Age Difference In Relationships In Thailand

[Morden]

to many people assume young men are not financially stable.

to many assume youth is an indication of a lack of maturity when they are acting in a less then mature way themselves.

Maturity and experience has nothing to do with age, like I said most people live a life time having done very little yet claim to know so much simply because they are older.

On another note, I really wish people would stop thinking we really give a hoot about any ones relationships, It is however a forum and we were kind of asked to give our view, giving your view does not mean you really care,

Too many assume that older expats. don't have happy, stable relationships.

If the juveniles here don't give a hoot, why are they making so much noise?

[muythai2013]

What would be the point of coming to Thailand and not 'dating' girls much younger?

(Assuming you aren't one of these young losers who can't pull a girl your own age in your home country)

Good point, true in many respects, my ex was an Italian model and bored the hell out of me.

never really went looking for a Thai girl, never set out to choose a girl by race, just met one through work.

If I was to split with my missus I would not seek a Thai girl, would not be against it but I seek people I connect with not by race but by personality.

hence the reason I split with the model, she was good to look at but that's about it, never a problem picking up woman, don't want to brag but screw it, you raised the issue, I really am a handsum man even in Australia.

[muythai2013]

to many people assume young men are not financially stable.

to many assume youth is an indication of a lack of maturity when they are acting in a less then mature way themselves.

Maturity and experience has nothing to do with age, like I said most people live a life time having done very little yet claim to know so much simply because they are older.

On another note, I really wish people would stop thinking we really give a hoot about any ones relationships, It is however a forum and we were kind of asked to give our view, giving your view does not mean you really care,

Too many assume that older expats. don't have happy, stable relationships.

If the juveniles here don't give a hoot, why are they making so much noise?

why, because its a forum and that's what forums do.

we talk about things, this is like the tv show the view, If we all shut up then what.

[nontabury]

Am i the only guy who has an older wife? Only 1 year though.

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No,there is one couple in my district were the Thai wife is over 20yrs older than her Farang husband. Each to their own.

[Morden]

to many people assume young men are not financially stable.

to many assume youth is an indication of a lack of maturity when they are acting in a less then mature way themselves.

Maturity and experience has nothing to do with age, like I said most people live a life time having done very little yet claim to know so much simply because they are older.

On another note, I really wish people would stop thinking we really give a hoot about any ones relationships, It is however a forum and we were kind of asked to give our view, giving your view does not mean you really care,

Too many assume that older expats. don't have happy, stable relationships.

If the juveniles here don't give a hoot, why are they making so much noise?

why, because its a forum and that's what forums do.

we talk about things, this is like the tv show the view, If we all shut up then what.

There are things to talk about other than the morally correct maximum age in the relationships of other members. The subject comes up so often that I think there are rather too many dissatisfied juniors around who have to observe and criticise others.

[nontabury]

Yes you're right about the pension not relevant, I've always drawn much younger women, even before Thailand, I guess some of us just have that ability, so when I met my Thai wife, nothing really changed....for some maybe maybe a young wife is a new experience.....for me it wasn't.......sorry to inform you young guys.... ......it isn't all about money.....you've got to have 'it'

This is soo true, even in farangland some men find it very easy to get off with the best looking girls, while others can only get off with the drags(not saying looks are everything) in many cases it does't even relate to the man having good looks. Some men simple find it very easy to attract members of the opposite sex. Maybe this is what Hardensoul resent

[poanoi]

What would be the point of coming to Thailand and not 'dating' girls much younger?

(Assuming you aren't one of these young losers who can't pull a girl your own age in your home country)

This is a secret to many, but, some men comes from places so cold so coming to cheap prostitutes is not as much of

overruling concern as is the great escape from the ice cold weather.

I even heard of a man that wouldn't 'date' a prostitute even if it was free,

due to the fact that they are infested with STD's.

