Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration

[JimTripper]

On 10/29/2024 at 10:14 PM, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like men. 
I like boobs. If I can play with boobs for five minutes I am good.

 

Plenty of men over 50 with flabby chests around. Maybe you're not looking hard enough.

Edited November 4 by JimTripper

[RSD1]

6 minutes ago, Bundooman said:

So, within 5 minutes - you have a happy ending?

Yup, just as you're starting to clear the dew off the lilies, he's already onto to the second game in the series. 
 

Edited November 4 by RSD1

[RSD1]

4 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

Plenty of men over 50 with flabby chests around. Maybe you're not looking hard enough.

Why make it so complicated? Why don't you just offer him yours NowNow?

 

Edited November 4 by RSD1

[NowNow]

7 minutes ago, SoCal1990 said:

 

It’s revealing that you dismiss a genuine response as “word salad” and a “wall of text” rather than addressing any point with depth. You speak of “finite time,” yet seem to spend yours on brief, dismissive replies while sidestepping any real engagement.

 

One might wonder if the real issue isn’t actually time, but rather a reluctance to consider perspectives that disrupt quick, comfortable judgments. Real dialogue, after all, requires a bit more than cursory remarks.

 

You often imply you’re above these discussions, but your continual deflection suggests otherwise. If the critique truly didn’t matter, would you keep responding? Perhaps there’s something worth unpacking here, should you decide to engage a little more earnestly. I’ll look forward to your thoughts.

 

This I will read, as it's concise. 

Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration is the topic title. Dialogue encompassing that theme is why I joined the thread. Interesting and sometimes amusing posts from the likes of @thaibeachlovers Old school monger 😊

I didn't join the thread to engage with what seems like a crashing bore, just as I might refrain from stopping to talk to a strange smelly old man in the street.

We choose with whom we engage(given the choice) and I, from the first sentence of your first post, chose to not bother to read further. 😊

That's normal. Maybe there was something interesting in what you wrote, but your introduction and the fact that it appeared to have nothing to do with the topic contributed to my decision to not engage. 

Apologies if things didn't work out the way you would have liked. That's life. Chin up, you still have @scubascuba3 😊

 

[NowNow]

6 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

Why make it so complicated? Why don't you just offer him yours NowNow?

 

 

You've already admitted that you have put me on ignore 😊 So we know you are playing the game of sniping. 

It seems I mean a lot more to you than you do to me. Thanks, but I prefer women. 😊

[IC2000]

2 hours ago, RSD1 said:

Forget MBK. One has to visit Central Ladprao on a weekend. Any of the floors. The visuals there will surely fix any Mr. Softee problems. 
 

 

Central Lat Phrao is nice. I'm up there a few times a week. My top pick are the malls down by Chula. You get the Triam and Pathumwan HS girls as well.

 

Lat Phrao is Kasetsart, maybe UTCC and Horwang HS. For not being dead center Bangkok it's surprising what a magnet it is for beautiful women.

 

Union Mall isn't much but after school lets out pretty packed with teens.

[SoCal1990]

6 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

This I will read, as it's concise. 

Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration is the topic title. Dialogue encompassing that theme is why I joined the thread. Interesting and sometimes amusing posts from the likes of @thaibeachlovers Old school monger 😊

I didn't join the thread to engage with what seems like a crashing bore, just as I might refrain from stopping to talk to a strange smelly old man in the street.

We choose with whom we engage(given the choice) and I, from the first sentence of your first post, chose to not bother to read further. 😊

That's normal. Maybe there was something interesting in what you wrote, but your introduction and the fact that it appeared to have nothing to do with the topic contributed to my decision to not engage. 

Apologies if things didn't work out the way you would have liked. That's life. Chin up, you still have @scubascuba3 😊

 

It’s interesting to see you put so much effort into dodging substantive conversation while still finding the time to reply. You insist on skimming past anything that doesn’t fit your quick-take approach, as if a topic about “frustration over 50” somehow restricts dialogue to trivial sound bites. Yet here you are, fully engaged in a thread that you’ve claimed holds little interest for you. Perhaps that suggests more curiosity than you’re willing to admit?

 

You’ve used a few choice comparisons—comparing me to a “smelly old man,” calling engagement here a waste of time—yet those dismissals seem to mask a reluctance to actually consider the points raised. If this conversation were really beneath you, it’s odd that you’re putting in this much effort to excuse yourself from it.

