AreYouGerman Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 2 minutes ago, Korat Kiwi said: What? Personally I don't really care or think about that if I'm thinking marriage or relationship. We aren't all perfect and if a woman already has experience, maybe she could teach me a thing or two. I certainly wouldn't be throwing big dollars just because of virginity. Way too much hype associated with that. I'm sure I could teach a few things too. I don't put $ values on sex and that's what virginity is, isn't it. Okay, sounds acceptable! For you! For me, marrying a virgin would be the preferable option. Can you accept my opinion or will you throw a tantrum and get offensive like the other guy? And about the $ - well, the question is dowry, right? So, it's a cultural thing. You can take it up with the culture, not with people trying to blend into the culture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Korat Kiwi Posted April 24 Popular Post Share Posted April 24 15 minutes ago, AreYouGerman said: Okay, sounds acceptable! For you! For me, marrying a virgin would be the preferable option. Can you accept my opinion or will you throw a tantrum and get offensive like the other guy? And about the $ - well, the question is dowry, right? So, it's a cultural thing. You can take it up with the culture, not with people trying to blend into the culture. I don't pay dowry. So if that's not acceptable to her famdamly then I'd walk. Culture be stuffed. 1 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bday Prang Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 3 minutes ago, AreYouGerman said: Okay, sounds acceptable! For you! For me, marrying a virgin would be the preferable option. Can you accept my opinion or will you throw a tantrum and get offensive like the other guy? And about the $ - well, the question is dowry, right? So, it's a cultural thing. You can take it up with the culture, not with people trying to blend into the culture. " For me, marrying a virgin would be the preferable option" An imaginary fantasy culture that only exists in your warped mind, So you still have not answered the question, Would you expect a woman to undergo a medical examination to establish whether or not she was a virgin prior to marrying her? In my country surgical procedures are available to restore virginity, but are exclusively requested by muslims, to prevent the need for honour killings. You may just end up with a repair job, how would you feel about that. ? Would you be needing to establish her anal virginity too? that could be a bit more difficult Either way I wouldn't worry about the matter too much, from what I can see from your posts, you will remain eternally single, perhaps you might consider an inflatable sex doll , get your self a roll of cling film and it could be party time every night. and your sexual prowess will never be questioned ..again 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AreYouGerman Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 Just now, Korat Kiwi said: I don't pay dowry. So if that's not acceptable to her famdamly then I'd walk. Culture be stuffed. Sounds a bit like neocolonialism. I would say let them make their own culture, without our interference. We should focus more about our White culture instead which is absolutely depraved right now. But honestly, I would only pay real dowry for a virgin, otherwise there is no proof that the parents actually invested time in the correct upbringing of their daughter. Dowry for a non-virgin sounds like a joke to me, but I would still do it for 'save face' reasons of the wife/family. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottiejohn Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 1 hour ago, AreYouGerman said: it's God with capital G. Looking in the mirror and talking about yourself yet again! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottiejohn Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 9 minutes ago, AreYouGerman said: We should focus more about our White culture instead which is absolutely depraved right now. We should focus more about our White culture instead which is absolutely depraved right now. Why only your so called "our White culture"? Are there no other cultures that should or could be focussed upon? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AreYouGerman Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 Just now, scottiejohn said: We should focus more about our White culture instead which is absolutely depraved right now. Why only your so called "our White culture"? Are there no other cultures that should or could be focussed upon? Didn't we Whites oppress other cultures in history? Why are you calling for doing that again? I mean, I get what you are saying, but in today's understanding I would not want to be called White supremacist for wanting to change cultures from other people/races. I agree, f. ex. there are still cultures out there that are cannibalistic. In that case and if I would be in a position to do it, I would try to change that culture even with the risk of being called racist by the leftwing. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bday Prang Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 12 minutes ago, AreYouGerman said: Sounds a bit like neocolonialism. I would say let them make their own culture, without our interference. We should focus more about our White culture instead which is absolutely depraved right now. But honestly, I would only pay real dowry for a virgin, otherwise there is no proof that the parents actually invested time in the correct upbringing of their daughter. Dowry for a non-virgin sounds like a joke to me, but I would still do it for 'save face' reasons of the wife/family. Some parts of white culture, indeed , specifically your part Would you broach the subject of the daughters virginity with the parents, would you expect them to contribute towards the cost of the medical examination or would she have to pay for that herself.? Personally I think if you requested such a procedure any doctor would refuse point blank In the interests of saving face, i hope you have been saving money in earnest for a very long time as any dowry you might be asked to pay would be astronomical Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottiejohn Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 (edited) 1 hour ago, transam said: Don't I know you from somewhere..........? 🤔 In real life? I hope not! PS; He appears to be from a galaxy far far away! Edited April 24 by scottiejohn PS added 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AreYouGerman Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 1 minute ago, Bday Prang said: Some parts of white culture, indeed , specifically your part Would you broach the subject of the daughters virginity with the parents, would you expect them to contribute towards the cost of the medical examination or would she have to pay for that herself.? Personally I think if you requested such a procedure any doctor would refuse point blank In the interests of saving face, i hope you have been saving money in earnest for a very long time as any dowry you might be asked to pay would be astronomical In a fundamental Christian families, ie. Baptists, the question about the virginity is mostly not required as the daughter would be still living with the parents and would not only involve asking her to get married but also the father and it would be made very clear what is expected and so. In case of the medical examination. Well, I am not extremely focused on the virgin part. As written, I would prefer it and there are countries where this choice is more likely to happen and I will try to make it happen soon 🥰. But, nope, I would let the act in itself be proof and we all know how this will look like with a virgin (not trying to be graphic). 