jaideeguy Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 A couple of days ago my Thai wife [of 12 yrs] was looking over my shoulder at my email and noticed a Thai woman's name as a sender and it thru her into an insane jealous fit. I tried to explain the innocence of the email, as it was from a business contact, and even my son backed me up on it, but that wouldn't satisfy her and I realized that she just wouldn't let go of it, so I did what I normally do when she has a 'fit' and shut down and stopped conversation. I could mention other similar jealousy events, but I'll spare you........ BTW......she was on the first day of her menstruation, but this has happened on other occasions when there was no blood involved. She did sleep it off and apologized in the morning, but I had a terrible night's sleep and had a lot of negative thoughts bouncing around my head.....considering leaving etc. I'm getting too old for dramas!! My questions are why are Asian women so dam_n jealous [and mostly for a non event]?? Is it their way of showing that they love you?? Insecurities?? Possessiveness?? Or something I am missing?? This is not a gender or racial put down, so please keep your guns in your holsters girls. I just want to know why and if other spouses have experienced the same......and please everyone let this be a civil discussion so it won't get shut down, OK?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ableguy Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 Its all a security thing, I get the same crap have to be careful where my eyes are pointing all the time . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 Interesting, but it seems to be quite a common occurrence. I have to work a lot with female colleagues, and so get calls, emails and have meetings. This at times seems to cause a few Jealousy issues with the missus, particularly in the case of one colleague who works in my office. I have had on a number of occasion had to explain that thee is nothing going on, but it still seems to get mentioned every month or so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post TommoPhysicist Posted November 12, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2012 Don't stay and listen to the insanity, you can't do anything about it. I just go out on my own for the evening and come back late (and drunk). It's all over by then. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swiss1960 Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 I personally think it comes down to their weak status... lack of social security if they would be on their own again and mostly lack of own assets as well... so mostly I think it is fear of being left alone and not being cared for anymore... And it does not take much... a mail from the wrong person in your case... not immediately picking up the phone when she calles... calling her 5 minutes later than promised... coming home later than expected (by her, even if you said nothing)... And there she goes and blows... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
true blue Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 mine mentions my ex girl friend more times than i like,but what the heck tit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thenervoussurgeon Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 never really had a problem with my wife but i had a Thai girlfriend for a couple of years a long time ago and she went after me with a knife ,had to lock myself away untill she cooled down , i really believe she would have stabbed me in the heat of the moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 The dreaded PMT. Followed me all my life. We must bite the bullet, no other way. ........ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrRed Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 Don't stay and listen to the insanity, you can't do anything about it. I just go out on my own for the evening and come back late (and drunk). It's all over by then. Lightweight ..one evening? has to be at least three! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krisb Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 I agree they are jealous little things. Something my dear old Grandma taught me to a happy marriage was 'never go to sleep angry at each other. ' Its been a wise tip by a wise old lady that was married for over 70 years. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post jaideeguy Posted November 12, 2012 Author Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2012 I might mention that in other past relationships with Asian women that when i get accused too much, i then figure that I can go play around as I have been tried and found guilty for no crime. The funny thing is that I haven't gotten caught in a real act.....just the imaginary ones. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uptheos Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 I personally think it comes down to their weak status... lack of social security if they would be on their own again and mostly lack of own assets as well... so mostly I think it is fear of being left alone and not being cared for anymore... And it does not take much... a mail from the wrong person in your case... not immediately picking up the phone when she calles... calling her 5 minutes later than promised... coming home later than expected (by her, even if you said nothing)... And there she goes and blows... Am elaborate way of saying, she wants to control you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrRed Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 Jaideeguy The seed is sewn now and she will get worse,get out while you are still alive the amazing thing from your post is you actually got an apology ............So Thai's can say sorry!! no believe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BigJohnnyBKK Posted November 12, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2012 (edited) I don't care what the supposed "rationale" is for the hissy fit but very first time it happens with any level of insane screaming or damage to possessions I turf her and her stuff out the door, minimum 24 hours with no response to any contact. 2nd time a full week, 3 strikes you're out. Otherwise it never never gets better as time goes on, she's got to realize it's a bottom-line deal-breaker just as much as stealing or substantial lying. Too many damaged goods out there in the farang-hunting pool, major bi-polar, borderline personality stuff etc. And I'm not qualified to play shrink, even if I did have the patience. Edited November 12, 2012 by BigJohnnyBKK 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post I Like Thai Posted November 12, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2012 (edited) I tried to explain the innocence of the email, Interesting, but it seems to be quite a common occurrence. I have to work a lot with female colleagues, and so get calls, emails and have meetings. This at times seems to cause a few Jealousy issues with the missus, particularly in the case of one colleague who works in my office. I have had on a number of occasion had to explain that thee is nothing going on, but it still seems to get mentioned every month or so. This is where ye are going wrong. never explain yourself to another person when you have done nothing wrong. It's all about control. When is the last time a woman "explained herself" to you.? Edited November 12, 2012 by I Like Thai 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post giddyup Posted November 12, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2012 I think it's in their blood. I sometimes get asked if I'm going back to my falang ex-wife, after being divorced for 35 years! 