 

What’s curious is that this entire discussion does reflect frustration, though not the kind you might expect. Frustration, it seems, isn’t about age or even others’ opinions—it’s about the inability to handle real conversation when it’s directed your way. If you’re genuinely here for meaningful dialogue, maybe the path forward is to engage beyond surface-level reactions. After all, even “old-school mongers” might appreciate a bit of depth every now and then.

 

So, if you’re still here, consider this an invitation to actually address the points on the table. Otherwise, we can simply agree that real engagement isn’t your thing, which is fine too. Let’s see if this exchange sparks any genuine interest for you.

[NowNow]

25 minutes ago, SoCal1990 said:

 

It’s revealing that you dismiss a genuine response as “word salad” and a “wall of text” rather than addressing any point with depth. You speak of “finite time,” yet seem to spend yours on brief, dismissive replies while sidestepping any real engagement.

 

One might wonder if the real issue isn’t actually time, but rather a reluctance to consider perspectives that disrupt quick, comfortable judgments. Real dialogue, after all, requires a bit more than cursory remarks.

 

You often imply you’re above these discussions, but your continual deflection suggests otherwise. If the critique truly didn’t matter, would you keep responding? Perhaps there’s something worth unpacking here, should you decide to engage a little more earnestly. I’ll look forward to your thoughts.

 

Yes, you are correct. I choose to spend my time doing lots of smaller more varied things than wasting time with you 😊

 

You can choose to make long winded posts with your time. That's your choice. I have nothing against it. I'm just not interested 😊

 

 

[SoCal1990]

7 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

Yes, you are correct. I choose to spend my time doing lots of smaller more varied things than wasting time with you 😊

 

You can choose to make long winded posts with your time. That's your choice. I have nothing against it. I'm just not interested 😊

 

 

Ah, you’ve shown up so quickly again—quite the predictable “smaller, varied” routine you’ve got there. If “not interested” means showing up to announce how little you care, it’s a curious way to prove it. Maybe for once, you could actually bring something substantial to the conversation rather than just a quick exit.

 

Seems odd for someone who values their time to spend so much of it reminding others of their “disinterest.” If the point is lost on you, don’t worry—I’m sure the others here will find it amusing enough to make up for it.

[JimTripper]

35 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

Why make it so complicated? Why don't you just offer him yours NowNow?

It's frustrating, as a man over 50, having to suck on a man's tit, but sometimes you need to do what you don't want to do. Don't worry, you can handle it. As it turns out nobody can do it like you can...

Edited November 4 by JimTripper

[NowNow]

1 minute ago, SoCal1990 said:

Ah, you’ve shown up so quickly again—quite the predictable “smaller, varied” routine you’ve got there. If “not interested” means showing up to announce how little you care, it’s a curious way to prove it. Maybe for once, you could actually bring something substantial to the conversation rather than just a quick exit.

 

Seems odd for someone who values their time to spend so much of it reminding others of their “disinterest.” If the point is lost on you, don’t worry—I’m sure the others here will find it amusing enough to make up for it.

 

Yes,as I told you. Keep it concise and I might reply. I also ate some fruit and did the washing up. But what does it have to do with Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration?

I have brought something substantial to the conversation. To the point where you have written thousands of words at me 😊

But keep it concise and I might give you a minute here and there.

Are you Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration? 😊

[ElwoodP]

Post mentioning US politics removed.

[MalcolmB]

46 minutes ago, Bundooman said:

So, within 5 minutes - you have a happy ending?

No I meant that I can go from flaccid to hard as a rock within 5 minutes if I can play with a girls boobs.

 

After that it is only a couple of minutes before the happy ending.

[NowNow]

13 minutes ago, SoCal1990 said:

Ah, you’ve shown up so quickly again—quite the predictable “smaller, varied” routine you’ve got there. If “not interested” means showing up to announce how little you care, it’s a curious way to prove it. Maybe for once, you could actually bring something substantial to the conversation rather than just a quick exit.

 

Seems odd for someone who values their time to spend so much of it reminding others of their “disinterest.” If the point is lost on you, don’t worry—I’m sure the others here will find it amusing enough to make up for it.

 

Yeah, so much laughter in the room at your post 😊 It was fairly obvious what you were trying to do, but you failed. Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration?

