Let's suppose you married your Thai Wife when you were around 40 years old. The both of you are now 20 years older, living in Thailand.

Always assuming you are still together, what made it last? Your and your wifes physical atrraction has not increased over the years.

So, what is the "glue" that held it together for the last 20 years?

I changed 3 wives and I am proud of this fact. My current wife is Chinese, so she does not beg for money. I married 4 years ago, so I will return to this thread in 20 years.

4 minutes ago, swissie said:

Let's suppose you married your Thai Wife when you were around 40 years old. The both of you are now 20 years older, living in Thailand.

Always assuming you are still together, what made it last? Your and your wifes physical atrraction has not increased over the years.

So, what is the "glue" that held it together for the last 20 years?

Sex, quality sex, 

 

Relationships must be cultivated, like an garden. You stop caring, you finely have nothing to eat. At least not from your own garden. 

 

 

Coming up on 19 yrs ... so I'll get back to you next year 

I have been with my Thai  "Wife" for 36 years , just got around to marrying her last month, as the

divorce came through from my British wife ,I only really done it ,as not sure how long I have left, 

and thought it would be easier for her to sort out things when I do pop off.

 

She is a really great wife ,Trustworthy ,Honest,hard worker , a saver, not a spender,does not tell lies, even when I want

her too,does not smoke, drink,or gamble ,except flutter on lottery ,everything you would want in a wife ,maybe not as exciting

as some of you'd would like , but they are the ones that would steal everything you have and not leave you a pot to piss in ,

over the years have heard many stories of men  who have lost the lot, consider myself very lucky ....

 

regards  worgeordie

1 hour ago, worgeordie said:

 

 

She is a really great wife ,Trustworthy ,Honest,hard worker , a saver, not a spender,does not tell lies, even when I want

her too,does not smoke, drink,or gamble ,except flutter on lottery ,everything you would want in a wife ,maybe not as exciting

as some of you'd would like , but they are the ones that would steal everything you have and not leave you a pot to piss in ,

over the years have heard many stories of men  who have lost the lot, consider myself very lucky ....

 

regards  worgeordie

 

 

Reported for trolling.

9 minutes ago, Jeff Reinstad said:

 

 

Reported for trolling.

Good luck with that , you have 28 posts and you are reporting me for trolling , 

 

regards worgeordie

6 hours ago, Jeff Reinstad said:

Reported for trolling.

that's funny, thanks for the chuckle.  Almost as good as the one I got from Iran attacks Israel thread.

 

He answered your query, and reporting, I was obviously trolling, and get a pass 

Edited October 2, 20241 yr by KhunLA

Met Mrs Nik on Ko Samet when I came to tHailand in 2005. 

Were still together, married with a son in high school. 

When we met, I was initially attracted to her legs, hair, skin and humour.

Im still attracted to her, but now coming up on 20 years together, it s more her humour , intelligence, spirit, the way she takes caqre of me and generally how life is more interesting with her in it. 

She can sulk like a child, but there s no one I d rather party with or spend time with. she has never bored me, ever , which was aproblem with past girlfriends. 

She s also a great cook!

 

I have in the past been no angel and I feel bad for that now.

 

We've just passed the 20 year mark, I guess the glue is that my wife and I genuinely care about each other, plus we treat every day as a new start, despite any problems the day before.

11 years now with a wonderful woman. We have a very nice relationship, and take care of each other, and it's the longest lasting relationship I've ever had. But I have to admit that age has a lot to do with it, I have a couple of failed marriages and numerous failed long-term relationships behind me, and the main reason for those failed relationships was I couldn't keep my willie in my pants. But now I'm 77 and don't have much libido left, so staying on the straight and narrow is not difficult. 

>20 years together, not married.

I am/was her first boyfriend ever. I guess that helped.

I work mostly at home, so I have time for her, and I am not away all day. I guess that also helps.

She was and is most of the time a nice girl. Some years ago, she started with annoying nagging. I told her to stop. She didn't. I told her to visit her family or (female) friend for a while because I won't accept this nagging any longer. So, she stayed with a friend up country for two month and then begged me to come back. No nagging anymore.

Since then, no problems anymore - except some mornings when she is hangry. It seems this is something I have to accept.

We are happy together and I guess we will stay together forever.

Edited October 3, 20241 yr by OneMoreFarang

6 hours ago, worgeordie said:

Good luck with that , you have 28 posts and you are reporting me for trolling , 

 

regards worgeordie

He is just jealous I am married to my Thai wife for 21 years she also does not drink smoke or gamble 

If both 40 when married, now she is 60?

