time. A smile doesn't take away pain but masks it. A woman who has sex with two or more men a week is damaged for sure. Why would she engage in such promiscuity? It isn't something to feed their egos like some men do, because no one looks at you as something besides a whore or prostitute, if you're being paid, which is pretty much the same in the long run. Impure and degraded also. Damage happens early in life, as noted earlier, and comes out with risky decisions with regards to multiple partners, drug and alcohol abuse, and increases the chances tenfold of getting an STD. This is a good read.................https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201304/the-long-term-psychological-effects-of-having-multiple-sex

Any woman doing that has issues but everyone has issues.

 

Life makes no sense.

[NextG]

7 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Either that, or we have a different opinion, when it comes to the resilience of the human spirit, and the causes of mental health issues. I know many women in the US and here, who have had sex with at least two men a week over a period of many years. That is hundreds. I do not think they are "damaged", on any level. Maybe the idea you are looking for is impure or degraded? 

Sounds like you’ve spent a lot of time with prostitute(let’s call them escorts so as not to offend your sensibilities).  The low standards are so far embedded, that it feels completely normal to you. How else could you justify your lifestyle?

Are you the best judge of someone who is damaged, especially if you are similarly so inclined? Hint… I don’t pay women to have sex with me… ever. For you, it’s probably no different from ordering breakfast. 

[Goat]

19 hours ago, save the frogs said:

Tag Team anti bar girl crusade Bob and Goat. 

 

Not anti bargirl.

but think you must be a bit off mentally to be seen in public with one. 

Let alone marry one.

[NextG]

6 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Saying you know many woman doesn't mean you know them as far as mental issues. And I'm thinking you don't know many women who do this unless you are deep in the bar scene and have been for a long time. A smile doesn't take away pain but masks it. A woman who has sex with two or more men a week is damaged for sure. Why would she engage in such promiscuity? It isn't something to feed their egos like some men do, because no one looks at you as something besides a whore or prostitute, if you're being paid, which is pretty much the same in the long run. Impure and degraded also. Damage happens early in life, as noted earlier, and comes out with risky decisions with regards to multiple partners, drug and alcohol abuse, and increases the chances tenfold of getting an STD. This is a good read.................https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201304/the-long-term-psychological-effects-of-having-multiple-sex

I got to know quite a few of the girls as friends and thus, they would open up to me. I remember vividly one girl telling me about a man who was sending her money, perhaps 20,000 per month and every now and again he would visit Thailand. She said that he would have sex with her, even if she didn’t want it… “I hate him, I hate him, I hate him” were her words. This one of very many examples. 
Fools believing that money can buy love…

[fredwiggy]

7 minutes ago, NextG said:

I got to know quite a few of the girls as friends and thus, they would open up to me. I remember vividly one girl telling me about a man who was sending her money, perhaps 20,000 per month and every now and again he would visit Thailand. She said that he would have sex with her, even if she didn’t want it… “I hate him, I hate him, I hate him” were her words. This one of very many examples. 
Fools believing that money can buy love…

There's a girl that has a shop near my girlfriend's house that sells booze. Men come from all around, many married, to flirt with this bimbo. She has a child from a Thai, who doesn't help, according to her, and another from a farang who sends money every month. My gf told me the girl said she was getting 80,000 a month from another farang out of country. That's over 2K in USD, and was BS., at least to me and everyone else I've talked to. No one in their right mind would send that much to a girl he's never met, and many people don't even earn that much a month anyway. It's bragging rights to exaggerate here, and doesn't look good anyway. She looks okay, but is near the age where things will start to fall apart, especially since she doesn't exercise and only goes by her genetics, which don't last, to find clueless farangs to leech off. People like this end up all alone, or with a typical overweight farang who will do anything to have a younger girl, even if she's had 2 kids from two men. Nothing lasts forever, especially looks. Some it seems are happy to get money from different compass points and happy if the man never comes anyway, as long as that cash keeps coming. Sadly, there are a lot of idiots that send money to girls they might never meet, in the hope they can bed a Thai girl someday.

[YITB1980]

100 years from now, will it make any difference with whom you spent your time and what her occupation was at the time you first met her?