eldragon Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 If she is pregnant from you, why didn't she want to talk to you in december? Made in august huh? Too late for an abortion then ... How does she feels about it? There's an easy answer for this. Thais don't know how to be straightforward about things. Especially a 20 year old female one that has never been pregnant before and might be scared out her mind. I wouldn't take her temporary silence on the matter to be a big factor in determing if the baby is yours or not. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drx13 Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 If your not capable of working things out for your self,you are too young to have left home. Go back to your parents. As you can see, I have an idea of what I want to do. I'm just seeking opinions and advice. I live interstate from my family and independent many years so I don't see how moving back to my parents can assist me? He is making fun of you. That it was not obvious speaks volumes about the "father" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samuibeachcomber Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 I want to get the ultrasound done and have the doctor tell me when the baby was conceived and when it is due. This will give me a good idea that the child is in fact mine as they should be able to tell me it is such and such weeks old and was conceived around August. I want to take care of her and the baby which is why I'm going to fly to Thailand asap to get the ultrasound done. I believe I have enough supporting documents to get the tourist visa (I will likely get help from an agency as well just to make sure). If I bring her over here, can she have the baby here (she may overstay her visa) and if she does have it here, will we be lumped with a huge medical bill since she has no medicare? If we get married, is it better done in Australia? Slow down...one thing at a time.Come to thailand establish if the child is yours.No point in thinking anything further until you know the truth. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iancnx Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 (edited) Good luck with your decisions, but I definitely would NOT be discussing anything with the girlfriends mother! Edited January 22, 2014 by iancnx 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oogster8 Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 (edited) o-im worried if op finds out its not his he is going to celebrate by having unprotected sex with another thai prosititute. omg they are all over the place..............................lol. ps i just texted my thai girl massueseues. ineed a massage. no chance of pregnancy for me............lol. Edited January 22, 2014 by oogster8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Ajaan Posted January 22, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 22, 2014 Whether you choose to believe it or not, in all likelihood, she is out to take advantage of you (financially). The pregnancy 'scam' is the oldest trick in the book, so don't fall for it. You have no obligation towards the girl and her family, so just chalk it down to experience, and get on with your life. That's right, cut all contact with her. The odds are slim, that the child is yours. Well-put. OP, in order, the chances are very slim that a. she is pregnant b. the child is yours These girls NEVER just string along (and meet and sleep with) just one guy on Thai Lovelinks or whatever; I guarantee you the day or week after you left, she had another guy lined up. Wake up and face reality. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post kirstymelb101 Posted January 22, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 22, 2014 (edited) Good luck with your decisions, but I definitely would NOT be discussing anything with the girlfriends mother! The only thing the girls mother will be thinking about is $$$$.. Edited January 22, 2014 by kirstymelb101 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jayme83 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Share Posted January 22, 2014 (edited) If your not capable of working things out for your self,you are too young to have left home. Go back to your parents. As you can see, I have an idea of what I want to do. I'm just seeking opinions and advice. I live interstate from my family and independent many years so I don't see how moving back to my parents can assist me? He is making fun of you. That it was not obvious speaks volumes about the "father" I was being sarcastic in my reply. Since you didn't realise this, does this speak volume about you? I don't even know why you wasted your time replying unless you had something helpful to say. Edited January 22, 2014 by jayme83 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rct99q Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 Sorry, did not read through all the posts but, again, if you may have unprotected sex with this girl certainly ascertain if you are the father or not. But I would alos suggest and HIV test as well. Not judging, just saying. You are perhaps not the first and only person she has had sex with. If you used a condom (supplied by her) and it "broke" I would still suggest getting tested. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iancnx Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 Can she take a picture of herself on her (your) iPad and send it to you? http://greenacresgirl.files.wordpress.com/2012/11/5-months-in-the-nursery.jpg Good idea, have her do it in her room. Hopefully it will be the same one that you stayed in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jayme83 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Share Posted January 22, 2014 Sorry, did not read through all the posts but, again, if you may have unprotected sex with this girl certainly ascertain if you are the father or not. But I would alos suggest and HIV test as well. Not judging, just saying. You are perhaps not the first and only person she has had sex with. If you used a condom (supplied by her) and it "broke" I would still suggest getting tested. I have a fairly good idea that she is not a prostitute. We spoke every day and she worked at a sushi restaurant. I was very stupid to have unprotected sex and I will never make that mistake again. For the record, I got tested 2 weeks ago after I didn't hear from her it come back negative. It was even more scarier than this situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jayme83 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Share Posted January 22, 2014 Can she take a picture of herself on her (your) iPad and send it to you? http://greenacresgirl.files.wordpress.com/2012/11/5-months-in-the-nursery.jpg Good idea, have her do it in her room. Hopefully it will be the same one that you stayed in. I spoke to her last night on webcam and she is defiantly in the same room, living with her friend. She has a bump, but I couldn't tell if it was 5 months which is why i want to get the ultrasound done. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eldragon Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 I have a fairly good idea that she is not a prostitute. We spoke every day and she worked at a sushi restaurant. I was very stupid to have unprotected sex and I will never make that mistake again. For the record, I got tested 2 weeks ago after I didn't hear from her it come back negative. It was even more scarier than this situation. There are many degrees of prostitution in TH. A girl that needs a few bucks at the end of the month might not be against going down to the bar, hooking up with a naive stranger, then seeing if she can get some money out of him in the morning. Sometimes they say something like, "I need to borrow a little money..." Happens here all the time. Also, studies show most Thai girls with HIV don't tell their partners they have it. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Showbags Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 Can she take a picture of herself on her (your) iPad and send it to you? http://greenacresgirl.files.wordpress.com/2012/11/5-months-in-the-nursery.jpg Good idea, have her do it in her room. Hopefully it will be the same one that you stayed in. I spoke to her last night on webcam and she is defiantly in the same room, living with her friend. She has a bump, but I couldn't tell if it was 5 months which is why i want to get the ultrasound done. Heres a little song for you... four months to go, four months to go, happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CharlieH Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 You keep banging on about an ultrasound, what do you think thats gonna tell you ? It will confirm the pregnancy, yes, it will give an approximate term but that can be 4 weeks either way. The ONLY way you are going to know is DNA, good luck with that in Thailand. You are falling for the oldest trick in the book in my opinion. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Showbags Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 You keep banging on about an ultrasound, what do you think thats gonna tell you ? It will confirm the pregnancy, yes, it will give an approximate term but that can be 4 weeks either way. The ONLY way you are going to know is DNA, good luck with that in Thailand. You are falling for the oldest trick in the book in my opinion. Nawt wrong with a DNA test in thailand. Know people first hand that have had it done. He could also just wait till the kid is circa 4yo and see if it looks like him in any way. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post cornishcarlos Posted January 22, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 22, 2014 Can she take a picture of herself on her (your) iPad and send it to you? http://greenacresgirl.files.wordpress.com/2012/11/5-months-in-the-nursery.jpg Good idea, have her do it in her room. Hopefully it will be the same one that you stayed in. I spoke to her last night on webcam and she is defiantly in the same room, living with her friend. She has a bump, but I couldn't tell if it was 5 months which is why i want to get the ultrasound done. Did she pull her top up to show you the 'bump' ?? Could have been a packet of frozen peas, but that would have been a bit chilly on her belly... Seriously, make sure she is actually pregnant before making any rash decisions. As others have stated several times, it is a common scam. If you have been honest in your OP, the chances of hitting the bulls eye with just 2 wayward shots is minimal. Good call to get an HIV test though.. Hope it all works out for you and you learn from it ??? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluetongue Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 Her psychology probably works like this. She likes you and has sex with you. When you're not around she probably likes other guys and has sex with them. Then she finds out she is pregnant. She needs to make sure she and the future baby are financially as supported as possible. She will not rule out a potential father even if he was only a remote chance. So she stops talking to you (which could also mean that another more likely sponsor was being cultivated especially considering the time of year), and you start to worry, in fact work yourself into a frenzy, this plays into her hands, makes you more pliable to hand over cash in the future. Don't worry about the ultrasound, the Thai Hospital will give her a document which will confirm how many weeks the pregnancy went for when the baby is born. Then do a blood test (arranged independently yourself which no friend or relative of hers has anything to do with or knowledge of location). If this confirms that you could be the father do the DNA. After that worry about everything else. You may have to keep on the right side of her which might need a visit now, to get her to go along with what you want to do, this will also require your personal presence (in Thailand)at time of birth. However do not misconstrue any act of handing over the child to you to nurse, calling you the Dad, or getting her family to also call you the Dad, this is just par for the course. Or if you tell her you want her to do these things she may not want to, this will be an indication that other potential father's are stepping up. