Biggest Mistake Ever.

[Beetlejuice]

The OP`s gone shy, so this thread`s dead Fred.

[transam]

Can l ad, my ex stitched me up big time, but she was the love of my life, and still is.

May sound strange to some here and in all honesty I was never a problem. EVERYBODY changes as they get older and so relationships change, BUT, although my ex changed as well as me l would protect her till death. Sadly she didn't think the same as me.

Me too!

(Not sure about the still is part though, more of a WAS the love of my life)

Agree but think real love can never be expelled. Bit like ones children or mum.

[KarenBravo]

Can l ad, my ex stitched me up big time, but she was the love of my life, and still is.

May sound strange to some here and in all honesty I was never a problem. EVERYBODY changes as they get older and so relationships change, BUT, although my ex changed as well as me l would protect her till death. Sadly she didn't think the same as me.

Your good mate had a unique solution to the problem.

[transam]

Can l ad, my ex stitched me up big time, but she was the love of my life, and still is.

May sound strange to some here and in all honesty I was never a problem. EVERYBODY changes as they get older and so relationships change, BUT, although my ex changed as well as me l would protect her till death. Sadly she didn't think the same as me.

Your good mate had a unique solution to the problem.

Who was that ? Pray tell or retract the post.

[BookMan]

Can l ad, my ex stitched me up big time, but she was the love of my life, and still is.

May sound strange to some here and in all honesty I was never a problem. EVERYBODY changes as they get older and so relationships change, BUT, although my ex changed as well as me l would protect her till death. Sadly she didn't think the same as me.

Your good mate had a unique solution to the problem.

Who was that ? Pray tell or retract the post.

Very poor taste KB

[BookMan]

A recent post by meatballs...

All looking okay a week back.

Posted by meatballs on 2012-09-01 10:40:19 in Pattaya Forum

I semi-retired here at age 28. I became alcoholic pretty fast. Sleeping with a new girl everyday gave me some really nasty stds. Along the way I found away to make money online(dating) so I could live in SEA permanently. It's been 5 years and I live a fantastic life in Pattaya and SEA.

My advice is be crazy, drink, sleep around and have a blast. You only live once. If all fails, you can start over again(please don't be a jumper).

7 days is a long time in Los.

Is this the bouncy birdy guy ?

There are exceptions to the rules. Sometimes one lucks out.

Mine is still different.

Married on day 3.

Her kids moved in day 4.

Day 5 he bought her a house

By Day 7 it had all gone wrong

[Scottish Gary]

I know some guys who married bar girls and are now very happy with kids etc. Not all these marriages end in disaster but a lot do.

What my problem was that although my wife and me are similar ages when we got back to the cold harsh reality of life in the UK and out of the sunshine it became obvious that we did not have a single thing in common. Basically she liked to smoke, drink and gamble and i didnt.

Because i was continually having to send money back to Thailand i was working 7 days a week. She was working in a local Thai restaurant so she was surrounded by Thai people all the time.This gave her no incentive to try and improve her English. They would finish their shift and head straight to the casino or the bookmakers where she would blow her wages.

We never saw each other and the arguments about money became a common occurrence when we did.

The fact that i am a normal hardworking average looking sort of bloke who gave her a nice home as well as introduced her to my family who were more than happy to accept her into the fold meant nothing to her.

Like i said i know some guys who are married to Thai girls and are very happy. It all depends on the individuals involved just like any marriage but what quickly dawned on me was the importance she placed on her family back home was way above anything we had together.

[GuestHouse]

Sorry GH, but by posting there are two sides to all these stories, you are sort of suggesting that TS and I are less than honest people. I think both TS and myself are pretty 'stand-up guys', and you are playing the delusional 'if I'm good it can't happen to me' game.

TP I have not stated or implied that you or anyone else here is less than honest. I simply observed the only verifiable truth that there is always at least two sides to these stories.

Perfect honesty is not incompatible with not giving the whole story, we can non of us see a situation from the exact point of view as others who are involved.

The significance of this is, that is almost certainly pointless to try to fathom or indeed offer advice on the basis of one half of a story.

As for my "playing the delusional - 'if I'm good it can't happen to me' game" - there is nothing in my post that can reasonably lead you to that conclusion.

[ThaiPauly]

Stephen Leather's book " Private Dancer" should be compulsory reading for anyone setting foot in LOS.

It's fiction of course, but it tells a great tale of what can go wrong with relationships in Thailand, anyone who has read it I am sure would agree.

[edwinclapham]

A recent post by meatballs...

All looking okay a week back.

Posted by meatballs on 2012-09-01 10:40:19 in Pattaya Forum

I semi-retired here at age 28. I became alcoholic pretty fast. Sleeping with a new girl everyday gave me some really nasty stds. Along the way I found away to make money online(dating) so I could live in SEA permanently. It's been 5 years and I live a fantastic life in Pattaya and SEA.