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 I tried to explain the innocence of the email, Interesting, but it seems to be quite a common occurrence. I have to work a lot with female colleagues, and so get calls, emails and have meetings. This at times seems to cause a few Jealousy issues with the missus, particularly in the case of one colleague who works in my office. I have had on a number of occasion had to explain that thee is nothing going on, but it still seems to get mentioned every month or so. This is where ye are going wrong. never explain yourself to another person when you have done nothing wrong. It's all about control. When is the last time a woman "explained herself" to you.? I would have thought having open communication would be ok? It really has little impact upon our relationship, and it's easily dealt with. I sense a hint of misogyny in your comments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigJohnnyBKK Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 I think it's in their blood. I sometimes get asked if I'm going back to my falang ex-wife, after being divorced for 35 years! Another rule I've learned by hard experience - never give any information about past partners. No margin in it at all for you, and just gives her a hook to hang her negative fantasies. . . 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mauGR1 Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 You are not alone @ jaideeguy...The most important thing is to know when it's time to hide the knives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevvy Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 my wife is great she never gets jealous , well i dont give her a reason , but i know she is a great lady and if she did think something she would ask first Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mauGR1 Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 I think it's in their blood. I sometimes get asked if I'm going back to my falang ex-wife, after being divorced for 35 years! Another rule I've learned by hard experience - never give any information about past partners. No margin in it at all for you, and just gives her a hook to hang her negative fantasies. . . Spot on, done the same mistake a few times, but i guess if you answer evasively they get even more suspicious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I Like Thai Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 I tried to explain the innocence of the email, Interesting, but it seems to be quite a common occurrence. I have to work a lot with female colleagues, and so get calls, emails and have meetings. This at times seems to cause a few Jealousy issues with the missus, particularly in the case of one colleague who works in my office. I have had on a number of occasion had to explain that thee is nothing going on, but it still seems to get mentioned every month or so. This is where ye are going wrong. never explain yourself to another person when you have done nothing wrong. It's all about control. When is the last time a woman "explained herself" to you.? I would have thought having open communication would be ok? It really has little impact upon our relationship, and it's easily dealt with. I sense a hint of misogyny in your comments. Open communication is a two way street. Explaining yourself is a one way street. If you don't have it from the start, it's unlikely that you can introduce it afterwards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yermanee Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 Funny all that. My wife trusts me. Maybe it's the way I treat her ? Yermanee 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KKvampire Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 The same Thai Women who are paranoid and jealous when their "partner" communicates with other females are the same ones likely to dump the man when it suits their Position , such as better rich pickings elsewhere 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
giddyup Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 I think it's in their blood. I sometimes get asked if I'm going back to my falang ex-wife, after being divorced for 35 years! Another rule I've learned by hard experience - never give any information about past partners. No margin in it at all for you, and just gives her a hook to hang her negative fantasies. . . I get the odd birthday/xmas card from the ex, so it was a bit hard to keep it a secret. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robblok Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 I personally think it comes down to their weak status... lack of social security if they would be on their own again and mostly lack of own assets as well... so mostly I think it is fear of being left alone and not being cared for anymore... And it does not take much... a mail from the wrong person in your case... not immediately picking up the phone when she calles... calling her 5 minutes later than promised... coming home later than expected (by her, even if you said nothing)... And there she goes and blows... Correct, they know they can easily be replaced. They depend on the guy for everything and often are at the mercy of the guy. Unless he has bought them a house or car ect. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
giddyup Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 Funny all that. My wife trusts me. Maybe it's the way I treat her ? Yermanee We must all be doing it wrong and treating our wives/gf's badly. Do you have a self-help book I can read? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiangmaikelly Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 You wrote, "My questions are why are Asian women so dam_n jealous [and mostly for a non event]?? Is it their way of showing that they love you??" How many non Asian women have you been married to? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaideeguy Posted November 12, 2012 Author Share Posted November 12, 2012 You wrote, "My questions are why are Asian women so dam_n jealous [and mostly for a non event]?? Is it their way of showing that they love you??" How many non Asian women have you been married to? Have been married to three non Asian women and jealousy was an issue in only one relationship with a white woman and that was another non event. Actually, that's when I gave up on western women and 'went Asian'. I am trying not to make generalizations, but the consensus is that I am not alone in my feelings/observations on Asian women. Another thing that I have noticed in some relationships with Asian women is that the ones that are the most accusing are sometimes guilty of the thing that they are accusing you of and just trying to hide behind their accusations.......not saying that my current wife is doing that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigJohnnyBKK Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 Spot on, done the same mistake a few times, but i guess if you answer evasively they get even more suspicious. Mai geeo arai gap khun. None of your business, just like if she asks about my bank accounts, do I own a house back home, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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