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Now I'm going to upset half of you at least. Some of you make me so angry :o Everyone of you that has replied here puts the blame fully on the shoulders of the Thai girl. 'Should we tell him his girls messing around?'

Well let me tell you all you would be saints out there,I have lived in Thailand for 10 years,and I know that around 75% of Farangs with Thai wifes do more messing around than they will ever do.

  An instance outside our pub recently. A Farang hit his Thai wife with some force,because there had been a rumour she had been messing around. The fact that the previous week she had caught him in bed with a bar girl had no importance. Why should it. He was a Falang with money so he was entitled to sleep with who he wanted to. At least that is what he reckoned.

Don't forget I used to live in Pattaya before being vanquished to the provinces and during my time there as a 5x a year holiday maker,I used to eat,drink & sleep around with the local ex-pats. Each group had their own destination where they could go one afternoon a week and drink and screw to their hearts content,before returning to their wives after a round of 'Golf' The W...... Inn used to be a surefire place to meet up on a friday afternoon. Maybe it just hurts our male ego to hear of or see girls doing the same. Remember a girl that sleeps around is a slut,a guy that sleeps around is a great guy,one of the best. OK, now I'm going to get ripped to pieces by the 99% of you out there that have never cheated on their girls (or boys) but I know it happens. And so do all of you really

I don't think that really matters one way or the other.If I had a close female friend and I knew that he other half was screwing around, I would tell the truth.

However ,if I new both people equally well,I'd probably keep my mouth shut. :D

You would have to admit though that there would be more scams etc going on involving Thais than the other way around.

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I'd tell them. Thats what mates are for. To look out for each other. If they dont like it. Then tough. At least you told them and they cant say later. Why didn't you tell me? If they are good friends then they will thank you in the long run. If they are in LOS then they can always get another girl. :D:o

Now I'm going to upset half of you at least. Some of you make me so angry :o Everyone of you that has replied here puts the blame fully on the shoulders of the Thai girl. 'Should we tell him his girls messing around?'

Well let me tell you all you would be saints out there,I have lived in Thailand for 10 years,and I know that around 75% of Farangs with Thai wifes do more messing around than they will ever do.

  An instance outside our pub recently. A Farang hit his Thai wife with some force,because there had been a rumour she had been messing around. The fact that the previous week she had caught him in bed with a bar girl had no importance. Why should it. He was a Falang with money so he was entitled to sleep with who he wanted to. At least that is what he reckoned.

Don't forget I used to live in Pattaya before being vanquished to the provinces and during my time there as a 5x a year holiday maker,I used to eat,drink & sleep around with the local ex-pats. Each group had their own destination where they could go one afternoon a week and drink and screw to their hearts content,before returning to their wives after a round of 'Golf' The W...... Inn used to be a surefire place to meet up on a friday afternoon. Maybe it just hurts our male ego to hear of or see girls doing the same. Remember a girl that sleeps around is a slut,a guy that sleeps around is a great guy,one of the best. OK, now I'm going to get ripped to pieces by the 99% of you out there that have never cheated on their girls (or boys) but I know it happens. And so do all of you really

""I used to eat,drink & sleep around with the local ex-pats ""

That line is a bit of a worry Lampard..... :D:D:D

Even if the OP told his mates straight out, they wouldnt believe him and then accuse him of interfering....no matter how good a mate he is. As I said before though, this seems to a case of these guys being in competiton with each other, Their egos are already running high....and neither of them will back down. The real issue here is not about the girls but more about the guys.

well said lampard, all I've seen on this thread is one persons side of the story, none of us know what if anything these girls have to put up with from these guys & if they are both in their 50's then they are old enough to kinow not to think with their small brains & obviously think that having young thai g'f/s at their age is gonna cost them something. Both guys & their girls are getting something out of the relationships, a trade off if you like, so leave em be & let them learn on their own.

none of us know what if anything these girls have to put up with from these guys & if they are both in their 50's then they are old enough to kinow not to think with their small brains & obviously think that having young thai g'f/s at their age is gonna cost them something. Both guys & their girls are getting something out of the relationships, a trade off if you like, so leave em be & let them learn on their own.

infidelity was not mentioned by the op , neither was bad behaviour by the men towards the women. the ages of the women were not mentioned either.

what was mentioned was that the girls were deceiving the men financially.

the op , as a good friend of the men concerned , is duty bound to tell them what he thinks is happening.

asking for large amounts of money and being given it is one thing , obtaining money by deception is another thing altogether and should not tolerated.

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Thanks for the excellent replies.

I'm going to print these off and have a read down the pub. Theres some very good points raised here.

I have 2 very good mates

and that is where your loyalties should lie.

if they are "very good mates" then you wont lose them.

they wont thank you if they find out you knew and didnt tell them.

do the right thing and tell them , and then its up to them what action they take.

thais certainly look out for each other , and i believe we should too.

Couldn't agree more. :o

Me too. :D

Well let me tell you all you would be saints out there,I have lived in Thailand for 10 years,and I know that around 75% of Farangs with Thai wifes do more messing around than they will ever do.

  An instance outside our pub recently. A Farang hit his Thai wife with some force,because there had been a rumour she had been messing around. The fact that the previous week she had caught him in bed with a bar girl had no importance. Why should it. He was a Falang with money so he was entitled to sleep with who he wanted to. At least that is what he reckoned.

