elektrified Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 I would expect her to take care of me all the time, like my Thai wife does all I expected and wanted. We never go out on our own always together and that is what she wants. Been married now 4 yrs and from our 1st meeting she took my shoes and socks off when we come back from being out and puts my socks on every time it has never changed. If my feet are tired she will massage them and my body, if the hairs on any where on my body get to long for her she cuts them. We never fail to kiss each other when going to bed and waking up. We talk and she understands and listens as I do. We have a great relationship, I am now 72 and she is 43 and beautiful. We are going on Holliday back to New Zealand in Nov and this will be her 7th time, I think I am very lucky with things I have heard. Oh she never gambles but like a beer like me. How much do you pay your rent-a-wife to perform these chores of putting your socks on, massaging your smelly feet, and trimming your "body hairs"? Certainly you don't think she enjoys this, or for that matter, being with a 72 year old falang do you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeavyDrinker Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 But (this is me now) they (Thai women) tend to have smaller bottoms and if you cry during an argument, then you've won.... I actually agree with Dr Robert a lot though. Women are women are women. This thread is really about how do I succeed with a woman? Not any case of ethnicity. I personally think that when people make an issue of being in a Thai/Westerner relationship they're putting an extra burden on themselves. Think of her as a woman first, your wife second and then deal with the rest... 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wooloomooloo Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 How much do you pay your rent-a-wife to perform these chores of putting your socks on, massaging your smelly feet, and trimming your "body hairs"? Certainly you don't think she enjoys this, or for that matter, being with a 72 year old falang do you? My rent-a-wife cuts my toenails, fingernails, trims eyebrows, pulls earlobe hairs and squeezes my spots. She undresses me when I'm three sheets to the wind. Reminds me to give up smoking and be a better person. She performs a top job. I don't know how I coped before she came along. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeavyDrinker Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 (edited) How much do you pay your rent-a-wife to perform these chores of putting your socks on, massaging your smelly feet, and trimming your "body hairs"? Certainly you don't think she enjoys this, or for that matter, being with a 72 year old falang do you? My rent-a-wife cuts my toenails, fingernails, trims eyebrows, pulls earlobe hairs and squeezes my spots. She undresses me when I'm three sheets to the wind. Reminds me to give up smoking and be a better person. She performs a top job. I don't know how I coped before she came along. There's nowt wrong with that lad!! Fair do's to you. You just enjoy what you have. Most of the blokes who have a pop at bargirls tend to be married to them anyway....They're just concerned you're popping their next 'wife'... Edited October 20, 2013 by HeavyDrinker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elektrified Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 How much do you pay your rent-a-wife to perform these chores of putting your socks on, massaging your smelly feet, and trimming your "body hairs"? Certainly you don't think she enjoys this, or for that matter, being with a 72 year old falang do you? My rent-a-wife cuts my toenails, fingernails, trims eyebrows, pulls earlobe hairs and squeezes my spots. She undresses me when I'm three sheets to the wind. Reminds me to give up smoking and be a better person. She performs a top job. I don't know how I coped before she came along. How pathetic. I could never live my life that way. My partner would never consider such chores and I would not want that from anyone. I suspect many farangs have wives that are country bumpkins from poor Isaan villages where things like that are the norm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post HeavyDrinker Posted October 20, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted October 20, 2013 How much do you pay your rent-a-wife to perform these chores of putting your socks on, massaging your smelly feet, and trimming your "body hairs"? Certainly you don't think she enjoys this, or for that matter, being with a 72 year old falang do you? My rent-a-wife cuts my toenails, fingernails, trims eyebrows, pulls earlobe hairs and squeezes my spots. She undresses me when I'm three sheets to the wind. Reminds me to give up smoking and be a better person. She performs a top job. I don't know how I coped before she came along. How pathetic. I could never live my life that way. My partner would never consider such chores and I would not want that from anyone. I suspect many farangs have wives that are country bumpkins from poor Isaan villages where things like that are the norm. Its not about how you could live your life. If the fella is happy (and he sounds like he is) then it's none of your business but those who shout loudest... 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeabagsFull Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 The way the question is worded suggests that the foreigner chose his wife based on her being Thai. I suppose that's possible for many, given the very gentle, non-aggressive nature of Thai people. I've not met many of these gentle, non-aggressive Thais. My wife, most of her family and all our friends would be classed as violent psychopaths in the UK. Have I been unlucky? or do most of the posters stating these Thai values not actually know any Thais? Back to the OP What I expected from marrying a Thai was children, and I got what I expected, DNA tested. Love .... didn't really expect that, so wasn't disappointed when I didn't get it. Loyalty .... you are joking, buy a dog. Faithfulness ..... Thai girls aren't really well known for that trait. Friendship ...... Can you get that from a member of the opposite sex? Thailand is well known for the gentle demeanor of its people, but I agree FiftyTwo #50 & cbluck58 #40, that non-aggressiveness is relative. Once in Udon Thani, a very aggressive Red Shirt protester barreled through our village security guard along with his parade & had very farang-like words for me when I mentioned that the village was private. I have seen other aggressions throughout my years both visiting & living in Thailand, but they are few & far between, most caused by my own misunderstanding. Still, I've gotten up-front-&-personal with over 50 different national cultures during my 24 years in the Navy, & I can tell you that there are