After a very recent unpleasant encounter, my thoughts wondered around, as to why human beings become aggressive and abusive for apparently no valid reason. Some of us tend to attack anyone and anything who doesn't agree with our beliefs. Ironically, it seems with age, this tends to worsen!

 

I came across this article, and it kind of explains this phenomena in a very basic manner - yes, I guessed it right. Constant nitpicking is due to a psychological issue. I quote below an extract of the article, with a link to the full article The Psychology of Nitpicking: Why Do People Nitpick? at the bottom.

 

You ever met that one person who always criticized you? They always looked for what was wrong in the interaction.

Truth be told, the phrase ‘nitpicking’ seems a little ambiguous. In reality, a better way to view it as is ‘fault-finding.”

 

However, if you understand the PSYCHOLOGY of nitpicking, then it becomes much easier to understand why these people operate the way they do.

Rather than feeling rage towards them, you feel a sense of empathy. Let’s see if you can make this transformation today.

 

Why Nitpicking Needs to Be Ditched.
The reason nitpicking needs to be ditched is because it becomes a subtle drug. And this subtle drug soon starts to gain a stronger grasp of you. It FEELS good when you are nitpicking. It makes you feel like a virtuous being. ‘Look at me looking out for this low IQ individual. Thank God I am here to guide them’ you think.

 

That’s false talk right there. It’s the ego screaming in your ear. While your intuition is whispering that there may be another way. The more you nitpick now, the more you wanna do it in the future. Constantly fault finding. This leaves a trail of resentment along the way. The energy you put out there boomerangs back champ.

 

Your intention may not be bad. You may love the people you are nitpicking. But you’re making enemies.

Full article

Is this inspired by a certain poster here that is always nitpicking ? He is infamous for it as if it were his raison d'etre.

 

 

Edited November 17, 20241 yr by Denim

I'd like to know why some posters invariably shoot the messenger, and ignore or deflect the facts that are posted.

39 minutes ago, ravip said:

After a very recent unpleasant encounter, my thoughts wondered around, as to why human beings become aggressive and abusive for apparently no valid reason

It happens regularly here on AN forums. 

It was only yesterday I was agreeing with a member when out of the blue another member attacked me. 

 

I reckon it's narcissism at its best, some won't accept others having a different opinion to theirs. 

 

It's the keyboard warriors, these people wouldn't react with such hostility in person. 

 

I often have to remind others here that you can ignore comments, you don't have to react with hate, you can keep scrolling. 

 

 

Edited November 17, 20241 yr by SAFETY FIRST

Read this book and you will learn why women like to do that.

 

 

4 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Read this book and you will learn why women like to do that.

 

 

I bought and read this book a couple of years ago.

But now, it seems men are worse than women on this subject!

It's this face-saving thing that is been thrown exclusively at Thai people by a few AN members here - but, I see that here at AN almost on a daily basis!

Yes, it seems that nitpicking is a psychological condition, after all. 

3 hours ago, ravip said:

It makes you feel like a virtuous being. ‘Look at me looking out for this low IQ individual. Thank God I am here to guide them’ you think.

You don't think the stupid need guidance then?

 

I mean, I'm great at nitpicking (that colour isn't yellow, it's mustard) but your OP seems to be more about difference's in opinion, which is not nitpicking.

Edited November 17, 20241 yr by BritManToo

3 hours ago, Denim said:

Is this inspired by a certain poster here that is always nitpicking ? He is infamous for it as if it were his raison d'etre.

 

 

And the worst of it is, if you have a go at him and show him up for what he is, he will report your post and have it removed. Cowardly, ignorant man

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

You don't think the stupid need guidance then?

 

I mean, I'm great at nitpicking (that colour isn't yellow, it's mustard) but your OP seems to be more about difference's in opinion, which is not nitpicking.

Of course that's not what I meant.

 

In an anonymous public forum, it is very easy to call someone stupid. Unfortunately, most times we see the most stupid acting people accusing others as stupid, for the simple reason, the other does not agree with his/her train of thought.

 

"your OP seems to be more about difference's in opinion, which is not nitpicking" - Nitpickers are 'fired-up' by a difference in opinion IMHO

 

Further, in a forum such as this, everyone has the freedom to openly state their views (of course whilst adhering to all forum rules) , and if someone does not like what he reads and he has 2 choices - just ignore and move on. Or state his/her opinion in a civil manner. There is absolutely no necessity to call them stupid or whatever!