Just the usual suspects...😊

I hope you feel that you made good use of your time 😊

[RSD1]

15 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

It's frustrating, as a man over 50, having to suck on a man's tit, but sometimes you need to do what you don't want to do.

 

I'll take your word for it. I was only suggesting that you offer yours to him, but I didn't realize you were so inclined to return the favor as well. You must really enjoy it.
 

Also, why not change your other troll account's username to NotNow? It's the same name that all women call you by anyway.

[RSD1]

4 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

After that it is only a couple of minutes before the happy ending.

Wow, that's a big waste of an artillery round. I normally bake one in the oven for an hour before serving it up.  

[NowNow]

3 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

 

I'll take your word for it. I was only suggesting that you offer yours to him, but I didn't realize you were so inclined to return the favor as well. You must really enjoy it.
 

Also, why not change your other troll account's username to NotNow? It's the same name that all women call you by anyway.

 

Perfect illustration of why some people cannot maintain stable relationships and have to pay for their company. Immature old men.

[MalcolmB]

14 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

Wow, that's a big waste of an artillery round. I normally bake one in the oven for an hour before serving it up.  

I get tired easily

[Grumpy one]

On 10/29/2024 at 10:07 PM, MalcolmB said:

Sounds like you might be gay.

 

Try it with a man, let us know the results.

 

Good luck

Please tell us, how is it  

[NowNow]

Looks like there is a lot of frustration in these posts....

[Grumpy one]

On 10/29/2024 at 10:14 PM, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like men. 
I like boobs. If I can play with boobs for five minutes I am good.

 

So you like man boobs  

Who would have guessed

[scubascuba3]

49 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

Yes, you are correct. I choose to spend my time doing lots of smaller more varied things than wasting time with you 😊

 

You can choose to make long winded posts with your time. That's your choice. I have nothing against it. I'm just not interested 😊

 

 

You should look back at your posts to get real feedback, you get the most sad reactions of anyone on the forum that I've seen

[NowNow]

Just now, scubascuba3 said:

You should look back at your posts to get real feedback, you get the most sad reactions of anyone on the forum that I've seen

 

Aaawww....are you one who cares about the online 'reactions' of old sex tourists? 😊

Are you that insecure?

[soalbundy]

On 10/29/2024 at 9:51 PM, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

 I'm 76, old age is brilliant, I'm bald with good genes, a fit slim bodied old man with false teeth but no aches or pains, my wife and I have decided we've done our bit, let the young do all the huffing and puffing.

[JAS21]

if you are feeling old at 50 'WOW' ... i never felt old until I was 74 and that was caused by a bit of a heart problem after an operation. if you think that you are doing everything right them maybe its your genes that are not as good as they could be ... bad luck. So accept it, have a happy outlook and that will help.

[JimTripper]

12 minutes ago, JAS21 said:

if you are feeling old at 50 'WOW' ... i never felt old until I was 74 and that was caused by a bit of a heart problem after an operation. if you think that you are doing everything right them maybe its your genes that are not as good as they could be ... bad luck. So accept it, have a happy outlook and that will help.

Not if you can't maintain a healthy erection...

[Hummin]

9 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

Not if you can't maintain a healthy erection...

What have you done to research your problem? 

 

 

[NowNow]

23 hours ago, SoCal1990 said:

I’ve read through a number of your exchanges with other members, and most of them are never-ending pissing matches that go nowhere, particularly on topics related to women and the sexual activity of older men in Thailand—subjects that seem to dominate your interest and focus. It also strikes me that you post about these topics so frequently, despite giving the impression of being younger than others and having a well-educated wife from a good background—a partner you describe as financially independent, with whom you share a great sex life, a stimulating relationship, and a supportive social circle of friends. So, it seems you have little in common with these people, yet you are inclined to communicate with them for hours on end? It doesn’t make much (if any) logical sense.

 

Given all that, you seem to view yourself as on a different level than others here, frequently trying to belittle them. But what are you getting out of it? Based on your own descriptions, your life sounds much more privileged and very different from the lives of many others here. So why spend so much time focused on people and things you consider beneath you—topics that supposedly don’t relate to you and differ significantly from your own standards?

