Would you ever marry a bar girl? If so, why?

[bob smith]

over the years i have read many stories about farangs who come to thailand, meet a girl in a bar and fall head over heels in love.

within a few weeks/months they are married and he is planning to take her back to his home country.

ive also met a few bar stool joeys with similar stories.

tellin me how much he loves her, and she loves him.

they've usualy known each other less than a month.

 

what are these blokes thinking?

are they that desperate that the only girl they can get is a bar dweller?

who probably had 1 or 2 guys for breakfast before you showed up.

 

i see them pretty much daily. all over weight, bald, with no teeth.

the girls love them. only because he is paying of course.

the girls dont even look at me when i sit on my stool.

im well dressed, not too old and speak thai.

they know that I know their game like the back of my hand. 

 

a fool and his money are easily parted. this is especially true when it comes to the bar scene.

why on earth would a western bloke marry a bar girl?

I just do not get it.

Edited August 5, 2023 by bob smith

[bignok]

4 minutes ago, bob smith said:

over the years i have read many stories about farangs who come to thailand, meet a girl in a bar and fall head over heels in love.

within a few weeks/months they are married and he is planning to take her back to his home country.

ive also met a few bar stool joeys with similar stories.

tellin me how much he loves her, and she loves him.

they've usualy known each other less than a month.

 

what are these blokes thinking?

are they that desperate that the only girl they can get is a bar dweller?

who probably had 1 or 2 guys for breakfast before you showed up.

 

i see them pretty much daily. all over weight, bald, with no teeth.

the girls love them. only because he is paying of course.

the girls dont even look at me when i sit on my stool.

im well dressed, not too old and speak thai.

they know that I know their game like the back of my hand. 

 

a fool and his money are easily parted. this is especially true when it comes to the bar scene.

why on earth would a western bloke marry a bar girl?

I just do not get it.

Girl with no teeth might be fun

[OneMoreFarang]

Looking at your previous posts it seems you are the one who thinks girls should entertain you for free.

And then you found out more than once that this didn't work out.

 

I guess you will marry a cashier... 

 

[observer90210]

Many get screwed with gals, in Thailand or in the West.  The only difference maybe is how the screwing is handled !! (no pun here).

[bob smith]

I just dont get it.

 

There are OTHER girls in Thailand that are fit for marriage that happen to not work in a bar.

[bob smith]

14 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Looking at your previous posts it seems you are the one who thinks girls should entertain you for free.

do you call buying all the girls at your table lady drinks entertainment??

 

sheesh. think id rather have a butlins cabaret singer at my table than that bunch of liggers!

Edited August 5, 2023 by bob smith

[2baht]

When are you taking on the Filipino family, Bob? 

 

 Where did you find Mrs Smith, Bob?

 

 

Edited August 5, 2023 by 2baht

[pomchop]

Take a good look around someday at the wives/husbands of a lot of western farangs....why would you marry someone who weighs two times you...why would you marry someone who nags you night and day?  Why would you marry someone who when it goes pear shaped takes half or more of everything you own.....it is not just thailand were some strange choices are made...in fact with many bar girls unless you are braindead you have a pretty good idea of what you are getting often moreso than with a western gal.

[OneMoreFarang]

12 minutes ago, bob smith said:

I just dont get it.

 

There are OTHER girls in Thailand that are fit for marriage that happen to not work in a bar.

Yes, there are. But are they better than the bar girls? 

Obviously you will be able you married a good girl. But that's about it. 

[stoner]

30 minutes ago, bob smith said:

who probably had 1 or 2 guys for breakfast before you showed up.

ewwww eggs over easy.

[bob smith]

2 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Yes, there are. But are they better than the bar girls? 

mrs smith has never asked me for a single penny. in fact, quite the oposite, she pays 80% of the time we go out..

 

Amazing what you can find when you open your eyes a bit, isnt it? ???? 

[marin]

29 minutes ago, bob smith said:

i see them pretty much daily. all over weight, bald, with no teeth.

the girls love them. only because he is paying of course.

the girls dont even look at me when i sit on my stool.

im well dressed, not too old and speak thai.

they know that I know their game like the back of my hand. 

Not to sure about this as one of your first threads was how you took a "girl" to Koh Chang and were shocked she expected to get paid. Not only that but for you were genuinely surprised at the predicament you had gotten yourself in.  By the way, when did "Mrs" Smith come along?

[BangkokReady]

2 minutes ago, pomchop said:

Take a good look around someday at the wives/husbands of a lot of western farangs....why would you marry someone who weighs two times you...why would you marry someone who nags you night and day?  Why would you marry someone who when it goes pear shaped takes half or more of everything you own.....it is not just thailand were some strange choices are made...in fact with many bar girls unless you are braindead you have a pretty good idea of what you are getting often moreso than with a western gal.

