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Has Thailand Ruined Casual Dating?

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Let us assume for a moment that there exists a certain type of foreigner in Thailand.

I have never personally met any, of course.

But let us imagine him.

He has spent years living in an environment where virtually every problem can be solved quickly, efficiently, and with very little administrative overhead other than possessing a functioning ATM card.

As a result, something interesting starts to happen.

He begins evaluating all forms of romantic opportunity using the same cost benefit analysis.

Not just financial cost.

Everything.

Time cost.

Energy cost.

Stress cost.

Future complication cost.

Suppose a much younger woman shows some reasonable interest in him.

In most countries this would be viewed as a positive development.

But our hypothetical gentleman immediately starts running calculations against the one hour service option.

How many text messages will this require?

How many awkward conversations?

How many possible boring dinners?

How many mixed signals?

How many unexpected emotional collapses?

How difficult will the exit strategy be when things eventually go pear shaped?

The strange thing is that the need for physical attraction itself almost becomes secondary.

The main deciding factor becomes hassle.

That said, the calculation is not always the same. A particularly aesthetic option can make a surprising amount of hassle seem perfectly acceptable, whereas a less visually intriguing one may not survive the initial risk assessment.

At some point a man can find himself rejecting perfectly reasonable bedroom sports invitations simply because he cannot be arsed to fill out the paperwork.

Not real paperwork, obviously.

You know what I mean...

Perhaps Thailand has not ruined dating though.

Perhaps it has simply spoiled a certain category of men by exposing them to a level of convenience that normal dating struggles to compete with.

I have no idea.

Just a theory...

I've concluded that meeting a very attractive young hot thai women is just an elephant trap that will lead to marriage, kids, houses, condos. Then You're trapped in the system. No thanks

2 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

I've concluded that meeting a very attractive young hot thai women is just an elephant trap that will lead to marriage, kids, houses, condos. Then You're trapped in the system. No thanks

In many cases you are right. So many get trapped by kids. Not having kids is the key.

8 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

In many cases you are right. So many get trapped by kids. Not having kids is the key.

Yes kids is the biggest thing, how many thai girlfriends have accidentally got pregnant? too many

Just now, scubascuba3 said:

Yes kids is the biggest thing, how many thai girlfriends have accidentally got pregnant? too many

From reading over the years many said they wanted to move but stuck by kids. Kids should be home country only.

Also don't get married after age 50. Just have gfs. Divorce rates on 2nd and 3rd marriages are 52% and 72%.

9 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

From reading over the years many said they wanted to move but stuck by kids. Kids should be home country only.

Also don't get married after age 50. Just have gfs. Divorce rates on 2nd and 3rd marriages are 52% and 72%.

Don't even get married a first time unless you really really really want it, rather than going along with what you are meant to do

48 minutes ago, Alpha84 said:

Suppose a much younger woman shows some reasonable interest in him.

In most countries this would be viewed as a positive development.

In most countries this would NEVER happen.

Most of the younger women looking for security

Perhaps they have been abandoned by the father of her child, now she is looking for someone to put food on the table because she has no social security payments to rely on.

Edited by SAFETY FIRST

3 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Don't even get married a first time unless you really really really want it, rather than going along with what you are meant to do

Society pushes marriages and kids. 1st marriage divorce rate is 43% so at least 57% good.

1 minute ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

In most countries this would NEVER happen.

Incorrect, i always had a younger girlfriend back home, 10-15 years

3 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

Society pushes marriages and kids. 1st marriage divorce rate is 43% so at least 57% good.

57% not good, many people in miserable marriages stay together anyway due to lack of options, fear etc

58 minutes ago, Alpha84 said:

Perhaps Thailand has not ruined dating though

Dating is easy in Thailand.

38 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

In many cases you are right. So many get trapped by kids. Not having kids is the key.

How many kids you have. And how many here in Thailand?

I must be the exception. And yea, surprised the hell out of me also.

Go figure 😂

4 minutes ago, Hummin said:

How many kids you have. And how many here in Thailand?

Can you imagine, for them?............https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VKcAYMb5uk4

Edited by fredwiggy

I can just imagine old Raquel on a date. All 25 sweaty stone of her spilling over the sides of the chair, mullet catching the breeze, Viking pants stretched beyond their capacity limit, and still acting like she’s a grand prize. Surely, quite the spectacle. Lol.

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