What's The Big Deal About Marrying A Girl You Met In A Bar ?

[coolhandjoe]

There seems to be a certain viewpoint on TV that where you met you wife is of importance.

Yes it's important for memorable reasons and nostalgia.

I personally met my wife on an island called Koh Chang nearly 12 years ago in a beach bar where she was working as a chef cooking the best Thai green curry ever tasted in Thailand.

Yes! It was a bar but people asume a bar as in gogo pattaya etc

It cheeses me off when we meet other falang/asiatic couples who meet in bars that are shall we say less reputable .

As anyone else had similar experience ?

[phuturatica]

Obviously the kind of bar does have an impact...

I think I'll let you work this one out for yourself and let you do the math.

[pigeonjake]

here we go again,,,

[chonabot]

Why should it matter to you if another couple met in a less classy bar?

Life's too bloody short......

[prighas]

Lots of superficiality in Thailand. Do what you think makes you happy and never regret it as I'm sure superficial people can't advise any better.

[canuckamuck]

Getting married is not a big deal and unlikely to effect the rest of your life. You should marry the first guy/girl/other who will let you. Really, what could happen?

Edited October 25, 2012 by canuckamuck

[tuky]

I am with Chonas on this one.

Life is way too short.

[Songhua]

I don't care where people perceive I met my wife twenty two years ago. They can think what they like.

Walk the streets of a western city like Sydney or London and 90% of those who see you will gleefully think you're with a BG anyhow. You could go to the mall with Yingluck .... and they'd STILL think it. Who cares?

[farang000999]

get a blog and spare us.

[Heng]

I think you'll find that much of the 'big deal' or 'negativity' originates from guys who have made that choice themselves at some point or another and have ended up living the traditional 'horror' stories of losing their shirts, adopting a family, or something more 'creative.' The rest comes from guys who have made that choice and are simply overly insecure about it.

Edited October 25, 2012 by Heng

[coolhandjoe]

I don't care where people perceive I met my wife twenty two years ago. They can think what they like.

Walk the streets of a western city like Sydney or London and 90% of those who see you will gleefully think you're with a BG anyhow. You could go to the mall with Yingluck .... and they'd STILL think it. Who cares?

Good Point - So i'm correct in the assumption that all falangs think because you have an Asiatic wife you met under less selubiuos circumstances.

This sterio type is a hard one to crush in the western world no matter how hard you try.

[noob7]

Good Point - So i'm correct in the assumption that all falangs think because you have an Asiatic wife you met under less selubiuos circumstances.

This sterio type is a hard one to crush in the western world no matter how hard you try.

Unlucky, as soon, there are tattoos to spot on the wife: It's proved!

How many 'non-Bar Girls' do you know / have you seen, with a tattoo, that is not easy to hide??

[Heng]

There are certainly more 'tells' than tattoos.

[Sharp]

here we go again,,,

Yup...

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[Songhua]

I don't care where people perceive I met my wife twenty two years ago. They can think what they like.

Walk the streets of a western city like Sydney or London and 90% of those who see you will gleefully think you're with a BG anyhow. You could go to the mall with Yingluck .... and they'd STILL think it. Who cares?

Good Point - So i'm correct in the assumption that all falangs think because you have an Asiatic wife you met under less selubiuos circumstances.

This sterio type is a hard one to crush in the western world no matter how hard you try.

I'd say so joe. But the problem is their's.

It's their mindset because it's the only thing they can perceive. How many people who have been to Asia have witnessed the expat courting the girl in the office or a fellow student at uni? That's not what they see so it's not what they know. And, even if they've never set foot in Asia, it's not the side of it they've heard about or seen on television. All they have a concept of is the 'seedy' (not my word, I don't care where anyone else met their wife)

[Valentine]

I don't care where people perceive I met my wife twenty two years ago. They can think what they like.

Walk the streets of a western city like Sydney or London and 90% of those who see you will gleefully think you're with a BG anyhow. You could go to the mall with Yingluck .... and they'd STILL think it. Who cares?

Good Point - So i'm correct in the assumption that all falangs think because you have an Asiatic wife you met under less selubiuos circumstances.

This sterio type is a hard one to crush in the western world no matter how hard you try.

I'd say so joe. But the problem is their's.

It's their mindset because it's the only thing they can perceive. How many people who have been to Asia have witnessed the expat courting the girl in the office or a fellow student at uni? That's not what they see so it's not what they know. And, even if they've never set foot in Asia, it's not the side of it they've heard about or seen on television. All they have a concept of is the 'seedy' (not my word, I don't care where anyone else met their wife)

The stereotype is also prevalent in Thailand. A bar girl is a girl some are good some not so just like the rest of the general population. How many western girls are virgins when they marry?

[pigeonjake]

if i meet a couple,Falang/Thai,

if they are happy what does it matter were they met, i for one wouldnt dream of saying did you meet her in a bar then,

i would just be happy to be in there company, nothing to do with me,

and more inpotantly nothing to do with anyone else,

ive found on here, by some of the posters, they love to read the bad storys,,you never see them post on the threds that are about couples that are happy with there wife, there life here, there family here,

never allways there to pull thais down, but never there to say good things,

if you met your wife in a bar, park,club, beach, dosnt matter,

be happy,

jake

[BigJohnnyBKK]

This may well have been triggered by my posts in another thread.