Sorry, after 40 or so, Thai women don't look very good in my opinion.  Many fail to take care of themselves and some seem to get round looking face and head not sure why.  Some call it potatoe head.  Not all Thai and don't want to be demeaning, just what I have noticed.  I am sure they are still lovable, but definitely not for me.  30 years younger at the minimum is acceptable. 

More is better.

8 minutes ago, bkk6060 said:

If both 40 when married, now she is 60?

Sorry, after 40 or so, Thai women don't look very good in my opinion.  Many fail to take care of themselves and some seem to get round looking face and head not sure why.  Some call it potatoe head.  Not all Thai and don't want to be demeaning, just what I have noticed.  I am sure they are still lovable, but definitely not for me.  30 years younger at the minimum is acceptable. 

More is better.

Excuse me ... wife is 48 next week, and still smoking hot, as are a few of her peers.

 

Choose wisely 😁

8 hours ago, worgeordie said:

,I only really done it ,as not sure how long I have left, 

 

don't die, I'm gonna miss

 

7 hours ago, worgeordie said:

regards worgeordie

 

4 hours ago, KhunLA said:

Excuse me ... wife is 48 next week, and still smoking hot, as are a few of her peers.

 

Choose wisely 😁

 

Don't look at her peers too much, would be my advice!

On 10/3/2024 at 7:25 AM, bkk6060 said:

Sorry, after 40 or so, Thai women don't look very good in my opinion. 

 

They can, however.

 

On 10/3/2024 at 7:25 AM, bkk6060 said:

Many fail to take care of themselves and some seem to get round looking face and head not sure why. 

 

They do, but then again, so do farang men. They become enablers of their mutually unhealthy habits, same as in Western countries.

 

You can have a fit, hot, good-looking older Thai lady IF you stay fit and healthy yourself (in your own best interests) AND encourage (insist) she do the same. Get her on low carb, in the gym regularly, and taking yoga classes. Takes time to get her on board, but it can be done, 'cause I've done it.

 

On 10/3/2024 at 7:25 AM, bkk6060 said:

  30 years younger at the minimum is acceptable. 

More is better.

 

Sounds good in theory, but the younger ladies who'd accept such an older farang tend to be immature, irresponsible, unreliable, gold diggers of the sort prompting so many horror stories here. Much to be said for older ladies who've worked in respectable jobs w/ an understanding of the real world and are more likely to have a modicum of sincerity.

 

But I agree that it depends on the individual. Just talking probabilities.

 

Edited October 4, 20241 yr by BigStar

Married at 50 and 23....married 18 years.

 

If anything...and this does seem odd....she has become more attractive.......(maybe because she bought me a house and farm?)

Well I'm 65 she's 55 we're both past the scene, more now 'shall we have a cup of cocoa and go to bed'

 

Been together since 2004, so we've gone the distance. Up's and down's, who doesn't

 

Kids are gown up, now we revel in juicing up the grandkids up then letting mom and dad settle them down lol

After 30 years it is the companionship that is most appreciated.

Been with Mrs MM for over 25 years and still going strong!!

Not married but living together for 25 years. When we met, she was 20 and I was 51. We have a brilliant son aged 22 still studying at university. She is adorable, fun and an exceptional cook. I took some extra kilos eating the food cooked by this Chef.

 

Life is good. I'm getting old and she takes a good care of me.

On 10/2/2024 at 10:35 PM, Hummin said:

Sex, quality sex, 

 

Relationships must be cultivated, like an garden. You stop caring, you finely have nothing to eat. At least not from your own garden. 

 

 

 

Plus  good every day respectful communications.

1 hour ago, Purdey said:

After 30 years it is the companionship that is most appreciated.

And a big part of that is good regular polite communications with good listening.

On 10/2/2024 at 10:28 PM, swissie said:

So, what is the "glue" that held it together for the last 20 years?

 

Love , friendship and mutual respect.

 

People say we both look good for our age , slim and healthy.

 

My wifes smile always was , still is and always will be beautiful.

4 minutes ago, Denim said:

My wifes smile always was , still is and always will be beautiful.

 

So the rest is terrible?

6 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

So the rest is terrible?

 

Like I said , slim and good.    At 67 ,  I'm the one on the slippery slope.

Just now, Denim said:

 

Like I said , slim and good.    At 67 ,  I'm the one on the slippery slope.

 

Slim is good. You can still be attractive at 80, but it is exceptionally hard. Lots of work.

On 10/3/2024 at 3:40 AM, worgeordie said:

Good luck with that , you have 28 posts and you are reporting me for trolling

 

Yet you have only 2 posts marked as ok... (20k) 🙄