Exgf Problems

[midnight123]

my exgf is saying she is pregnant, it wasnt a clean brake up but after the storm, she tells me she is playing on this to a point of demanding, fretting, etc she has friends.

what can i do ? i need help cant take it any more

[boiledegg]

Tell her about your extremely low sperm count and that it is almost imposible for you to have made her pregnant, if she doesnt fall for that request a DNA test.

[distortedlink]

my exgf is saying she is pregnant, it wasnt a clean brake up but after the storm, she tells me she is playing on this to a point of demanding, fretting, etc she has friends.

what can i do ? i need help cant take it any more

BREAK - To give up.

BRAKE - A device for slowing or stopping motion,

[splitlid]

my exgf is saying she is pregnant, it wasnt a clean brake up but after the storm, she tells me she is playing on this to a point of demanding, fretting, etc she has friends.

what can i do ? i need help cant take it any more

BREAK - To give up.

BRAKE - A device for slowing or stopping motion,

distortedlink - pedantic,almost tosser like.

[Shotime]

I'm not sure that newbie is serious, but he's brought up something that I found to be a new wrinkle in the game. I also understand when he says he can't take it anymore. That alone makes me think the post is real. Very funny. I'm not sure what the answer is. I asked my (not sure what to call her at this point) working-girl-friend about it as a farang/Thai ex-couple we know are going thru the same thing. My WGF and I went thru it also. I thought, at the time, she was saying it to see my reaction. Reactions and instinct are your only true allies here. I mean when involved in a relationship, but double it here in Thailand. In this case, it sounds like a desperate move. Anybody know what up with the pregnancy pitch? A real screwball that.

[burman]

my exgf is saying she is pregnant, it wasnt a clean brake up but after the storm, she tells me she is playing on this to a point of demanding, fretting, etc she has friends.

what can i do ? i need help cant take it any more

BREAK - To give up.

BRAKE - A device for slowing or stopping motion,

And the funny thing is, you don't even know what 'Break' means.

To the Op, its probably bullshit, but you need to find out for sure before you get too stressed about it.

[zaza]

my exgf is saying she is pregnant, it wasnt a clean brake up but after the storm, she tells me she is playing on this to a point of demanding, fretting, etc she has friends.

what can i do ? i need help cant take it any more

BREAK - To give up.

BRAKE - A device for slowing or stopping motion,

The OP was talking about the condom 'brake up" accident,I guess

[Zombienation]

OP, walk away, cut off all methods of contact, forget....

If she's pregnant with yours, you'll find out later....then offer financial support. Do the right thing.

You might want to get her a pregnancy test, whilst you are still talking, just to be sure. DNA test later, to check paternity.

Chill out! This shit happens a lot. Don't worry so much.

[sriracha john]

my exgf is saying she is pregnant, it wasnt a clean brake up but after the storm, she tells me she is playing on this to a point of demanding, fretting, etc she has friends.

what can i do ?

Preparing yourself for the life-long responsibilities of fatherhood is a good start.

[scotwumman]

The having friends thing is "gathering strength" in situations like yours. Have noticed it spriralling mabye because some foreigners' reactions to this or other situations shows a lack of courage or resiliance. Just do the toes as you would elsewhere if unsure of a situation. Keep your mouth shut to everybody except to tell them you have experienced bad times and have no money.

[midnight123]

alright enough of the brake up digs, i just got off from a long phone call from her after she telling me she got ppl following me and that am dead etc etc ! i was too stressed, i went through about a month of this when i did BREAK up with her! any where i stayed she found out about it, telling me she tha she had "mafia" ready to hurt me, and to top it off she should me pictures from immigration!!! yep those ones they take as u passport control ! i cant leave the country she said !!!!! what am i supposed to think!!!

but enough was enough she couldn't take it any more and left to the temple so she said! but then a couple days later calm tell me she is pregnant, she came ill when she was there so they sent her to the hospital where they told her she was pregnant..

now she is a smart girl educated, come across to any as been this innocent girl !

but she has got one hel_l of a dark side which am find out !!

its got to a point now that every time i speak to her i fell ill!

if she dosnt get what she wants then she she will give me hel_l at work where i stay ever where !

iv already gave her some money and i said i would i help out money wise when i can, am short on money as it is..

god i just dont know what else to do. cant afford to hav her mess around with work etc.

that month was a living hel_l i was a breaking point was left with nothing more than the cloths on my back!!

cant go through that again!