Since I engage in these activities on a semi-professional basis I have become perhaps more aware than many of those "context factors" that influence the odds of your meeting an honest and sincere girl as opposed to opportunistic scam artists.

However it would IMO behoove those who believe in long-term monogamy to pay attention to such factors even more than the butterflies.

If you're looking for a well-educated girl, therefore one with more a modern/global cultural outlook, then I concede perhaps the odds are a little less deterministic for some locations, but I suspect only very slightly.

If you're talking about those from a poor background, then I would say where you meet the girl has a **very very** strong influence on the kind of girl you'll meet.

And note even if she's a pure of heart saint, I personally prefer partners that don't have a habit of getting their enjoyment "bai tiao" in the evenings, and ideally don't drink alcohol at all.

But I concede this last is an usual and purely personal preference on my part, many guys are looking for girls with some sophistication and experience, which I avoid like the plague.

For those that don't have the time or inclination to learn Thai, then of course their options are more limited, but make sure it's not just laziness on your part - it's well worth making the effort to go to the extra trouble to create a healthy context in which you'll meet a better class of girl than simply trolling the known farang-man-looking-for-TG-and-vice-versa areas.

[kurnell]

Anybody want to own up to marrying a girl from a hoover bar?

[simple1]

Personally it doesn't bother me what another falang thinks about the background my Thai partner. However, some are ignorant enough to make a comment in a bar, such as the individual who said to me your wife must of worked as a BG for a long time after overhearing us talking in English. I quietly informed him we had been living together in an English speaking society for many years and did not need his deep insight into Thai women.

What does annoy me is racism and this was exposed to my Thai wife during our 17 years in Australia and was very upsetting to her.

Edited October 26, 2012 by simple1

[TwoDogz]

My wife was holding up the bar when we met.

[TwoDogz]

She got 14 years hard labour.

[pigeonjake]

twodogs,

do you go in a lot of bars were the bar is brocken??

[macksview]

Anybody want to own up to marrying a girl from a hoover bar?

i know a bloke who married a girl who worked at tesco electrical department, i think she sold hoovers.

yes, who will be the first to admit it, "she is different, she did not swallow"

[macksview]

Anybody want to own up to marrying a girl from a hoover bar?

who will be the first to admit he married a girl who worked at the eden club, "she is different, she worked on the other side of the line"

[TwoDogz]

Anybody want to own up to marrying a girl from a hoover bar?

i know a bloke who married a girl who worked at tesco electrical department, i think she sold hoovers.

yes, who will be the first to admit it, "she is different, she did not swallow"

Its not sex anyway, so whats the big deal?

[macksview]

Anybody want to own up to marrying a girl from a hoover bar?

i know a bloke who married a girl who worked at tesco electrical department, i think she sold hoovers.

yes, who will be the first to admit it, "she is different, she did not swallow"

Its not sex anyway, so whats the big deal?

mr clinton taught us that, it was not counted as a sex act.

[BigJohnnyBKK]

Personally it doesn't bother me what another falang thinks about the background my Thai partner. However, some are ignorant enough to make a comment in a bar, such as the individual who said to me your wife must of worked as a BG for a long time after overhearing us talking in English. I quietly informed him we had been living together in an English speaking society for many years and did not need his deep insight into Thai women. What does annoy me is racism and this was exposed to my Thai wife during our 17 years in Australia and was very upsetting to her.

Yes it's important not to assume nor over-generalize, I certainly don't mean to imply aspersions on anyone's mate by giving advice for those still looking.

Some people also make the mistake of making moral judgments based on someone's choice of work, past or present.

In my experience, there are many sex workers in all countries that are very sincere, honest and moral people, and many end up making perfect spouses for open-minded mates.

As well as of course lying scam artists at the highest reaches of "respectable" society, again in all countries and both sexes.

My statements are based on my personal preferences and with a goal to helping increase the odds of finding a good one. Of course yourself being a mate worthy of such a partner (by her definition) is fundamental as well. . .

Anybody want to own up to marrying a girl from a hoover bar?

They're usually available at a very reasonable rate, as having only one customer probably <10 sessions per week would be very attractive compared to their usual workload. Going rate for the cute ones is about 15K per month, maybe more if you're older or otherwise less attractive, most likely good value in the short term for some.

Although I bet it wouldn't be long before they'd be pestering for more, at least their methods of persuasion would be more pleasant than most.

Personally I'd prefer to simply arrange regular house visits before or after her regular shift, may be a little more expensive but that way you don't have to put up with her hanging around all the time.

Of course don't expect a discount, you have to pay more for in-home visits, probably not worth it for most compared to your making the trip when the fancy strikes.

[pigeonjake]

i wish i was better at spelling, i would have some great storys,

yes my wife is a farm girl, but saying that i was a farm boy, so it was great for me to meet her and get our farm going,

to be honest as others call them an hi so girl wouldnt be for me,

my wife will put her arm up a pigs what sit,, not a problem,

it is after all the things that make you both happy in life that counts,

yes my wife can splay her toes and pick things up, i think thats great,, saves me bending,,lol,

others call the farm girls, splayed toed monkey farm girls, as they have called them on here,

well im more then happy with mine,

if you are happy with your hi so girl living in bkk, then also good look to you,

its horses for courses,

just my thoughts though,

jake

[Payboy]

What's The Big Deal About Marrying A Girl You Met In A Bar

I say go for if they have a dance floor and space for a buffet.