Do you get on well with Thai People?

[BarBoy]

Just curious as to how AN members get along with their thai counterparts in general on a daily basis.

 

Feel free to answer the poll if you so wish!

 

Thanks and have a nice day 🙂 

[scottiejohn]

14 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

Just curious as to how AN members get along with their thai counterparts in general on a daily basis.

 

Feel free to answer the poll if you so wish!

 

Thanks and have a nice day 🙂 

It will be interesting to see if the Mods close this as post making anti Thai/Thailand posts are not allowed!

I most certainly will not vote!

[BarBoy]

Just now, scottiejohn said:

It will be interesting to see if the Mods close this as post making anti Thai/Thailand posts are not allowed!

I most certainly will not vote!

John, how is it anti Thai/Thailand when there is an option that says "Yes, I have many Thai friends"?

 

Can you explain that to me?

 

Thank you.

[BarBoy]

21 minutes ago, scottiejohn said:

I most certainly will not vote!

...but you will leave a reply!!

 

just can't help yourself, can you?

[richard_smith237]

Absolutely, I have developed many close friendships with Thai people, most of which began in my early twenties.

 

However, I’ve also come to believe that forming genuine friendships becomes increasingly challenging as we grow older. This challenge is amplified when it comes to building cross-cultural relationships, especially for those who move to a new country later in life.

 

Adding to the complexity is the influence of location, along with the stigmas and socio-economic dynamics tied to it.

In areas like Pattaya and Phuket, for instance, ingrained stereotypes can create underlying tensions. These tensions stem from noticeable socio-economic disparities, making it harder to foster authentic connections.

 

Many foreigners encounter Thais who appear to have ulterior motives, while some Thais meet foreigners who may carry an air of superiority or a reluctance to engage genuinely.... Consequently, such dynamics create barriers to forming meaningful and mutual friendships.

 

 

Further compounding this issue are behavioral and social dynamics within specific socio-economic and educational brackets. The ability to mix with individuals from a similar background plays a significant role in the quality of social interactions. A commonly heard piece of advice - “don’t drink with groups of poorly educated Thai men” - reflects a harsh but often accurate observation. Alcohol can exacerbate underlying tensions in such settings, making it even more challenging to navigate social boundaries.

 

 

 

 

[Ralf001]

Sure do, many great Thai friends and work collegues.

[BarBoy]

2 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

Sure do, many great Thai friends and work collegues.

Would you like to tell me what you guys do together?

 

Do you go to each others houses, hang out down the pub, go bowling, do lunch or something else?

 

thanks.

[Dan O]

46 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

Just curious as to how AN members get along with their thai counterparts in general on a daily basis.

 

Feel free to answer the poll if you so wish!

 

Thanks and have a nice day 🙂 

Glad the last option was included so bob can answer honestly 

[Will B Good]

No friends as such......my fault, too stupid to talk Thai......but with the exception of some males, 16-25??.....I find everyone I meet very friendly in the sense they will say 'hello', often in English, wave and smile.

[BarBoy]

31 minutes ago, Dan O said:

Glad the last option was included so bob can answer honestly 

...it is an anonymous poll so nobody knows who answered which way, so what you have said is nothing but pure conjecture.

 

Leave this bob fella alone, whoever he is, and if he decides to answer the poll, which he is more than welcome to do, then it shall be anonymous.

 

 

[Will B Good]

Just now, BarBoy said:

...it is an anonymous poll so nobody knows who answered which way.

 

Leave this bob fella alone, whoever he is, and if he decides to answer the poll which he is welcome to do it will be anonymous.

 

Thank you.

 

Have you any idea which option Colin would choose?

[BarBoy]

Just now, Will B Good said:

 

Have you any idea which option Colin would choose?

I could tell you which way I voted but I wont..

 

Kind of defeats the point of having an anonymous poll if I did!

[Ralf001]

2 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

Would you like to tell me what you guys do together?

 

Do you go to each others houses, hang out down the pub, go bowling, do lunch or something else?

 

thanks.

 

Yeah often to each others for BBQ's, mostly after a morning out riding the bikes

 

I don't do bowling or go to pubs all that often, one does own a great Karaoke bar in Sriracha, thats always a great night out.

[BarBoy]

3 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

 

Yeah often to each others for BBQ's, mostly after a morning out riding the bikes

 

I don't do bowling or go to pubs all that often, one does own a great Karaoke bar in Sriracha, thats always a great night out.

Interesting.

 

And do you usually converse with them in Thai or is their English proficient enough for a deep and meaningful conversation?

[Dan O]

6 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

...it is an anonymous poll so nobody knows who answered which way, so what you have said is nothing but pure conjecture.

 

Leave this bob fella alone, whoever he is, and if he decides to answer the poll which he is welcome to do it will be anonymous.

 

 

Come on bob stop the charade, everyone is on to you. 

[Ralf001]

Just now, BarBoy said:

Interesting.

 

And do you usually converse with them in Thai or is their English proficient enough for a deep and meaningful conversation?

 

Depends, some speak english, some do not.

Some that speak englsh don't really understand english... so we use Thai.

 

[spidermike007]

I happen to be incredibly fond of a lot of Thai people. I can't say I have a lot of close Thai male friends, though I do have some acquaintances. I do consider myself friends with a number of my woman's girlfriends who are just wonderful souls, kind, generous, funny and incredibly warm and pleasant.