[MSingh]

And the funny thing is, you don't even know what 'Break' means.

To the Op, its probably bullshit, but you need to find out for sure before you get too stressed about it.

[thecatman]

It sounds to me that the best thing you can do is get completely out of this. By that I mean, if you live in Bangkok, then go to Chiang Mai or vice versa. Stuff your job, stuff your flat, stuff the lot. Move on and start a fresh.

Of course, you may want to keep in touch with her by phone or email, just in case she is bearing your child, but you can do that without her knowing where you are.

This may sound rather drastic, but to me you sound rather desperate, so it has to be considered.

You didn't come to LOS to put up with this kind sh1t, so don't!!

Edited June 10, 2008 by thecatman

[mellow1]

Marry her, she sounds like a great catch.

[kmart]

Marry her, she sounds like a great catch.

Share the misery.

[geriatrickid]

If she accessed your immigration file, she crossed the line and is in serious sh*t, even in Thailand. Mafia has better things to do then wack a scared farang. Maybe she knows someone at immigration and that's how she got the pics, or maybe she just copied an old visa picture of yours.

Ok she' says she's pregnant and yet you seem to think she wants to do you in. Doesn't make sense. If she wanted to off you, she'd just do it and not make drama on the embryo. If she wants you to support her, then you are no good to her dead or maimed. She's bluffing. Face it. If she hates you and wants revenge, she'd have been over at the clinic having a bit of suction to remove any trace of you from her. If you're terrified, then she's having what she desires - your living hel_l. As the others say, get away from her fast. If you can't, get a good lawyer.

[zaza]

alright enough of the brake up digs, i just got off from a long phone call from her after she telling me she got ppl following me and that am dead etc etc ! i was too stressed, i went through about a month of this when i did BREAK up with her! any where i stayed she found out about it, telling me she tha she had "mafia" ready to hurt me, and to top it off she should me pictures from immigration!!! yep those ones they take as u passport control ! i cant leave the country she said !!!!! what am i supposed to think!!!

but enough was enough she couldn't take it any more and left to the temple so she said! but then a couple days later calm tell me she is pregnant, she came ill when she was there so they sent her to the hospital where they told her she was pregnant..

now she is a smart girl educated, come across to any as been this innocent girl !

but she has got one hel_l of a dark side which am find out !!

its got to a point now that every time i speak to her i fell ill!

if she dosnt get what she wants then she she will give me hel_l at work where i stay ever where !

iv already gave her some money and i said i would i help out money wise when i can, am short on money as it is..

god i just dont know what else to do. cant afford to hav her mess around with work etc.

that month was a living hel_l i was a breaking point was left with nothing more than the cloths on my back!!

cant go through that again!

Ask the help of your embassy and report the whole case to police. Go back to your own country for a while if nothing worked out.

It is wise to wear a condom and not to go that low while you are playing around

BTW,I hope am not intruding; but; what is your "work"? Thainglish teacher?

Edited June 11, 2008 by zaza

[Travel2003]

OP should report it to the Police, cince she has made the threats.

The Police will most likely not do anything, but at least OP has done something, and a report will be made, and filed.

Sometimes one might meet someone at the station that is not too happy with getting ugly "farang cases" in his lap, and this Officer (Station Chief) might actually do something about it. Just to end the case before it gets ugly.

It is free, and all OP will pay is one day of his life, at the station.

Then OP should let the x-gf know that a file is now made about the case.

[OlRedEyes]

You've got sh*t, maybe of your own making, maybe not. Go to the police if you want more. What lousy advice.

If she's pregnant, you have responsibility. You CAN find out if it's yours, if she is pregnant at all. Up to you whether you take up the responsibility.

Else get the h_ell out of Dodge.

[Scott]

Whatever you decide to do, best of luck to you. It's a tough situation to be in.

[deathstardan]

Did I read that correctly, do you work here?

Without sounding like a nob, I hope you're not an English teacher.

Please, tell me you're not a teacher!

[Travel2003]

You've got sh*t, maybe of your own making, maybe not. Go to the police if you want more. What lousy advice.

If she's pregnant, you have responsibility. You CAN find out if it's yours, if she is pregnant at all. Up to you whether you take up the responsibility.

Else get the h_ell out of Dodge.

Hey!

Calm down. Take a deep breath, and read my post again.

