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meeting a lady that doesn't need your money

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On 5/9/2025 at 5:51 AM, Prubangboy said:

Yeah, shoes are nice,  but she's got iron-clad responsibilities.

 

I am loving (so far) being with someone with plenty of money and zero responsibilities. Like myself.

 

AseanNow-only problem: She's 58.

 

Yoga body, tho.

 

 

Evolution just didn't hard wire us to find post menopausal women attractive. And without feeling delighted every time you see her face, what's the point of trying? Great to have as a friend though.

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    20 odd years here, never, ever had a thai woman who wanted money, same as when i dated back home. current gf has five cars, seven houses and condos and runs, at the last count - it's hard to keep up,

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How come I have met so many who say their partner was working at the bar as a cashier? All I ever saw was the mamasan who kept a sharp eye  on  the money !

I met my lady 23 years ago, and we are still married today, and yes, she is Thai.

On 5/10/2025 at 1:18 PM, Cameroni said:

 

I meant with attractive women obviously.

 

Are you insuating that my wife is not attractive?

 

All my friends say I am so lucky. She is attractive, friendly, kind and well mannered.

9 minutes ago, petedk said:

 

Are you insuating that my wife is not attractive?

 

All my friends say I am so lucky. She is attractive, friendly, kind and well mannered.

 

But you never gave her any money. For her or her family. She never asked you to.

 

That's what you said, right?

See, there are women who will not ask money of a man, in fact take him in, feed him, house him, lend him money. Why? Because they know their sexual market value is so low that they could never hope to attact a man with their looks. Devoid of feminine charms, they opt for a male bonding strategy, provision of resources.

 

Discouting the possibilities of her being born rich, having obtained milllions in a divorce or being a self made millionaire, because these probabilities are so low that one can discount them, her low sexual market value is really the only possibility.

 

Unless you were lying, and you did pay for her, her family and gave her money, ie she's a normal attractive woman.

 

Which one is it?

On 5/12/2025 at 8:17 AM, Cameroni said:

 

But you never gave her any money. For her or her family. She never asked you to.

 

That's what you said, right?

 

Correct. Her family never asked as I am sure they have enough money and they are very westernised in the lifestyle.

2 minutes ago, petedk said:

 

Correct. Her family never asked as I am sure they have enough money and they are very westernised in the lifestyle.

 

So you never paid for her housing, her food, holidays, her medical treatment, her shoppping...

 

 

Nothing?

Personally, I have not ever been in a relationship with anyone for whom I had to pay, other than for the first date or so. 

It's not how I was brought up and I don't like that dynamic, so I don't enter into it.

People convince themselves that is how it should be done. That's what a 'real man' should do and other forms of nonsense.

We have people here claiming that they are in an equal relationship, whereas in reality, they are paying for everything.

I even tried the 'poor girl' thing once. Imagining that I would just take care of her and be the captain of the ship. She turned out to be a rich girl, personal friends with the Swarovski family and much more.

Thai girl found me and showered me with gifts and still continues to want to do so.

It's about you. Your approach and your behaviour.

I remember going out with an Irish girl on my travels and proudly took my Platinum CC out to pay the bill. Her words..."put that F***ing thing away". 

All I can add is that it takes all sorts and since this is a forum predominantly about Thailand, where many men came to find partners, it's no surprise that many have shared similar experiences. But it's only the norm if you allow it to be your norm.

 

 

20 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

So you never paid for her housing, her food, holidays, her medical treatment, her shoppping...

 

 

Nothing?

 

We have an arrangement. We paid for the house to be buit together, with her paying the largest amount, so there is no rent to pay. I pay electricity and water and food expenses. She pays for car, her own medical treatment, own clothes and shopping, investments or whatever.

 

When we go out to eat we simply pay, either her or me. 

When we travel sometimes I pay hotel bills, sometimes she pays. It is never a problem.

20 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

So you never paid for her housing, her food, holidays, her medical treatment, her shoppping...

 

 

Nothing?

 

 

If she sees a shirt for me that she likes, she will buy it and the same goes for me if I see something that she likes.

 

Money has never been an issue with us.