[NanLaew]

... On another note, I really wish people would stop thinking we really give a hoot about any ones relationships, It is however a forum and we were kind of asked to give our view, giving your view does not mean you really care,

But it's the way that Banzai99, HardenedSoul and (more recently) Eesat and yourself so willingly, emphatically and repeatedly indicate how little you care for us older mongers sage members, and where we chose to make our deposits, that is so very, very touching.

It's really nice to feel cared about.

Thanks.

Edited May 19, 2013 by NanLaew

[watcharacters]

We all know the truth.

It's more or less prostituting yourself to one full time customer.

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Would you like to add a bible reference to that?

[Nuna]

I'm not a fan of woman who seek older men, I'm not saying i'm right but i'm entitled to my thoughts.

I don't think highly of girls that accept gifts like Houses or cars, more so if they have one already,It does not say much about the womans character as she could say no being that it's not needed.

I also could not understand from any point of view why anyone in the right mind would purchase a house in Thailand, It's not and never will be yours.

So you're just not a fan of women then?All girls like older guys because all girls are in love with their Father,it's called the Electra Complex and the male version is the Oedipus Complex.

Some of you wet-behind-the-ears kids on here are very naïve,then again I knew it all when I was in my twenties also!

Hot twentysomething girls don't like guys the same age because they are all like dogs with two dicks,it's not a challenge for a hot young girl to date some young idiot who has no idea how to treat her and is way too immature for her!

Thanks god, I am not the part of the so-called Electra Complex.

Edited May 19, 2013 by Nuna

[rene123]

Young, old, handsome, homely, wealthy, poor, in love or in lust, what does it matter except for the people involved? There are many types of love and people of far different age groups can love one another. It seems that some young men here think that "love" is the only criteria for marriage. Why the argument? You can love your mother, your father, your sister, your brother or your children. It doesn't mean you want to have sex with them. There are many sexless marriages that work quite well. That doesn't mean they are wrong or that they shouldn't be married. Anybody who has been married for 10 years or more knows that lust diminishes in time. Why do they call it the 7 year itch? If a couple are happy with their arrangement then that should be all that matters. In some ways I think the Thais with their secondary wife system (mai noi) have a more practical point of view. My husband and I were in love when we were first married, but after 10 years together he got the wander lust. However, after more than a year apart I'm beginning to think he did me a favour by leaving.

[Morden]

Young, old, handsome, homely, wealthy, poor, in love or in lust, what does it matter except for the people involved? There are many types of love and people of far different age groups can love one another. It seems that some young men here think that "love" is the only criteria for marriage. Why the argument? You can love your mother, your father, your sister, your brother or your children. It doesn't mean you want to have sex with them. There are many sexless marriages that work quite well. That doesn't mean they are wrong or that they shouldn't be married. Anybody who has been married for 10 years or more knows that lust diminishes in time. Why do they call it the 7 year itch? If a couple are happy with their arrangement then that should be all that matters. In some ways I think the Thais with their secondary wife system (mai noi) have a more practical point of view. My husband and I were in love when we were first married, but after 10 years together he got the wander lust. However, after more than a year apart I'm beginning to think he did me a favour by leaving.

Now then young men, that post is from a mature person who has some experience of life. Read and learn. Life is more complex than you yet realise.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

There are many sexless marriages that work quite well.

Anybody who has been married for 10 years or more knows that lust diminishes in time.

My husband and I were in love when we were first married, but after 10 years together he got the wander lust.

Many western women want to believe this.

It isn't true, the man still wants sex, but either she no longer puts out (or he no longer desires the crone she has become).

Most marriage failures I have seen happen when the woman, essentially, stops her husband having sex with her, so he gets 'wander lust'.

Edited May 19, 2013 by AnotherOneAmerican

[SteeleJoe]

There are many sexless marriages that work quite well.

Anybody who has been married for 10 years or more knows that lust diminishes in time.

My husband and I were in love when we were first married, but after 10 years together he got the wander lust.

Many western women want to believe this.

It isn't true, the man still wants sex, but either she no longer puts out (or he no longer desires the crone she has become).

Most marriage failures I have seen happen when the woman, essentially, stops her husband having sex with her, so he looks elsewhere.

