CharlieH Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 I have seen this mentioned from time to time and it introduced in other threads but havnt seen it discussed in its own right. As I understand it, "Mia No" (little wife)i is basically a relationship with another woman outside of marriage, in the west it would simply be termed "adultery". There can be more than one "Mia Noi" and the original married woman becomes "Mia Luang" as I have come to learn. So, there is the original partner and legal wife "Mia Luang" who often sanctions and can control "Mia Noi". My question is, how do western guys feels about this ? is it totally alien and something you wouldnt do ? Does it mean the wife loves you any less if she allows you to have a "mia-noi" or does it mean she just wants you happy ? One Thai woman I know said "if it makes him happy and its just sex then that's fine, as long as he doesnt leave me or the family it's fine" What are your experiences , if any, or maybe you have a "mia noi", how does it work for you ? whats your opinion about this ? If you are a female member of the forum how would you react if your husband had or wanted a Mia Noi? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poanoi Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 I'd be happy to have a mia noi, better yet if i can have mia jai & mia noi simultaneously Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robblok Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 It works good till the wife gets jealous, i been in an open relationship and had giks while married. Went perfect (she could have a guy at times too). It was fun for a while untill she got jealous. So then we cancelled the whole thing. Things like this usually happen when guys have been in a relation a couple of years and its not new anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post David48 Posted October 18, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 18, 2012 . Sadly, I'm not wealthy enough to afford a Mia Noi ... . 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post chiangmaikelly Posted October 18, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 18, 2012 This is an easy one. All the guys who like Thailand have a couple and those who do all the negative posting about Thailand don't. 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JurgenG Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 (edited) A Mia Noi is a status symbol. Something like a trophy wife in the west. I once jokingly asked my wife if she minds if I had a Mia Noi. She answered "If you can afford it ..." And from her eyes I understood that's something that would be very, very expensive ... Edited October 18, 2012 by JurgenG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post whistleblower Posted October 18, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 18, 2012 One Thai wife is enough!! why punish yourself with more? 16 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post chiangmaikelly Posted October 18, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 18, 2012 One Thai wife is enough!! why punish yourself with more? It is like doctors. A long time ago doctors took care of everything now there are specialists. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GuestHouse Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 As a old friend of mine once said, "ther's more than enough for any man at home - trouble is some guys just can't reach it" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post phuturatica Posted October 18, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 18, 2012 My input as a female member of the forum... I have dated a Thai guy and it has come to my understanding that Thailand is a very patriarchal society. Whilst guys are allowed to have giks and mia noi's the woman is not because at the end of the day their husband/boyfriend is paying for them seeing as men are the breadwinners in majority of relationships here. I don't condone in double standards in a relationship so if I was with a guy who wanted to have more than woman but I was not allowed to have more than one man then he can kiss my a** goodbye! Obviously this does not apply to all Thai men in the country. I know some who are monogamous in their relationships. I have no problem with polyamory or monogamous relationships but it must work both ways and there has to be full trust with both parties involved. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Semper Posted October 18, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 18, 2012 Does it mean the wife loves you any less if she allows you to have a "mia-noi" or does it mean she just wants you happy ? It means that she don't care, as long as you supply monthly payments to her. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VocalNeal Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Mia Luang is like the Buddha to be put on an altar and worshiped. Mia Noi is like an amulet, expensive and to be shown off. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike123ca Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 My input as a female member of the forum... I have dated a Thai guy and it has come to my understanding that Thailand is a very patriarchal society. Whilst guys are allowed to have giks and mia noi's the woman is not because at the end of the day their husband/boyfriend is paying for them seeing as men are the breadwinners in majority of relationships here. I don't condone in double standards in a relationship so if I was with a guy who wanted to have more than woman but I was not allowed to have more than one man then he can kiss my a** goodbye! Obviously this does not apply to all Thai men in the country. I know some who are monogamous in their relationships. I have no problem with polyamory or monogamous relationships but it must work both ways and there has to be full trust with both parties involved. If your husband can have a mia noi, you are okay with that as long as you can have a phua? What if the "little husband" wants to be compensated for his time. Would the relationship continue? I've always felt that if the man or woman needed a outside relationship in their marriage, then its time to review the marriage itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommoPhysicist Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 In Thailand you can do whatever you want, as long as you can pay for it. Married guy wants a young girl on the side ...... he pays. Married woman wants a young guy on the side ....... she pays. One of the few equal 'opportunity societies' in the world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 (edited) . Sadly, I'm not wealthy enough to afford a Mia Noi ... . The first step you have to do is getting married. Then, you can start dreaming of a Mia Noi. Having a GF doesn't count. Edited October 18, 2012 by Semper Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovelomsak Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 In Thailand you can do whatever you want, as long as you can pay for it. Married guy wants a young girl on the side ...... he pays. Married woman wants a young guy on the side ....... she pays. One of the few equal 'opportunity societies' in the world. Thats exactly what my gf told me when I ask about women with young men. She said