4 minutes ago, petedk said:

 

We have an arrangement. We paid for the house to be buit together, with her paying the largest amount, so there is no rent to pay. I pay electricity and water and food expenses. She pays for car, her own medical treatment, own clothes and shopping, investments or whatever.

 

When we go out to eat we simply pay, either her or me. 

When we travel sometimes I pay hotel bills, sometimes she pays. It is never a problem.

 

So you do pay for her, thanks for clarifying. That's what I thought.

On 5/10/2025 at 2:22 PM, Hummin said:

A dedicated polite kind honest active girl without kids was what I wanted, snd what I found. Her status was of no importance. 

 

I can relate to that ..... now that my d**k reached it's use by date .   That date, of course, is different for everyone.   IMO healthy attractive men need to stay free for a long time , as proven by the very high rate of unhappy and broken "marriages".

 

***** I was fortunate to have "settled down with" :  good cook, healthy lifestyle, not lazy or needing constant attention,  and no stupid actions like so many women seem to have...... as well as the attributes put forth by Hummin.

On 5/13/2025 at 3:40 AM, SMIAI said:

We have people here claiming that they are in an equal relationship, whereas in reality, they are paying for everything.

 

So what are you advocating? 50/50? It works for some people if the woman has her own money / a good job.

 

But if you have a much higher net worth than the girl, then hoarding on to your wealth and going 50/50 seems silly, no? 

 

It depends how much you have and how much she has or makes. So the same formula doesn't apply to everyone. 

 

 

21 hours ago, SMIAI said:

Personally, I have not ever been in a relationship with anyone for whom I had to pay, other than for the first date or so. 

It's not how I was brought up and I don't like that dynamic, so I don't enter into it.

People convince themselves that is how it should be done. That's what a 'real man' should do and other forms of nonsense.

We have people here claiming that they are in an equal relationship, whereas in reality, they are paying for everything.

I even tried the 'poor girl' thing once. Imagining that I would just take care of her and be the captain of the ship. She turned out to be a rich girl, personal friends with the Swarovski family and much more.

Thai girl found me and showered me with gifts and still continues to want to do so.

It's about you. Your approach and your behaviour.

I remember going out with an Irish girl on my travels and proudly took my Platinum CC out to pay the bill. Her words..."put that F***ing thing away". 

All I can add is that it takes all sorts and since this is a forum predominantly about Thailand, where many men came to find partners, it's no surprise that many have shared similar experiences. But it's only the norm if you allow it to be your norm.

 

 


and your norm is being the little girl who gets all the attention and showered in gifts. Gotta 

 

News for you, a real man take care of his wife and kids as the main provider. It’s natur law, everything else is woke

11 hours ago, Hummin said:

News for you, a real man take care of his wife and kids as the main provider. It’s natur law, everything else is woke

 

Yes, but in the modern era women can abuse it. In the past,  the woman stayed with the man.

 

And women have entered the workforce. Some of them make more than men. This has blurred the lines on "natural law".

 

39 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

Yes, but in the modern era women can abuse it. In the past,  the woman stayed with the man.

 

And women have entered the workforce. Some of them make more than men. This has blurred the lines on "natural law".

 

In the western world, there is a miscommunication and misconception about what the rolemodels are, and most are confused. Still you will find what people really want, is a man being a man, and a woman being a woman, but with more individual freedom, to take her own decisions. 

 

In Thailand, a woman is more dependent on a man for her own future good, and cant mess up to much without risking her future. 

 

At the end we all are our own enemies, taking the wrong decisions, wrong priorities and picking the wrong woman at the wrong time.

 

Some people manage to make each other good, some other is poison to each other. 

 

I have experienced both, but managed to get out in time, and grow from the experiences. 

 

Finely found a woman I thrive with,  and hopefully we will continue to do so. 

 

The most important, we both had our experiences from before and know what to expect. 

 

In theory so easy, but in reality, a bit harder, and it takes work from.both parts. It is like being an professional athlete, you need to understand the game, and continously work to get better, and thats where both miss out. People are or becomes lazy in relationships, and for most men in Thailand not necessary, because there is a potential new lady on every corner who wants them ( for the wrong reasons. )

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

In Thailand, a woman is more dependent on a man for her own future good, and cant mess up to much without risking her future

 

So how come Thai women are world leaders in cheating?