I realise that there are things like a lifetime together and kids/grandkids involved with older Western couples, but when you see a man with a giant woman who treats him like garbage, it seems like he just has to take it, because he knows that if he leaves his life will basically be over, no money, no access to the kids, completely alone, probably a social pariah.

 

Obviously everybody ages, but it kind of seems like something's up when a lot of what women bring to the table is their bodies, and men their income.  When a man is 50, he's still bringing in money, and likely will until he dies, but a woman at 50 isn't bringing much with her body anymore.  (I think it used to be that women were more careful about who they had sex with, so they sort of brought their chasteness to the table as well.  I'm not sure what the future holds for women who bounce from hook-up to hook-up.)

 

If you have the money, and you can work out an arrangement that suits you both, I can see the attraction in a sex-giving carer and maid.  Obviously the women must prefer this life with an old-timer more than life in the bar (despite what people say) otherwise they would stay in the bar.

 

If the girl is attempting to steal the man's money and still has a Thai boyfriend, then that's a different story.

[BangkokReady]

19 minutes ago, bob smith said:

I just dont get it.

 

There are OTHER girls in Thailand that are fit for marriage that happen to not work in a bar.

Do they want to marry the men who end up with bargirls though?

[KannikaP]

6 minutes ago, stoner said:

ewwww eggs over easy.

No no, LEGS over easy! 555

[roo860]

10 minutes ago, marin said:

Not to sure about this as one of your first threads was how you took a "girl" to Koh Chang and were shocked she expected to get paid. Not only that but for you were genuinely surprised at the predicament you had gotten yourself in.  By the way, when did "Mrs" Smith come along?

I second that, come on Bob.

[bob smith]

16 minutes ago, marin said:

By the way, when did "Mrs" Smith come along?

mrs smith has always been around,

 

do you want to see her ID card?

[Felton Jarvis]

I have no intention of throwing my life away by marrying a bar girl. Ladies with regular jobs are enough of a challenge. I have found them just as duplicitous as those in the bar. All of the women I dated had straight jobs. All were very dedicated to getting their hands on my money. Only one never asked me for anything. She ran off with a Thai man. My current live-in lady asks very little and is happy to have a roof over her head.

[2baht]

18 minutes ago, bob smith said:

mrs smith has never asked me for a single penny. in fact, quite the oposite, she pays 80% of the time we go out..

Bob, kill the suspense, where did you find her? ????You did'nt steal her from a drunk American in a bar now, did you?

[charleskerins]

What does it matter?  Why did they become a bar girl-abject poverty?  Our definition of good is maybe not a good definition.

[roo860]

8 minutes ago, bob smith said:

mrs smith has always been around,

 

do you want to see her ID card?

Yes please .

[BritManToo]

53 minutes ago, bob smith said:

they've usualy known each other less than a month.

 

what are these blokes thinking?

2 weeks in my case.

I was thinking I needed a new VISA, regular sex and a womb to gestate my baby in.

 

No mention of love, it was a purely expedient decision. And it's worked out far better than any previous choices I made for love.

[bob smith]

8 minutes ago, Felton Jarvis said:

I have no intention of throwing my life away by marrying a bar girl

me neither buddy. me neither.

[sqwakvfr]

It could depend on how long she has been a bar girl.  I saw an interview of a long term expat in Thailand and in essence he said  “you can the girl out of the bar but can you take the bar out of the girl”.  He said can someone who stays up all night, wakes up at 1200 and drinks really adjust to getting up at 700 AM to go to a low paying job?  

[Ben Zioner]

28 minutes ago, bob smith said:

mrs smith has never asked me for a single penny. in fact, quite the oposite, she pays 80% of the time we go out..

R u a barboy?

[bignok]

14 minutes ago, bob smith said:

mrs smith has always been around,

 

do you want to see her ID card?

Yes

[bignok]

We all end up dead. Why are people judging others so much?

 

Go do what you want

 

The year is almost over

[bignok]

7 minutes ago, bob smith said:

me neither buddy. me neither.

Yes kfc is better

[bob smith]

Just now, bignok said:

We all end up dead. Why are people judging others so much?

i just dont see the appeal of marrying a girl who works in a bar.

most are uneducated parasites.

 

sorry, nothing even remotely attractive to me about that!

[Dan O]

47 minutes ago, bob smith said:

do you call buying all the girls at your table lady drinks entertainment??

 

sheesh. think id rather have a butlins cabaret singer at my table than that bunch of liggers!

Didn't you find yourself caught  short of cash from that girl in Ko Chang a while back ?