no other folks as friendly, courteous, & non-judgmental as Thais. From your very first wai upon arrival to the casual encounters you'll have throughout your stay, Thai people are cheerful, soft spoken, & they go out of their way to avoid confrontation with you. Yes, Thais have their personal agendas & struggles just like people everywhere, but as foreigners we are not here to psychoanalyze them. Look for -- & speak to -- the beauty in a Thai, & you will have a friend for life. I don't want to get personal with you FiftyTwo, but you mention that your wife, family, & friends would be considered psychopaths in the UK. My guess is that these tendencies were brought out & cultured in them by you. Your follow-up comments regarding love, loyalty, faithfulness, & friendship kind of support this observation. Obviously I don't know your situation, except what you've mentioned here, but it is my guess that you could still enjoy the positive aspects of your relationship with your wife if you try nourishing it more, giving her the benefit of a doubt, trusting her with your well-being, etc. TV allows comments relative to the OP from everyone. Have your opinions & say, but please respectfully allow me mine. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David48 Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 How much do you pay your rent-a-wife to perform these chores of putting your socks on, massaging your smelly feet, and trimming your "body hairs"? Certainly you don't think she enjoys this, or for that matter, being with a 72 year old falang do you? My rent-a-wife cuts my toenails, fingernails, trims eyebrows, pulls earlobe hairs and squeezes my spots. She undresses me when I'm three sheets to the wind. Reminds me to give up smoking and be a better person. She performs a top job. I don't know how I coped before she came along. How pathetic. I could never live my life that way. My partner would never consider such chores and I would not want that from anyone. I suspect many farangs have wives that are country bumpkins from poor Isaan villages where things like that are the norm. Live and let live ... or ... what ever floats your boat ... this works for me. If a man, a woman, a couple is happy with their relationship ... what the heck is it business of mine? . 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ajarnpot Posted October 20, 2013 Share Posted October 20, 2013 its a rhetorical yeah, any how answering rhetoricals is my speciality. Other than a headached and a renewed interest in quite places with no noise much the same as with any other female Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rotary Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Someone who knows how to cook, take care of kids in a proper manner, respect me. I return by respecting her and being a good stable provider but by no means does that mean throwing money at the problems for uncles , aunts and brothers. Being a good housewife is something most western women have forgotten in the present generation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisinth Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 I never expected anything, nor did she. However, we both hoped that the relationship would remain as it was before we got married. 14 years down the line, the only thing I don't trust her with is cutting my nails. Her eyesight isn't what it used to be................. IMO, expectation is a mixture of hopefulness and anticipation. In many cases where this is not fore coming, it leads to demand for the expectation to mature from one (or both) of the people in the relationship. No way to lead your lives....................... 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arkady Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 The same as from a woman of any other nationality. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ableguy Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Having official access to something tight. Disgusting post. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bpuumike Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Can I reply? I am Heavy drinker's wife. I am Thai but the thing is not to 'expect' anything. Just have love. We married in London 22 years ago and our wedding vows were simple. It was to love and respect each other. 22 years on, we still have that love and respect. It is that easy. Thank you for reading this. Patsaporn Has your uncle has left yet ?... I don't understand either your English, nor your remark, which I assume (but am not sure) is nasty! Lovely comment Patsaporn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morden Posted October 21, 2013 Share Posted October 21, 2013 Having official access to something tight. Disgusting post. I second that. But there are so many posts disrespectful to women on this community forum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umbanda Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 The way the question is worded suggests that the foreigner chose his wife based on her being Thai. I suppose that's possible for many, given the very gentle, non-aggressive nature of Thai people. I've not met many of these gentle, non-aggressive Thais. My wife, most of her family and all our friends would be classed as violent psychopaths in the UK. Have I been unlucky? or do most of the posters stating these Thai values not actually know any Thais? Back to the OP What I expected from marrying a Thai was children, and I got what I expected, DNA tested. Love .... didn't really expect that, so wasn't disappointed when I didn't get it. Loyalty .... you are joking, buy a dog. Faithfulness ..... Thai girls aren't really well known for that trait. Friendship ...... Can you get that from a member of the opposite sex? I'd guess you're living a very shitty and bitter life then.You must be one of them who thinks they can buy love and friends. Why don't you go back, where you came from, if there're more decent people around? - Yap...Looks like do you got what you were looking for.....The same will happens in any other country if you do not take the time and just have fun with the bad ones......and learn......until you find the right one...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FiftyTwo Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 The way the question is worded suggests that the foreigner chose his wife based on her being Thai. I suppose that's possible for many, given the very gentle, non-aggressive nature of Thai people. I've not met many of these gentle, non-aggressive Thais. My wife, most of her family and all our friends would be classed as violent psychopaths in the UK. Have I been unlucky? or do most of the posters stating these Thai values not actually know any Thais? Back to the OP What I expected from marrying a Thai was children, and I got what I expected, DNA tested. Love .... didn't really expect that, so wasn't disappointed when I didn't get it. Loyalty .... you are joking, buy a dog. Faithfulness ..... Thai girls aren't really well known for that trait. Friendship ...... Can you get that from a member of the opposite sex? I'd guess you're living a very shitty and bitter life then.You must be one of them who thinks they can buy love and friends. Why don't you go back, where you came from, if there're more decent people around? - Yap...Looks like do you got what you were looking for.....The same will happens in any other country if you do not take the time and just have fun with the bad ones......and learn......until you find the right one...... So yours wasn't a hooker then? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wprime Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 Not speaking to you directly, but some bloke on the dating forum wants a 'submissive' woman, no other qualities specified. Ni doubt where his priorities lie. Thats actually an interesting point, over the years I have noticed on numerous occassions most predominately between older gentleman and younger wives that the husband treats the wife like a slave or ltheir "property" and the way some of them talk to their "wives" is quite horriifc even in public so maybe they arent looking for a wife..but a slave/maid they can play hide the sausage with when it takes their fancy.. Maybe its a case of they buy into the Sinsot BS and truely believe they have bought their wives and believe the wife is their "property"...so one could be inclined to understand why sometimes the Thai wife wants to knock off the "old man" and grab the cash. This is the nature of the Thai woman. In most cases, unless the woman has had a lot of partners already or has ready access to men (e.g. parties a lot, uses dating sites, etc), she's going to be submissive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisB87 Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 Sensible conversation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David48 Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 ... and apparently, occasionally, a large credit card debt ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikkalad Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 To see his bank account go from 0-60 in no time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayayay Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 A Visa. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blabth Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 I am not sure if love is always what guys expect. If they have reached an certain age come here to Thailand to find Miss Beauty Queen young pretty sexy do they really expect love in return for their wallet. Is more a marriage of convenience which is fine as well. I am married to a Thai for ages having children together and we grow old together than a marriage is the same as everywhere no difference when they wife is Thai and the husband is foreigner. But if the age difference is too big than it is not love may be friendship at most ( there are always exceptions to the rule) and that is again the same everywhere in the world. Sent from my iPad using Thaivisa Connect Thailand 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speedtripler Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 unlimited punani ....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarpolo Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 I think you need to eliminate country to get an honest answer...what does a man want when they marry a woman, Thai, Chinese, Antartican etc? If you could distill the answer and put it onto a book, it would be a best seller. on the darker side I think there is the need for perceived control by the man, ( maybe it is an evolutionary reproductive advantage to be this way) which a Thai woman, to the unwary and uninitiated, provides, though it doesn't necessarily always follow that this is true. I think the more uninhibited/ tease/ sometimes coquettish combination style of the sexual exploits of Thai woman ( compared to western counterparts )is a lure too. There is an an apparent femininity exuded by Thai women that western women rarely exhibit openly for fear of letting down their feminist mothers/sisters, especially when it comes to choosing a mate. I think men find Thai women attractive because the provide what men desire without making them feel guilty for such attractiveness, make them feel manly, make them think they are useful ( true or otherwise) give them a sense of worth (which is not my experience with western women), make them feel sexy and sexual, which similarly I have rarely experienced in the west. There is a iron hand in an ermine glove that makes Thai women irresistible. thai women don't normally nag, or at least they disguise it with charm and wit. Western woman complain Thai women are so obvious in their approach, but subtlety doesn't work on the average man, not the ones I know well anyhow. So I expect my needs to be fulfilled, but I also fell the need to reciprocate for it to work properly. With a Thai Woman I can feel like a King, a provider, a stud, a bastion of support at the same time as allowing myself to be vulnerable and sensitive and not so much in control. Sometimes it's good to hand over the reigns to your Queen, someone who you trust, who will protect your integrity and your emotions unconditionally. When you find a Woman like her, Thai or otherwise, like I was lucky enough to do, marry her and never look back or, just let her sit on your face, and see if she has experience up there..... your post was too much dribble for me to understand, see if my idea works and report back to us Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speedtripler Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 this : every single night ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wym Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 very very boring really Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tingtong Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 OP wrote: "I expected Love, Loyalty and Sincerity.You ?" i think i expected about the same. but what would you expect from a marriage to someone from your own country, anything different? honestly, i dont understand the point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wym Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 A Visa.lol I sincerely want to know how - literally how - these ancient zombie threads get resuscitated. Someone please explain to me, as if I'm five years old. . . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irishsmile Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 An empty wallet and spacious bank account! Sent from my iPad using Thaivisa Connect Thailand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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