Why do some ( ? many ) expats start a new family with Thai wives?

[thaibeachlovers]

I should state to start with that I have never felt the urge to breed myself, so this question is merely out of curiosity, as I find the whole "daddy" thing a bit of an alien concept.

Given that the new Thai wives of said expats are usually with child/ren before marrying the farang, it can't be because the wives consider it essential, and given that many expats seem to have children from previous marriages it can't be essential for them either, so why?

[NeverSure]

Because there aren't enough people on the planet?

[MESmith]

Is this the dumbest post of the year?

[lemoncake]

Never been ,married or have any kids, but i would presume to "secure" the marriage.

Or may be they just do not use the condoms

[lemoncake]

Is this the dumbest post of the year?

Why is it the dumbest post?

OP is spot on, in many cases, she already has a few kids being raised by her mother, so why have more?

[khunpa]

Both my GF and I are in our early 40s and both have children from previous marriages. We were told 2 years ago from a specialist doctor at a private hospital here, that the chances of us ever having children together was very unlikely (due to a operation my GF went through at that time).

Now she is 8 month pregnant and although, we were very surprised, we are both happy and look forward to the baby coming. So that is why, we are having a child together :-) Was not essential or planned, but now on the way...

[MB1]

Because they can, simples eh, oh and I know not to start a sentence with "Because", but I did, because I can..

[Ulysses G.]

I don't understand why they want to get married at all. It is easy to fool around with young and attractive women on a regular basis, no matter how revolting one is. Why buy the cow?

[FWIW]

>I should state to start with that I have never felt the urge to breed myself

Good call.

[MESmith]

Is this the dumbest post of the year?

Why is it the dumbest post?

OP is spot on, in many cases, she already has a few kids being raised by her mother, so why have more?

Well I didn't have any kids, my wife hadn't had any kids before. It's quite natural for married couples to have kids.

[lemoncake]

Is this the dumbest post of the year?

Why is it the dumbest post?

OP is spot on, in many cases, she already has a few kids being raised by her mother, so why have more?

Well I didn't have any kids, my wife hadn't had any kids before. It's quite natural for married couples to have kids.

In your case i totally agree, but OP is talking about couples who already have kids from previous times

[tw25rw]

I don't see why it's a mystery. People like family life and normality. People don't migrate to Thailand to grow old and lonely.

[DocN]

So..I have children with another woman...and my significant other had children from an earlier relationship...and now I am with her and we want to have a family together with kids that we "produced" together.

W.hy is that strange?

[nottocus]

"Given that the new Thai wives of said expats are usually with child/ren before marrying the farang..."

Funny.

[MB1]

I don't see why it's a mystery. People like family life and normality. People don't migrate to Thailand to grow old and lonely.

I beg to differ on that one, after travelling to Thailand on and off for well over ten years, I've met some real grumpy cantankerous old and lonely men..

I have met some happy ones who are still with their Thai wives after 15 years or so but they are in my experience the minority..

Edited December 5, 2013 by MB1

[thaibeachlovers]

I don't see why it's a mystery. People like family life and normality. People don't migrate to Thailand to grow old and lonely.

One's wife keeps one from being lonely ( at least mine does ). I fail to understand why children are necessary for that reason.

[khunpa]

I don't understand why they want to get married at all. It is easy to fool around with young and attractive women on a regular basis, no matter how revolting one is. Why buy the cow?

True... However, the first thing, I got really feed up here of fooling around with so many different women. I simply ended up finding it extremely boring.

Now I have a great partner, lover and friend in my GF, who makes my daily life here great. To me, my GF is still super attractive although in her early 40's.

So I do not really feel, that I miss anything from the past. Should I change my mind at some point, then there is always the Mia Noi option... ;-) But so far I am very happy in my relationship and it saves me a lot of hangovers, dinners and money.

I never understood the guys, who can stay here for many years and still find the bargirls, freelancers and gold-diggers here fascinating. But people are different and as long as everybody is happy, then thats fine with me.

[khunpa]

I don't see why it's a mystery. People like family life and normality. People don't migrate to Thailand to grow old and lonely.

One's wife keeps one from being lonely ( at least mine does ). I fail to understand why children are necessary for that reason.

Agree. Children are not necessary to be happy... Same as couples can also be very happy without having to own a house, a car, a dog or being married..

[khunpa]

I don't see why it's a mystery. People like family life and normality. People don't migrate to Thailand to grow old and lonely.

I beg to differ on that one, after travelling to Thailand on and off for well over ten years, I've met some real grumpy cantankerous old and lonely men..

I have met some happy ones who are still with their Thai wives after 15 years or so but they are in my experience the minority..

Let me guess... By any chance did you meet these old lonely grumpy men in bars over a breakfast drink?

[transam]

Is this the dumbest post of the year?

Yep, Can we have a poll.............JT.......your wanted here............... ...............

[khunpa]

So..I have children with another woman...and my significant other had children from an earlier relationship...and now I am with her and we want to have a family together with kids that we "produced" together.

W.hy is that strange?

No, that makes you normal.

However, if you look like your profile picture, then you are not normal :-)

[thaibeachlovers]

So..I have children with another woman...and my significant other had children from an earlier relationship...and now I am with her and we want to have a family together with kids that we "produced" together.

W.hy is that strange?

Because many of the children I know ( and those I grew up with ) are horrid little beasts, and while one can always be excused making the mistake once, I fail to understand why one would make the same mistake a second time around.

[prestburypark]

Seems like a bizarre question, why not? I choose not to myself, but, up to you, as they say.

New country, new beginning, new life, the joy of a child, the experience, the hopes and dreams, the bills?

[Satcommlee]

I Guess you mean old blokes with young Thai wives! That is not the norm by the way unless you live in Pattaya..

I started a family in Thailand, got a

[MB1]

I don't see why it's a mystery. People like family life and normality. People don't migrate to Thailand to grow old and lonely.

I beg to differ on that one, after travelling to Thailand on and off for well over ten years, I've met some real grumpy cantankerous old and lonely men..

I have met some happy ones who are still with their Thai wives after 15 years or so but they are in my experience the minority..

Let me guess... By any chance did you meet these old lonely grumpy men in bars over a breakfast drink?

Guess all you want Khunpa, though if you get to Pattaya if your interested in research I'm sure you'll find more than one who would be willing to discuss over a tea or coffee whilst having breakfast, I'm sure you'll find them all over Thailand as I don't think there on the endangered species list yet, infact I'm sure Thailand will continue to breed cantankerous grumpy old men for many years to come, as one leaves broken hearted with no money, there seems to be many newcomers willing to take his place...

Some people never seem to learn until it's too late , even when they have been warned and given good advice the merry go round continues with a never ending supply of willing victims...

Edited December 5, 2013 by MB1

[tw25rw]

I don't see why it's a mystery. People like family life and normality. People don't migrate to Thailand to grow old and lonely.

One's wife keeps one from being lonely ( at least mine does ). I fail to understand why children are necessary for that reason.

Because having children is a normal part of being human. You don't have them for company.

[anotheruser]

It serves to make an unhealthy co-dependent relationship and cement the deal.

[Rooo]

Offending post & responses quoting it removed.

[Forethat]

You might as well ask:

Why do some ( ? many ) expats start a family with their wives?

It is in our nature. It's what we do, we humans.

[wellred]

I think ex pats start up new families for 2 reasons and in most cases they are a mixture of both.

1) they buggered up relationships back home so want another crack

2) they can't party with a hat so end up with unwanted babies