Relationship Poll Discussion........Stability Of Your Relationship Result

[theblether]

Thanks very much to all members who took the time to vote on the Status of Your Relationship poll. There are several issues that have been thrown up and I reckon we need to break them down into separate discussions or some interesting points will get drowned out.

As of 8th May 2012, 13.30 hours, this was the standing of the poll in regards to your thoughts on the current status of your relationship. At this point 159 people responded to this section of the poll. The results are very interesting.

Current thoughts on your relationship.

• Coming to a rapid end.
  (6 votes [3.77%])
  
  
• Unsure as to prospects of the relationship.
  (32 votes [20.13%])
  
  
• On balance, prospects for the relationship are okay
  (16 votes [10.06%])
  
  
• On balance, relationship is stable
  (48 votes [30.19%])
  
  
• Relationship is rock solid.
  (57 votes [35.85%])
  
  

Reading this, a very high percentage of respondents believe their relationships to be stable or rock solid.

Obviously this poll is a reflection upon the Thaivisa membership, who are highly experienced and attuned to life in Thailand. I would suggest that this sends out a far more positive signal as to the durability of relationships than many people expected. I'm guessing that that durability comes from experience and commitment to learning how to adapt to living in a foreign land and / or living with a partner from a foreign culture.

To me it's a highly positive result, what do you think?

[RogueLeader]

It's the opinion of one member of the relationship in an anonymous poll whose results will be displayed on a public forum. I wouldn't take it too seriously.

[theblether]

It's the opinion of one member of the relationship in an anonymous poll whose results will be displayed on a public forum. I wouldn't take it too seriously.

Fair comment, though it is probably more representative than some of the unshakeable opinions that many people on this forum have. I would always rather ask than assume.

[itishothere]

Is this a high percentage? I mean, what would it be like in say Europe? My gut tells me it isn't that high to be honest.

And of course (sorry to be cynical Mrtheblether ) this is the view of one side of the relationship, what would the partner say to the same question? How many of these "highly experienced and attuned to life in Thailand" people wake up one morning to find the partner gone? Or asking for money for yet another sick Grandma. Even if they do smile so sweetly whilst they ask. This forum is full of posts expressing amazement at what is happening around them. How sure are they of what is happening back at home?

[theblether]

Is this a high percentage? I mean, what would it be like in say Europe? My gut tells me it isn't that high to be honest.

And of course (sorry to be cynical Mrtheblether ) this is the view of one side of the relationship, what would the partner say to the same question? How many of these "highly experienced and attuned to life in Thailand" people wake up one morning to find the partner gone? Or asking for money for yet another sick Grandma. Even if they do smile so sweetly whilst they ask. This forum is full of posts expressing amazement at what is happening around them. How sure are they of what is happening back at home?

There's no doubt that it's a one sided poll..........I'm not hanging my hat on anything though, the stats in as much as they are, tell their own story.

[phuturatica]

This was quite a difficult question to answer I thought as most people will be answering on how they felt at that particular moment. Everyone has good and bad patches in relationships therefore depending on their current mood and feelings towards the relationship, this would affect the poll results.

I'm currently going through a shitty bad patch in my relationship so I am currently unsure of the prospects, however if you would have asked me this a month or so ago, I would have said rock solid or stable. - This is just an example.

[theblether]

This was quite a difficult question to answer I thought as most people will be answering on how they felt at that particular moment. Everyone has good and bad patches in relationships therefore depending on their current mood and feelings towards the relationship, this would affect the poll results.

I'm currently going through a shitty bad patch in my relationship so I am currently unsure of the prospects, however if you would have asked me this a month or so ago, I would have said rock solid or stable. - This is just an example.

It's a fair example.....men are normally bad at realising that they are close to the exit door, that's why men take relationship breakdowns worse. It comes out of the blue for many. All we can do though is take the figures at face value, and at face value there looks to be a lot of very stable relationships out there. Claims of 90% plus divorce rates look off the mark.