Don't forget I used to live in Pattaya before being vanquished to the provinces and during my time there as a 5x a year holiday maker,I used to eat,drink & sleep around with the local ex-pats. Each group had their own destination where they could go one afternoon a week and drink and screw to their hearts content,before returning to their wives after a round of 'Golf' The W...... Inn used to be a surefire place to meet up on a friday afternoon. Maybe it just hurts our male ego to hear of or see girls doing the same. Remember a girl that sleeps around is a slut,a guy that sleeps around is a great guy,one of the best. OK, now I'm going to get ripped to pieces by the 99% of you out there that have never cheated on their girls (or boys) but I know it happens. And so do all of you really

I have been in Thailand for over a decade too. I don't have ANY farang friends who cheat on their wives(that I know of). Quite simply, I wouldn't respect them any more. I would guess around 10% of them have at some time, and regretted it, mostly. I hate these guys, who think that their wives won't be hurt by it!

I have never cheated on my wife of 4 years. I don't plan to in the future, but who knows, none of us are perfect and in some situations it could be very hard to refuse an offer. Up til now I have been able to "Just say no". There have been many offers, some from bar girls, of course, or others wanting money. Don't get me wrong, I am no angel. In an earlier life I used to be a drunk and cheated on my girlfriends. I like to think I have grown up now, I am 40 years old.

Come on though, whilst living in Pattaya :o , do you think it is a fair reflection on all male expats in Thailand? Kinda like taking a survey in a pub to get a figure to the no of alcoholics in a community.

I have also been here for over ten years and only know one falang who cheats on his wife. A regular cheater too, twice every week.

I am not saying that Lampard is wrong, just that he has a different circle of friends.

I have also been here for over ten years and only know one falang who cheats on his wife.  A regular cheater too,  twice every week.

I am not saying that Lampard is wrong, just that he has a different circle of friends.

I would not call the bunch I used to knock about with 'friends', more drinking aquaintances. I used to enjoy the life as well however much i disagreed with their actions. In those days though the whole world was wrapped in a haze of Jack Daniels. Wonderful if your single. Then I got married (for the first time)and I guess I'm one of these old fashioned geezers that believe in the rules of wedlock.But just remember one thing. When you are a bar owner like I am now and like I was in Pattaya,you see and hear things which other people don't. And also you can't choose your customers either.

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Again many thanks.

I've decided to tell them.

After much soul searching I decided that I'd rather risk having them griping about me for a while than seeing them wind up in the sh1t!!

Again many thanks.

I've decided to tell them.

After much soul searching I decided that I'd rather risk having them griping about me for a while than seeing them wind up in the sh1t!!

That's for the best I think.

I think the important question is not to tell them, but how to tell them without sounding like your some interfering/patronizing jealous mate or something stupid like that.

Choose your words carefully Prof.

I think the important question is not to tell them, but how to tell them without sounding like your some interfering/patronizing jealous mate or something stupid like that.

Choose your words carefully Prof.

Someting subtle like ' look here fellers yer tarts are screwing yer good selves ' :o

A mate of mine is getting bled dry by his fat falang live in lover (some of you guys know him too) back here in Adelaide and nobody can tell him, deep down he knows what is going on but refuses to acknowledge it, so we just let sleeping dogs lie and it's "up to him"

I thought his trip to Thailand had at least given him second thoughts. Being ripped off by a Thai girl is bad enough, but being ripped off by a fat falang (probably more expensively) is unforgivable!

:o

A mate of mine is getting bled dry by his fat falang live in lover (some of you guys know him too) back here in Adelaide and nobody can tell him, deep down he knows what is going on but refuses to acknowledge it, so we just let sleeping dogs lie and it's "up to him"

I thought his trip to Thailand had at least given him second thoughts. Being ripped off by a Thai girl is bad enough, but being ripped off by a fat falang (probably more expensively) is unforgivable!

:o

Unforgivable yes..........................but lets face it,a thousand times more Westerners (lets drop the word farang for the time being) are being ripped off,nagged to death and generally belittled by their fat,bloated spouses than actually happens here. And that's not counting the ones being ripped off by their thin,hour glass figure,beautiful wives/girlfriends/lovers.

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I think the important question is not to tell them, but how to tell them without sounding like your some interfering/patronizing jealous mate or something stupid like that.

Choose your words carefully Prof.

I am BKK. I've been draughting my email for two days now!!!

You Know Prof, I would never do it over an email either, I think that's the best way to get a bad reaction. It's gotta be face to face as better your mate can ask you why you think this way rather than just sitting there fuming at your email until hes so stressed about it he dont want to listen to you again.

Think about it, an email from you saying his birds a b.itch and his bird being physically there keeping him happy, who's gonna win him over easiest? No competition, power of the pussy wins everytime.

As you know it will be hard enough for him to see your side of thinking and believe you when you are there face to face. An email just wont cut it.

If you really cant do it face to face, at least do it by msn, it's how he reacts to your 'news' first off and how you both discuss it after thats the big factor here.

You Know Prof, I would never do it over an email either, I think that's the best way to get a bad reaction.  It's gotta be face to face as better your mate can ask you why you think this way rather than just sitting there fuming at your email until hes so stressed about it he dont want to listen to you again.

Think about it, an email from you saying his birds a b.itch and his bird being physically there keeping him happy, who's gonna win him over easiest?  No competition, power of the pussy wins everytime.

As you know it will be hard enough for him to see your side of thinking and believe you when you are there face to face.  An email just wont cut it.

If you really cant do it face to face, at least do it by msn, it's how he reacts to your 'news' first off and how you both discuss it after thats the big factor here.

Do it face to face.....no other way....he may hate you but he cant call you a coward....no offence meant.

A mate of mine is getting bled dry by his fat falang live in lover (some of you guys know him too) back here in Adelaide and nobody can tell him, deep down he knows what is going on but refuses to acknowledge it, so we just let sleeping dogs lie and it's "up to him"

I thought his trip to Thailand had at least given him second thoughts. Being ripped off by a Thai girl is bad enough, but being ripped off by a fat falang (probably more expensively) is unforgivable!

:o

My thoughts exactly jaye, he needs to have some sense knocked into him

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