CLASSIC.

The stuff you say...I sometimes wonder if you are just a character someone created; in other words the most impressive Troll ever.

[farang000999]

These threads are always the same. Nobody every wins because there is nothing to win. Just different people looking at a cup and arguing over whether it is half full or half empty.

[BookMan]

These threads are always the same. Nobody every wins because there is nothing to win. Just different people looking at a cup and arguing over whether it is half full or half empty.

Or looking in the drinking cup of strangers at a bar and deciding whether or not they like that persons beverage choice

[AnotherOneAmerican]

These threads are always the same. Nobody every wins because there is nothing to win. Just different people looking at a cup and arguing over whether it is half full or half empty.

My cup is completely empty, but once the kettle has boiled, it will soon be full again.

[Morden]

These threads are always the same. Nobody every wins because there is nothing to win. Just different people looking at a cup and arguing over whether it is half full or half empty.

No. The kids are insulting other members and their wives and some of the codgers are shooting back. That's all it is - the regular have-a-go at people in a better position than the younger ones.

[NoshowJones]

No doubt any 20 year old girl, thai or not, has been day dreaming at least a couple of years,

of passionate sex with a 60 year old man.

same as i was daydreaming of sex with a pensioner when i was in my teens

If you see a fat old facial haired tattooed Farang. with a 20 odd year old attractive girl, then he is rich and she is poor.

[Beetlejuice]

I am in my late 50s, still physically look young for my age and fit for my age, but I would never consider going into a long term relationship with a girl young enough to be my daughter or granddaughter, mostly for reasons that mentally we would not be able to relate together.

There is no way that women in their 20s or even 30s can be expected to fall into the way of thinking and into the lifestyles of much older people. 20 and 30 year olds still have their whole lives in front of them, they still want to have new experiences, perhaps venture into new careers, have children and party, whereas people in their 50s, 60s and older should already have archived their life goals, just want to settle down and have a peaceful life without too much exertion and hassles.

My daughter is 26 years old, we are close and have a strong bond together, but mentally we are in different worlds and both my daughter and I do our own things, as of course it should be, that’s about being normal. Her friends think I’m cool, so they say; but I’m still only regarded as the dad, which again is normal. I do understand that for older guys perhaps with wife`s of similar ages that the sexual aspect of a marriage can dwindle over the years, becoming a non-event in many cases. Even the old guys, who are fit, still have desires and sexual needs, whereas the females of similar age groups may have lost their sexual urges years ago. It`s an imbalance of nature and one main reason why I never criticise any guys for using the services of sex workers in the commercial adult entertainment industries, which on occasions I use myself, as for some, it`s their only options of having sex or bringing more variety into their lives.

My points meaning that in general, young women who hitch themselves up with much older men are in it only for financial benefits and security and the men who become involved with much younger women are only in it only for the sex and this is the perception anyone on the outside is going to have of you, even if you consider yourselves as an exception to the rule.

Edited May 19, 2013 by Beetlejuice

[SteeleJoe]

These threads are always the same. Nobody every wins because there is nothing to win. Just different people looking at a cup and arguing over whether it is half full or half empty.

Or looking in the drinking cup of strangers at a bar and deciding whether or not they like that persons beverage choice

Then making judgements about the drinker based on his choice.

[NoshowJones]

Seen it often some of my wifes friends dit it too. said it was not about mature but about money. Mature is just covering it, one of her friends wat the mia noi of an older guy as long as he paid. Meanwhile she had younger bf's for the "good times".

How do I think about it, lets reverse it would you guys want to be in a relation with a female 10 or 20 years older then you if you are not financially compensated.. most goes for Thai girls too.

But as always there are always exceptions to this rule and that is between the guy and his girl.

Not many though, I know someone who is 73 years old, his wife is 29, and they have a five year old daughter. His wife was shagged by his friend who is much younger. He found out about it, they are still together, but the house is in his wifes name, need I go on?

[NoshowJones]

It's not the business of anyone else and, in any case, who has the qualifications or right to decide what is an acceptable maximum age difference?