 

Some members herein has a strong feeling of entitlement, and act as if are in total control! What I am trying to imply very simply is that civility makes society that much more pleasant to live in.

 

My first language is not English, hence I might make many mistakes. I chose the word nitpicking as per the Oxford English Dictionary which states "To criticize (a thing) in an overzealous or pedantic fashion; to find fault with."

 

One must be very careful when calling another stupid, because he himself might be at a very high level of stupidity himself.

Just my 2 cents.

 

11 hours ago, Denim said:

Is this inspired by a certain poster here that is always nitpicking ? He is infamous for it as if it were his raison d'etre.

 

 

Is it OK to omit the accents in foreign expressions that have become accepted into English? Kenwhitameenanat, Jimmy?

8 hours ago, BritManToo said:

You don't think the stupid need guidance then?

 

I mean, I'm great at nitpicking (that colour isn't yellow, it's mustard) but your OP seems to be more about difference's in opinion, which is not nitpicking.

Mustard is a yellow hue.  I’ve always assumed it referred to English or American mustard, and not French mustard

6 hours ago, ravip said:

Of course that's not what I meant.

 

In an anonymous public forum, it is very easy to call someone stupid. Unfortunately, most times we see the most stupid acting people accusing others as stupid, for the simple reason, the other does not agree with his/her train of thought.

 

"your OP seems to be more about difference's in opinion, which is not nitpicking" - Nitpickers are 'fired-up' by a difference in opinion IMHO

 

Further, in a forum such as this, everyone has the freedom to openly state their views (of course whilst adhering to all forum rules) , and if someone does not like what he reads and he has 2 choices - just ignore and move on. Or state his/her opinion in a civil manner. There is absolutely no necessity to call them stupid or whatever!

 

Some members herein has a strong feeling of entitlement, and act as if are in total control! What I am trying to imply very simply is that civility makes society that much more pleasant to live in.

 

My first language is not English, hence I might make many mistakes. I chose the word nitpicking as per the Oxford English Dictionary which states "To criticize (a thing) in an overzealous or pedantic fashion; to find fault with."

 

One must be very careful when calling another stupid, because he himself might be at a very high level of stupidity himself.

Just my 2 cents.

 

Wise people see people with different opinions or education.

 Ignorant people see stupid people.

11 hours ago, Lacessit said:

I'd like to know why some posters invariably shoot the messenger, and ignore or deflect the facts that are posted.

If you attack the messenger, you can divert into personal bickering, rather than intelligent discussion.

14 minutes ago, StreetCowboy said:

If you attack the messenger, you can divert into personal bickering, rather than intelligent discussion.

Quite true.

Surely you're not still hurt because you posted a video without any context and people suggested you explain the video... 

 

 

49 minutes ago, StreetCowboy said:

Mustard is a yellow hue.  I’ve always assumed it referred to English or American mustard, and not French mustard

I think it refers to the flower

27 minutes ago, Yellowtail said:

I think it refers to the flower

That would be daffodil, to avoid ambiguity.  Mustard yellow is the mark of a trouble-maker…

9 hours ago, StreetCowboy said:

Is it OK to omit the accents in foreign expressions that have become accepted into English? Kenwhitameenanat, Jimmy?

Kenwhitameenanat, Jimmy? - I had to Google that, but could not find an answer!

But saw another AN post, posted on March 9, 2012 by you.

3 hours ago, ravip said:

13 hours ago, StreetCowboy said:

Is it OK to omit the accents in foreign expressions that have become accepted into English? Kenwhitameenanat, Jimmy?

Kenwhitameenanat, Jimmy? - I had to Google that, but could not find an answer!

But saw another AN post, posted on March 9, 2012 by you.

 

Going back 12 years ???...   thats a bit 'nit-pickey' isn't it ???

34 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

Going back 12 years ???...   thats a bit 'nit-pickey' isn't it ???

If you read it carefully, you would have understood that I Googled it.

Google found the post. I just mentioned it NOT as an insult.

Some of us are suffering with a chronic sense of entitlement syndrome even at an advanced stage in life. This might be due to senility?

 

Going back 12 years ???...   thats a bit 'nit-pickey' isn't it ??? - YOUR math is advanced, but otherwise _______________.