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spaniel Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 Good luck. I hope things work out for you. Some good advice given and try to ignore the losers that post with nothing else to do but run people down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jasun Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 Take a breath, get over to Thailand, have the tests done. You may get here and discover it's all a fraud. But i've known others who was in your position and who are now married with a 'scam' baby. A few measurements taken in ultrasound will give you a reliable date of conception, so you'll know soon enough if it's yours or not. If it isn't, up to you what you do. Walking away sounds like a solid option. If it's yours, man up. You're not 18, and just cause she's a hooker doesn't make the child any less yours. That also doesn't mean you have to take her back to Australia. Congrats by the way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLCrab Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 I'll disagree with the hop-on-a-pane advice. I would suggest insisting on pictures of her at 5 months pregnant unclothed belly and compare to pictures available online at 5 months. If what the OP said is accurate about always using a condom except for 2 times Coitus interruptus, then there is a very good chance that the baby is not his. Photographs are not conclusive of anything but at least he can view them while still in Australia. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Showbags Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 I'll disagree with the hop-on-a-pane advice. I would suggest insisting on pictures of her at 5 months pregnant unclothed belly and compare to pictures available online at 5 months. If what the OP said is accurate about always using a condom except for 2 times Coitus interruptus, then there is a very good chance that the baby is not his. Photographs are not conclusive of anything but at least he can view them while still in Australia. and she could not possibly fill herself on an MK buffet prior and puff her belly out a little prior to any photo right ? Tell her to send you a video of her taking a home kit preg test....then upload it for us to confirm also... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLCrab Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 Fine. Forget SKYPE. Hop on a plane. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaykuzi Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 Ignorance is bliss. Read a book, live life and figure out somethings. You are 100% being taken for a ride. Pattaya?? Laughing Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Thailand 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arthurwait Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 There's one born every minute. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post simple1 Posted January 22, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 22, 2014 As someone mentioned why the fixation on ultrasound? Could possibly be from another sexual partner the day/week after or before you met her. You can arrange baby DNA test whilst in the womb. There are a number of first class hospitals in Pattaya & likely the best investment prior to making any decisions. BTW any idea how you would get along as a couple in comparison to few weeks on holiday? DNA from the unborn babySo that the unborn baby’s DNA can be analysed, the pregnant woman will also need to provide a sample of: fluid from the womb (amniotic fluid) containing cells from the baby, or tissue from the placenta A sample of fluid from the womb is collected by inserting a needle through the abdomen. This procedure is called amniocentesis. A sample of tissue from the placenta is collected by passing a needle through the wall of the abdomen, or passing a small tube through the vagina and the neck of the womb (cervix). This procedure is called chorionic villus sampling (CVS). 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eldragon Posted January 22, 2014 Share Posted January 22, 2014 Her psychology probably works like this. She likes you and has sex with you. When you're not around she probably likes other guys and has sex with them. You definitely understand this place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post cornishcarlos Posted January 22, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 22, 2014 Send her a home Sushi kit... Get her to make some California rolls live on Skype. If they fall apart, then you know she isn't pregnant 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Kangawallafox Posted January 22, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 22, 2014 You pay her monthly internet down there in pattaya. When you met her on thai love links how did she pay for it then, what does little miss I can't afford anything since I met you do for a living. Sent from my iPad using Thaivisa Connect Thailand 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post arthurwait Posted January 22, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 22, 2014 You pay her monthly internet down there in pattaya. When you met her on thai love links how did she pay for it then, what does little miss I can't afford anything since I met you do for a living. Sent from my iPad using Thaivisa Connect Thailand Him. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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