How did your dad influence your life

[MalcolmB]

12 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

My other daughter, takes no sh*t from any man, and that makes sure she isn't a victim in her relationships. 

How many relationships are we talking about Fred?

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

wife as an unequal slave have sons that turn out the same.

 

There is an entire field of psychology behind it ...

Human beings can mimick bad behavior from parents. 

My older brother did. He was also abusive to his children.

 

Or people can subconsciously attract partners like their parents. If a woman had an abusive father, she may attract an abusive husband later in life.

 

If people self-reflect and heal their childhood wounds, then they can navigate this. 

But we're not taught this in school. So where do you pick it up? I used to read a lot, including psychology. 

 

[Harrisfan]

Just now, save the frogs said:

 

There is an entire field of psychology behind it ...

Human beings can mimick bad behavior from parents. 

My older brother did. He was also abusive to his children.

 

Or people can subconsciously attract partners like their parents. If a woman had an abusive father, she may attract an abusive husband later in life.

 

If people self-reflect and heal their childhood wounds, then they can navigate this. 

But we're not taught this in school. So where do you pick it up? I used to read a lot, including psychology. 

 

We mimick everyone we hang around.

[connda]

He was a WWII B-24 pilot and a POW in a POW camp in Germany for a year.  Quiet guy and didn't interact with me much when I was a kid other than to take me hunting, fishing, shooting, and snow skiing.  He was a good provider.  I didn't really get to know him until after my mom died and he remarried.  My step-mom brought a side out of him I had never seen before.  He was a good guy.  We had a good relationship as adults. 

[rumak]

29 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Studies have also shown that men that come from households where the father is a dominating, controlling figure and looks at his wife as an unequal slave have sons that turn out the same. My one daughter who is married  for 12 years, very happy, to a great son in law. My son, married for 10 years, to another good partner. My other daughter, takes no sh*t from any man, and that makes sure she isn't a victim in her relationships.  Stats are there, but it depends on what the father does after the divorce, and while he's raising the children.

 

You sure are the master of "studies show that " ..... .  Hey , look,  you have 3 marriages that did not last .    And here you are posting like a sick dog that just ate a plate of jalapenos .  Advice of how to treat a woman ?   Calling people names ( your forte) like misogynists.    Let's hear some more about why your marriages did not last .  

Maybe your fantasies about washing the dishes for the wife were not really turning them on the way you believe ?    Or maybe they just didn't like the way you made the bed ?   I don't know.  Stop lashing out at others and tell us what is wrong with you ?

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

We mimick everyone we hang around.

That's why I avoid you and Lewie London

[Harrisfan]

Just now, save the frogs said:

That's why I avoid you and Lewie London

Online chat is nothing. You know its true. I lived with a friend for 3 months. Started talking like him.

[MalcolmB]

7 minutes ago, rumak said:

Maybe your fantasies about washing the dishes for the wife were not really turning them on the way you believe ?    Or maybe they just didn't like the way you made the bed ?   I don't know.  Stop lashing out at others and tell us what is wrong with you ?

I would think it was more the way he cleaned the bathroom and folded the ironing that really turned them all off.

[still kicking]

I never knew my dad

[SoCal1990]

14 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

That's why I avoid you and Lewie London

Incessantly posting repeatedly on every single one of their topics is avoiding? Lol. 

[rumak]

12 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

I would think it was more the way he cleaned the bathroom and folded the ironing that really turned them all off.

 

"life's a b##ch...." ,  especially if you live with one .   My second question (after, where did you buy those nice earrings) ,   was always , "are you a b##tch?"

 

narrows down the field quite a bit  😉

[hotsun]

35 minutes ago, rumak said:

 

You sure are the master of "studies show that " ..... .  Hey , look,  you have 3 marriages that did not last .    And here you are posting like a sick dog that just ate a plate of jalapenos .  Advice of how to treat a woman ?   Calling people names ( your forte) like misogynists.    Let's hear some more about why your marriages did not last .  

Maybe your fantasies about washing the dishes for the wife were not really turning them on the way you believe ?    Or maybe they just didn't like the way you made the bed ?   I don't know.  Stop lashing out at others and tell us what is wrong with you ?

You can do everything the right way, whatever your perception of what is right, and marriage is still not ideal because it doesnt end

[Lacessit]

3 hours ago, rumak said:

 

Statistics are subjective lies put out by people who can not do anything useful, that is why they try to be smart by collecting data which fit their bias while ignoring that which doesn't.    

These "statistic" guys do not get laid often,  and if so only by the lower third of women ..... attraction wise.   Women like men who do things,  not talk statistics .  

Source :  wwwrumaktellsitlikeitis.an 

So the statistic a smoker is 20 times more likely to die of lung cancer than a non-smoker is a lie?

 

Statistically, 23% of Americans have experienced mental illness in the past year. 1 in 20 have experienced severe mental illness -psychosis, bipolar disorder, depression and schjzophrenia.

 

You can probably see where I am going with this. You need help.

[rumak]

32 minutes ago, hotsun said:

You can do everything the right way, whatever your perception of what is right, and marriage is still not ideal because it doesnt end

 

personally i do not recognize the concept of "marriage" .   basically its a legal doctrine which IMO  is not one I want to sign on to .   

living together has been fine for me,  and easy(er) to move on from.   having children is of course a complication.   Men seem to not fare well when the divorce comes !

 

 

[rumak]

1 minute ago, Lacessit said:

So the statistic a smoker is 20 times more likely to die of lung cancer than a non-smoker is a lie?

 

Statistically, 23% of Americans have experienced mental illness in the past year. 1 in 20 have experienced severe mental illness -psychosis, bipolar disorder, depression and schjzophrenia.

 

You can probably see where I am going with this. You need help.

 

all my posts are written with some tongue in cheek .   you really should stop attacking me as I am just posting for those who enjoy my writing.   If you get upset... just block me .   But please, if you comment, leave out the "you need help" and other derogatory stuff .   

[Lacessit]

3 hours ago, rumak said:

My father loved music .  I never met him,  but rumor has it that I was born in the backseat of a Greyhound bus .   Highway 61 ,  that's where it was .

That explains a lot about you, never having a male role model.

 

IMO Steve McQueen would be one of the worst males to base behavior on. Ask Ali McGraw.

[Lacessit]

Just now, rumak said:

 

all my posts are written with some tongue in cheek .   you really should stop attacking me as I am just posting for those who enjoy my writing.   If you get upset... just block me .   But please, if you comment, leave out the "you need help" and other derogatory stuff .   

I see things in black and white. "Tongue in cheek" is deflecting from what you posted.

[rumak]

14 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

I see things in black and white. "Tongue in cheek" is deflecting from what you posted.

 

You have a very severe case of Rumak jealousy ( i can not use the proper term which would be something like RDS ) 🤪🤪🤪 

 

you might be causing harm to your health .   relax ole chap 

[Keeps]

2 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Online chat is nothing. You know its true. I lived with a friend for 3 months. Started talking like him.

Was this 'friend' real or imaginary?