Would you ever marry a bar girl? If so, why?

[nglodnig]

On 8/5/2023 at 5:12 AM, bbko said:

More mindless drivel, where's that ignore button?

Just found it.

[spidermike007]

10 hours ago, NextG said:

Your bar is set so low… you must be an expert limbo dancer ???? 

Either that, or we have a different opinion, when it comes to the resilience of the human spirit, and the causes of mental health issues. I know many women in the US and here, who have had sex with at least two men a week over a period of many years. That is hundreds. I do not think they are "damaged", on any level. Maybe the idea you are looking for is impure or degraded? 

[BritManToo]

11 hours ago, bob smith said:

well ive got one.

 

so whats next?

You've got one, but you're not happy with her ..............

[fredwiggy]

2 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

That's OK, plenty of Thai guys in the village for a horny bar girl to have a good time with. 

 

Bald, overweight, unfit, probably not going to satisfy a youngish ex bar girl. 

 

Woman peak sexually in their 30's where us guys peak in our teenage years. 

 

Good example to speak for yourself. Peaking has nothing to do with satisfying another. Teenager doesn't have the patience and experience, nor desire, to satisfy a woman. It's all about his getting off, leaving the girl wanting more. Plenty of non caring, no foreplay locals don't add up to a man that knows what a woman needs in love making. Again, the woman is left hanging while the man gets off, which by the way, is a good reason a smart woman wants an older man, besides the possibility of being employed or retired. A caring man can satisfy any woman that hasn't had 100 men and doesn't look at sex as love making but, hurry up and get off and leave the money on the night stand. And bald, overweight or unfit has nothing to do with performance. I'm neither if you were thinking that.

[BritManToo]

9 hours ago, save the frogs said:

And then men have to tolerate condescending statements where women are sometimes calling their husbands stupid for not getting rich because the other guy at the table is rich.

Answer: "and you're ugly for not being able to get a multi-millionaire."

[fredwiggy]

21 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

Either that, or we have a different opinion, when it comes to the resilience of the human spirit, and the causes of mental health issues. I know many women in the US and here, who have had sex with at least two men a week over a period of many years. That is hundreds. I do not think they are "damaged", on any level. Maybe the idea you are looking for is impure or degraded? 

Saying you know many woman doesn't mean you know them as far as mental issues. And I'm thinking you don't know many women who do this unless you are deep in the bar scene and have been for a long time. A smile doesn't take away pain but masks it. A woman who has sex with two or more men a week is damaged for sure. Why would she engage in such promiscuity? It isn't something to feed their egos like some men do, because no one looks at you as something besides a whore or prostitute, if you're being paid, which is pretty much the same in the long run. Impure and degraded also. Damage happens early in life, as noted earlier, and comes out with risky decisions with regards to multiple partners, drug and alcohol abuse, and increases the chances tenfold of getting an STD. This is a good read.................https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201304/the-long-term-psychological-effects-of-having-multiple-sex

[bignok]

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

Saying you know many woman doesn't mean you know them as far as mental issues. And I'm thinking you don't know many women who do this unless you are deep in the bar scene and have been for a long time. A smile doesn't take away pain but masks it. A woman who has sex with two or more men a week is damaged for sure. Why would she engage in such promiscuity? It isn't something to feed their egos like some men do, because no one looks at you as something besides a whore or prostitute, if you're being paid, which is pretty much the same in the long run. Impure and degraded also. Damage happens early in life, as noted earlier, and comes out with risky decisions with regards to multiple partners, drug and alcohol abuse, and increases the chances tenfold of getting an STD. This is a good read.................https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201304/the-long-term-psychological-effects-of-having-multiple-sex

Any woman doing that has issues but everyone has issues.

 

Life makes no sense.

[NextG]

7 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Either that, or we have a different opinion, when it comes to the resilience of the human spirit, and the causes of mental health issues. I know many women in the US and here, who have had sex with at least two men a week over a period of many years. That is hundreds. I do not think they are "damaged", on any level. Maybe the idea you are looking for is impure or degraded? 

Sounds like you’ve spent a lot of time with prostitute(let’s call them escorts so as not to offend your sensibilities).  The low standards are so far embedded, that it feels completely normal to you. How else could you justify your lifestyle?

Are you the best judge of someone who is damaged, especially if you are similarly so inclined? Hint… I don’t pay women to have sex with me… ever. For you, it’s probably no different from ordering breakfast. 

[Goat]

19 hours ago, save the frogs said:

Tag Team anti bar girl crusade Bob and Goat. 

 

Not anti bargirl.

but think you must be a bit off mentally to be seen in public with one. 

Let alone marry one.