 

I also find the average Thai person I deal with on a casual basis to be very pleasant. I think a lot of it has to do with what we bring to the table, I think if we bring a sense of kindness and respect and humor that Thais are very responsive to that. I think they're remarkable people. 

 

However to be perfectly honest I was less upbeat about your typical Thai when I lived on Samui, so I think if you're living in a major tourist area you are definitely running into a different breed of folks. A lesser breed. 

[BarBoy]

11 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

I happen to be incredibly fond of a lot of Thai people. I can't say I have a lot of close Thai male friends, though I do have some acquaintances. I do consider myself friends with a number of my woman's girlfriends who are just wonderful souls, kind, generous, funny and incredibly warm and pleasant.

 

I also find the average Thai person I deal with on a casual basis to be very pleasant. I think a lot of it has to do with what we bring to the table, I think if we bring a sense of kindness and respect and humor that Thais are very responsive to that. I think they're remarkable people. 

 

However to be perfectly honest I was less upbeat about your typical Thai when I lived on Samui, so I think if you're living in a major tourist area you are definitely running into a different breed of folks. A lesser breed. 

I agree that a lot depends on where one is currently living.

 

As someone who has spent a considerable amount of time in tourist ghettos over the years I think this may have jaded me somewhat.

 

When you are in a situation like one where as soon as you leave your front door thai people are on the street looking to scam you, then I think it taints ones perception of locals after a while and can foster a certain amount of negativity in the long run..

[novacova]

Generally get along with everyone except for those that so insecure about themselves that they need validation and notoriety. And never got along with non productive people that don’t produce for the positive, it seems to be a character flaw that covers their entire existence, this includes everyone on the negative end of this spectrum. Other than that, I’m open to all friendly people.

[BarBoy]

Just now, novacova said:

Other than that, I’m open to all friendly people.

why do they have to be friendly for you to be open to them?

 

 

[novacova]

1 minute ago, BarBoy said:

why do they have to be friendly for you to be open to them?

 

 

I didn’t say that…

2 minutes ago, novacova said:

Other than that, I’m open to all friendly people.

I generally don’t like to be around the rude & unfriendly 

[BangkokReady]

1 minute ago, BarBoy said:

why do they have to be friendly for you to be open to them?

 

You should read How to Win Friends and Influence People.  One of the key takeaways is that people like to feel important.  You might also have heard "people don't care what you do, but how you make them feel".

 

Friendliness supposes a certain amount of respect.  If someone is "friendly", they're making time for people, taking an interest in their lives, making sure they are safe and happy.  That's fairly high on the making someone feel important scale.

[BarBoy]

3 minutes ago, novacova said:

I didn’t say that…

I generally don’t like to be around the rude & unfriendly 

Fair enough.

 

Have you ever encountered any rude Thais before?

[BangkokReady]

37 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

some Thais meet foreigners who may carry an air of superiority or a reluctance to engage genuinely...

 

Any chance of a foreigner coming across this in a Thai?

[RSD1]

bob, I often get a good giggle out of some of your topics, but this one you've done too many times already in one form or another with regards to having Thai friends, and male Thai friends specifically, that I can't even be arsed to join in the melee. So this yarn has become an old minger of yours already. No need to rehash the same topic over and over again by simply window dressing it with a new title each time. We already know you don't like Thai men, so why not simply just leave it at that?

[BarBoy]

Just now, RSD1 said:

bob, I often get a good giggle out of some of your topics, but this one you've done too many times already in one form or another with regards to having Thai friends, and male Thai friends specifically, that I can't even be arsed to join in the melee. So this yarn has become an old minger of yours already. No need to rehash the same topic over and over again by simply window dressing it with a new title each time. We already know you don't like Thai men, so why not simply just leave it at that?

You are confusing me with someone else, again.

 

Never mind, just vote and be on your way!

[novacova]

Yes, a lot of them. Most of which are not from the north. The worst come from bkk, even the local folks here are comment on it “not lanna people“

[RSD1]

Just now, BarBoy said:

You are confusing me with someone else, again.

 

Never mind, just vote and be on your way!

I'm voting by just being on my way. There is nothing more to add on this tired old topic for the umpteenth time already. Do you want me to link the other half a dozen topics you've already started on this whole "Thai friends" thing?
 

Sorry, I'm also totally bored of the whole Collin/Bob identity game.  Enough is enough already. Not one person on this forum believes that you aren't the same poster as bob smith. So man up and stop trying to play everyone for a fool.

[sqwakvfr]

Get along fine with most Thai  people as long as the contact is brief.  Get along with the people who work in my apartment building and the usual places that I go on a regular basis.  Never had a Thai friend because it just seemed like they were confused because I  am  an Asian guy who spoke fluen English and claimed to be an American who is a life long fan of football(the ones where people wear hemets) and baseall and not cricket.  I try and avoid having confrontations wth Thai people  and for the last several years have been successful on this front. 

[SoCal1990]

1 hour ago, BarBoy said:

Just curious as to how AN members get along with their thai counterparts in general on a daily basis.

 

Feel free to answer the poll if you so wish!

 

Thanks and have a nice day 🙂 

I don't have any Thai friends. I only spend time with pregnant looking British mingers in Thailand.