2 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

So how come Thai women are world leaders in cheating?

 

 

So how exactly do they cheat better than, say, women in the West?

2 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

So how exactly do they cheat better than, say, women in the West?

 

Women from Thailand are ranked the world's second most unfaithul lovers, according to the survey report.


https://www.bangkokpost.com/world/309732/thai-women-ranks-no-2-in-infidelity#google_vignette

 

The most unfaithful btw were Ghanian women. So poverty in no way stops women from cheating. I would say it's the opposite, the poverty impels Thai women to alway seek the better option.

 

Thai women are more devious, more adept at lying and more underhand than most women, except possibly Filipinas.

6 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

So how come Thai women are world leaders in cheating?

Do you have the answer? 

 

I can speculate, but Im sure you will not like the answer.

 

What comes around goes araound I heard a wise man say once

5 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

Women from Thailand are ranked the world's second most unfaithul lovers, according to the survey report.


https://www.bangkokpost.com/world/309732/thai-women-ranks-no-2-in-infidelity#google_vignette

 

The most unfaithful btw were Ghanian women. So poverty in no way stops women from cheating. I would say it's the opposite, the poverty impels Thai women to alway seek the better option.

 

Thai women are more devious, more adept at lying and more underhand than most women, except possibly Filipinas.

 

 

Ah, a survey.....that must be right then.

 

 

Your own comment suggests that you might be meeting the wrong Thai and Filipino women.

 

 

I don't have experience of Filipino women but in 20 years in Thailand I have never felt cheated.

3 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Do you have the answer? 

 

I can speculate, but Im sure you will not like the answer.

 

What comes around goes araound I heard a wise man say once

 

Well, the knightly tradition and values did not appear in Thailand, it's purely a European phenomenon, loyalty does not appear to be a celebrated value in Thailand.

 

integrity seems to be a completely unknown value in Thailand, do correct me if I'm wrong.

 

I think the poverty itself compels women to always look for the better deal, and to be more mercernary still than women already are. It's probably not coincidence that the infidelity chart is led by some of the poorest countries in Africa.

 

It also seems that women in SE Asia are more sensual, more open to sexual intercourse, than those in the West. There is an innocence about sex that was lost a long time ago in the West.

 

And yes, I take the point that a whole number of East European, Scandi, Anglo and German, Australian and US players taking advantage of the women for sex has an impact on their behaviour too, sure.

 

 

1 minute ago, Cameroni said:

 

Well, the knightly tradition and values did not appear in Thailand, it's purely a European phenomenon, loyalty does not appear to be a celebrated value in Thailand.

 

integrity seems to be a completely unknown value in Thailand, do correct me if I'm wrong.

 

I think the poverty itself compels women to always look for the better deal, and to be more mercernary still than women already are. It's probably not coincidence that the infidelity chart is led by some of the poorest countries in Africa.

 

It also seems that women in SE Asia are more sensual, more open to sexual intercourse, than those in the West. There is an innocence about sex that was lost a long time ago in the West.

 

And yes, I take the point that a whole number of East European, Scandi, Anglo and German, Australian and US players taking advantage of the women for sex has an impact on their behaviour too, sure.

 

 

One main reason, is because of families living on one bedroom, and never a place for intimacy.

 

There is always a better option, I think we all chased that once.

 

Poverty as you mentioned 

 

Paranoia when it comes to believing your partner is unfaithful and revenge is one psychological tool

 

Just pure lust, where partners is seperated because of work. See that everywhere in Thailand, and having a gikk is normal.

3 minutes ago, Hummin said:

One main reason, is because of families living on one bedroom, and never a place for intimacy.

 

There is always a better option, I think we all chased that once.

 

Poverty as you mentioned 

 

Paranoia when it comes to believing your partner is unfaithful and revenge is one psychological tool

 

Just pure lust, where partners is seperated because of work. See that everywhere in Thailand, and having a gikk is normal.

