Black Mail

[shanshan]

hi im not sure if this is in the correct forum

my thai girlfriend has just issued me with an ultimatum either i pay her 200,000 baht or i never see her and our 9 month old kid again

no idication as to what the money if for, i did ask and the reply i got was "not your business"

anyway she aint getting a single baht so what happens happens.

im just interested if anyone else has had this happen to them i have heard of 2 farang in the same situation, maybe its the norm out here

[arthurwait]

If you aren't a troll and you are the legalised father get your kid a go.

[Payboy]

I wish my girlfriends would give me those kind of ultimatums.

[h90]

I wish my girlfriends would give me those kind of ultimatums.

or the opposite one:

Give me 200K and I don't bother you anymore....That would be a good deal

[nottocus]

Watch yourself. If you don't pay then she will be pissed. Who knows what will happen. Make sure you get your kid and then get outta there. You don't wanna get hurt or even worse, have her hurt your kid.

[Swiss1960]

at least you should tell whether you are living with her or whether you live in a long-distance relationship, whether you are married to her (seems not if you write about girlfriend) and finally whether you are the legal (documented) father of the child... only then your options can be reviewed

[evadgib]

Assuming this isn't a troll post your first call should be to your embassy.

[chrisinth]

Assuming this isn't a troll post your first call should be to your embassy.

Not exactly sure what your embassy is going to do, unless your child is holding the passport of your home country.

[Berkshire]

To answer the OP's question, NO, it's not the norm out here. Your GF is a psycho. Which doesn't reflect very well on you.

[edwinclapham]

Something very similar happened to a guy I know in BKK and he did come to some sort of financial arrangement and kept the child.

For me the very idea of buying your own child is abhorrent but probably cheaper than getting lawyers, courts involved.

I would insist on full custody done legally before parting with any cash, a letter of authorisation from the Mother giving permission for the child to leave Thailand and as when is necessary and ensure he has his own western passport.

Good luck.

[PattayaParent]

Give her the bus fare home and tell her not to let the door hit her in the arse on the way out.

Then go to Soi Cowboy and find a replacement.

[Berkshire]

To answer the OP's question, NO, it's not the norm out here. Your GF is a psycho. Which doesn't reflect very well on you.

I take back what I said--perhaps the girl is not a complete psycho. This sounds like "child support negotiations," Thai-peasant-farmgirl-style. Maybe the girl is afraid Mr. Shanshan is going to do a runner and she will never see a dime of child support payments. But like someone said earlier, not enough info. Are we assuming that break-up is imminent?

[meom]

There's probably more to this story.

How much was the OP paying before he got hit with the ultimatum or did he just knock-up his GF and left her to take care herself?

[h90]

Assuming this isn't a troll post your first call should be to your embassy.

Not exactly sure what your embassy is going to do, unless your child is holding the passport of your home country.

Well usually embassy know similar cases and can recommend a lawyer which is know to be good.

[h90]

Give her the bus fare home and tell her not to let the door hit her in the arse on the way out.

Then go to Soi Cowboy and find a replacement.

he could offer a compromise....he offers 20 Baht, than they settle in the middle, which is 2000 Baht. (+00 vs -00)

[frankold]

Where did you meet her?

Let me guess.. She is Uni educated, has a good job, her parents have their own businesses, etc, etc.....

You made your bed, lay in it...........

[edwinclapham]

Where did you meet her?

Let me guess.. She is Uni educated, has a good job, her parents have their own businesses, etc, etc.....

You made your bed, lay in it...........

[Soutpeel]

Where did you meet her?

Let me guess.. She is Uni educated, has a good job, her parents have their own businesses, etc, etc.....

You made your bed, lay in it...........

Where in the OP's post did he say she was a BG or Uni educated ?....in fact he hasnt said anything about her......So based on your BS logic only BG's would pull a stunt like this...

[NewlyMintedThai]

I'd contact the nearest Tourist Police Volunteer.

[nietzche]

I'd contact the nearest Tourist Police Volunteer.

I almost thought you were serious!

[soi41]

I'd contact the nearest Tourist Police Volunteer.

So he is the father ??

[metisdead]

A profanity post has been removed.

[BigJohnnyBKK]

Assuming this is genuine:

Do you actually want to take full responsibility for raising the child?

Were you married to the mother on or before the date of your child's birth? If not, did you get yourself registered as the legal father? (not talking about your name on the BC)

If no to both, then you have no rights legally, or at least buying such rights without her cooperation would be very difficult expensive and most likely ethically questionable.

Do you plan to remain in Thailand?

Many many more details like this need to be clarified before relevant advice can be given.

[phuturatica]

Best bet is to stop impregnating psycho ladies... If this is genuine then barter with her if you can.

[TommoPhysicist]

As she is a girlfriend, in Thailand you have no rights over the child anyway (unless you have already jumped through many hoops).

You can't keep what was never yours.

[Hostile17]

pattaya addict in google --> lots of people who've gone through the same at least 2-3times each

[Razzler1973]

How did she arrive at the figure of 200K? You really think this is the last 'payment'?

Need more details about the situation though

[samsiam]

How long till valentines day ??

This thread is rather racist.

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[frankold]

Where did you meet her?

Let me guess.. She is Uni educated, has a good job, her parents have their own businesses, etc, etc.....

You made your bed, lay in it...........

Where in the OP's post did he say she was a BG or Uni educated ?....in fact he hasnt said anything about her......So based on your BS logic only BG's would pull a stunt like this...

yup, and if I were a gambling man, most of the time I would have thought I'd be bang on the money.

[oldsailor35]

The first thing i would demand is a DNA test. I would'nt be trusting that bitch.