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connda Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 Free - I point the kids to the Amphur office where they free to get married. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connda Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 On 4/20/2024 at 6:43 PM, malct said: My Thai wife's son is dating a Thai lady and now she is talking marriage even though she has only known my wife's son for 3 months and my wife is saying that its going to cost half Million in total plus the dowry . There's a sucker in every crowd. And a farang sucker funding every "traditional" Thai wedding. A million THB. <laughs> Run. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richard_smith237 Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 18 minutes ago, connda said: There's a sucker in every crowd. And a farang sucker funding every "traditional" Thai wedding. A million THB. <laughs> Run. Have you actually read the thread ???..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted April 25 Share Posted April 25 13 hours ago, AreYouGerman said: Well, it's your 10th post trying to engage in a discussion with me and 9/10 you got ignored. 🤣 The issue I have with your posts and why I am usually ignoring them is because it's only half a sentence. But I am in a really good mood and have time to address all your questions now! Go head! 🙂 Yes, I thought I knew you.........😉 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luuk Chaai Posted April 25 Share Posted April 25 I married my wife 16 years ago... she was 32 at the time and the Pinkey ( the baby in the family ) I paid for the 2 wedding bands ( gold was very low at that time ) her eldest sister put up wads of her cash and jewlery on the Sin Sod display trays to show boat ( she said that was old school and not fair to me ) and we split the bill for the reception dinner, Monks and ceremony at the Siam House in Bangkok ... quite spectacular food and atmosphere $1200/US for 75 people there was also the envelopes with 100Baht ea for the brides maids 1@ front door 1@ stair case to go up and 2 for the maid of honor at her dressing room door I gave her 1 and she smiled and said.. Oh.. you don't love her that much ? so I had to fork over a second.. ha ha ... Then at the end of the party when I went to retrieve my shoes .. i noticed her cousins all wearing sh*t eating grins,, so I paid 1 envelope and got 1 shoe back then ( me being somewhat of a smart ass..) I had some blanks with me and handed 1 over to get my other shoe back ... funny as hell when he opened it and it was empty. ( and we are still good friends to this day ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acharn Posted April 27 Share Posted April 27 On 4/24/2024 at 6:09 PM, Bday Prang said: Errrr.... They are married he has every right to comment on how his wife wants to squander money, I'm pretty sure my missis would have something to say if I returned from the casino 500,000 baht worse off, despite it being my money What contract are you referring to? I'm referring to the contract with the caterer, and possibly with the local wat who provide the monks for the chanting (I don't know if that falls under Thai commercial law, but I think not). I presume your wife depends on your support, so she has a right to comment on how you spend your money, unless ฿500,000 is a trivial amount to you. If you're married in Thailand, by the way, the money is half hers, not yours alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bday Prang Posted April 27 Share Posted April 27 1 hour ago, Acharn said: I'm referring to the contract with the caterer, and possibly with the local wat who provide the monks for the chanting (I don't know if that falls under Thai commercial law, but I think not). I presume your wife depends on your support, so she has a right to comment on how you spend your money, unless ฿500,000 is a trivial amount to you. If you're married in Thailand, by the way, the money is half hers, not yours alone. So presumably the OP's wife's money is half his too. So he has every right to be involved and comment on what she spends it on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elkski Posted April 27 Share Posted April 27 We sid our little village wedding for under 150,000 baht but im a cheap charlie and wife is frugal. Village women and some men cooked from evening till mext day. I bought 2 pigs 13k, friends decorated moms front yard, music guy was sorta related. Wife kept the invite list smallish. I recall it was touted as not everyone from the village or nearby villages coukd come, and she told people they weren't supposed to take bags of food home. The night chefs did take home plates for elderly family. For the next week we ate leftover pork and fed 6-10 neighbors. My first experience helping prepare and eat fresh cracklins. No sin sod. Wife got caught up in expectations and wanted as much as I would pay. Its a face thing. And a stupid tradition. After mom said she didn't want any sin sod things went my way. Listen to spidey, dont rush, if its meant to be it only gets better with time. Im sure a 30 yr old thai woman feels pressured to close the deal quick. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brianthainess Posted April 28 Share Posted April 28 On 4/20/2024 at 6:43 PM, malct said: Without really knowing the cost of a Thai Wedding , I just wonder if 500,000 Baht is about right . I believe that any dowry paid will be going back to the married Couple, That's if they do get married It cost me maybe 100b to get married. No sin Sod, no party, no ring. After I brought 0.5baht gold band. We went to Laos for a months honeymoon and 2weeks in Cambodia ( my wife had never been on a holiday in her life) Today 28/4 we will have for the second year running a garden house party, 9yrs married (25th my birthday 28th married 1st May wife's birthday). Last year 25 guests, catering people, i.e. food, whisky, beer, soda, coke, Tables, chairs, lights, and a Karaoke 20,000 Baht the lot. This year maybe 25k. 500,000 half a million would be better spent on a house deposit. Do the couple actually have/do any work ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brianthainess Posted April 28 Share Posted April 28 On 4/20/2024 at 7:03 PM, Callmeishmael said: So, 500,000 for a pair of working professionals, sounds about right. Nothing in the OP says they are working. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brianthainess Posted April 28 Share Posted April 28 On 4/21/2024 at 6:03 PM, malct said: I wasn't really aware of the money in the envelope and asking the wife , she is saying that it either goes to her son or to her , It depends on family tradition Start a new tradition tell her it goes to you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brianthainess Posted April 28 Share Posted April 28 On 4/21/2024 at 10:24 PM, malct said: she is on sales Which one is the Son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SAFETY FIRST Posted April 28 Share Posted April 28 (edited) On 4/20/2024 at 9:03 PM, still kicking said: My wife was a virgin when we got married. This is, by far, the funniest comment this year. 😂 Thanks so much for the Sunday humour 👍 Edited April 28 by SAFETY FIRST 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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