[NextG]

6 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Saying you know many woman doesn't mean you know them as far as mental issues. And I'm thinking you don't know many women who do this unless you are deep in the bar scene and have been for a long time. A smile doesn't take away pain but masks it. A woman who has sex with two or more men a week is damaged for sure. Why would she engage in such promiscuity? It isn't something to feed their egos like some men do, because no one looks at you as something besides a whore or prostitute, if you're being paid, which is pretty much the same in the long run. Impure and degraded also. Damage happens early in life, as noted earlier, and comes out with risky decisions with regards to multiple partners, drug and alcohol abuse, and increases the chances tenfold of getting an STD. This is a good read.................https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201304/the-long-term-psychological-effects-of-having-multiple-sex

I got to know quite a few of the girls as friends and thus, they would open up to me. I remember vividly one girl telling me about a man who was sending her money, perhaps 20,000 per month and every now and again he would visit Thailand. She said that he would have sex with her, even if she didn’t want it… “I hate him, I hate him, I hate him” were her words. This one of very many examples. 
Fools believing that money can buy love…

[fredwiggy]

7 minutes ago, NextG said:

I got to know quite a few of the girls as friends and thus, they would open up to me. I remember vividly one girl telling me about a man who was sending her money, perhaps 20,000 per month and every now and again he would visit Thailand. She said that he would have sex with her, even if she didn’t want it… “I hate him, I hate him, I hate him” were her words. This one of very many examples. 
Fools believing that money can buy love…

There's a girl that has a shop near my girlfriend's house that sells booze. Men come from all around, many married, to flirt with this bimbo. She has a child from a Thai, who doesn't help, according to her, and another from a farang who sends money every month. My gf told me the girl said she was getting 80,000 a month from another farang out of country. That's over 2K in USD, and was BS., at least to me and everyone else I've talked to. No one in their right mind would send that much to a girl he's never met, and many people don't even earn that much a month anyway. It's bragging rights to exaggerate here, and doesn't look good anyway. She looks okay, but is near the age where things will start to fall apart, especially since she doesn't exercise and only goes by her genetics, which don't last, to find clueless farangs to leech off. People like this end up all alone, or with a typical overweight farang who will do anything to have a younger girl, even if she's had 2 kids from two men. Nothing lasts forever, especially looks. Some it seems are happy to get money from different compass points and happy if the man never comes anyway, as long as that cash keeps coming. Sadly, there are a lot of idiots that send money to girls they might never meet, in the hope they can bed a Thai girl someday.

[YITB1980]

100 years from now, will it make any difference with whom you spent your time and what her occupation was at the time you first met her?

[fredwiggy]

It makes a difference now and in your future, and possibly your children's thinking, and their children. Although in a hundred years, and maybe half that, we might not have any more food to feed the population anyway.

[spidermike007]

1 hour ago, NextG said:

Sounds like you’ve spent a lot of time with prostitute(let’s call them escorts so as not to offend your sensibilities).  The low standards are so far embedded, that it feels completely normal to you. How else could you justify your lifestyle?

Are you the best judge of someone who is damaged, especially if you are similarly so inclined? Hint… I don’t pay women to have sex with me… ever. For you, it’s probably no different from ordering breakfast. 

Precisely. Now you understand me. Zero guilt or shame. I treat my woman like a princess. But, after many years the sex is marginal. Yes, I might be damaged. Ha! But, that is on me. Judge me all you want. Means less than zero. 

[NextG]

2 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

Precisely. Now you understand me. Zero guilt or shame. I treat my woman like a princess. But, after many years the sex is marginal. Yes, I might be damaged. Ha! But, that is on me. Judge me all you want. Means less than zero. 

I’m not judging. We are simply discussing. 

[BritManToo]

2 hours ago, NextG said:

Sounds like you’ve spent a lot of time with prostitute(let’s call them escorts so as not to offend your sensibilities).  The low standards are so far embedded, that it feels completely normal to you. How else could you justify your lifestyle?

Are you the best judge of someone who is damaged, especially if you are similarly so inclined? Hint… I don’t pay women to have sex with me… ever. For you, it’s probably no different from ordering breakfast. 

Low standards would be living with any woman over 50 years old.

[fredwiggy]

47 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Low standards would be living with any woman over 50 years old.

Guess you didn't like your mom or grandma.

[spidermike007]

2 hours ago, NextG said:

I’m not judging. We are simply discussing. 

Well, one could argue your description of low standards, was quite a value judgment. No offense taken. It takes alot more than that for me to take offense. But, I think that is a knock on both the women and my choices in life. One could argue that by hiring women, we are protecting our loved ones. It has been done throughout the course of history. Infinitely more discreet than a mistress. 

[Hummin]

3 hours ago, YITB1980 said:

100 years from now, will it make any difference with whom you spent your time and what her occupation was at the time you first met her?

Thats comforting for some, at least a nice to excuse themselves for their actions. 

 

Anyway bar girls treads will never end, and really do not understand why people who never will touch one have so much to say about it? 

 

I really do not participate in the bar scene myself, but at least I can understand the women, and some men who do, but I really do not have any admiration for any typical bar mongers with no manners or empathy at all for those they use and abuse. Especially younger girls who can not say no! 

[fredwiggy]

15 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

Well, one could argue your description of low standards, was quite a value judgment. No offense taken. It takes alot more than that for me to take offense. But, I think that is a knock on both the women and my choices in life. One could argue that by hiring women, we are protecting our loved ones. It has been done throughout the course of history. Infinitely more discreet than a mistress. 