same as man with mia noi if he or she can afford it they can have it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poanoi Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 My input as a female member of the forum... I have dated a Thai guy and it has come to my understanding that Thailand is a very patriarchal society. Whilst guys are allowed to have giks and mia noi's the woman is not because at the end of the day their husband/boyfriend is paying for them seeing as men are the breadwinners in majority of relationships here. I don't condone in double standards in a relationship so if I was with a guy who wanted to have more than woman but I was not allowed to have more than one man then he can kiss my a** goodbye! Obviously this does not apply to all Thai men in the country. I know some who are monogamous in their relationships. I have no problem with polyamory or monogamous relationships but it must work both ways and there has to be full trust with both parties involved. ....And that is why i insist mia jai participate in the triangle, so it's fair to all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naam Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Sadly, I'm not wealthy enough to afford a Mia Noi ... . sadly, my wife does not approve of a mia noi... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naam Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 .Sadly, I'm not wealthy enough to afford a Mia Noi ... . The first step you have to do is getting married. Then, you can start dreaming of a Mia Noi. Having a GF doesn't count. can't he have a girlfriend noi? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovelomsak Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Sadly, I'm not wealthy enough to afford a Mia Noi ... . sadly, my wife does not approve of a mia noi... Donot tell the wife or just get a gik. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morakot Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 In Thailand you can do whatever you want, as long as you can pay for it. Married guy wants a young girl on the side ...... he pays. Married woman wants a young guy on the side ....... she pays. One of the few equal 'opportunity societies' in the world. Based on the presupposition that one worships money. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommoPhysicist Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 In Thailand you can do whatever you want, as long as you can pay for it. Married guy wants a young girl on the side ...... he pays. Married woman wants a young guy on the side ....... she pays. One of the few equal 'opportunity societies' in the world. Based on the presupposition that one worships money. Based on the presupposition that many young Thais worship money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krisb Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 If I had mia noi, mia phom dut koi. She would big time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soundman Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 In my case, So, there is the original partner and legal wife "Mia Luang" who often sanctions and can control "Mia Noi". The wife would most likely shoot the mia noi. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiangmaikelly Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 My input as a female member of the forum... I have dated a Thai guy and it has come to my understanding that Thailand is a very patriarchal society. Whilst guys are allowed to have giks and mia noi's the woman is not because at the end of the day their husband/boyfriend is paying for them seeing as men are the breadwinners in majority of relationships here. I don't condone in double standards in a relationship so if I was with a guy who wanted to have more than woman but I was not allowed to have more than one man then he can kiss my a** goodbye! Obviously this does not apply to all Thai men in the country. I know some who are monogamous in their relationships. I have no problem with polyamory or monogamous relationships but it must work both ways and there has to be full trust with both parties involved. I certainly understand where you are coming from but I doubt that your view preserves the culture of Thailand in general and Thailand's patriarchal society in particular. I know I am not alone when I mention there are men who came to Thailand to immerse themselves in the local culture, temples and food and morals. I feel we must take the good with the bad. As much as it may offend my Western sensibilities I try and go along with the dominant culture on this one. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 .Sadly, I'm not wealthy enough to afford a Mia Noi ... . The first step you have to do is getting married. Then, you can start dreaming of a Mia Noi. Having a GF doesn't count. can't he have a girlfriend noi? In size or........ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phuturatica Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 My input as a female member of the forum... I have dated a Thai guy and it has come to my understanding that Thailand is a very patriarchal society. Whilst guys are allowed to have giks and mia noi's the woman is not because at the end of the day their husband/boyfriend is paying for them seeing as men are the breadwinners in majority of relationships here. I don't condone in double standards in a relationship so if I was with a guy who wanted to have more than woman but I was not allowed to have more than one man then he can kiss my a** goodbye! Obviously this does not apply to all Thai men in the country. I know some who are monogamous in their relationships. I have no problem with polyamory or monogamous relationships but it must work both ways and there has to be full trust with both parties involved. If your husband can have a mia noi, you are okay with that as long as you can have a phua? What if the "little husband" wants to be compensated for his time. Would the relationship continue? I've always felt that if the man or woman needed a outside relationship in their marriage, then its time to review the marriage itself. This is obviously your opinion on this matter however I know several people who are in polyamorous relationships and they do just fine and have done so for years. It definitely doesn't suit everyone that is for sure. I am personally a monogamous person myself but I can see why the idea of polyamory would appeal to some people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 I've always felt that if the man or woman needed a outside relationship in their marriage, then its timeto review the marriage itself. Muslims do this all the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scotto Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Mia Noi no need for that you can get short time if you really want I personally have no need my wife is great and i respect her. that and she has big knifes in the kitchen that she might use as she said "cut for duck" i always reply the duck will be hungry darling. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taff33 Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Two wives = two mother-in-laws God help me if I ever go down that path. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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