This subject is rather overdone on forums and, I suspect, by young and impecunious young men who may take a different view when they are older with some change to jingle in their pockets.

This is not just a Thai thing, look at Rod Stewart, his wives certainly did not marry him for his looks, we all know why they married him.

[Thakkar]

To the sensitive members: forgive me for the presumptions I'm about to make. Just know that I make no judgements.

When some anonymous keyboard jockey questions the validity of your relationships, there is no call to get defensive on account of what they say. You should however examine why you are defensive at all. Perhaps there were some dry tinder chips of doubt in your own minds that were sparked alight by the young whippersnappers' comments? Perhaps you've glimpsed disturbing clues in your partners' behavior that you've brushed aside for fear that close examination may reveal truths you'd rather not know?

It may be uncomfortable at first, but ultimately it helps to be honest with yourselves and your partners, IMHO. Having said that, lets also remember this sage counsel from I don't remember whom: "A happy marriage is not based on total honesty, but sensible reticence."

T

[NoshowJones]

Yep, I'm sure Mick Jagger, Ronnie Wood, Rod Stewart will look at a bunch of old losers on ThaiVisa, drop their girlfriends immediately, and go after the grandmothers instead.

I know a guy who is in his late 70’s, he has a very young wife, she's still in her teens, he treats her like a princess and she seems happy enough, of course, there is more to it than that, but the old bitter and twisted men of ThaiVisa would never understand, they are just jealous, same as I am.

Lets see, he's happy, you're not, not much more to say.

She seems, yes, seems happy enough, she is still a teenager, it is well known that young Thai girls (if she is Thai) are very immature until they get around their mid twenties. Do you really thing the guy is going to be happy for much longer?

[Thakkar]

It's not the business of anyone else and, in any case, who has the qualifications or right to decide what is an acceptable maximum age difference?

This subject is rather overdone on forums and, I suspect, by young and impecunious young men who may take a different view when they are older with some change to jingle in their pockets.

This is not just a Thai thing, look at Rod Stewart, his wives certainly did not marry him for his looks, we all know why they married him.

ironic that his most famous song, Maggie May, is about a young man falling in love with an older woman!

T

[yourauntbob]

It all depends on the people, but I dont see how anyone has a connection with someone half their age. the older you get the larger the gap can be, but i dont see ever being with someone less than 75% of my age.

When you are 40, you don't see having a relationship with a 10 year old, yep I get that.

When you are 60, you don't see having a relationship with a 15 year old, yep I can understand that too.

Did you really mean what you posted?

I dont see how you get that. let me spell it out for you just in case you sincerely cant figure this out.

If my age is 40, than 75% of my age is 30. therefore i dont see having a relationship with someone less than 30 years old.

[NeverSure]

-snip-

My points meaning that in general, young women who hitch themselves up with much older men are in it only for financial benefits and security and the men who become involved with much younger women are only in it only for the sex and this is the perception anyone on the outside is going to have of you, even if you consider yourselves as an exception to the rule.

And this is bad because?

Guy who think they have found the last love of their lives and who start losing it all including their mind and their wallet would be in a world of hurts. As I've said this happens to lots of young guys in LOS too.

But those who know what the deal is, and spend only enough to support a girl friend for however it lasts knowing that it won't last, and don't at all jeopardize their finances, are probably better off in the long run that a lot of young guys who get fooled by some cute Isaan farm girl and lose it all.

[LburtonL]

Old men with young women aresad and strange, but all the women I know in this situation have a boyfriend nearer their own age and both benefit from the old mans money.

Sad really, but it is to be expected.

I find it especially sad when the old chaps dye their hair and wear a younger mans clothes thinking it will roll back the years, it looks stupid.

[NoshowJones]

I think the problem with ThaiVisa members is, they are just too old, so us younger guys find it hard to relate to them.

When I'm old, I hope I am more tolerant.

Yes, I'm sure you'll become more tolerant with age.

dont you mean impotent?

Theres always viagra.