My advice is be crazy, drink, sleep around and have a blast. You only live once. If all fails, you can start over again(please don't be a jumper).

no flies on you Bookman

[pigeonjake]

im not having a go at anyone when i say this,

but you must take some time to get to know your wife to be, weather she is thai or from the bloody moon,

you must get to know if she likes drinking or gambling, its no good marrying her then saying she is gambling drinking all the time,

these things you should of got to know before you bought the house ect,

just my thoughts,, jake

[chiang mai]

Just to change the tone - I'm in year nine of my marriage to a Thai and it just keeps getting better, it blows me away when I think that it's possible to get better than it already is and makes me realise how much time I wasted befoehand. Only fair to say though that I made a whole series of mistakes with my partner choices before I got to this point.

[pigeonjake]

Just to change the tone - I'm in year nine of my marriage to a Thai and it just keeps getting better, it blows me away when I think that it's possible to get better than it already is and makes me realise how much time I wasted befoehand. Only fair to say though that I made a whole series of mistakes with my partner choices before I got to this point.

im the same as you, i had my share of ones that i thought, this wont work,

but now ive been with my wife for 7 years, its great, 1st sept just had little janet margret, i dont think things can get better for me,

like i said in another post i mustbe one of the lucky ones,

or is it because i did my ground work first,?

jake

[bdw]

down the line it might turn sour but that is the nature of marriage.

and another perfectly good reason NOT to get married !

[bdw]

because i did my ground work first,?

what sort of "ground work" could you possibly do ?

Her family and friends will just deceive you if she's not on the up and up, trust me they work as a team when it's them against you.

I guess you could hire a private investigator, that's about the only thing I can think of.

[chiang mai]

Just to change the tone - I'm in year nine of my marriage to a Thai and it just keeps getting better, it blows me away when I think that it's possible to get better than it already is and makes me realise how much time I wasted befoehand. Only fair to say though that I made a whole series of mistakes with my partner choices before I got to this point.

im the same as you, i had my share of ones that i thought, this wont work,

but now ive been with my wife for 7 years, its great, 1st sept just had little janet margret, i dont think things can get better for me,

like i said in another post i mustbe one of the lucky ones,

or is it because i did my ground work first,?

jake

Outstanding!

I don't think though that it's possible to do much groundwork beforehand, there are perhaps some obvious things to look for that can be used to rule someone out but even that is very hit and miss and there are no truly firm rules, it's just luck and effort.

[pigeonjake]

@bdw

when you have been here for a while you get to know things, what to ask, yes go and meet the perants,

anyway what im going to say is im more then happy, we have a profitable pig farm so if she didnt want me, she could get along just fine without me,

im not going to explain everything to you, but if your happy not getting married thats up to you,

im more then happy with my life, i work in the oil and gas industry and still work, mostly 8 weeks on and 4 off or 6 and 3, but im now working for our future, because the way i look at it now i have a very good future in front of me, with a beautiful family,

take care all jake,

ps, everyone will do things differant if you here or if you live in any other country,

there are good girls and bad girls all over the world, and ive worked in lots of different countrys, and seen this happening, in brazil the girls were all over the gringos and a few of the lads are still living there, same in africa, no one stayed there,

jake

[2unique]

Sorry GH, but by posting there are two sides to all these stories, you are sort of suggesting that TS and I are less than honest people. I think both TS and myself are pretty 'stand-up guys', and you are playing the delusional 'if I'm good it can't happen to me' game.

TP I have not stated or implied that you or anyone else here is less than honest. I simply observed the only verifiable truth that there is always at least two sides to these stories.

Perfect honesty is not incompatible with not giving the whole story, we can non of us see a situation from the exact point of view as others who are involved.

The significance of this is, that is almost certainly pointless to try to fathom or indeed offer advice on the basis of one half of a story.

As for my "playing the delusional - 'if I'm good it can't happen to me' game" - there is nothing in my post that can reasonably lead you to that conclusion.

Disappearing Acts by Terry McMillan is a great book with each diary style chapter written in alternation between her and then him, it really shows the difference in their respective thinking on episodes in their relationship; even down to how he justified raping her.

Despite being fictional it does clearly detail a case of, his story, her story and the real story somewhere in the middle.

Both accounts can be honest w/out being the same...

Sent from Android, please excuse errors in type or judgement.