Who in their right minds would argue that hiring prostitutes is protecting your wife? Cheating has happened sine the beginning of man of course, but it doesn't make it right. Morality has gone downhill ever since then and what happens with the breakdown of a family, which cheating does? The breakdown of a family leads to every problem we have on earth caused by humans. Justifying cheating? Ask your wife is she's okay with that, then get back to us.

[fredwiggy]

12 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Thats comforting for some, at least a nice to excuse themselves for their actions. 

 

Anyway bar girls treads will never end, and really do not understand why people who never will touch one have so much to say about it? 

 

I really do not participate in the bar scene myself, but at least I can understand the women, and some men who do, but I really do not have any admiration for any typical bar mongers with no manners or empathy at all for those they use and abuse. Especially younger girls who can not say no! 

That's exactly why prostitution gets a hard rap. Many are forced into slavery by the scum of the earth, for profits, and men are the ones who buy these boys, girls and women. High society men included, as they can afford the higher priced ones. Most of the rest of prostitutes come from damaged childhoods or are forced into it by more lowlifes, their parents who need money. A woman that just gets into it because she wants a lot of money and is damaged isn't the ones a lot of us are against but the children that are involved in the traffickers and pimps lives. Men will buy women because they can't get normal women or can't get younger , prettier women because they are old and either unfit or unattractive. This has been going on for centuries. It's the young innocents that a normal man wants to see protected.

[Hummin]

3 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

That's exactly why prostitution gets a hard rap. Many are forced into slavery by the scum of the earth, for profits, and men are the ones who buy these boys, girls and women. High society men included, as they can afford the higher priced ones. Most of the rest of prostitutes come from damaged childhoods or are forced into it by more lowlifes, their parents who need money. A woman that just gets into it because she wants a lot of money and is damaged isn't the ones a lot of us are against but the children that are involved in the traffickers and pimps lives. Men will buy women because they can't get normal women or can't get younger , prettier women because they are old and either unfit or unattractive. This has been going on for centuries. It's the young innocents that a normal man wants to see protected.

And you have those who claim, the young innocent ones is not that innocent, and know exactly what they signed up for, and deserve every degrading use and abuse. 

 

On the other hand I cant like those who not in the bar scene degrading everything about the girls either. 

 

I have met girls in the bar scenes and kept contact with them over the years, and quite a few of them have ordinary lives today, and seems to do pretty good even many years later. 

 

This is connections from the time I was young and handsome, and partying for awhile and become friends with them, and even living in the same building as many different service workers as well, with a internet cafe at first floor. 

 

I got to know them from a different side than having them on my lap buying drinks for them. 

 

Even the bar girls have a heart, and are also human beings with feelings.

 

Dont treat them as trash, if you have nothing good to say, just leave them alone. 

 

However marrying a bar girl after a holiday or two, forget it! Only by time, you can now, and time is your safety net and your friend. 

 

If not sure you are sure, most girls is there to make money, but some good ones, just want to have a good bf, and some few is actually lucky! 

 

 

[NextG]

49 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

Well, one could argue your description of low standards, was quite a value judgment. No offense taken. It takes alot more than that for me to take offense. But, I think that is a knock on both the women and my choices in life. One could argue that by hiring women, we are protecting our loved ones. It has been done throughout the course of history. Infinitely more discreet than a mistress. 

Perhaps it was, though not meant in an insulting manner. 
I mean, if you had slept with 500 women, you might not have an issue with a woman who had slept with 150 men. 
So certainly a different standard. It’s relative, rather than a judgement. 
 

[Hummin]

What do you really like? 

 

https://www.facebook.com/reel/300648379159703?sfnsn=mo

[thaigrifter]

On 8/5/2023 at 9:38 PM, brewsterbudgen said:

Perhaps you should come here and you might find out!

I've lived in Thailand for over 6 years so I know the score. Prostitutes are for having a bit of fun with, not for marrying.

[thaigrifter]

On 8/5/2023 at 8:40 PM, sherwood said:

Yer and I only come for the culture and temples.

Grow up.

I must have hit a sore point, I'm guessing you married a bar girl.

[sherwood]

2 hours ago, thaigrifter said:

I must have hit a sore point, I'm guessing you married a bar girl.

Not a sore point at all, ten years on and happy enough, life is what you make it.

You sound bitter though.

Now go and run to your mamma, struth.

[save the frogs]

3 hours ago, Hummin said:

What do you really like? 

 

https://www.facebook.com/reel/300648379159703?sfnsn=mo

there's quite a few women selling used panties on craigslist.

so a lot of guys must be buying them.

and it allows the women to come on the cusp of prostitution without actually being a prostitute. its a gray area. 

[Hummin]

14 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

there's quite a few women selling used panties on craigslist.

so a lot of guys must be buying them.

and it allows the women to come on the cusp of prostitution without actually being a prostitute. its a gray area. 

Anything that works without degrading others is ok, or what? 

 

Smelly panties is not that bad if it works?

 

Me and my wife have a used t-shirt from each other when separated. A few hours used panties is also ok for me ????????????

[save the frogs]

4 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Smelly panties is not that bad if it works?