She is threatening him, promising to hurt him.

You want him to ignore that? Or just fly the country, while leaving as much money as possible to the x-gf?

Yes, if she is pregnant, he has a responsibility, as a father.

Dont just shoot people down and not come up with anything yourself.

[mellow1]

Yea do the right thing, become a slave to her, and let yourself be abused to her hearts( if she has one) content. Make sure you also give her all your money and anything else she wants. Where did you grow up? They have streets and schools there? Other people?

[thecatman]

Did I read that correctly, do you work here?

Without sounding like a nob, I hope you're not an English teacher.

Please, tell me you're not a teacher!

Why?? I'm hoping he is a teacher, at least he'll be able to quit, move on, and get another job elsewhere easily enough.

[CarlBkk]

I can quite believe this situation. I had a similar experience in my early 20s here with a Chula grad playing the same games. It was all down to parental strictness, low self esteem and loneliness...she got very crazy and obsessive until I had to end it, then the fun began. I had the same threats, she found out what flight I came on and where I was staying (from my immigration card), she had kept all emails I ever sent (including the forwarded jokes) and therefore emailed everybody on those lists, she emailed my mother saying I took her virginity, she badgered a friend into telling her my ex gf's number in UK so she could call to "discuss" me, she would threaten me with hitmen, she would imply she was pregnant, she threatened suicide. If I communicated with her she would apologise, if I tried to avoid her it would get worse. All quite amusing now I can look back on it. The solution was to bide my time, lie low, ignore the threats and wait until another man became interested in her, then it all went nicely quiet

My advice to the OP is to keep communication to a minimum, keep it formal, not comment on the pregnancy thing for several weeks and see if it "disappears".

[deathstardan]

Did I read that correctly, do you work here?

Without sounding like a nob, I hope you're not an English teacher.

Please, tell me you're not a teacher!

Why?? I'm hoping he is a teacher, at least he'll be able to quit, move on, and get another job elsewhere easily enough.

Mate, if you can't see by his posts why he should not be teaching then there really is something wrong....

Actually, maybe it's just me....I'm seeing things!

[thecatman]

Did I read that correctly, do you work here?

Without sounding like a nob, I hope you're not an English teacher.

Please, tell me you're not a teacher!

Why?? I'm hoping he is a teacher, at least he'll be able to quit, move on, and get another job elsewhere easily enough.

Mate, if you can't see by his posts why he should not be teaching then there really is something wrong....

Actually, maybe it's just me....I'm seeing things!

I'm actually more concerned about this Guys welfare, rather than his job, or if he's qualified to do it or not. Anyway, teaching in Thailand is the UK equivalent to a Bin Man as far as qualifcations go. (No offence Bin Men).

Even so, I must admit, his grammar does leave a bit to be desired.

Edited June 11, 2008 by thecatman

[scotwumman]

I am also concerned seeing that the OP has been observing the posts and not responding. Is there a reason for this?

Hopefully it is because he doesn't want to acknowledge for his own reasons that he is being given help. The worse

scenario would be if his post is not genuine and people have taken time to respond to it in good faith, including myself.

This could have two nasty worries for me anyway.

1) Another genuine poster could be disbelieved therefore disregarded

2) An outside force looking for the farang's take on believing the "friends are after you" threat

Hope I am wrong

[midnight123]

thanks for some of the feed back !!

no am not a teacher! iv got a small company with a friend, and cant afford to pack and move on as much i want to now!

back to the nightmare...

it hasnt ended in fact i feel its going to get worse !

she's been been flying back and forth to bkk to see a doctor and iv been paying for it ! fine il take responsibility pay to see the doctor

but its getting a bit out of hand with how much its costing

i dont know what her plan is any more at first shes planing on moving aboard with the baby now i dont know

iv got a feeling she is going to use this as a opportunity to always be a nightmare and never leave me alone!

its not about taken responsibility i can send her some money but to take care of a baby or just to even see her again i cant !

call me a chicken what ever but she makes me sick...

[jonw8uk]

I suspect this is a troll post, and not because of the poor english, maybe he/she isn't a native speaker

"flying back and forth to bkk to see a doctor...."

You live in a Karen village with only a witchdoctor?

"She's going abroad with the baby...."

Yeah, because so many borders are open to thai single mothers....

If you are genuine, get a grip, take heed of some of the posts here, and move on.