7 hours ago, ravip said:

8 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

Going back 12 years ???...   thats a bit 'nit-pickey' isn't it ???

If you read it carefully, you would have understood that I Googled it.

Google found the post. I just mentioned it NOT as an insult.

Some of us are suffering with a chronic sense of entitlement syndrome even at an advanced stage in life. This might be due to senility?

 

Going back 12 years ???...   thats a bit 'nit-pickey' isn't it ??? - YOUR math is advanced, but otherwise _______________.

 

I understood it clearly - you quoted something from 4637 days ago to try and score a point - rather nit-pickey !!! 

 

 

 

31 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

I understood it clearly - you quoted something from 4637 days ago to try and score a point - rather nit-pickey !!! 

 

 

 

Seems you are making Nitpicking a Picknick!

Cool down, it is bad for your health. In an anonymous forum you don't have to save face. Your arrogance is at boiling point, without you realizing it. Pathetic, really pathetic.

10 minutes ago, ravip said:

Seems you are making Nitpicking a Picknick!

Cool down, it is bad for your health. In an anonymous forum you don't have to save face. Your arrogance is at boiling point, without you realizing it. Pathetic, really pathetic.

 

Its funny being told to 'cool down' when I'm already perfectly cool... 

 

Kind of like a Caddy telling me to 'jai-yen-yen' after missing a putt that I really didn't give two hoots about... 

 

... even more intriguing is being told I'm at boiling point without realising it... 

 

Please - try harder... You are too easy to 'nit-pick' with the dumb stuff...  

2 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

Its funny being told to 'cool down' when I'm already perfectly cool... 

 

Kind of like a Caddy telling me to 'jai-yen-yen' after missing a putt that I really didn't give two hoots about... 

 

... even more intriguing is being told I'm at boiling point without realising it... 

 

Please - try harder... You are too easy to 'nit-pick' with the dumb stuff...  

I really don't want to waste any more of my time with someone who is suffering with an Entitlement Mentality. You are taking these threads off topic in your rage, pathetic, to put it very mildly.

 

I will NOT respond to any of your off topic outrages hereafter.

2 minutes ago, ravip said:

I really don't want to waste any more of my time with someone who is suffering with an Entitlement Mentality. You are taking these threads off topic in your rage, pathetic, to put it very mildly.

 

I will NOT respond to any of your off topic outrages hereafter.

 

Rage now...    thats rather hyperbolic...  (that means exaggerated to an extreme degree by the way)... 

 

When you capitalise the word 'not'... Is that like shouting ??? are you having a tantrum dear ravip !!.. 

 

 

This topic is about nit-picking... and there you are trying your hardest to 'nit-pick' at my comments... 

 

Isn't that hypocritical.... 

 

... And all because you posted a dumb video on another thread and got twisted out of shape because you didn't like the criticism you received...   all so very fragile. 

 

2 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

Rage now...    thats rather hyperbolic...  (that means exaggerated to an extreme degree by the way)... 

 

When you capitalise the word 'not'... Is that like shouting ??? are you having a tantrum dear ravip !!.. 

 

 

This topic is about nit-picking... and there you are trying your hardest to 'nit-pick' at my comments... 

 

Isn't that hypocritical.... 

 

... And all because you posted a dumb video on another thread and got twisted out of shape because you didn't like the criticism you received...   all so very fragile. 

 

 Nice representation of the OP’s question.

23 hours ago, StreetCowboy said:

Is it OK to omit the accents in foreign expressions that have become accepted into English? Kenwhitameenanat, Jimmy?

BTW what exactly does this mean - Kenwhitameenanat, Jimmy??

Just now, novacova said:

 Nice representation of the OP’s question.

7 minutes ago, ravip said:

BTW what exactly does this mean - Kenwhitameenanat, Jimmy??

 

Said with a strong Scottish accent. Several words strung together.

 

Ken = know

whita = what I

meen = mean

Anat = isn't it

Jimmy = mate

 

Hoots the noo , pretty clear so it is.

Just now, Denim said:

 

Said with a strong Scottish accent. Several words strung together.

 

Ken = know

whita = what I

meen = mean

Anat = isn't it

Jimmy = mate

 

Hoots the noo , pretty clear so it is.

Thank you.