Except for a few people alive today who would remember me, once they're gone, that's the end of it. I think that's probably the case for most off us.

Think about it. In 500 years, will anyone know or care that you ever existed?

44 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

So you dug up a video by Neil De Ass ?

Sorry, we're going way way way off topic ...

And now this guy's talking about bananas!

You are right. Better to sit here and type whatever falls into your mind day in and day out, and post videos based on headlines without even having time to watch them yourself because you are so busy.

31 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

My father is mostly bad memories.

But I won't forget my mother.

And there is actually a void now. I feel a void since her death.

Depends how shallow you are, I guess.

I had to raise my family, work, health, etc. Also, since I had a great relationship with my parents, there is not much more I can do other than to remember them on their Birthdays or go back and look at photos. I am sure they have no clue on the other side. Humans have an ego that extends beyond the grave. When I am dead, I want my kids and their mom to have a great time, party, live life and pour a little bit of drink on my Birthday and light an incense. Then move on. I am not that special.

It wont matter how anyone remembers you.

3 minutes ago, Photoguy21 said:

It wont matter how anyone remembers you.

It might to them.

5 minutes ago, Photoguy21 said:

It wont matter how anyone remembers you.

Maybe it will not matter to you, but it matters to those you leave behind.

Edited Friday at 06:52 AM3 days by Hummin

13 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

It might to them.

Then they can remember me in any way they want

13 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Maybe it will not matter to you, but it matters to those you leave behind.

Let them choice their own way of remembering me

I worked at a place. The manager was corrupt and incompetent.

I criticized him and got fired.

After I left, I wrote a nasty letter to the president of the company and copied a governmental organization complaining about this guy, trying to get him fired.

If I did manage to get him fired, I'm sure he will remember me for a long time.

Your enemies do remember you.

But don't go out of your way to make enemies just to be remembered.

Edited Friday at 07:18 AM3 days by save the frogs

9 minutes ago, Photoguy21 said:

Let them choice their own way of remembering me

There is something about wanting to be the best version of yourself, for yourself and for others. How people remember you is partly built by how you choose to live while you are here.

You cannot control everyone’s opinion, but you can control what kind of person you try to be and what you leave behind in the people who mattered to you.

I’m grateful for the few people I met in life who set an example for me and surely changed my life. Maybe not right there and then, but over time it matured in me.

Why should we care how we're remembered? We should just live our life as best we can now.

Edited Friday at 09:13 AM3 days by WDSmart

2 hours ago, Hummin said:

There is something about wanting to be the best version of yourself, for yourself and for others. How people remember you is partly built by how you choose to live while you are here.

You cannot control everyone’s opinion, but you can control what kind of person you try to be and what you leave behind in the people who mattered to you.

Different people will perceive you differently.

Based on their own filters.

So technically, you are not just "one person" to everybody.

And you have a perception of yourself, but other people's perception of you may vary wildly.

My sister does not respect me at all. She married a very rich guy and ran a huge business and they move in circles of ultra-rich high powered corporate crowd. So she thinks I'm a loser because I only had mediocre jobs, which I did.

But then again, should people be judging everyone on whether they became high-powered corporate executives or not? Does that mean most Thais, who have fairly basic jobs, are worthless?

Maybe moral conduct, being ethical, a decent human being, being reasonably well-educated all matter. But if the other person doesn't value any of that, then they won't care that you developed your character and all that.

I like John Prine. He remembers "every blade of grass. " and "sometimes a little tenderness was the best that he could do."

Edited Friday at 09:45 AM3 days by save the frogs

15 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

Different people will perceive you differently.

Based on their own filters.

So technically, you are not just "one person" to everybody.

And you have a perception of yourself, but other people's perception of you may vary wildly.

My sister does not respect me at all. She married a very rich guy and ran a huge business and they move in circles of ultra-rich high powered corporate crowd. So she thinks I'm a loser because I only had mediocre jobs, which I did.

But then again, should people be judging everyone on whether they became high-powered corporate executives or not? Does that mean most Thais, who have fairly basic jobs, are worthless?

Maybe moral conduct, being ethical, a decent human being, being reasonably well-educated all matter. But if the other person doesn't value any of that, then they won't care that you developed your character and all that.

I like John Prine. He remembers "every blade of grass. " and "sometimes a little tenderness was the best that he could do."by

Your sister is only one person, and unfortunately her kids are missing out on getting to know you. Different people will always judge us through their own values and filters. I think every family has differences somehow, and we just have to navigate life as best we can. In the end, it is character that means something, not success or wealth.

Still, we owe each other respect for our differences, not only because we are family.

5 hours ago, Photoguy21 said:

Then they can remember me in any way they want

... In which case, it DOES matter - to them.

Not to you, you say you don't care what others think. You don't matter, you will have gone.

It is those left behind that often allow themselves to carry the guilt of survivorship.

On 8/19/2026 at 9:48 PM, unblocktheplanet said:

In fact, most who are remembered by history are those that were most evil. 

I would rather be forgotten than remembered for being evil.

I'd like this written on my headstone so when people visit my grave they can smile. " See I told you it wasn't a Headache " lol.

6 hours ago, WDSmart said:

Why should we care how we're remembered? We should just live our life as best we can now.

It's a measure of how you were as a person. Speculating about how you will be remembered before your death can be a valuable way to take stock.

7 hours ago, BarraMarra said:

I'd like this written on my headstone so when people visit my grave they can smile. " See I told you it wasn't a Headache " lol.

A good friend died from a brain aneurysm, always complaining of headaches. Never got them checked out as far as I remember, like a daughter did with her migraines.

On 8/19/2026 at 9:48 PM, unblocktheplanet said:

How will people remember you?

Got a few pests here who will be remembered for their persistent nagging, annoying comments.

Always interacting rudly to members with their off comment, snarky input. Looking to antagonize, seeking an argument.

In my case, it's probably not how, but if.

When my time on earth is gone and my activities here on Aseannow have passed...everyone who's down voted me....

On 8/21/2026 at 2:19 PM, Hummin said:

There is something about wanting to be the best version of yourself, for yourself and for others. How people remember you is partly built by how you choose to live while you are here.

You cannot control everyone’s opinion, but you can control what kind of person you try to be and what you leave behind in the people who mattered to you.

I’m grateful for the few people I met in life who set an example for me and surely changed my life. Maybe not right there and then, but over time it matured in me.

You should always try to be a decent person not so you can be remembered for something

21 hours ago, hotandsticky said:

... In which case, it DOES matter - to them.

Not to you, you say you don't care what others think. You don't matter, you will have gone.

It is those left behind that often allow themselves to carry the guilt of survivorship.

Agreed but I have no control as to how they will think anyway.