 

Yes, to be fair, we should probably also mention that Thai men are not faithful, so women leading the infidelity charts jives with how they are treated by local men. True.

 

I also think the sheer number of girls who are palmed off by mother to the grandmother, because mother has to work, who do not see a proper male/female dynamic ever, probably plays a role.

4 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

Well, the knightly tradition and values did not appear in Thailand, it's purely a European phenomenon, loyalty does not appear to be a celebrated value in Thailand.

 

integrity seems to be a completely unknown value in Thailand, do correct me if I'm wrong.

 

I think the poverty itself compels women to always look for the better deal, and to be more mercernary still than women already are. It's probably not coincidence that the infidelity chart is led by some of the poorest countries in Africa.

 

It also seems that women in SE Asia are more sensual, more open to sexual intercourse, than those in the West. There is an innocence about sex that was lost a long time ago in the West.

 

And yes, I take the point that a whole number of East European, Scandi, Anglo and German, Australian and US players taking advantage of the women for sex has an impact on their behaviour too, sure.

 

 

 

4 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

Well, the knightly tradition and values did not appear in Thailand, it's purely a European phenomenon, loyalty does not appear to be a celebrated value in Thailand.

 

integrity seems to be a completely unknown value in Thailand, do correct me if I'm wrong.

 

I think the poverty itself compels women to always look for the better deal, and to be more mercernary still than women already are. It's probably not coincidence that the infidelity chart is led by some of the poorest countries in Africa.

 

It also seems that women in SE Asia are more sensual, more open to sexual intercourse, than those in the West. There is an innocence about sex that was lost a long time ago in the West.

 

And yes, I take the point that a whole number of East European, Scandi, Anglo and German, Australian and US players taking advantage of the women for sex has an impact on their behaviour too, sure.

 

 

 

Fidelity is an overrated concept.

 

As you say, the Asian (notably Thai) attitude that sex is just another bodily function enables them to separate emotion from the act. When money can be earned that is a great driver. 

 

I hope nobody thinks that this a Thai/Farang thing because Thai ladies have been doing this for centuries.

 

One friend with whom I have regular contact has a western 'boyfriend'. On one occasion when he was visiting Thailand I contacted her to suggest that it was probably difficult for us to meet....... she replied that she had 2 hours spare before meeting him for dinner!

22 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

Fidelity is an overrated concept.

 

I kind of have to take issue with you on that, old chap. Fidelity is the foundation of civilization, male female relationships without fidelity, trust and loyalty, are not worth the paper they're written on.

 

23 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

As you say, the Asian (notably Thai) attitude that sex is just another bodily function enables them to separate emotion from the act.

 

Yes, the attitude to sex is devoid of much of the moralist layering which exists in the West, that's true.

 

24 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

I hope nobody thinks that this a Thai/Farang thing because Thai ladies have been doing this for centuries.

 

Yes, I accept that, indeed Thai men are like this, and they do that to Thai men too.

 

24 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

One friend with whom I have regular contact has a western 'boyfriend'. On one occasion when he was visiting Thailand I contacted her to suggest that it was probably difficult for us to meet....... she replied that she had 2 hours spare before meeting him for dinner!

 

You dirty dog, you have no consideration for your fellow man???

There's some shocking nonsense posted here as fact. Thais seeing sex as a bodily function, fidelity being overrated.

"Real men" who convince themselves they are the real thing because they pay for everything and call it a relationship. Yes, it a financial relationship. A transactional relationship. That doesn't make anyone a real man, it makes you a beast of burden. All depends on your perspective. So many deluded people out there, trying to convince themselves that they are the real deal.

Meanwhile, the women who don't sell themselves to the highest bidder are there for mutual relationships that the "real men" here won't ever see.

 

 

11 hours ago, Cameroni said:

You dirty dog, you have no consideration for your fellow man???

Do you think most men do?

It's dog eat dog.

And there's probably an ego trip involved in men stealing women from other men and all that nonsense. 

 

Agreed, the men get the women they deserve. When a lowlife steals someone else's woman on the promise of a better life, you have two people who deserve each other. 😊

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