[pigeonjake]

in my eyes its how you both see the relationship,

example, you might think your right that you go out drinking every night

and you not like it when you get in pissed, that your wife g/f give you greif

but in her eyes she might think this wrong that your out every night,

its how you both look at the relationship

what you think is right might not be to her,

and what she thinks is right might not be to you,

so there will allways be 2 side to the same story,

at the end of the day any relationship is what you want to make it,

to get back on topic,,

my biggest mistake was not finding thailand sooner, i love my kids in england but i just wish ide of found thailand another few years before i did,

jake

[BookMan]

in my eyes its how you both see the relationship,

example, you might think your right that you go out drinking every night

and you not like it when you get in pissed, that your wife g/f give you greif

but in her eyes she might think this wrong that your out every night,

its how you both look at the relationship

what you think is right might not be to her,

and what she thinks is right might not be to you,

so there will allways be 2 side to the same story,

at the end of the day any relationship is what you want to make it,

to get back on topic,,

my biggest mistake was not finding thailand sooner, i love my kids in england but i just wish ide of found thailand another few years before i did,

jake

Happy as one of your pigs in mud jake?

[Berkshire]

A recent post by meatballs...

All looking okay a week back.

Posted by meatballs on 2012-09-01 10:40:19 in Pattaya Forum

I semi-retired here at age 28. I became alcoholic pretty fast. Sleeping with a new girl everyday gave me some really nasty stds. Along the way I found away to make money online(dating) so I could live in SEA permanently. It's been 5 years and I live a fantastic life in Pattaya and SEA.

My advice is be crazy, drink, sleep around and have a blast. You only live once. If all fails, you can start over again(please don't be a jumper).

Mr. Meatballs, what say you?

[yasorab]

How often does it have to be said ? 'You can take the girl out of the bar but you cant take the bar out of the girl !! ' You all come here get tanked up and fall in lust !! Time has proved that about 70-80% of all marriages to bar type girls end up on the rocks. There ARE good girls out and about but perhaps looking in bars in places such as Pattaya, Patong and Bkk is not the best plan of action. Drink, lust and Thia girls DO NOT mix. Think first as it is easy to get in and bloody hard and expensive to get back out again. Good luck !

[HardenedSoul]

A recent post by meatballs...

All looking okay a week back.

Posted by meatballs on 2012-09-01 10:40:19 in Pattaya Forum

I semi-retired here at age 28. I became alcoholic pretty fast. Sleeping with a new girl everyday gave me some really nasty stds. Along the way I found away to make money online(dating) so I could live in SEA permanently. It's been 5 years and I live a fantastic life in Pattaya and SEA.

My advice is be crazy, drink, sleep around and have a blast. You only live once. If all fails, you can start over again(please don't be a jumper).

Mr. Meatballs, what say you?

Oh dear. How embarrassing.

[chiang mai]

Time has proved that about 70-80% of all marriages to bar type girls end up on the rocks.

Please post a link confirming the statistics you quote.

[chiangmaikelly]

Are these girls worth the trouble i dont think so.

I know who those girls are but who are these girls? Are they kind of like those girls but shorter?

[siampreggers]

Always had a rule - 5 years together before getting married.

Seems to have bode me well.

[chiangmaikelly]

How often does it have to be said ? 'You can take the girl out of the bar but you cant take the bar out of the girl !! ' You all come here get tanked up and fall in lust !! Time has proved that about 70-80% of all marriages to bar type girls end up on the rocks. There ARE good girls out and about but perhaps looking in bars in places such as Pattaya, Patong and Bkk is not the best plan of action. Drink, lust and Thia girls DO NOT mix. Think first as it is easy to get in and bloody hard and expensive to get back out again. Good luck !

How often does it have to be said ? 'You can take the girl out of the bar but you cant take the bar out of the girl !! ' You all come here get tanked up and fall in lust !! Time has proved that about 70-80% of all marriages to bar type girls end up on the rocks. There ARE good girls out and about but perhaps looking in bars in places such as Pattaya, Patong and Bkk is not the best plan of action. Drink, lust and Thia girls DO NOT mix. Think first as it is easy to get in and bloody hard and expensive to get back out again. Good luck !

Are you talking about the ladies who worked at your bar or in general?

[jbrain]

Always had a rule - 5 years together before getting married.

Seems to have bode me well.

And.............you ever got married?

[transam]

Always had a rule - 5 years together before getting married.

Seems to have bode me well.

I did that, shit happened.

[tinfoilhat]

A recent post by meatballs...

All looking okay a week back.

Posted by meatballs on 2012-09-01 10:40:19 in Pattaya Forum

I semi-retired here at age 28. I became alcoholic pretty fast. Sleeping with a new girl everyday gave me some really nasty stds. Along the way I found away to make money online(dating) so I could live in SEA permanently. It's been 5 years and I live a fantastic life in Pattaya and SEA.

My advice is be crazy, drink, sleep around and have a blast. You only live once. If all fails, you can start over again(please don't be a jumper).

smells like a troll

whats trollish about it? the advice to live life to the fullest or the caveat against suicide?

i got here at 27 and ive done some pretty mad shit here, and while i couldn't keep it up indefinitely, i wouldn't change much of it. we haven't all arrived with one eye on our own hastily imminent mortality.

EDIT: ah i geddit, mr balls is our sad sack OP. It would seem he has been caught out being less than genuine. for shame. my remark stands though.