csdncer Posted February 17, 2005 Share Posted February 17, 2005 (edited) no opinions in this topic. posted in wrong thread. sorry! Edited February 17, 2005 by csdncer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
girlx Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 i have a thai male friend who has been in a long (5-6 yr) relationship with a french woman. he just picked up another farang mia noi of sorts on the side. i wonder if this might be the first case of both a farang mia and a farang mia noi? my guess is the french woman won't cotton to it too well- she has put her man up in a penthouse apartment with a new car, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 No, I know a Thai guy who is on his 4th farang wife. The first one leaving when he shows up with the second, the 2nd one leaving when he shows up with the 3rd etc ("But, why can't I have both?") 1st wife had two kids, 2nd wife had one, 3rd wife had 2, 4th one isn't pregnant yet. Child support for none. His family barely speaks to him anymore, finding his behavior absolutely unacceptable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
girlx Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 No, I know a Thai guy who is on his 4th farang wife. The first one leaving when he shows up with the second, the 2nd one leaving when he shows up with the 3rd etc ("But, why can't I have both?") 1st wife had two kids, 2nd wife had one, 3rd wife had 2, 4th one isn't pregnant yet. Child support for none. His family barely speaks to him anymore, finding his behavior absolutely unacceptable. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> yikes. do you think he is using them for financial support? does he just get bored and move on to the next? why would the women be stupid enough to get pregnant with him? sigh... i find this very sad. at least the family doesn't support it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 Bit of both, financial, and probably a relationship addict. I must stress that all these have been fairly long-term relationships, the first wife was about 5 years, the 2nd around 3-4, 3rd about 6. This guy isn't a spring chicken anymore, not sure how he reels them in. He isn't particularly handsome, maybe he's charming Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 maybe he's got a big.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
girlx Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 heehee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Khutan Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 a western woman is sleeping around if she's gone thru lots of boyfriends but if a man does it, well, he isnt a slut.... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Interesting, there isn't an equivelant word for slut for a male. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 Well, there is but it isn't derogatory is it? If he sleeps around he's a ladies man, a c@cksman, a stud etc. How about heartless, mindless d!ck??? That one does it for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
girlx Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 Well, there is but it isn't derogatory is it? If he sleeps around he's a ladies man, a c@cksman, a stud etc. How about heartless, mindless d!ck??? That one does it for me <{POST_SNAPBACK}> i thought it was chai khon thai Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vit42 Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 What a post this is. I never though i'd hear the day when a woman would be justifying and rationalizing why she thought it was acceptable to knowingly be a mia noi. As a thai guy i'm almost tempted to wish there were more of you out there so i could build my harem. As a rational, mature, intelligent man who would never do something to hurt my wife that i wouldn't want done to myself, i find this incredulous. And as a child of a mia noi, i resent the fact that you actually believe that any measure of compensation would have a positive affect on my upbringing. In fact, i have upwards to 50 thai friends who's parents were in this situation. Most of them have continued this cycle of infidelity and it will never end so long as people find it acceptable behavior. Let's see, if my dad was more faithful to my mom and not only brought home the bacon but was a good husband and father, would my life be better than if he was spending his time with a mia noi...? I'm not saying that every situation is the same and that all these types of relationship end bad but if you have a choice in that matter, why would you even consider such a relationship?. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heng Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 Well, because you often can't choose who you're going to fall in love with... and once that red love light comes on in the cabin, ladies and gents, you can't just keep turning it on or off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
girlx Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 wow, that's a very impressive viewpoint and one i never expected to hear from a thai man Vit42... i hope i meet more people like you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bina Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 (edited) to the thai man reading this: well, men have been justifying, pretending, keeping harems, keeping mistresses and consorts legally and illegally for thousands of years, thousands of men, but when a woman does the same, suddenly a man has something to say about it?? i'm not justifying, just pointing out statements of fact: men do this for good or bad, its like the arguement that boo had discussed somewhere here: a man sleeps around , he's a stud; a woman sleeps around , she's a slut..... i'm not discussing right or wrong, i never judge people by my standards, only observe them as themselves; people do many things for many reasons that are not always rational or moral etc... not my place to decide if good or bad; just providing info for people to discuss as a different view point Let's see, if my dad was more faithful to my mom and not only brought home the bacon but was a good husband and father, would my life be better than if he was spending his time with a mia noi...? probably if your father didnt have a mia noi, he still wouldnt be spending time w/kids etc, but would be working more, or drinking more, or gambling more, or doing whatever else would be his 'priority'; because a second wife or girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever does not 'steal time' from someone else if the someone else is also a priority.... so many women lose out to the 'second wife' , no , not a real woman, but to the 'career' of the husband (workaholics that come home at 22:00, so ok, they are earning more money but not home for wife and kids so what does it matter) , or a vice the husband has: may i mention, hi lo, casinos, race horses etc.... same same Edited March 10, 2005 by bina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chuchok Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 Having a second wife in Thailand as many people know was legal in this country.Can anybody tell me when it was actually outlawed? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
girlx Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 i heard 1939 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vit42 Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 I think most people would agree with the follow: Right: fall in love, be happy, have a good life... Wrong: lie, cheat, steal, murder, ... Our lives are not so black and white and there's many times we are all faced with decision that are a blend of right and wrongs. Justifying a wrong to make a right doesn't make sense when you, as an intelligent human being, have the choice not to do the wrong. Yes, I am talking morality here but that's what supposedly makes us civilized. Hypothetical: I fall in love with a wonderful girl. I find out she's married with children. I tell her, wait a minute, you need to figure out your life and what you want to do with your family. If you want to be with me, then have the decency to tell your family. If not, sorry but i would rather have our hearts broken then break the heart of her family. That's just me. About my dad, yes, he was a drinker and a gambler and a playboy. He had many mia nois. I don't blame him because that's what he grew up knowing and part of the culture. As i see how hurt my mother was by him, i CHOOSE to do better. I CHOOSE to follow a better path and be a faithful partner. Life is full of hard decisions, it's up to you to choose your path but don't kid yourself about not hurting the people you step on. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thailotus Posted April 4, 2005 Author Share Posted April 4, 2005 Hello Everyone, Sorry for the long silence. Another question you may be able to answer. What (if any) are the defacto laws like in Thailand? What happens to unregistered couples when they break up? How are their assets divided? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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