 

Honestly, I can’t figure it out, nor does it add up, especially when those you’re “schooling” don’t seem to at all appreciate your opinions or your condescending advice. So why do you do it? Do you enjoy provoking them and then enduring the backlash? I wouldn’t be surprised. There are men who are known to get off on triggering and then being abused by others.

 

From what I’ve read, you often come across as passive-aggressive, conflicted, and frequently flip-flopping on issues just to try and gain the upper hand or appear superior to others. The only conclusion I can draw is that perhaps you find some satisfaction in watching others struggle—it may fill some unmet need in your own life. It brings to mind Edward Norton’s character in Fight Club, who attends various self-help groups under false pretenses, just to watch others suffer and to feed off their pain, only to reassure himself that he’s in a better situation than they are, despite all the hidden pain and suffering in his own life.

 

Or maybe it’s the opposite—perhaps you’re like everyone else you put down but are hiding it, even from yourself, by pretending you’re different and above it all, somehow special.

 

Whatever the case, this approach doesn’t seem to be working well for you. It comes across as though you’re obsessed with other people’s difficult lives, not to help them, but to push them down further. As a result, nobody seems to appreciate your opinions, nor are you gaining any admiration or acceptance from others as the guru you appear to be striving to become. Ironically, many of the people you criticize seem more balanced, self-aware, and honest with themselves than you are.

 

Perhaps you’d benefit from reconsidering your own situation. Hijacking nearly every discussion about sex, men, and women in Thailand—topics that, by your account, don’t apply to you in any way—only makes your behavior seem strange, suspicious, and contradictory, and certainly questionable in many ways. If your life and your relationships are truly everything on a higher level, as you say they are, then what are you doing here scraping at the sh*t like everyone else?

 

Took the time to read. 

I accept your perspective. Posting here for me is like freezing a moment in time. It's not necessarily the way you would behave in a fluid situation. 

Not much aforethought involved, especially when multitasking. Often just quickfire replies in between doing something else. Now I have a moment, I can give it some more time 😊 I'm only human 😊

It's just like virtual arguing with annoying brothers and sisters. Every now and then we enter the fray for reasons unknown to ourselves. Often just reacting. But actual life appears far more fluid and harmonious, as you can give more appropriate time in a more fluid situation.

Very easy to get involved in quickfire snappiness online. Part of human nature I suppose 😊 We play fight. Helps to keep us healthy.

 

 

 

[SoCal1990]

14 minutes ago, NowNow said:

Took the time to read. 

I accept your perspective. Posting here for me is like freezing a moment in time. It's not necessarily the way you would behave in a fluid situation. 

Not much aforethought involved, especially when multitasking. Often just quickfire replies in between doing something else. Now I have a moment, I can give it some more time 😊 I'm only human 😊

It's just like virtual arguing with annoying brothers and sisters. Every now and then we enter the fray for reasons unknown to ourselves. Often just reacting. But actual life appears far more fluid and harmonious, as you can give more appropriate time in a more fluid situation.

Very easy to get involved in quickfire snappiness online. Part of human nature I suppose 😊 We play fight. Helps to keep us healthy.

It’s telling that you admit to firing off quick replies while “multitasking,” yet claim to now give this conversation its due “moment.” Somehow, despite these alleged bursts of spontaneity, your every reply is drenched in the same dismissive, superior tone—strange consistency for someone supposedly just “play-fighting” without thought. Your claim to being “only human” and calling this a lighthearted fray would be more convincing if you ever stepped beyond shallow jabs and face-saving laughs. That rigid persona, always “above” others while somehow “engaging” in every petty dig, doesn’t exactly read as casual or fluid; it reads like a script you’ve rehearsed so many times that it’s almost involuntary. But sure, let’s keep pretending this is all just good-natured banter and not some compulsive need to assert yourself, even as you dodge any depth or honesty. After all, we wouldn’t want to challenge that fragile superiority you cling to so earnestly, would we?

[SoCal1990]

5 hours ago, NowNow said:

 

Aaawww....are you one who cares about the online 'reactions' of old sex tourists? 😊

Are you that insecure?

Strange, isn’t it? For someone who supposedly despises ‘old sex tourists,’ you seem to spend a remarkable amount of time here, engaging with them and dissecting their every move. If you’re really above it all, why the need to keep returning, hour after hour, to this same ‘disgusting’ pool? Almost feels like you’re part of the club you claim to look down on.