JoeThePoster Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Stop serving tea, it's giving them hallucinations of grandeur. Delusions of grandeur. That's mildly put. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeThePoster Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Learn to be a man and politely decline for starters...No, that would mean shag it, and then kick her out in the morning with a 100 baht for petrol. That's taking care of it. Once she pays 100 baht, she won't show up again. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minikev Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 One of the things I have learned is that Thai's accept polite directness without feeling bad about themselves much more than westerners. You can say I like my freedom! Phom chorp isalat kraap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
puyaidon Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 I tell ladies that my landlady does not want me to have live-in friends due to past problems with her tenants and their girlfriends. If I bring in a lady, my lease is terminated. Seems to work so far. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minikev Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Phom chorp isalat kraap I like my freedom 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WitawatWatawit Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Stop serving tea, it's giving them hallucinations of grandeur. Delusions of grandeur. Hey! I like it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raksanook Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Tell her that 2 friends from your hometown will arrive next week and they will stay at you home for a month or even more so due to the limited space she have to leave the place "temporary". This it's the best way ( let's say it's a Thai way ) will allow her to leave without losing the face (very important) and will allow you to make the first step to your freedom , once she will be somewhere else will be very easy make the "temporary leave" becoming permanent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post cbluck58 Posted October 19, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted October 19, 2013 Say yes - get the house cleaned, washing and ironing done , dishes cleaned etc. get laid and then kick them out - been working for years here........... 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IMA_FARANG Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Bite the bullet. Tell the female involved that you've had problems before with Thai women, and you don't want to get involved again. Be as polite as possible, but just let them know that is how you feel it must be. Now, one the other hand, you've got to be careful there too. It's always possible that this one might be a keeper. So don't be too quick to reject possibilities ,,,, it might be worth keeping. As they saying goes, "It's better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all." I've been both places. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fittobethaied Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 I guess the proper answer for you really depends on your short and long term priorities/goals. If for whatever reason you are not interested in having a live-in or new wife, then just say so, but I certainly wouldn't burn any bridges. In the interest of setting the right example for your child, I would say that for now you are only interested in casual sex outside of your home...without any commitments. If in the process you happen to find a "real keeper", then more power to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theblether Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 It's a shame that the OP has reduced himself to lying and embarrassing his visitors by being sexual. Better he learns to tell the truth, "The only thing that matters in my life is my kids. I can bring them up alone just the same way as many Thai women can bring their kids up alone. I will not confuse them or upset them by bringing another women into their life. My kids come first". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJP Posted October 19, 2013 Author Share Posted October 19, 2013 Some good stuff here. I'll pull together a crib sheet from it. Yes, the knob no work one was just a defensive reflex action to the most recent "offer". Years back one single lady walked in, did the washing up and then went to the bedroom. She waited there a long time before figuring out I was hiding round at MIL's place. I now make sure you could eat your dinner off the floor, thus no improvements can be added by the lady. There is someone I do love, but she's a consultant chartered geologist from Newcastle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minikev Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 It's a shame that the OP has reduced himself to lying and embarrassing his visitors by being sexual. Better he learns to tell the truth, "The only thing that matters in my life is my kids. I can bring them up alone just the same way as many Thai women can bring their kids up alone. I will not confuse them or upset them by bringing another women into their life. My kids come first". If he says that he will just become more na raak and more of a catch, making her more determined Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post GrantSmith Posted October 19, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted October 19, 2013 This thread is useless without pics Sent from my iPad using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eddie61 Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 say " Oh ler, chua krhow towrai" That will make them run, or declare their hand.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJP Posted October 19, 2013 Author Share Posted October 19, 2013 It's a shame that the OP has reduced himself to lying and embarrassing his visitors by being sexual. Better he learns to tell the truth, "The only thing that matters in my life is my kids. I can bring them up alone just the same way as many Thai women can bring their kids up alone. I will not confuse them or upset them by bringing another women into their life. My kids come first". In answer to the first line . . . I wasn't lying Blether. In answer to the second . . . yes totally correct. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post pinball Posted October 19, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted October 19, 2013 (edited) I cannot believe what I am reading in this post are all the men on TV total wimps and scared of Thai women..... its easy just say NO, if they wont take NO for an answer PISS off usually will work. But I guess there are no men on here with the guts to say that. PB Edited October 19, 2013 by pinball 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLCrab Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Teach the kids to say: PaPa mee Gik! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJP Posted October 19, 2013 Author Share Posted October 19, 2013 My Swedish neighbour has just been round. His rather attractive wife has been nagging him about why the very good looking MJP (I was flattered, but not sold on this) does not have a wife and he should have a wife and something should be done about this unacceptable situation! Pressure is yet again mounting. I need to fix the front gates. Perhaps solid ones with a cat flap for the kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arminbkk Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 I think the OP should just have a good talk with his female friend that keeps bringing women to his home. He says he has known her for years so he should be able to have a good, polite but clear conversation with her and explain to her that he is not interested in any relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sayonarax Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 "I have one kid already, i don't need another thanks" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hughmungus Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 What an egocentric. Are you a hu-man or wanna be he-man entrapped by all those self serving women chasing you or just a poser who needs to show off your manly burdens to a crowd? Didn't your Mum teach you how to "politely fend off" suitors? Swallow your tea and pride and then just be honest to your imaginary bar flies and delusions of grandeur... in absentia. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Pressure is yet again mounting. I need to fix the front gates. Perhaps solid ones with a cat flap for the kids. Considering you're not getting laid, I'd imagine the pressure in a certain area must be pretty high. Just have some friends with benefits. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Suradit69 Posted October 19, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted October 19, 2013 Learn to be a man and politely decline for starters... No, that would mean shag it, and then kick her out in the morning with a 100 baht for petrol. Probably better if he asks her for more than 100 baht. He might get a reputation for being too low maintenance. He should tell her that he usually gets Baht 2500 plus breakfast and ask her what sort of dowry her family would be bringing him if they took it to the next level. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaurene Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 I am not in this position as I have a wife. But if it was me I would say I like Lady Boy not ladies, try that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJP Posted October 19, 2013 Author Share Posted October 19, 2013 What an egocentric. Are you a hu-man or wanna be he-man entrapped by all those self serving women chasing you or just a poser who needs to show off your manly burdens to a crowd? Didn't your Mum teach you how to "politely fend off" suitors? Swallow your tea and pride and then just be honest to your imaginary bar flies and delusions of grandeur... in absentia. Quite the opposite. I just don't want the aggravation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KuhnPaen Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 When I went 3 months coming home alone every night,the aunties of the neighborhood were watching. I was asked the same thing. When I politely declined, they aked if I was gay, if I did drugs, etc. The apartment manager would even call me at 11 pm on a Fri night to ask what I was doing. When I told her I was reading a book she thought I was lying and wanted to come up to "doo tii wii" with me. I moved 2 weeks later--to an apartment with apathetic neighbors. Ahh...bliss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Intragration Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 Ha ha I always get a kick out of this site, I read it a bit and respond less. This seems to be a good problem to have. What I wouldn't give to have friends bringing over Thai girls for me to meet. Of course, I'm in the USA and it's fairly difficult to meet any asian women here, particularly Thais. But if this a problem for you, why not just tell your friends that you're not interested in meeting anyone, and leave it at that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post cpofc Posted October 19, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted October 19, 2013 I have some understanding of what the OP is talking about, but I handled things a bit differently. I made it perfectly clear to all yonks ago that I would NOT become romantically involved, and or attached, with any women in or around my Moo Baan, or their relatives. If I did, and the relationship went belly up it could, and most likely would, ruin the nice life I have built here. I am not about to 'crap in my own nest'. I am the only farang here and I have great friends and I am a respected member of my community. My Mother In Law is one of the 'Originals' of the oo Baan. We talk about this subject now and again and both have a good laugh about it, They clearly understand and respect my decision. My male friends have even given up trying to talk me into getting myself a 18-20 YO. I think I would rather stick forks in my eyes to be honest. My Thai Wife (28 Years) and I agreed to formally separate a few years ago. She stays in Australia with her business, and I stay in Bangkok, retired. We just went different ways. No animosity. No fighting. No nastiness. As a matter of a fact she was here for my birthday in June and again just 2 weeks ago, where she stayed with me for a few days. We are good mates. We went through some tough times together during our marriage in Oz. So I have been there and done that! This setup amuses the Thais no end when I tell them, cabbies especially, piss themselves. Why should I invite problems upon myself. Most, after due consideration, can only nod in agreeance. Now, I am truly enjoying freedom and independence for the first time in my life. I have become used to it, set in my ways. I like it, and there is a huge difference between being alone and being lonely. I come and go as I please, answer to noone, debt free, good health. Mai Me Pan Ha. And let us not beat around the bush. If one feels the urge. Thailand is one huge library, where one does not necessarily have to buy a book. No good being coy about it, just tell them how it is. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GuestHouse Posted October 19, 2013 Share Posted October 19, 2013 (edited) I suffered this in my single days. Our office administrator constantly introducing me to delightful young ladies from within our organisation and beyond. It stopped when I politely asked her, when was she going to introduce me to some of the very many delightful young things who had neither never been married before nor had children. The fact was that the only women she introduced me to were the previously married/single mothers. And this is the point. I'm quite sure she was doing the right thing from her perspective - trying to help (Thai) friends and (Thai) people she knew, she even perhaps thought she was trying to help me. So from her perspective doing the right thing. From my perspective - the message was clear - your a good man, but the best you deserve is someone who can't find a Thai husband. That's not to say these women were not lovely ladies that would or indeed did make other men good wives - but it is an insight into the way these things work in Thailand. I'm quite certain the ladies introducing their friends to the OP are doing what they believe to be the right thing. So whatever the response, understand well meant intentions and be polite in your refusal. After all, who knows, they might one day turn up with a gem. Edited October 19, 2013 by GuestHouse Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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